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Unfortunately, many stup¹d men think the same way, and then don't empower their daughters to be the best they can possibly be.

My only hope is that parents today are much wiser, for they will reap what they sow or not in their children.

chieveboy:
You understanding is indeed amazing

In the corporate setting, its you being subjected to do all manner of work and you must do it. Its compulsory.

Just the way you signed up for getting a corporate job where the boss you must submit to advertises their vacancy is the way your husband advertised their proposal and you willfully agreed.

There are unwritten policies: You must open you legs, cook, clean the house and do dishes and others..When you give birth, you're the one to bath the baby, wash, clean, and it goes on.

The must not always have their way, but then his decisions mostly may overrule yours.

These are what occurs as submission.

You are assuming you and I are the same category when it us obvious that we are not.

First, my work is not compulsory. It is an obligation I take on for the wage I am paid, and which I can walk away from whenever I like. I am no one's slave.

Second, I am far too developed for marriage to me to be "open you legs, cook, clean the house and do dishes and others... bath the baby, wash, clean, and it goes on", which on reading actually made me laugh.

My parents, you see, educated me to be a boss in my own right, so all those things you listed are joint duties in my house, since the man is not the only one bringing home our bacon. We make decisions together too, since our joint resource is involved. And thankfully he is not arrogant and stup¹d enough to think only him did God give a brain.

Those "policies" you mention might work with the uneducated girl you went to your village to marry, but that's not me, thank you very much.

ElSudani:
Pay teachers or have no teachers at all because the schools will be empty if children are being kidnapped.
What are the things important to you? I would suspect these are the things you would focus on.

Children have not been kidnapped in my Orolu Kingdom yet, while not hiring teachers and paying them has been going on for decades. The consequence is that my own people who now have no education or skills are becoming bandits and kidnapping people.

So, yes, paying teachers is very more important to me as far as my Orolu Kingdom is concerned, because children we do not educate are the ones who will become bandits and kidnap people.

See it as attacking the same problem at the root instead of at its head.

Fujiyama:
^^^


You are invested in the political process - and I like it.

Democracy isn't a spectator sport. There are people who complain on this platform 24/7 but who will do absolutely nothing to change things. They won't vote. They won't organize. They won't contest. And they are surprised that the lives of all of us remain miserable.

There are several parties other than the APC. Some of these parties have begun to engage Nigerians in this season - and our political space will be better for it. I for one will not be voting for any APC candidate (at any level) in the next election. I am taking a hard look at the other parties to see what they have to offer.

I have no other country to call my own except this one.

Less than 10 million elected Tinubu out of the almost 100 million who registered to vote, while the rest sat on their lazy asses and couldn't be bothered. They are now wailing that they are hungry.

Such irresponsibility makes me lack sympathy for them, and my hope is that we have learnt by the next election.

Please, for anyone that pleases you, just vote.

Idaytesj29:
Your state now take time four of her monthly allocation under Buhari, what's stoping the dancing king from paying teachers?

The money is not enough after we steal what we steal. Besides, we have problems in my state whereby a rogue APC government is collecting our allocation and are using it for their own selfish needs.

Notwithstanding, our dancing king is paying the salary of those currently hired plus the arrears from that useless Aregbe's era.

One day, we go better.

ogascomax:
All men needed their wife to be submissive include a gentleman like me. Submission is what the Bible says a woman must do. The man is commanded to love the wife and if possible die for the wife. So every body must know their role in marriage. This is why it's getting hard for marriage to be successful nowadays. To submit to your husband does not mean that marriage will not be sweet. Play go dey, jokes go still dey banter go still dey but it takes wisdom to navigate all the various levels of relationship. What you need is wisdom for marriage.

First, you are not "all men". And who told you the Bible is some sort of authority and not your comprehension of your reading it? Did Christ not send you the Holy Spirit of discernment for a reason?But let me.

I'm sure you've heard of Adam. The Adam that was commanded not to acquire knowledge or he will die? Eve the woman came along and acquired knowledge and freed herself and her ignorant naked Adam from slavery, and they went on to not die as they'd been lied to believe, but became self employed, hence not submitting to no one, and populated the earth with, eventually, you.

Play is not all we will be doing when we marry, you see. We'd instead be building a family of very powerful non-submissive sons and daughters who will go on to rule and subdue and multiply and be blessed, instead of rearing ignorant children that will submit to some imaginary fear and be naked slaves in a garden.

The below says girls, but read "our sons" too, and let me know if we are getting married please. I'm too old to have kids now but we can always adopt.

Fujiyama:
^^^
The point is - discerning Nigerians have seen right through the charade. (And for the record...his being an 'accountant' carries absolutely no weight.)

Compared to soldiers that have carried guns to rule us since my birth, him being an accountant carries much weight with me, but please, if like me you don't want him, perhaps vote for my Obi, because I personally can not stand Atiku, and I've had enough of APC.

Thanks in advance.

chieveboy:
You're explaining too much.

You in fact do submit as a matter of compulsion. Its called the organizational chart, KPIs, chain of reporting, etc...

Marriages too have its own.

Where you thinking submission in the corporate sense was anything outside of that?

Are you are comprehending far too little.

All you have listed is not submission. It's just doing ones job, but I do not expect you to understand the difference.

You've already recognised me for the feminist I am, so do you seriously think I'd be wasting my time with some insecure man who needs me to submit? And do you think I will bring up weak daughters who need to submit to some di%?

I am not "compelled". No one came to my house and ordered me to work for any particular organisation (or marry any particular man). I applied by showing my worth to them, and they saw I could be valuable to them so they hired me (or married me). And if I feel unvalued, I can very easily submit my resignation and go work elsewhere (or kick the man out of my house).

But perhaps I should help you with definitions.

Submission generally refers to the act of yielding to a higher authority, or the presentation of a document, proposal, or artwork for consideration. The term carries distinct meanings depending on the context in which it is used.

Common Definitions by Context Everyday Usage:
The act of submitting a physical or digital item (such as a manuscript, application, or competition entry) for review or judgment. It can also denote the condition of being humble or obedient to another person's control.

Combat Sports & Martial Arts: The act of forcing an opponent to yield or tap out due to the application of a painful lock, choke, or hold (common in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, wrestling, and MMA).

Psychology & Sociology:
Behaviours that signal a lower social rank or the acceptance of another's dominance.

Man! Are you a higher authority that I must yield to, or do you plan to force me to be humble or obedient and yield to you?

Ttalk:
Then who do you blame if a state can't fund its police?

First, allow me to rephrase your question.

Who do I blame if a state government can't fund its police?

And my answer is, I blame myself.

We are democracies you see, and it is I, the voter, who elects the government, good or bad.

Now, I don't mean me alone, but we are responsible for being fooled to elect "LG who disguise as a state have been ripping the country in allocation that they don't deserve".

And I and we and us should learn to choose better because it is us who will suffer from our bad choice electing a government that mismanages state funds.

Ttalk:
Any state that can't cater for its police should merge with other neighboring state to form a vibrant state. Some state cannot be carrying the burden of good for nothing states.

I went further than you by calling for regional police, though for different reasons.

Ttalk:
Let each state own it's resources and cater for its people. That's the real meaning of a Federation

I agree. No state should carry the burden of my state!

chieveboy:
You cant escape it.

You submit to your boss at work. If that is slavery, then like I said...

Sorry, but I do not "submit" to my boss at work!

I am at, or rather, was at a level where my bosses recognised my abilities and skills, and they were far too intelligent to require me to submit to them because I can very easily take my skills and abilities to where I am better appreciated.

They are are also intelligent enough to understand that we build the company or organisation together, so they wouldn't have stupidly required that I submit to them instead of flourishing in my own right.

That said, I understand if you submit. You are not me.

Elvis2kay:
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Feminist in the house.. No man want warrior .

Actually, weak men don't want warriors.

Strong intelligent men would be delighted to have a warrior in their family fighting poverty and educating their children to be warriors together in this harsh world we live in.

dermmy:
Some people think submission means control, slavery and obsequiousness. SMHfu

Why would you want me to submit to you if you don't want to be my lord and master and control me?

In fact, explain how I submit to you so we can both assess if you don't mean "control, slavery and obsequiousness".

CharlesCNG:
You mean you are not afraid of a curse from an Ijesha man?

As an Orolu man from Ifon-Osun, are you relying on Obatala to neutralise it? 😂

Anyway, my brother, I am only joking. God forbid that I curse anyone from my beloved Osun State.

By the way, are you on ground in Osun right now? What do you think will happen in the coming governorship election?

Can I safely assume you are with our Action Governor?

The interesting thing is that, whichever way it goes, APC and Tinubu may still win.

If Adeleke wins, Tinubu wins — because he may eventually find his way to APC.

If AMBO wins, APC wins directly and Tinubu wins openly.

So, either by express road or village path, the destination may still be the same.

What do you think?

I am not on ground, so I may be right and I may be wrong. But from where I am standing, Osun politics is beginning to look like a match where both goalposts are quietly facing the same direction.

I am not afraid of any curses really because they are like pisses in the wind as far as I am concerned. And no, I'm unfortunately not on ground and haven't been for a while. I've been threatened to be arrested and deported before some rogue family members kidnap me. As is said, kokoro ti o un jẹ ẹfọ wa lara ẹfọ, and I can't boldly claim there's no bandits in my family. But I do keep in touch with the ground as much as I can.

What I have heard is that state civil servants are behind the current governor whatever party he campaigns under, as he is paying wages that have not been paid in the past. And since the major employer in the state is government, they are strongly behind him. It's in no way a done deal though.

As for Tinubu, and despite my undying Obidience for now, I can not see how he could possibly lose the next presidential election, as Obi is not exactly organising us well enough to win, sadly. Besides, Tinubu has done some things (floating Naira, abolishing subsidy, increasing taxation, and being an accountant), that though have increased financial difficulty for many, are likely to move Nigeria forward, which I feel discerning Nigerians will appreciate in due time.

Now, if he were to abolish youth corpers or redesign it so it stops being a wage suppressor, I just might become disobedient, but I do not see that anywhere on the radar for now.

DomPerignon:
Your Giringori has a topic dedicated to his latest foolishness in which he claimed that State police bill is being rushed so that it can be deployed to rig the upcoming 2027 elections.

Your mind reading skills might be exemplary but your comprehension skills are definitely suspect, because Obi never "claimed", though correct me if you have other sources, "that State police bill is being rushed so that it can be deployed to rig the upcoming 2027 elections".

His words, which I have quoted for your consideration below, are not a "claim", but things to be considered "In view of that possibility and the danger it poses to the polity".

But I guess you don't consider his concern a possibility in any state because we Nigerians are very honest and law abiding and our elections are not a win or die trying affair.

Going by what Nigerians have seen so far, there is no guarantee that this administration can resist the temptation to take advantage of state policing to influence the 2027 general election by proxy. In view of that possibility and the danger it poses to the polity, it is necessary to defer its implementation until after the general election.
https://www.nairaland.com/8698525/state-police-commendable-step-peter#139835545

You make me wonder what you'd be saying if it were not your own preferred candidate introducing this now.

Notwithstanding, it has to be introduced by someone sometime but the process must be scrutinised, which is what those raising concerns and issues now are doing so we don't weep when we rush to implement it badly.

I'm glad to see you putting your mind reading skills to good use such that you know what Obi is thinking and what his problem is.

It would have been nice if you'd included what Obi said that made you think your mind reading is accurate, but I guess that's asking for far too much.

This is knowledge we Nigerians ought to have, especially since the same thing is happening in some countries today, which we ought to be mindful of.

Just think Maduro in Venezuela, the Ayatollahs in Iran, the devastation of Iraq and Libya, and what the French were doing to their colonies in Africa. I'd even add the foreign invasion in the North of Nigeria, but it's not easy explaining that the Hausas are still colonised by foreign invaders.

SportConn:
With the World Cup now expanded and African football improving, do you think an African country can win the World Cup in our lifetime?

Yes. Just make sure you live a long lifetime and an African country will eventually win.

SportConn:
If yes, which country will be the first? If no, what's still holding African football back?

I can't say, as my crystal ball arrived from China with a crack in it.

What's holding us back however, is the lack of long term planning, unlike say Japan that has a 100 Year Vision to win the World Cup by 2092, and which they have now revised to be sooner.

An African country just need to start now so it's in your lifetime. And live long please!

Parachoko:
Asking questions does not mean one's picking fight

You made a claim and I'm asking for Clarification.

You said Some states are not paying the minimum wage, I asked you to list out the states because I know almost every Civil servants in Nigeria is earning above the minimum wage

Perhaps I'm being unnecessarily tetchy.

There are state employees who are not receiving the full minimum wage on time. My own Osun State is not one of them, thankfully, as our governor is even paying salary owed during Aregbe's tenure. But it's much more complex than that.

My Orolu Kingdom keeps its wage expense down by not hiring teachers and substituting with inexperienced youth corpers that are federally paid.

Would you like me to explain how that devastates my community or will you consider it yourself?

Parachoko:
You don change mouth o

You first said we've states that are not paying salaries

Oya list out the State Governments that are not paying base on the minimum wage

You are unnecessarily tiring!

Abia State: The state has faced prolonged disputes regarding non-payment of Abia State University Teaching Hospital medical professionals and minimum wage implementation concerns.

Benue State: Workers and resident doctors frequently report salary delays, unpaid promotion arrears, and struggles to implement full job incentives.

Local Government Level: The Nigeria Union of Local Government Employees (NULGE) has previously noted that local government workers in up to 23 states frequently experience localized salary arrears and shortfalls.

Healthcare & Media Sectors: Across various states, specific groups like the National Association of Resident Doctors (NARD) and state media employees face episodic delays in allowances and minimum wage compliance.

Would you accept I pay your salary if I don't pay you your full wage on time?

And its not only "not paying base on the minimum wage". Not hiring essential staff is "not paying wage" too, especially if those staff are not hired because they can not be paid.

You really should use some of your data to inform yourself instead of picking unnecessary fights on Nairaland!

metch1:
Some people comment without reading to assimilate. If no one is scrutinizing the people in power, how do we expect the country to grow?

I doubt we Nigerians understand the need for scrutiny.

We think question asking is fault finding, and can't consider it to be fault mitigating.

Parachoko:
But you said their are states that are not paying salaries nah

Yes I did. There are states that are not paying the minimum wage, and states like mine are not hiring essential staff like teachers because they can not pay their salary.

And if you want to learn instead of sticking your head in mud, all you need to do is google with the data you post here with and expand your mind instead of asking me to educate you for free.

FSBoperator:
Do you hear of fresh Fulani attacks in Benue, Nassarawa, Niger and Southern Kaduna ?

What you are cheering on is the last throes of a dying monster.

Very "last throes" indeed, though I'm certain those in the states you listed who not only hear but have to live through it might not agree with your so called "discerning wisdom".

Suspected Fulani herdsmen killed nine Christians and wounded 11 others in a night attack in Kaduna state, Nigeria on June 16, area residents said.
https://www.christiandaily.com/news/terrorists-kill-nine-christians-injure-11-in-northern-nigeria

Heavily armed Fulani ethnic militia have razed three predominantly Christian communities in Central Nigeria’s Nasarawa State in coordinated attacks over a 24-hour period. Residents say the violence lasted more than 24 hours without any intervention from security forces. The affected communities: Gidan-Ogiri (Sabon-Gida), Akyewa-Baka and Udege-Kasa in Nasarawa County of the state, were attacked between Thursday, April 2, and Friday, April 3, 2026.
https://www.genocidewatch.com/single-post/nigerian-army-unseen-as-fulani-militia-burn-christian-towns-in-nasarawa-state

In attacks on three villages over two weeks, Fulani herdsmen killed 11 Christians and injured five others in one county in Plateau state, Nigeria. On Sunday (May 3), Fulanis killed five Christians in Fan village, Barkin Ladi County, at about 9 p.m., said resident Bot James.
https://morningstarnews.org/2026/05/fulani-assailants-kill-11-christians-in-plateau-state-nigeria/

Thanks for educating me. It is highly appreciated.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ISO_13485

Nukilia:
Dem don start..... A lot of Nigerians are sitting on this table in the UK.

Actually, most Nigerians in UK are far too law abiding to be this stup¹d. Just that they quietly get on being law abiding while a few tarnish our good name.

Thankfully, UK people do not generalise like some.

FSBoperator:
You lie.

No other adminstration has been tough on terrorists and bandits like the Tinubu led FG which has secured over 2,000 convictions so far.

Even your SE is enjoying Tinubu's clampdown on terrorists.

I do wonder how true this is, considering even Obas are now being kidnapped. But I guess terrorists are not the same as bandits.

I grew up on this and it hugely informed my opinion when people want to repeat the past. BBC and Thames Television showed it every day like it was not shown in Nigeria, and I was rather surprised how little Nigerians knew about it when I arrived there in 73.

While the Nigeria policy of "no victor, no vanquished" attributed to Yakubu Gowon after the war ended in January 1970 was intended to promote national reconciliation and reintegration rather than humiliation of the defeated side, it also stopped us from learning from our mistakes, and is likely the seed of animosity that is now flowering.

Africa is a huge continent, but I must say, Cape Verde is doing very well, and far exceeding expectations, unlike a country I will not name who are not even at the World Cup.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/football/articles/c0qylwk421eo

I found the below after reading yours

KayTheBlogger:
Make I just talk my mind here because I tire for this conversation.

Every week somebody dey post "I just hit 100k followers" and we go dey hype them. Fair enough. But nobody dey ask the question that matters: how much money did those 100k followers put in your account this month?

Because I don see creators with 500,000 followers who cannot afford rent without a brand deal. Meanwhile some small creator with 8,000 dedicated subscribers is pulling stable income every single month. The math is not adding up for people who are chasing the big number.

Here is the thing that most people do not want to hear: your followers are not your audience. They belong to the platform. Instagram can shadowban you tomorrow. YouTube can demonetize your channel. TikTok has been banned in countries before. That 500k? The platform can cut your reach to 2% of it overnight and there is nothing you can do.

What you own is your subscribers. People who paid. People who said, with their wallet, "I want what this person is making." That is a different relationship entirely.

Nigerian creators have been sleeping on this model because the platforms that support it were not built with us in mind. Patreon is in dollars. The fees are mad. The discovery is zero.

Circo is a Nigerian platform built specifically for this. African creators can monetize their audience directly through subscriptions and series content. It just dropped on the App Store and Google Play.

I am not saying chase 500k followers is wrong. I am saying if those followers cannot sustain your creative business, you are building on sand.

Drop your thoughts. Who here has cracked recurring creator income in Nigeria? What worked?

UrVillageChief:
Your second paragraph shows you don’t know how the police work bro🤣
Even right now, who told you Kano police can just barge into Ekiti and arrest just anybody they want? No bro, it doesn’t work that way and I’m saying this from experience. I’ve driven police to arrest people in Abuja and Edo and in each case, the police had to first inform the headquarters of the State where the criminals resided before proceeding with anything. Even after arresting them, you must first take them to the headquarters for due clearance before you are allowed to bundle them out of the State.
Back to this State-policing Wahala, there must still be an elite unit called the Federal police and they will be answerable to only the President. Just like it’s done in the US, the federal police are superior to the State’s.

The current police are centrally funded, so your description is very valid. State police will however not be centrally funded, so one should expect funds to have to change hands if state is funding it's own police.

There's also the issue of a state's police trying to arrest a protected person in another state. A rogue governor might (note, might) refuse to permit another state's police to come into their state to arrest their padi.

Do note that federal police in USA, of which there are many agencies, are limited by the U.S. Code to investigating matters that are explicitly within the power of the federal government. This was an issue with federal ICE in some states.

Nigeria should clarify this to reduce confusion so state police, that we definitely do need, works effectively.

Parachoko:
Can you list out the states that are presently not paying workers salaries?

No I will not. Even my Osun State is now paying salaries, and even salaries owed from the Aregbe era when half salary was paid. I can however tell you that my state does not pay enough teachers by not hiring enough of them.

What we do is send youth corpers that we don't pay into our schools to teach, such that it's not unusual to find just a handful of qualified paid teachers in our schools. And it's been worse lately, as we are at war with our neighbours so not safe for corpers so no teachers in schools.

I actually commend my governor for paying what he does pays, as the losing party have hijacked local government and the allocation.

Basic123:
I dont think you have gone through the bill

I haven't gone through the bill.

Stop projecting your own "Federal police no good,state police no good,Nigerian army no good,them still bring American army come e no good" on me please, as you have never read me say what you are claiming here.

It only shows your life is so bent that you project your bentness on others.

Lanretoye:
mr man Shay na only criticism you know for your own life,una no Dey ever think of advantage na disadvantage only Dey una life
Federal police no good,state police no good,Nigerian army no good,them still bring American army come e no good…Shay na so una life bend reach?
We have a terrible situation in the country but every attempt to mitigate it always come with unease for you for useless reasons,what exactly is your problem.