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pussyphilia:
Can I submit to you? In a ship there can only be one captain

Our marriage is not a ship. Besides, the assistant captain does not submit to the captain. They work together. And on some ships the second in command mutineers against a rogue captain.

Watch Crimson Tide. It will expand your mind on the need for two man rule on a ship.

I then gave her practical, realistic strategies to start doing for the next 30 days to inspire her husband to change. Real psychological advice when it comes to dealing with men. Not prayer and fasting alone… real strategy.

A lot of women don't know how to train their husbands or don't know they might need to.

You, Sir, give me hope.

Anywhere is a good option. The question is, are you good enough for the available options?

One question you need answered is, can you work there? If you can earn and pay your way while studying, I'd think you are good to go.

Sorry I can't answer that though, as I've never been there.

Mariangeles:
That is good to read.

I'm tired of reading that Nigerians are bad people.

We can not possibly all be bad people. Not even most of us can be bad people.

I'm watching the World Cup and loving the Nigerian presence in many teams. And i recently found out the The President of the UK Liberal Democrats, Josh Babarinde, is Nigerian. He serves as the chair of the party's governing body, the Federal Board.

There's lots to read about successful Nigerians, I say.

You preordered!? I did that once and regret what I got, so never again.

Hope you don't have my experience.

DomPerignon:
This section is not your personal blog or diary .

Take this shitz to your jewbook wall.

This forum is not yours. You don't get to tell anyone what they post here. But do tell, what do you mean by "your jewbook"?

I'm intrigued.

femi4:
don't be overwise

This is like telling me to not use the brain in my head, by the way. Such stu¹dity is way beyond me.

Enoeasy001:
[i][/i] Well, I hope on God's mercies.

You hope on the mercies of a god who emphatically told you that "In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread till thou return unto the ground, for out of it wast thou taken; for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return”?

I guess you will one day learn to hear your God.

Freeze007:
That's why I am asking for your mentorship to be very honest with you I can't think of a skill I have apart from being skilled at communicating and driving

What skills do you suggest I learn?

What do you currently do?

What skills are easily learnt where you are?

Which skills can you learn with minimum expense?

You really need to access your self to know your Strengths and Weaknesses and Opportunities and Threats.

femi4:
In charge means handling the steering...don't be overwise

Exactly. So you handle the steering wheel for a while and handover when you tired.

Or would you rather we rest in a hotel on the way from Lagos to London because only you is handling the steering wheel?

Just think of the money and time we would have saved if we'd shared the driving.

ukaface:
What’s the definition of the submit abeg

See here.

Submission generally refers to the act of yielding to a higher authority, or the presentation of a document, proposal, or artwork for consideration. The term carries distinct meanings depending on the context in which it is used.

Common Definitions by Context Everyday Usage:
The act of submitting a physical or digital item (such as a manuscript, application, or competition entry) for review or judgment. It can also denote the condition of being humble or obedient to another person's control.

Combat Sports & Martial Arts: The act of forcing an opponent to yield or tap out due to the application of a painful lock, choke, or hold (common in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, wrestling, and MMA).

Psychology & Sociology:
Behaviours that signal a lower social rank or the acceptance of another's dominance.

femi4:
Funfact...Two drivers cannot be in charge of a car

Yes they can. They just don't need to be grabbing the steering wheel at the same time!

If we are driving from Lagos to London, you drive some and I drive some, and we'd get there quicker than if only you drive, and we'd both be less tired when we arrive too.

You really don't plan, and just jump from frying pan to fire. But I guess you'd learn with time and much suffer.

BATified2023:
just dey play

All these your bullshit don cast since 2023

I think you need 5o be ignored until you have something intelligent to say.

Hola when you do please.

casualobserver:
its ok to tell girls they can be anything they want (so also men) but the reality is most people end up a mediocre life.

But I can bet you top dollar that those who try are much better off for trying than those who don't.

Take ones children, mine or yours. We will not only tell them they can be anything they want, we'd hopefully support them and train them and educate them too, and I bet they'd be better off for it than if we didn't, or do you disagree?

But know that 1st lady is not so much an achievement, as far as I am concerned. I'd rather train my own daughters to be president. They might not be presidents of a nation, but they just might end up as the CEO of a multi billion dollar company, which is close enough.

Society will train you and your children to be slaves. Our Nigerian society will even teach you to be stupid, or what do you think is being done by convincing you that naked enslaved Adam is the Image of God, when it's obvious their job descriptions and pay and reward differ immensely?

I would strongly suggest you not let society determine your achievements, much less that of your offspring. Strive to be the best you can be, and empower yours to do likewise. You and they might not get to the summit, but you would likely rise higher than those who don't bother.

For your information, every woman who has ever risen to rule a nation had children and a husband beside her, so your "most women who chase careers end up childless or single mothers" is false.

KendoXR:
What other ways will work best to get more people talking, voting and engaging

One way that works wonders is suffering. If we elect the wrong people who screw up our nation long enough so we suffer well well we will buck up and become responsible for ourselves.

A better way is education. But that requires dedication and effort which most lack.

I prefer the second. And I aim to do the best I can as imperfect as I am and with the limited resources I have at my disposal.

I am ever so grateful to seun for empowering me to amplify my tiny voice. I hate his spambot though.

BATified2023:
apart from insult which other thing do u have to offer?

Y not counter his points

Like you countered my points, right, with your ridiculous and wrong assumption?

BATified2023:
just tell us u can't stand a Yoruba person as president

All these your bullshit don cast

Why should I tell you such a stup¹d lie, especially when it would exclude me and my kin from ever being president?

"These days", lol. So you just started?

F2 L USM! Now, that's a lens I'll kill for, except it won't go with my 6DMk2.

KendoXR:
While other countries are concerned and tackling natural disasters, Nigerians are battling bad governance. I hope we come out to vote next election

I am here encouraging people to vote because I can not rely on hope.

I feel you though, and hope too.

lawani:
The FG is withholding over three years local government allocations of Osun state worth over one hundred billion naira and there is no real grounds for this if the governor has held elections. What the governor would be wrong to do is to appoint sole administrators to the local governments. Let any aggrieved party seek redress in court while the FG releases the local government funds of Osun state. Over one hundred billion naira is no small amount of money.

They have been to court already, but court did not resolve it!

Meanwhile, the illegal APC local government usurpers are getting money from somewhere and are hiring bandits to disturb our communities!

https://www.nairaland.com/8698229/state-police-not-allowed-carry#139831981

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2025/12/withheld-lg-allocations-supreme-court-strikes-out-osuns-case-against-fg/

I follow you cry for our Osun State, and hope we all rise up and vote for better governance like the wonderful one you experienced in better Ijebu jesa, because last time I was ill in Osun State, before the current governor, the state doctors were on strike, and the private doctor I did see advised me to go home for my care. I would have died otherwise.

Freeze007:
Thank you for your honest input, yes, I am willing to be skillful if you can be my mentor to talk me through certain skills that you know aligns with your project...

By the way do you have CD's from the 70/80's?

There is a client willing to purchase them I just posted the mail sent in my feed.

You really should be acquiring skills to be skillful for yourself, and not "if". And you should start from skills you already have that you can build on.

So tell, what skills do you currently have and what skills do you intend to acquire.

And no, I do not have "CD's from the 70/80's", as I've converted all I had to MP3s and given the CDs away.

chieveboy:
So if you agree, your actually are submitting one to the other. He can ask you to go fetch a plate and you too could (if both done under the condition of love which marriages are about).

No sir, I am not submitting because I go and fetch a plate for him. I could simply be fetching the plate for him because I love him dearly!

chieveboy:
But then even at that, if he disagrees you go to a night club or keep certain characters close to the family as your friend and you insist, then you are in for a lesson or two regarding the male or positive energy make up of a man.

Nightclub? You are showing your age. Try, go for a conference in Sweden for a week and he disagrees, lol, for that's more my level.

And what is it that you are suggesting he will do with his so called "male or positive energy make up of a man"? Will he beat his slave or what?

It's about levels, you see. You are night club level, while my level is a week long conference in Sweden while he's at home feeding and bathing and helping our wonderful children with their homework when he gets back from his work.

Neither of us us submitting to each other, because we don't want to kill each others spirit. We both raise each other up and flourish in our own right for the glory of our togetherness.

Now, about that plate you asked me to fetch for you, i hope it's because you are feeding the baby, or what's wrong with your own hands and legs that stops you going to get plates for both of us? Did you marry the housegirl, perhaps?

KendoXR:
so you mean voter apathy is all a mind game to keep us away while they work their magic at the polling units?

Yes, I believe so. Though, in honesty, we are the ones casting that ignorant evil magic spell on our own minds.

I can not be contesting an election and then tell people not to vote for me. I will tell people who won't vote for me not to vote, then pay my own peoples' fare to the polling station to go and vote. And since you have not bothered to be at the polling station to see what is going on, I will pay each person to vote for me 10 times. If I give INEC 100k they will close eye and not see because you are not there to tell them to look.

Please think about it. If I win ordinary local government chairperson na money I go chop, much more senator that pays basic of ₦1,063,860 a month! Trust me when I say there is nothing I or most wouldn't do for that amount of money in Nigeria.

ogascomax:
Oh, your last statement. You said you are too old to have kids. Don't you think your unnatural principles kept you away from seeing a man to get married to until you got to this age.

Scripture remains the ...

Too old to have any more kids, please. As for marrying you, I doubt you can handle a grandma, and my granddaughters will not marry you because your visions and directions and philosophy of life are very different to the ones I brought them up to have.

And for your information, those who live by scripture alone shall die young and unfulfilled, which is why Christ sent the Holy Ghost to minister to you.

KendoXR:
The issue has never been being coming out to vote, it’s what Nigerians have known to be a norm that votes don’t normally count after elections, that alone created the huge voter apathy we see today

That's my lie. I use it all the time. I convince you your vote don't count, then tell my own voters to go and vote, and that's how I win the election. It works every time.

Dude, votes you don't bother to cast definitely do not count, since INEC is not coming to your house to register your vote that you couldn't bother to cast.

A massive vote for any individual certainly does count. Besides, voting is the start. It's also our duty to make sure our votes count, or we'd be like the people claiming burglary proof does not deter theft and then leave the windows and doors open for the thief.

chieveboy:
In both, you have gratifications, one is called salary, the other is called emotional gratification.

I can see that you fail to understand that I gain no emotional gratification from submitting to anyone.

In marriage I am not your employee that you pay and order about. Even my boss, when I had one, wouldn't dare, because they hired me for my brain and not to slave for them.

I married you for us to help each other achieve our life goals, and not just to be your slave. And if you can not emotionally gratify me as I demand and deserve, I'll kick your ass aside and go find a better person who would. That's if I made the error and married you to start with.

And on that note, granddaugther. I got to go take beautiful powerful unsubmissive her to dinner.

princearch:
Sister calm down. The man of God says submission can only take place if Christ lives in you. Marriage isn't do or die affair. Marriage is tolerance, patience, understanding and love.

Christ did not tell me to submit to some man, and even if he did I'd have told him to go do one, since he did not submit to the rulers of his day but said woe unto them who don't enter and don't let others enter. As to your "Sister calm down", first, I am very calm, and second, you don't tell me what to do or be, thank you very much.

That said, I so like your "Marriage is tolerance, patience, understanding and love", so long as it cuts both ways. You'd even get me to agree with you if you say we are going to be submitting to one another.

In fact, can I love you already? You must work on telling me to calm down however, because that will be you lacking understanding.

I can not tolerate weak pigs who need submission though, please kindly patiently lovingly dearly unsubmissively note.

pocohantas:
I am a dangerous feminist, I have a happy home. My husband is not the one crying on NL or bothered over the choices of other women. If you are so happy in your homes, you would tell us more about those homes. We would see the evidence of submission and maybe learn one or two.

What's annoying the most is that these weak boys will bring their daughters up to be weak submissive wifes to some pig who does not appreciate them.

Tufia! Says I.

Jeezuzpick:
Go and enjoy your "strength"

I'm fine in my marriage of almost 20 years.

So why are you asking me to submit to you when you already have what you want?

That said, I wonder how she feels.