₦airaland Forum

IbrahimSola:
Then why become a side-chick TO ANOTHER MARRIED MAN at all if you left your husband because of another side-chic? Is this not insanity?

dettolgel:
Most married men treat their side chicks better than their wives. So I supposed she weighed her options. She doesn't have to cook or wash for him or pick up after him or deal with all his struggles. Hers is to enjoy the kporo and gifts and sweet lies that the man will give her. It also allows her to be side chic to more than one man without breaking any further moral code other than sleeping with married men.

Kobojunkie:
Marriage was created by men for the sake of men. NO God out there created what you all bow to as marriage. 🥱🥱

pocohantas:
Every market day, same topic, followed by whining from men who have fathers. Then advice on marrying multiple wives. Still trying to put emotional and retirement labour on women. Same women you don't benefit anything from marrying. Rather than implore yourselves to take care of your fathers. In my house, the only person showing my father shege is his fellow man (his ONLY son). But no, let's blame feminism, mothers and menstraution.

Mtcheeeeew!

66uvie:
I concur here, make sure you have money or you are financially comfortable at old age, my definition of financial comfortability here is 1 million naira dropping into your account every month without working. it enables you to move around and socialize, people will come around you like flies, Men will come for drinks and gisting while women will come for the usual, which we all know. I remember my father been in his 70s and he never complained of loneliness. He was financially comfortable and had two wives to his beck and call. Nigerian women don't request for much, give them free accommodation and at least two meals a day and you are good to go.

pocohantas:
Hahaha! No worry, even our men done dey learn from your brothers. Na national case.

casualobserver:
statements like this are part of the problem i have with the influx of Ibos and their value system into yorubaland. It is a given that a man must take care of his wife and children but that money must reflect on a woman is an ibo thing. Flamboyance for flamboyance sake or to display wealth for the sake of it is an ibo thing, that you must see the wealth of an ibo man in his wife is your thing, it's not our way.

It is quite common in yoruba land for the wife to be the one with money because in yorubaland, the status of a yoruba man is in his occupation, thats why you will see yoruba men who are professionals or civil servants and their wives are business women. if you introduce a friend to a typical yoruba father, the first thing he will likely ask you is what work does your friend do or what work does his gfather do? not how much money do you have. Thats also why you will see yoruba names that refer to their occupations like Agbede (ironsmith) . Like i said it is normal in yoruba man for the wife to be the one with the moeny or richer than the husband because it is usually the women who are the traders/business women.

always247:
you are extravagant i no dey earn anything and im still existing

DyshApp:
A man has taken to X (Twitter) to share a costly and disappointing first-date experience, revealing that he spent over ₦100,000 on food and transportation only for the relationship to fizzle out immediately afterward.

In his post, he explained that he went on a first date where he spent ₦109,000 on food and an additional ₦18,000 on a Bolt ride.

Despite the grand gesture, the connection didn’t last.

He recounted some of the frustrations from the date, saying that they first ordered food worth ₦90,000, which they couldn’t finish.

Only for her to order more stuff, then pack the whole food, the leftovers, and the newly ordered ones home, without asking if he cared for any.

Reflecting on the experience, he advised caution for future dates, promising never to involve himself in such again.

He concluded his post with a blunt takeaway, saying he thinks he’s better off alone because he’s tired of meeting ‘funny’ people.

The post has since resonated with many online, sparking conversations about first dates, expectations, and the modern dating experience.

His tweet read;

“Went on a first date two weeks ago. Food 109k, bolt 18k. Now we aren’t talking anymore. Learned to never do that again. If you aren’t going on a walk or to a restaurant I recommend, and you recommend more expensive ones, I’ll ghost from there.

First ordered food of 90k, which we couldn’t finish. Only for her to order other stuff. Then they packed the rest of the food, and she took it all without asking if I cared for any. ngl I’m better off alone. Tired of meeting funny people.“

pocohantas:
Very true. My grandmother did same and she died in her 50s. My grandfather's sidechick lived until 90+yrs. She really enjoyed herself.

pocohantas:
What is he using his time and energy for since he doesn't want to share chores? You saw them say they don't share bills and some of them clearly said they have no business with chores. Who and who do they use their energies for?

Time is money. He conserves his time+energy, she conserves her money.

pocohantas:
1. Years later I am just discovering this was a general line😂😂😂. I heard it a lot as a fairly tall lady. So it got boring quickly. He even brought form.

2. Not surprising for your region. As someone who grew in the SW, I never saw men and women whine so much about age or marriage until I moved to the SE.

Germi9:
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Yes you need to taste cocoanut rice before telling if it is well made/ sweet ..yes

lilyheaven:
Orgasm in a woman comes from the mind.
It’s not from digging.
If you like dig from now till tomorrow, if her mind is not there, there’ll be no satisfaction.

pocohantas:
Na everybody wey marry Ned dey get drug problem. There is a video of Regina taking weed right by his side. So it is very possible he knew and was enjoying it side-benefit _energetic knack. He is only mentioning it now because she wants to leave and he has to defend his image.

pocohantas:
Hahahahaha! Most likely o.
Because where do they find the time?😂

IBB007:
lol…how did an old message reappear on the phone

Ouchbabe:
I get angry when I read rubbish like this.
Most Nigerian women now carry over 70% of the financial burden of running the home.

I talk from experience.

Shawarmagirl:
This is why Nigerians fight and divorced abroad. Over here, both the husband and wife pays bills equally. The wife cook and the husband cook. Bills are shared. But Nigeria ladies will say my money is my money.

Dpaulie:
In my family we have 4.9million
3M from me and 1.9M from my wife
My wife, such a supportive wife and mother

KingDashx:
Women that's why I always say try and get your own money

No be everything be man.
Just see this ugly man, with this beautiful young girl... Haba this girl would have been some other young man's wife if not for money.

Kobicove:
Don't mock another person who is experiencing problems, you never know your own might be waiting for you around the corner

DyshApp:
Nigerian online personality and entrepreneur, Adeife, has stirred massive reactions online after declaring that true feminism requires financial independence, not just online activism.

Adeife says feminism isn’t just about tweeting quotes or posting empowering messages online. Real empowerment comes from having choices, and choices often come with money.

“You can’t be a feminist if you’re broke. Money is what makes a woman powerful. You can’t be empowered without the means of empowerment, which is money.”

She explained that financial dependence is why many women stay in bad relationships, unfulfilling jobs, or stressful situations.

Adeife known for her her outspoken views on women’s empowerment, encouraged ladies to earn their own income, saying money gives the freedom to make decisions, challenge norms, and shape their lives.


Is Adeife right that money equals empowerment?