BigCabal:
How we met
It took me three years to get admission into the university. During that time, I was attending a tutorial in Ibadan, and that is how I met Paul, a friend of my friend. My friend introduced us and we got really close. After talking for a while, I discovered I like him. The feelings were mutual, so we started dating on my birthday, November 7th. I had just clocked 18, he was 17, and I wasn’t looking for a relationship then, but I just knew I couldn’t let Paul go away.

The thing is; I have suffered emotional abuse and have been depressed for a while now. I have been molested twice, and I couldn’t even tell my own mother because she was always so harsh towards me. It got so bad that I even had to leave home to stay with my aunt. I had attempted suicide twice, and I have a lot of insecurities. Paul was there for me anytime I needed someone to talk to. He loved me and I always wondered why. He knows all my flaws, but I still could not understand why he loves me so much.

The first mistake
It was the best relationship I ever had. He was understanding, helped with my depression and academics. We never had serious fights, just a few misunderstandings over little things. Everything was going good for a year until I met some guy on Facebook, John. John and I started talking, and the chats progressed to the point where he asked me to send him nudes. I sent some with my face hidden because I was so sure I would never see him in real life. He lived in Lagos, I lived in Ibadan, and I didn’t plan on sleeping with him. Unfortunately for me, he attended the same secondary school as Paul. One day, John posted my picture on his WhatsApp status, and Paul saw it. Paul asked how he knew me, and John told him everything. Paul forgave me, but I knew he was hurt.

The second mistake
In 2019, I finally got admission into University, but I somehow got scammed of my acceptance fee. I couldn’t tell my parents or Paul because I felt so stupid. Instead, lied to him that my parents couldn’t pay the acceptance fee, I couldn’t tell him the truth. Covid-19 came, so schools couldn’t resume and the deadline for payment was up. I was planning on running away cause of shame, so I wanted to break up with Paul. I was stressed. One day I went to see a friend, and I ended up drinking with him. We almost had sex, but I was on my period so it didn’t happen. I initially didn’t tell Paul about it, but I eventually told him about how I went drinking and how I almost cheated. He was disappointed but forgave me.

The third mistake
The money for the initial acceptance fee was something I eventually raised, but because I was paying late, the price had increased. I was so desperate, and because my parents were having financial issues, I was ready to sleep with anyone for money for my school fees. Then, I met this guy who promised to take care of me, and I slept with him thinking he’ll help. I keep texting and sexting him so he would feel interested, but hasn’t said anything. This led to me breaking up with Paul. I told him it was because I needed time to be alone, but it was really because I couldn’t tell him I cheated on him.

The end
Paul and I eventually got back together, but it was because he did not know I cheated. He found out after reading my chats, so he left. I tried explaining to him how I only did it because I was desperate, but he thought I chose the man over him.

I feel bad and selfish about what I did. He deserved better than me, and I wish he listened when I told him before we started dating. This is just the kind of person I am. When I think of the fact that the person I slept with didn’t even give me any money, I feel I lost both ways.

I will probably sink deeper into depression because I finally lost the only person that ever cared. Paul is a good person that didn’t deserve any of the things I put him through. If I say I love him, it’ll surely look like a lie because you don’t hurt those you love, but I love him. I should just have done better.

https://www.zikoko.com/her/i-lost-my-boyfriend-and-it-was-all-my-fault/

zoomzoom:


Is it true that they have FOUR work days in a week as Fridays are for WORSHIP being a MUSLIM NATION?.

Zaksart:


Can a phone repair business be lucrative over there... What's your idea about business registration and getting a shop.

Zzor:
Yes,its your responsibility to provide for her or do you want another guy to help you do your work?

Henrymorre:
I will try to make this story very short.

So I've always loved my babe, buy her stuffs, gives her money, takes her out, etc. So tomorrow is her birthday, and she has a very bad hair. We where talking over on phone yesterday, and she asked me to send her money to make her hair, plus she also said she doesn't have money to do her bday, and wants me to help her on it. Well, I wanted to help her do her bday shaa, just to make her happy, but I can't carry all the responsibilities alone, so I said no to her getting money to do her hair. I told her to make her hair by herself or wear a wig, since I will be ,

Paying for hotel
Buying the cakes
Buying the drinks
Buying the meat
Calling DJ to play song for her and her friends
Plus giving her a gift..

She started acting all up, that she will do the bday with her friends that she doesn't need me in it anymore, that her friend will make her hair for free blah blah, and she will sleep over at her friends place. Etc

So guys the question, is this lady really a wife material? Or someone who is just there to eat money and go?

Did I over react?

EcoBrick:


https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/more-news/445521-2023-young-professionals-donate-n10m-for-tinubu-presidency.html

iwaeda:


https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/443377-exclusive-seven-soldiers-killed-as-boko-haram-sacks-military-base-in-borno.html

IWillRiseAgain:
So I just found this young bird by the corner of my house. Obviously, it fell from a nest very high on a tree beside my house.

The mother has been flying around the place but it doesn't look like there's much she can do for the little bird.

Is there anything I can do to help it too apart from climbing up to the nest to put it back there. That's not even an option because the tree is too tall.

Anybody know anything else I can do?

It looks so innocent and has been sleeping all through.

Hope say nobi village people come so?

Hotbutt:
Good evening. Please I need information on how to get some Yahoo Boys living opposite me Arrested.

I live in a close. My house is inside another close. In fact it's a close inside a close. You won't even know people live there becos the close is kinda hidden.

These boys are a complete nuisance since they moved into the area. They have no respect for those living around.

They are always packing their Cars infront of my gate purposely to block me from coming out of my house.
They make a hell of Noise.
They behave like complete Touts and Agberos. You can't even have a reasonable conversation with them. (So nobody should suggest that)
All they know is how to on generator from morning till night.
They live in a Flat where they pay about N400k and above.
The Landlord doesn't live there.
When they throw party, it is the worst. They will block the entire frontage with their numerous cars leaving no place to pass.

In fact they are a complete nuisance. I dislike them with passion.

I mind my business in the area 100%. If i look at u and u dont look reasonable or behave well, I avoid u.

If they can mind their own business without infringing on other people's right, we won't have a problem at all.

I want to end it all once and for all becos they think I can't do anything but I want to show them that my silence is not stupidity.

I need help on inviting the Law into this matter. If possible EFCC.

Thank you.

Everrich96:
I'm insecure, lonely and depressed . I've had my hopes all raised . She was my best friend and only friend. I always thought for 2 and did for 2.
I did everything to make her stay, I was convinced she loved me to a fault. She would do anything for me.

But my insecurity was my biggest flaw. I didn't want to lose her Cuz I was scared and unknowingly pushing her away. In my previous thread, I stated that 'everyone I've loved ended up leaving eventually', and I almost never let anyone in, but In Her case, I did . I have always felt alone all my life till I met her.

All of a sudden she said she was busy with life , she was stressed and tired of my insecurity and she wanted to leave me in the relationship. This came after we had a slight misunderstanding and we didn't communicate for a week Cuz she wouldn't talk to me. It came as a shock. I'm broken and I'm still wondering where I went wrong. I need someone to talk to . I just wanna make money and work on myself. I'm about to round off school, in my final year... With all the pressure and depression I might misplace my priorities.


Someone help me. I need therapy. I want to move on but I dunno how to start.

BigBashiru:


no madagascar came up with a covid 19 cure but they were bullied and silenced by WHO and the West.... google madagascar covid 19 cure. madagascar president even complained the world was ignoring the cure because it is from Africa....

GLeesMODEL:
*The Miracle of the brain- Melie Onyejepu*

It was Arthur Conan Doyle who exclaimed, "I am a brain, Watson. The rest of me is mere appendix". The brain is the most amazing part of the human body. It is providence most definitely precious gift to humanity. According to Joel Davis, the human brain is the last and greatest scientific frontier. It is the most distinguishing characteristics between man and other lower animals. Man was an unlikely candidate for power in a natural world where dominant adaptions were speed, agility, jaws and claws. He ascended from the stone age because he was able to dominate and control his environment using the instrumentality of the wonder called human brain. Our remarkable cognitive ability has allowed us to invent the wheel, build the pyramids and land on the moon.

Societies that recognize their cognitive abilities and it's infinite capabilities are the progressives. They measure and process data, transmit and disseminate facts, formulate new concepts and ideas, discover and invent , organize and educate, create and imagine and harness the forces of nature for human ends. Where the brain power is highly activated, human civilization is always at an acceleration pace. They push the boundaries of human existence continually and bravely explore the enormity of the universe. On the contrary, where the brain is left in its natural state of redundancy, the resultant effect is stagnation. Based on the theory of use and disuse by the French biologist Jean Baptiste De Lamarck, the parts of an organism that the organism uses the most will undergo hypertrophy and will become more developed. The developed world seem to be where the human brain is put to optimal and efficient use while the most part of African countries appears where people have abandoned the use of their brains, leaving it fallow while they consume the products of other people's brain power .

God has specially endowed man with the cognitive faculty to enable him function in an unfinished world and to become a co-creator. When God told man in Gen.3:19 this, "By the sweat of your brow thou shall eat bread", the brow stands for the grey matter, the brain. That instruction entails employing the usage of the brain to harness and conquer nature for the good of man. It is such use that enables man to create value and advance his society. Every human progress started as an idea in the brain. That ability to translate conscious thoughts into action and to organize the action for the collective good is the beginning of human civilization. The internet of things, the invention of the aeroplane, good governance, IVF are all products of the human. They stem from man's desire to transform his life and develop his environment.

The African continent is so richly blessed with human and material resources. She has everything she needs to take her rightful place on the table of human development and fulfil her potentials. Her arable land, clement weather conditions, the richness buried in her soil, her huge tourism potentials, her beautiful cultural heritage and the massive human capital is the envy of the world. Unfortunately, she has found herself stuck at the lower rungs of development, a perpetual burden on the shoulders of the developed world and a willing victim of her stunted growth. Instead of looking at the man in the mirror, she takes solace in religion, outsourcing the usage of her brain and beseiging God for things he can do himself. God already equipped him with the necessary cognitive ability to conquer and reshape his environment. Only a mad man builds a huge cathedral and then goes there to pray for a job. Even while we lack basic health facilities, the number of prayer houses and miracle centres are rising astronomically. Huge manufacturing concerns close shop and in some cases relocate to other climes due to harsh operating climate and in their stead, worship centres spring up. While we import virtually every facility that aid human life, our biggest export remains God. Conversely and hypocritically too, our rating on the corruption index is alarmingly high while other less religious climes are very low on the same index.

Our salvation lies in a conscious and deliberate realization that we are the cause of our woes and only we can save ourselves. A sustainable development should be organically grown. It requires a look within, a deployment of our mental faculties towards homegrown problem solving, a rational enquiry into the cause of things and how those things can be harnessed to better our environment and make it more habitable. Every generation has a date with destiny. They either fulfill it or betray it. This present generation of Africans can seize it's destiny and unlock the vast and largely unexplored potentials of Africa through the instrumentality of the brain. The fault is not in our stars but in our selves. Apologies to Shakespeare.


Sir Melie Onyejepu is the Anambra State Procurement
Boss and writes from Awka, Anambra State.

Amotolongbo:



https://www.thecable.ng/soyinka-herders-farmers-crisis-could-lead-to-civil-war-if-we-dont-act/amp

beyondPen:


Nigeria and spiritualism their own too much o\n What does it mean to report her to her spiritual dad? Nonsense. \n see ehn, women are complicated, you can't understand them even God that created them too can't. \n Fact has proven that those couples who are claiming they have a perfect marriage are they once who aren't.

Kingpele:
He is right ,what he said carried hidden wisdom only those in the spirit can understand,it is foolishness to fight someone that will cook for you later ,what if in the heat of anger the devil use her to poison your food ,and still weep uncontrollably afterwards before friends and relatives...U Don go be thatoo but if you put before God almighty who can do all things ,first the anger in your heart will be replaced with peace from God and your mind will be clear ,upon which you will be in the right mind to resolve whatever is the issue ,am married for more than a decade now and this for me is the best solution unless you are not sure u married God's choice for you..I can't fight my wife period

envoymedia:
Nollywood Actress, Destiny Etiko has acquired a new Toyota Land Cruiser Prado, IgbereTV reports.

The car has a plate customised with the words, "Drama Doll."

Sharing photos and video of the car via her Instagram handle, she wrote;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CK4UHapAOmP/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

See video below.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDKlA4SFhWc

envoymedia:
Nollywood Actress, Destiny Etiko has acquired a new Toyota Land Cruiser Prado, IgbereTV reports.

The car has a plate customised with the words, "Drama Doll."

Sharing photos and video of the car via her Instagram handle, she wrote;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CK4UHapAOmP/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

See video below.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDKlA4SFhWc

FalseProphet1:
I see a happy family. I see haters trying to bring up scandal against the husband, I see it failing. This I have seen.

DayTen:
See Pre-wedding Pictures here https://www.nairaland.com/6362316/pre-wedding-pictures

We are grateful to God Almighty for making this come to pass.
Corona tried and failed...
Thank you Jesus.

ovieni:
always painting the devil as a black man by Europeans is the highest
racism I have seen so far

drehdinho:




I will like to relocate to Senegal. Please, I need contacts of trusted people I can stay with pending the time I get myself familiarized with the environment.

I am a graduate. I am self employed. And I am comfortable financially. So, I would absolutely be responsible for my feeding and everything needed in terms of finance.

All I need is a place I can stay till I get my own rented apartment.


Thanks.

Many Nigerians are seeking greener pastures these days and with the issue of visa denials and inability of everyone to use an agent, maybe some african countries could offer solutions.

So for those who have visited or live in ECOWAS member states, come in and share your experiences. How do those countries compare to our fatherland in terms of:

Living standards,
Security,
Employment opportunities,
Cost of living,
Business, etc.

For those who have experience with non-ECOWAS states as well, you can chip in your contributions. Thank you.

JohnspeakU:
Below is a chat between a lady and her fiancé and how a 3years relationship ended.

Who should be blamed?

ChelseaArmy:


https://dailytrust.com/2023-low-turnout-as-yoruba-summit-pushes-for-tinubu-presidency

kalex0:

This your response get as e be

Please i need more info

ChinnysBlog:
The former beauty queen caused a stir recently when she arrived at a New Year’s get together held at the popular Ballroom at the coal city, Enugu looking gorgeous in an upturned Egyptian style hairdo.

Bianca Ojukwu, also Nigera’s Former ambassador to Spain as well as perm Rep UNWTO was dressed in a black evening gown and the cynosure of all eyes with her entourage at the shindig to usher in the new year.

She hasn’t changed much from the time she won the Miss Nigeria contest in 1988, over 22 years ago as the pictures seen her shows.

Picture 1 > 1988
Picture2 >2021

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2514128498887849&id=100008721701950

ademidedavid:
A video have been going viral for hours now, it showed what a group of angry men did to a lady who allegedly stole an iPhone 12. The details about how this lady managed to steal the expensive phone isn’t yet known but she was later caught after the owner raised an alarm about his missing phone.

The viral video lasted for 2 minutes and it showed how badly she was beaten by angry men after they found the missing phone on her. The phone was returned back to the owner but the lady wasn’t spared, angry men descended on her with whips, kicks and punches. She was kicked on the head several times, beaten badly and dragged. The lady pleaded with them to stop beating her but they refused.

Instead of handing her over to the police, these men beat her up badly and injured her. She did a very bad thing but it’s wrong to beat her up in such a way.

https://twitter.com/i/status/1350492223658450944