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SyNnadi:
Update: Battle For Child Custody For A Deceased Friend

Earlier thread here https://www.nairaland.com/5293255/battle-child-custody-deceased-friend

On the 15th of DEC 2018 I and my husband was involved in a motor car accident along kwale asaba road that left us with fractures ( I broke both of my tights a d my right arm while he broke just a thigh) .admitted at a hospital at kwale n discharged to go to benin to receive treatment from a traditional bone healer two days later he passed on after an injection was administered to him by his younger sister joy akhator Lawrence ( the injection was prepared for both of us but he was administered first). He was immediately rushed to a near by medical center where it was ascertained that he died because of the high dosage of d injection she(joy akhator Lawrence) said was a pain killer. His death by this time was not made known to me till few weeks later when I received a call from my landlord in Lagos saying she's sorry for my loss and that my sister in-law(loveth akhator) called her to tell her of the ordeal and also requested that access been given to her(loveth akhator) to pack my belongings in the apartment since my husband ( Emmanuel akhator) his brother was late. That she wanted to know weather its with my consent. That was where d battle started officially......
They never paid any visits to me or asked after my well being or asked how we r going about the surgeries I had to later go through ( because it got to a point I could no longer take the pains when the traditional bone man was treating me). Instead they went straight to my husband's office in sapele delta state to inform them of his demise and further demanded for what was due to him from the company. They even went on telling his friends and colleagues that am perfectly fine when they ask of my wellbeing not until d day of his funeral (January 12th,2019) when I was not seen on the ground. Then they stated asking many questions till they finally were able to get someone (a friend of mine) that showed them the hospital I was admitted Into......
MeanWhile they have been getting financial support from his office n friends without my knowledge.......

On getting to the hospital his colleagues were shocked at the condition they found me it was then they now told me of the statement made by my in-laws stating I was fine...... That it was my absence at d funeral ground them insisted on seeing me.....

All efforts for his friends to meet with me were thwarted by my in-laws since they were the ones they always go through
.....d night before the funeral my siblings had called me from home ( I was still in the hospital) that my late husband's elder brother (Osazee akhator) and some of their relatives came to our hose to demand for my baby (Success Osose akhator) but they said its late that she will b present in the morning for the funeral but my inlaws said no that they must take her that night and was threatening to drop the corpse of my late husband in my fathers compound. After all the shoits here and there from both families they left that night without my baby...on the funeral day, right from the mortuary that was wen the fight for baby success started till date. According to witnesses around. Success was forcefully taken from my siblings and that was d end.....

Few weeks later I demanded to see my baby at the hospital and asked my younger sister to help me go to my in-laws house (which was not far from the hospital I was) to help bring her for me to at less see but she came back saying the elder sister (loveth akhator) told her that I don't have business with success that success is now their property

Several meetings have been held by both families in their house but it all proved abortive

They became more angry wen they found out that my husband had no entitlement from his company after calling d company 3months after his burial........ Since he wasn't up to a year yet he was not added to d company's policy........ This I think made them hold on to my baby from the beginning thinking she was his next of kin�

They demanded all sort of things and called me all sorts of names . went as far as tarnishing my image n levying all sort of false allegation on me..

With all these I wasn't moved so they decided to permanently hold on to my child .

Those that later showed interest in the case asked them y they haven't returned my 2 year old baby yet to me, they started telling them that they are holding her pending when I fully recovers so as to trick them n make dem back off

My baby they have been using to get financial support from his friends.

Follow up on Twitter via her handle @vera_ogbebor

https://mobile.twitter.com/vera_ogbebor/status/1151126290591866880

otobasin2323:
Good day nairalanders, ( pls ignore my errors, I am not good in typing ) I had a baby with one lady from rivers state(ex girlfriend) and I am from imo state, the baby turns out to be a boy he is 2 years old now. The lady lived with me during her pregnancy and also Gave birth under my roof.. 9months after giving birth, we started having issue. Based on am not well to do.. Cause my hustle ain't paying off. She left the house with my son. Later on she and her family found a man who has been married for so long but no child.. But the man is very wealthy and well to do in the society, the man is also from their town in rivers state ,she agreed to be the second wife so he can claim the child.

on hearing this I rejected it and met with her family so they can release my son to me and she can go ahead and marry whom ever she likes.. To my greatest suprise they all decline to my request but gave her full support that she should go ahead quoting me that in their tradition "any man that marries a lady that is with a child the child automatically answers the man's name"

With this statement it got me sad, angry cause I love my son with all my heart I don't want another man to father him.. Every month I Normally send her 15k for keep up my son... She ain't satisfied.. That am too poor for her liking... How do I take her to court the only documents I have here.. Is my sons birth certificate, his pictures with me. And all the receipt of the money I normally sent to her monthly... Pls I seriously need advice or suggestions. Thank you

AllenSpencer:
Dino relax!

Honor the invitation first!


The Nigerian Police Force will determine if you innocent.

SolutionMee:

[s]Inasmuch as I dislike Buhari's way of leadership, it will be an unwise thing for me to do if I don't applaud him and his administration on needs that matters. What Osinbanjo just said is the unadulterated truth. Not that we are too young to rule Nigeria but we're too young to lead Nigerians. If a youth becomes our president today, it's clear that the youths of this country will use it to their own selfish advantage. Things will become worse beyond reasonable measure. Everyone will be striving for unnecessary attention and hitting up the polity without justifiable cause. Imagine Sowore playing on the sensitivity of well-meaning Nigerians by telling us to take it back. Please help me to ask him that what exactly are we taking back cuz the last time I check, we have no business in Aso Rock. It's even a privilege that Buhari is being considerate. With the way we all have abused his leadership, he should have ordered an executive order-09 preventing young Nigerians from ever governing Nigeria again. But the few integrity left in him wouldn't let him do. Passing a bill would have been the best idea but those senators in our legislative arm of government may also take advantage of it. Throughout the world, it is conventional that the youths will lead in the future only. We're the true leaders of tomorrow. Let us give them our today...
Tomorrow is ours![/s]

Xaos:
You invited her out on a date. [s]It's your responsibility to pay for her food[/s]. And also help her get home safely bros.
It's a shame you decided to chicken out and slip through the back door when you could have walk out with dignity and respect via the front door. But what do I know...

buhariguy:
[s]The fear of not being sack is the reason for hiding their identity.
That means premiumtime must reveal the source or something will happen again.

Seyeifa must be arrested for sabotaging the country because of his personal gain,

So seyeifa bribe those jobless aggressive lazy idiotic pigs of leaders for tribal incitement.
And Those senior officer working for opposition party to be sponsoring Boko Haram must be fish out.
[/s]
Nigeria must be great again,
Buhari till 2023.

luminouz:
Guy what dafuq is ur problem??
Who made u judge and jury on OP's thread??
He,at least did something for his country...
What have u ever done for ur community,u coconut head mofo??
I dislike niggas like u,e-warriors on SM but sissies in real life....
No make me vex reason ur matter now oh...cuz I go treat ur fvck up..

Chanting like a parrot about 'I' n 'we'..... Kuku become a lawyer naaq

omooba969:
There's no moral lesson to adopt in your comment, you're only trying so hard to make a subject out of nothing. I know your type, you never find comfort in seeing people recount their achievements - pain is all you get. Envy is your watchword & jealousy is your regalia.

Your wife to be is in trouble!

Randy91:
he is using 'I' because those Dundee's covered with white hijab and looking like corpse that escape from a morgue does not look like human

duduade:
You also observed

Newjasy:
Yes, I stated that clearly at the beginning of the thread that i was elected president of my CDS group and I was able to make an impact on the community through that.

SmartyPants:
Take a seat my friend. He used I only twice compared to we which he used 5 times. And where he used[b] "I" it was only in introduction to his person and not in reference to what was done.[/b]

Newjasy:
Yes, I stated that clearly at the beginning of the thread that i was elected president of my CDS group and I was able to make an impact on the community through that.

socialmediaman:
Good. Since you’re a medical professional and your job is in U.K., from the information you provided I assume that you’ll be earning at least £35,000 before taxes. Depending on your standard of living, taxes, rent and bills etc, you may be able to save up to £5,000 annually. Note that This would be much lower if you had a stay home or student non-working wife and child. If you’re also ambitious you’ll probably see the need to enroll in more study to upgrade your income and level in the organization, and that is your introduction to debt management in form of student loans etc.

This is just a rough estimate and perhaps doesn’t give a near true picture of the reality, but I just want to give you an informed idea of what your decision parameters should be based upon. The fact that the income is much higher does not mean the whole money is all yours to save, not at all. But overall, you’ll have a much better value for your hard work.

As per making money quick and starting your own business, you need to give that time. By the end of the first year, you’ll see how much is in your bank account and you’ll realize that there’s a good reason people went there but didn’t run back quick with trailer load of money after the first year.

All the best as you make the best decision for yourself.

Ekez:
Giant stride,
Our people keep prospering abroad than at home,
WHY?

Seyilexy:
. You people forgot 3000mah of Nokia battery is 3500mah of some other phones.

Burgerlomo:
EFCC Guest House

ChildOfDoom:
mightyify has a point bro. Betting [bet9ja virtual] is the greatest addiction i ever got myself into. You lose your feelings in the process. I keep hurting and letting down people i love because of the 'virus'

Mightyify:
A gambling addict is worse than a dead man... dead men don't hurt people but a gambler does.

Mightyify:
Brother follow this instructions I'll give you and you'll stop bet9ja... remember to thank me later. Bring Sharp razor blade cut yourself in the hand, put your blood in a cup, buy raw egg empty it there too... remove your footwears to make sure your legs are touching the ground

Swear that you will never play bet9ja again that any day you try it, you should die... Say Something like "I swear with my life by using my blood as a convenant anyday that I play vitual let me die mysteriously, this ground I'm standing should bear me witness as well as this raw egg"

The fear of this swear Will keep you away from gambling...if you're afraid of doing it then you're not ready to stop. I studied psychology, I have used this particular therapy to stop more than 20 young men from gambling. They're always happy to see me and their lives is better now. Don't bother whether the swear Will work or not.

Do it today bro....do it today... and you'll forever be grateful to both me and God

empire2017:
sorry i quote u again ur advice kip be warm nd strong.After reading ur comments nd others i invited her for the first time to my lodge which she came happily, buh lack words to start up with her.I quickly opened this thread for her to read both comment,she asked if i frictioned it buh i said no.Then i started from there nd told her what's in my heart. what's cn u say @bt my actions,did i go wrong showing her the thread??

Oreofepeters:
Bro abeg leave that she belongs to nobody until proven otherwise. na competing we dey compete same way person go dey compete with my future wife

Sparkle777:
[b]Virgins wey guys dey die go meet [/b]naim u dey do anyhow.

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