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Sirchiboy:
Just woke this morning

first off stop using ur fingers to caress your face... That is why it isn't going even when you start treating it.

DesignMaestro:
Source: https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2022/11/28/2023-anambra-youth-coalition-asks-obi-to-step-down/

nothing but hungry jobless lots.... Everybody has the right and liberty to contest

Gudfadah:
Good evening nairaland.

I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old.
We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.

Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands.
I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day.
I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.

I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child.
She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.

She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth.
But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.

It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.

Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.

Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.

I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.

Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

you are a good man... And may your days be long on earth... I pray you don't die untimely no before old age, so that you can see her through life till another man(her husband) is ready to continue from where you stop.... I SUPPORT YOUR DECISION, if she can't accept her as yours I doubt what would happen when you leave both of them and go on a journey... And your Aunty with the busy mouth, cut her away from your family and warn her strictly to stay off.

kettykin:
He should have waited

why No time to waste.. Those appointment and employment where malicious in order to leave huge liability for him..... When the state needs to employ, he will do so, for now they should move aside so that he can examine the damage done by his predecessor.. Infact if Oyetola don't go to prison, it will be by divine intervention.

Christistruth00:
He should not use his vandetta with Oyetola to turn Osun State upside down

If he doesn’t know what to do

Gov Adeleke should Just go and dust Awolowo’s 1956 Development Plan for Osun Province

and execute it with all the necessary updates

there is nothing like vandetta here, their appointment and employment were malicious to undermine the new governor.. Outside the loan liability left behind, you still want to leave salary liability...

adioolayi:
https://thenationonlineng.net/breaking-adeleke-sacks-12000-workers-dethrones-three-monarchs/

@MelesZanawi come and see something... We await their Industrial court papers..... Trust me it won't fly if they are even advise to go the legal way.. Their appointments were malicious against the then incoming governor now governor... They have the right to challenge the sack....

1stGenAmerican:
Russian Soldiers Are Freezing To Death In Eastern Ukraine



https://www.forbes.com/sites/davidaxe/2022/11/27/russian-soldiers-are-freezing-to-death-in-eastern-ukraine/?sh=dad7e2042541

forbes and their lies.. Lol thank God We are all seeing through them.. Russia soldiers freezing to death my foot... When Russia still has one of the coldest climate the world has known... Even right now the as we speak, Russia is still colder then Ukraine.. Western media and their useless propaganda

hello66:
Brother, in as much as 50k na huge money , but I will advice u, let it slide, na business gone bad ,

Move on, learn from it

My 2 kobo

someone intentionally scam another person and u tag it business gone bad?? Do u even know the meaning of business gone bad?? Anyway if na me I know exactly how to treat his kind... 50k isn't a lot of money but looking at the suffering I'm the country right now, it is too much to just let go..

Pellahblaze:
Please forgive me for making you read so much I'm just trying to make you understand what I put here



There is this lady who comes to work beside my shop who happens to be my neighbor we played together and share things together. It happened some months ago when I part ways with my baby mama, about 2 weeks after the incident, me and this lady were sitting in my shop, I was helping her to massage her finger where her husband caused her injury, suddenly this lady gave me a deep kiss on the lips. That was when we started the relationship she comes to my house anytime I need her and exchange things together.(material thing)fast forward to yesterday, we were both having conversation on the phone when she brought up the matter of taking an oath which I tell her I can't do such, since then I noticed some changes in her behavior which I asked her what was wrong with her and her reply was nothing until today when she called me telling me that she as already seen my true color I further asked her what she meant by that , I asked her if it's what I said yesterday she just said yes that if I'm not going to take an oath with her that I should forget the relationship between us, then I said it's ok that I know from the start this going to happen. Then she called immediately after reading my messages I didn't pick her call, she called many times but I refused to pick her call then I decided to pick it later, she asked why i didn't pick her calls then I tell her I was working she said really that so I can ignore her call, that was when she said ehnn she does not mean what she said the other time that she was just playing with me to see my reaction. I tell her immediately that she as already say it with her mouth, that have already accepted our breakup. She started begging me, she as being begging me to forgive her that she was just playing with me. But me as I am now I don't think I'm ready for any relationship both married or no married I'm done with relationship for now.....

you are useless for even having an affair with a MARRIED WOMAN... are u stupid??

CorrectBizWoman:
Please who else is been sex starved at home. I can count how many times we've had sex since dis year. Always money money money all the time which is beginning to bother a lot more on greed. We're very comfortable. Solid investments, own the house we live in.

He don't cheat at least none that I know of and he's very free with his phone.

I'm tired of living this way... Any help guys? He's the last person you can seduce. It just don't work with him.

To think it's this same man loves sex like crazy even after our kids before this money talks, makes me wonder how people change so fast

this is the damages that sex after marriage policy can cause really.... See Ehen my sister SEX is a big deal in marriage but Y'all people shy away from it and it is not discussed much or given the needed attention... Not being Sexually compatible or Sexually attracted to each other is a big deal nobody is talking about.....

sadics:
With how many months to leave office

you mean days... He has less than 72hours to leave office

OloYeOfEgbE:
na lie joor

But I heard he gave one small girl Krest and do the do.. Karma madt sha.

Wow...abi the guy dey diet?... I still don't believe

this here with the way he transform so suddenly can only be attributed to a terminal disease and nothing more, kidney, or cancer

Mstravelindiva:
Russian River Vineyard

sorry to ask, your second picture of the red wine class, was that wine refrigerated?? Coz I can see the class being foggy.. If it was refrigerated them suppose kill that person that made that blunder.... It is a sin before God and humanity to ever refrigerate red wine

Mercury12:
First of all what is your tribe?
For Bini people in Edo state
First born male usually inherits the parent property.
Yoruba culture. The parents properties are share among the male and female kids.
Igbo culture. The properties goes to the males alone
I don't know much about other tribes aside these 3

All these happen only in the absence of a will.

I will advice you leave for a rented apartment.
Nah person wey dey alive dey inherit property o.
It is a cold world and expect the unexpected from anyone including ones family members. So before someone harm you any way use your head and focus on your life.
Its a life challenge. Accept it.

You sef go build the house wey pass that your father own .

your second line is wrong using the word parents property.... Yes first son inherits the "father's" property.. A mother property is shared by all using the discretion of the family... Also the first son and father property also depends on family.. Some family, senior son owns everything, for others if the property if much and the man was polygamous, the property is shared to each first born of the entire Wives, after the overall senior son might have been given the lions share..

MelesZanawi:
You think if these Directors didn't support Adeleke, he would have won?

This illiterate wan mess with civil servants. Lol.
Go and ask what happened to Baba Akande after he tried this in Osun.
Go ask what happened to Osoba who tried same.

I dare the entire Adeleke family to try it.

oga just few directors does not stand or represent the entire civil servants.. Some of the so called directors are not even liked by the larger populace of the civil servants in their department self.... Bro I dare any of them to accept the appointment... Just leave that thing you are saying, I have worked in a particular government house and I know how these tinx are run over there.. Do you know there is an action by the governor far worse than sack to a director or permanent secretary? That can even make them the proud ones among them resign Bro no head of any service or ministry want to have issue with an incoming governor, especially to an opposition party... I give u 5 months and see as all of them will be decamping up and down...

Clairembaaaa:
Hello, my visa appointment scheduled for January 25th, 2022 and I had to defer my admission to fall 2023. Just yesterday I got an email from the consulate saying my appointment had been canceled. I don’t know what to do rn, I’m so devastated, do I pay for another visa appointment and schedule a date? Cause my resumption is soon.

Please reply me, thank you

better be sure they haven't done a background check on you or any close member of your family and especially ur social media handles and old post... After that has been checked, go make a formal complaint

Moh247:




Fire them and get sued at the Industrial Court of Nigeria

Fat uneducated dancing shiithead

You want to fire educated, qualified career Civil Servants with over 30 years work experience that never violated any civil service regulations over stupid Politics

Sack them and get ready to pay compensation awarded by the court


.

u re in severe pain, I can understand... None would dare accept any permanent secretary position, Forget industrial court.... He has said he will treat their appointment as political, few days to handing over na him wan dey make appointment to his loyalist who could sabotage his good intention for osun people, u even get sense at all

GOTVee:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, this policy is targeted at those Anambra criminals using drug money to finance labour party noise all over the country. Their labour is finally in vain. God bless the federal government and our Muslim brothers and sisters

lol cow, I'm not even labour party nor an igbo but every sensible person can see u are speaking totally out of point.. Lol, u be big cow the motive is to bring back into the economy the looted and hoarded funds that people are hiding somewhere in empty apartments, sewage tanks, buried underground etc, this redesign would bring those money back into the economy... It is targeted at those thief politicians like Tinubu, Wike, ganduje etc

This one Don go..... Make the family just minus am from their family lineage... Penalty for drug in parkistan Is DEATH

jmichael259:
tonda faya.. Won't Kids go to school? Do you yourself or the so called lady in this story spend the entire day with kids?

If dropping kids with your own mum means nobody, suffice to know that other people's mothers aren't nobodys. So face front when you don't know what to say.

na ogun go Kee you there, idiot... There are things that are basically best if a mother teach her girl Child, eg sex education, which also include how to take care of herself when she starts being a grown woman, Na the man wan do am Abi u dey mad Don't make it seem like I'm downplaying the importance of their grand mother in their life, I too was raised by my grand mother and she did a good job, but this is a girl Child and raising a girl Child is so delicate and require alot of time and attention and motherly bond and trust. Believe it or not a girl Child is better raised with the mother if alive than a grand mother or their father.. I'm not talking because I want to talk, I'm talking because I know what I'm saying... those wise one among us knows this is the truth, I wont blame ur sorry ass because u still see life with the eye of a single guy wen thunder go fire, u never born before so u fit dey mad here.. Continue

Prospertochu:
My ex and mother of my triplets and I are separated. The children were with me.

Last week she called me to inform me that she is in the village and she wants to come over to see the children. I told her no problem my mother is at home with the kids she can come over anytime and she came on Monday while I was a t work. She brought foodstuffs and toys for the kids.

She texted me to asked if she can take them to her mother's place I said yes. She left with the 3 children. I expected her to bring them back today she said she is going back to Lagos tomorrow and this evening I came home I met my boys, not my girl. My mother said it was her brother who dropped them and I saw a big luggage with plenty of clothes she bought for them. I asked my mum what did the brother said about my girl he said my ex told her to inform me that she will bring her back tomorrow morning. I called, her number is switched off so I went at her mother's place, she said she left with the girl to Lagos yesterday.

I am very upset that she took the girl to Lagos without my consent and I want my girl back.

What should I do to have my child back with me?

the topic is misleading.... Oga leave the girl Child for her to nurture.... You have no business taking care of a girl Child when the mother is obviously alive, you didn't state in your long Sermon she(your ex) was irresponsible etc.. So you go to work and leave your girl Child at home with nobody and you are here saying you need your girl Child blah blah blah.. Ogs face front, you aren't the only one who has those children.

Ballzproblem2:
bmisfire , NATO will understand, however the day russia will try nonsense,their country will seize to exist

stop believing these lies you tell yourself... So many countries will be reduced to dust if there was ever a war break out, but definitely not Russia.... U see these Poland, Latvia, Finland, and the smaller countries would suffer the war and its aftermath... When Two Elephants fight, the grass is always at the receiving end... Russia was not a one time world power for nothing....

thegroomspa:
Thanks friends for your input....

I have made up my mind to quit, it's hard for me but I have to move on...

Looking for best subtle way to tell her...

It really hurts you may not understand...

guyyyyyy I totally understand where you are coming from... It is from of you feeling she prefers your friend more than you that has always been there for her.. I totally understand and I support your decision if you want to quit, allow her go, her biological clock is ticking already, how can a 34years be acting so immature like a teenager who is just falling in love for the first time... Forget those that are saying you acted too quickly.. When your instinct tell you a thing, 90% of the time that Thing is true...

Thinkam:
Make this guy rest and, guy drop out now don't wait for December again

Atiku is coming

when u don dream finish, try wake urself up, coz u dey sleep and having a terrible nightmare

Roboto11:
Hours after, yet he said he was preparing to meet the judge the next day?

bro allow their stupidity, Na u get time to dey reply senseless news like this.... AGAIN HE WILL BE SENTENCE ON 11TH.. Nigeria Bloggers are wack...

Jeweltz:
Is any of you looking for a wife? I'm � beautiful, educated, respectful, submissive, Godly, know how to cook.

Only a guy living in Canada please, and must not be on student visa.
Men in Nigeria are Heartbreakers and liars

you go spend long for market.... Go build yourself, you no dey Forbid to enter Canada by yourself....

Shokoloko:
Not true. Here in Canada, if you leave your kid in the hands of a babysitter or respite worker (who is over 16) and something negative happens to the child, you will not be accused of anything. You were not present - how then is it your fault?

The nanny is totally to blame. There are procedures to taking personal phone calls or going for personal events while at work.

madam please leave that one to be Assuming nonsense.. Na u no go abroad na u dey k ow wetin dey happen for abroad... Please enlighten her more by telling her how much a baby sitter /nanny/care giver earn per hour in Canada... They just come online to spew nonsense when they do not know shit..

Zonefree:
Chioma is not yet a wife but she's following Davido upandan like a chained goat. Since Davido has numerous baby mamas, why not allow other girls follow him to some places. Must you always show your face at every event?

Stay one place and look after your son, she can't. After exposing her breasts to Hórny of Ife in Osun, she still followed Davido to Ibadan. She should take 80% of the blame! Nonsense!

The police should release that innocent nanny and arrest chioma for total negligence. Rubbish! Chef Chi my foot!

the fact that you have 400+ likes for this your comment make me really know how useless and senseless majority of Nigerians are... I have no issue with your comment except the first paragraph... Even if a man has 60 girlfriend or baby mamas, you decide which one you still attracted to or still love and trust enough to be in your space... So na the lowkey olosho baby mama or the other when dey date somebody else u want make him allow enter his space abi A guy can't be this stupid in reasoning, only a lady can get this jealous and emotional, and it radiates in your comment....

Greatzeus:
You have a good heart for you to be protective of your step sister,whom your mother and brothers are maltreating.
But in life,we need wisdom,good intentions are not always enough. So you must apply wisdom in these situation.
First that woman that is accomodating you and your sister,when you have been declared missing by Police is risking jail term. Don't put that woman in trouble.
I will advice you to go to the LASG Office of public defender,if you're not in Lagos,go to the office of public defender in your state. Tell them your mom and brothers are maltreating your sister and her life might be in danger. So that way, your leaving the house is justified and the woman that accommodated you won't be prosecuted.

a 23 years old should be able to say if she was kidnapped or not... She never said she was staying with the woman, her rental bill was paid by the good samaritan.. Nevertheless you are spot on!!!

Kingstel:
The EFCC should be fined as an entity rather than its chairman.
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it is far more than that.... Someone is in charge of that establishment... Infact the judgement was given when he wasn't even made chairman of efcc, but for the fact that the tenure is a continous tenure and he is in charge right now and he was briefed about the case and didn't yeild to court order, that's why he has been charged for disobedience of court order, if damaged was to be paid, the entity will be charged the damages because the account is in the entity name...

Like you have said earlier that you are a failure, sure you are... Why I'm I even reading this nonsense... If you have injured that boy once and he has seen his blood for his evil act, I'm so sure that will remind him what he ought not to do again whenever he sees the scar.... I swear to God I Don break his head so that my parents and his mother can go together and treat him and stitch his head, while they discuss the reason I did it.or dislocate his 4 right hand fingers and 4 left hand finger he uses in doing that nonsense, so that when he is going through the pain of trying to put back the dislocated fingers back to position he would know why he is receiving the pain, I guess when the beeting and injury is too much the mom would come carry him or my parent would end him away.. I can really get violent when you try Abusing a minor around me, regardless if we are blood related or not....