Politics › Re: Electricity Production By Governments From 1999 To 2020 - StatiSense by cedricksly: 7:59am On Aug 21, 2022 |
This is the most stupid post I have ever seen.. And it is shameful that nairaland aids this support of mediocre and failure by one senseless Nigerian |
Health › Re: Doctors In The House Please Help Me Answer This Question by cedricksly: 8:13pm On Aug 19, 2022 |
NeedHelpNow: I had a meeting with a hooker and she spit on my penis twice touching it with her hands as per lubrication,
Do I stand the chance of getting hiv? Never had penetrative sex with her neither did she put her mouth on my penis. Opinions needed cause am soo scared. if you get hiv self go better pass if u get genital herpes which is almost incurable and na that saliva e for many pass... Go well bro |
Family › Re: Am I Responsible For The Pregnancy Or It Is A Setup? by cedricksly: 8:08pm On Aug 19, 2022 |
JudgeNotHi: I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.
I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.
Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).
The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.
Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!
How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?
Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.
In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.
Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.
My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.
I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.
My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.
Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her... I wanted to insult u really bad but come to think of it anybody could make this kind of silly mistake.. How old are you first and foremost if u have matured in age and reasoning I expect you to tell the girl's mother point blank that you have no intention of marrying her daughter, not now not ever, that she should send her daughter over for a better test and maybe ultrasound etc, and if it is proven it is yours, she would have to give birth to it out of wedlock because both of you never planed for this to happen and you are not getting married to her never... The mother's reaction is what we prompt your next move. NEVER EVER EVER ALLOW THEM PRESSURE YOU TO MARRY ANYBODY BECAUSE OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY, IT IS CALLED UNWANTED BECAUSE YOU WERE CAREFUL ENOUGH TO USE CONDOM.. guy bring your mind down, nothing go happen... Make this move I'm telling u first and see the mum's reaction before u come clean to tell your wife to be.... Even if it prove she's really pregnant, go on with your marriage if your finance can forgive you quick enuf and when she finally give birth, don't fail to do a DNA test first before you start claiming after r birth responsibility, too many paternity fraud these days. That of cause if they choose not to abort it after telling them you can't marry her..... I REPEAT DO NOT EVER MARRY HER BECAUSE OF A CHILD... if she wan born am na her headache and her mama own be that. Do the best u can for the unborn baby and don't do further after birth without a DNA test.. If |
Romance › Re: I Slept With My Ex And I Think My Husband Knows by cedricksly: 9:18pm On Aug 17, 2022 |
daylay7: I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.
I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).
A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!
The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.
When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.
This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....
cc: Relationship matters I'm a fellow guy, but let me advise you like a sister... There are some secrets that should die with you, no matter the circumstance. There is a local saying where I am from and it goes like this "if the ear does not hear a bad word, the heart does not get bitter". Whatsover you do with this Information Is your business... First and most importantly, forgive yourself and cut all means of communication between ur ex or his family, your ex is a big COW, he broke gentlemen code. You don't sleep with a married woman, it is forbidden. |
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Graduate Trainee: Should I Take This Employment Offer? by cedricksly: 3:52pm On Aug 15, 2022 |
Don't take this job, it is slavery..... 50k gross is approximately 40 to 38k net, only transport fair for lagos will finish that money, let's not even talk accommodation and feeding yet... Honestly you are better off without that job.. |
Celebrities › Re: Rihanna's New Look After She Became A Mum by cedricksly: 1:51am On Aug 15, 2022 |
CandyOps: Damn! She should slow down with the junks. She looks like a mf cow imagine saying someone looks like a cow because they aren't looking like what u would like... Brooooooo you need help |
Romance › Re: Her First Child Belongs To My Friend! Should I Tell Her Husband? by cedricksly: 7:33am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Blackdeewhy: That girl deserves happy life and opportunity to grow with her other siblings. Let the truth reveal it's self. If you pursue this, the woman in question may organized for your dismissed. And from your analysis she can afford that. leave that child alone and let God be the judge. My one cent I not surprised this is coming from a lady, madam u literally telling him to lie to his friend and suppress the truth, where is your moral? Inasmuch As you feel for the little girl, she deserve the right to know the truth at an early age to accept it over the years, not when she is way older, ans the man deserve the truth also to come in agreement that he has been raising someone else's daughter.. Is it when he is old that he will be told and that will break him... You gaining this kind of useless advice go and watch Episodes of Paternity Court(YouTube) and you will think more better and more Rationally if you see certain cases, only then you will know delay and more delay makes the revelation more dreadful and disasterous |
Family › Re: Help! My Husband Is Starving Me Of Sex And It Is Affecting Me by cedricksly: 8:51pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
LoveUdie: "I got married in 2021. Ever since day one, my hubby and I have sex twice a month. I have tried talking to him but he'll say he isn't feeling fine. If I try to seduce him he'll remove my hand. I'll have to wait till he feels like having sex which is twice a month.
We don't have kids yet and we both work. I'm tired because I'm missing out on the fun of marriage. What can I do?"
What can she do house? How can she make her husband show more interest in sex? check well if na gay ooooo, or him body dey work well |
Celebrities › Re: Kizz Daniel Reacts To Report Of Him Not Wanting To Perform Because Of Gold Chain by cedricksly: 8:20pm On Aug 10, 2022 |
Danieldara011: Am gonna assume it's some sort of disagreement with the show organizers .
It definitely can't be because of blings don't mind this idiot, he is just lying to save face and for PR, Trust me what he was accuse of isn't has a probability of being true 98%.. This idiot refuse to perform in babcock University 3years ago because they didn't come and pick him with a Gwagon |
Health › Re: How Do I Get Rid Of Keloid Scars (pictures) by cedricksly: 7:22pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Matrix137: Guys I had a bike accident that left me with visible keloid scars on my right arm (pictures below) how do I remove or flatten them and cost pls?
Edit : I also have some on my leg but it's not visible so I'm not that bothered laser remover is your best bet |
Sports › Re: Britney Griners Sentenced To 9 Years In Russian Prison For Drug-Smuggling by cedricksly: 6:00pm On Aug 05, 2022 |
God1000: the lengthy sentence clearly has to do with the current frosty relations between US and Russia over Ukraine's war
Hopefully she will regain her freedom soon, though she broke the law by going to Russia with drugs if na Indonesia or Saudi Arabia u no go dey talk this thing u dey talk... All crime has minimum and maximum sentence, to think it is because of the war, that is really Laughable... If na Indonesia them Don sentence her to death straight. People should learn to respect drug laws in other countries not theirs, the fact say cannabis is accepted openly in her country does not mean it is like that in other countries... Y'all should stop pushing the narrative of Russia and Ukraine war as a reason for sentencing her... |
Politics › Re: Adams Oshiomole: I Will Come After "Obi-dients" If They Come After Me (Video) by cedricksly: 6:33am On Aug 04, 2022 |
Even failed ostracised Politician still dey get opinion... Lol |
Computers › Re: Extremely Flat Asus Corei5 128gb Ssd 4gb Ram For 75k by cedricksly: 8:58am On Aug 02, 2022 |
Still available  If yes I only want to know one things.. battery endurance Then let's talk pick up or delivery |
Romance › Re: Am I A Bad Friend? I Slept With My Friend’s Ex by cedricksly: 6:01am On Aug 02, 2022 |
Ehismarkninetee: Before you start to judge me, remember that the girl you are sleeping with now is also someone’s Ex. Well I cannot say I am totally in the right for sleeping with my friends Ex girl friend- They broke up 2 years ago.
So coincidentally she rented an apartment close to my house. As I was driving I saw her on the way I offered her a ride and that was how it started. That same evening she called me that she is coming to know my house and I accepted. When she came I noticed she was giving me the green light. I took the opportunity and slept with her so good.
Now she cannot get enough from me. She asked if we could date officially. I told her it will be difficult since she was the one who broke up with my friend. I will not lie to myself I have developed feelings for here. And I think I will give Love a chance. you are really a coward... Wetin concern you with left overs  . Not just left overs, you broke bro code. Never you date or sleep with any of your friend's or relative Ex. Kill that feelings u think say u get for her, Na wetin make u feel say e hard to date her officially when make una dey do hide and seek make u Bleep up to even sleep with her, because even u self know say e dey wrong. Just Grow up mate and leave that girl, it isn't worth it |
Politics › Re: Baba-ahmed Of The Labour Party Raises Concerns About Fake Social Media Accounts by cedricksly: 5:40am On Aug 02, 2022 |
Throwback: But was it a fake Baba-Ahmed that recommended on the Senate Floor that all gays and lesbians must be killed?
Meanwhile the gays and lesbians in his native Mauritania are living their lives without fear of genocide.
Imagine the audacity of a Mauritanian to advocate for genocide on Nigerians that are Igbos, Yorubas, Urhobos, Hausas etc.
Na that Doyin Okupe gay son I even pity the most. His father as campaign manager and placeholder running mate, is paving the way for the genocidist Baba-Ahmed that will kill the son.
We must never allow foreigners to rule us in Nigeria.
Vote Nigerian/Nigerian.
Vote Tinubu/Shettima. inasmuch as I do not subscribe to killing anybody due to their sexuality, but I think it is stupid to always want to subscribe and mirror every negative and sodomy laws passed by the western words, Nigeria is not a place for gay or so called LGBTQ, the faster some you your Recognize that the safer for some of you to enjoy your freedom of movement, liberty and association... Every nation has their core value and dos and don'ts, the ability to respect Nigeria own would save their head..... You dare not speak of LGBTQ in Saudi Arabia, does it make them bad as a country, No!! We need to learn how to base our argument or words appropriately to the issue at hand and not bring gay or similar issh into politics.. Baseline respect people's believe, religion, and boundaries... Speaking of him been a Mauritania, that one is even more stupid and baseless, even if your argument is true, are u aware there is more than one way to be a citizen of any country? If he became a citizen by investment birth or naturalisation in Nigeria, he is fit and more than qualified to contest for any political office In Nigeria. You know how many of your Nigeria decent are mayor's in united States?? So oga leave that ur talk for dustbin bcoz it belongs there. NOTE: I do not CONDEMN nor SUPPORT gay or LGBTQ, make anybody no Initiate or to do am with me or in my private space. |
Technology Market › Re: Dell Core I7 With Keyboard Light (70k) by cedricksly: 11:01pm On Jul 30, 2022 |
Gentledizzle: OGA calm down.. na question I ask. When you dey get headache for another person market. Learn to mind your business. Na so fire take dey burn Id*iot like you. keep quite thief like u.... If u see the new generation pc go price am 70k.. |
Computers › Re: Macbook 16" Pro M1 Max by cedricksly: 12:57pm On Jul 30, 2022 |
pansophist: Thats the base. Try max it out you never Indicated you maxed out when u bought it. Even if you did, you still won't buy it at 4k euros u said, maybe a little more if u really maxed out. Moreover self base na 2400 $. No sensible person go pay you that amount for used...... Come area make u come see how cheap boys dey sell brand new apple product maxed out.. |
Technology Market › Re: Dell Core I7 With Keyboard Light (70k) by cedricksly: 12:29pm On Jul 30, 2022 |
Gentledizzle: What gen is the core i7 lol na so them take dey know thief. Him for give u 11th generation 70k naaaa, laptop won't be more than 3 to 5th generation |
Computers › Re: Macbook 16" Pro M1 Max by cedricksly: 12:19pm On Jul 30, 2022 |
tensazangetsu20: You don't know the value of this so don't say anything. oga Rest, the link he posted says it is sold for 2600 dollar and he wants to sell his own for 3k euros, and u are here supporting nonsense |
Computers › Re: Macbook 16" Pro M1 Max by cedricksly: 12:18pm On Jul 30, 2022 |
pansophist: Hey,
I want to sell my laptop. The latest macbook at the moment. If you're into heavy duty work like 8k graphic designs, cinematic video editing and intense multitasking. Infact the heavier the task, the better. Then this laptop is for you.
Its working perfectly fine and I bought it new this year just few months ago. Its still under mac warranty and I have receipt from apple to prove it. I'm selling it because I got another one as a gift, so I have two.
I bought it for roughly 4k euros (roughly 3M naira), but I'm willing to let it go for 3k euros. Its basically as good a new. I dont use it even, bought it for the hype of it. You can read about the laptop and see the pics on the link below on apple website. If interested, please pm me.
https://www.apple.com/shop/buy-mac/macbook-pro/16-inch lol the link you posted has it for 2600+ for brand new one, and u wan sell 3k euros.. Lol wetin be the name of this comedy |
Health › Re: What Disease Could This Be? by cedricksly: 12:00pm On Jul 30, 2022 |
Witnesstony28: I had this sexual encounter with a girl without condom in February of this year and since then my health has not been the same.
After 2 weeks of meeting her, I started feeling sick, had rashes at the back of both of my legs, tired almost all the time, sore throat, and since then I have taken all sorts of drug - orthodox and trado but yet no response.
I have to gone for several test. One result Said beta hemolytic streptococcus pyogenese was seen in my urine culture and I was given erythromycin and augmentin for 2 weeks. I felt a little relief. Then I started having tongues thrush.
It's almost 6 months now and I have not felt any better.
I have had HIV test done severally but all come back negative.
But my worry is, I still feel sick. What could this disease be.
The girl confessed that she only has what they call - heat. That's my first time hearing this. I stay in ik and really need help. I sincerely regret that sexual encounter and wish I could retrace my steps.
Someone help!!! you did not treat the staphylococcus well... That is your problem.. Treat it well to kill any tiny form of it left in your blood stream l.. Else it might blind you soon as it grows more stronger |
Health › Re: Please Help, My Kid Sister Is In Pains (pics) by cedricksly: 11:54am On Jul 30, 2022 |
OnGod247: Hello guys,
My kid sis is in pains. She's 21yrs. About a month ago, just out of nowhere, she started developing some kind of scales under her feet.. Initially, we thought it was nothing serious, and it would just go, so we kept applying Vaseline on her feet every night after pressing it with warm water...
But as time went on, it got worse and painful for her too... She cries every night.. It is almost as though she can't walk. The scales are strong and stubborn and now splitting to reveal some tiny wounds.. Guess that's why she is finding it painful..
Due to financial constraints, the few chemists i've taken her to don't seem to know the name or cause of what it is, talkmore of the cure.. It breaks me to see a grown girl go through so much pain but i'm stuck..
I'm hoping the Doctors here or anyone else with a simlar issue or experience can help proffer cure for her..
Pictures below were taken from last night...
Mods pls help... @dominique @Sissy3 I know you won't believe and some nairaland would also come for me due to ignorance.. Take this from me if you can, your sister need (unorthodox) help...... Go local and herbal |
Computers › Re: AVAILABLE: Core I5 Lenovo Laptop @ 85k by cedricksly: 10:54pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
Is it be any chance negotiable? Or it is fixed?? Also how long does the battery last |
Politics › Re: Mr Jollof: Tinubu Doesn't Need South-East And South-South Votes To Win by cedricksly: 7:02pm On Jul 28, 2022 |
NaijaRoyalty: I doubt if Mr jollof uttered such nonsense
Op, where is the source of this news you are even more a clown to think this mumu won't say something like that.... And the only people I pity are those who take this Mr jollof seriously.. Mr jollof is a confused failed Politician, who supports Tinubu of APC and at same time supports PDP in its state level(delta state)... And back to you who is asking for source, he made that video on Instagram live |
Politics › Re: Tee Mac: Tinubu Is My In-Law, He’s 86, Not Fit To Run Nigeria by cedricksly: 9:03am On Jul 28, 2022 |
Realist12: and Obi is the best Y'all can present? Obi isn't half as intelligent and accomplished as Tinubu or his mentees . Tinubu's legacies and policies in Lagos can be pointed to and they are still beneficial to the masses. I think it's time we stopped giving Obi with mediocre projects attention and focus on Atiku who happens to be Tinubu's only contender . We all know they are supporting Obi based on tribalism and not competence because they know how his administration went . IPOB has only successfully rebranded the failure Obi and guess what they are ready for the south to lose the ticket to Atiku rather than Tinubu just as they did at the APC primaries. first and foremost how old are you?? Add 8years of another bad decision to it and tell me how old you would be, or how old your 10 or 5years old son or daughter would be. Deep down your Conscience, do you really think Tinubu as an old sick man is who can make Nigeria better for any of your kids  I support Obi today not because he is a Saint but because the yoruba has failed woefully to bring forth a more competent and scandal free candidate... If yoruba has brought forth osinbajo or any other intelligent candidate, I'm not sure Obi will even emerged Talkless some of us supporting him.. Any other candidate is good outside Tinubu and Atiku..... Think very well and ask yourself what your bad decision will place you In the next 8years from now.. |
Romance › Re: Is It Proper To Date My Friend's Ex? by cedricksly: 1:20pm On Jul 20, 2022 |
ReverseIlamina: So Me and this girl have been friends last year on the Same Campus though we kept it lowkey. My friend noticed the girl on campus one day and they proceeded to talking stage.
My friend showed me the girl and I told him we were just friends I gave him the go ahead. But actually I was interested in the girl but I wanted to study her before making any move.
So Fastfoward, they dated for a month and broke up. He said he wasn't interested anymore and I could go for her actually. I'm now close to the girl. I had to let my friend know about it. He said he wasn't bothered but went behind my back and told my other friends what happened.
Now all of them think I'm a snake . I'm I wrong? you breaking guys code... On no account should you date your friends ex or brother's ex... Na so you like remnant  Quit Fooling around mate |
Romance › Re: Help! My Virgin Girlfriend Wants Me To Disvirgin Her Now by cedricksly: 1:19pm On Jul 20, 2022 |
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Romance › Re: My Soon To Be Wife by cedricksly: 6:42pm On Jul 16, 2022 |
Debt and debt management is a very crucial discussion to discuss after Genotype before getting married... It is obvious your girlfriend is a chronic borrower, and she won't change, u know how I know  Because a person who borrows money without a possible income source to pay back is a thief, sorry to say, but u go regret am if u marry this kind person that can't even get her sh*t together maikbanj: Good morning dear Nairalanders,
Thank you for being there in the past with your timely advise(s). I am here again just to get some more on a case.
I have a girlfriend which I plan getting married to as both families are all involved. My girlfriend has had a bad past. She was once abused and all but then I was able to help shape her when I got into her life. I have been there for her in my own little way but lately, she has not been behaving too well and I am not happy about that fact.I will itemize these:
1. She once borrowed her friend her school fees to rent an apartment with the promise the friend was going to pay her back before exams started. Her friend failed to pay her back and I had to provide her with the money in order not to miss her exams. Note, the said friend is a female.
2. Second semester, her pops gave her school fees which I saw the alert. Yea,she travelled down to see me from Lag and she spent some but then I told her she would not have spent her school fees to come see me. Infact at that time I never knew she was going to come because I was sick but she did. So I told her not to touch her school fees again that I was going to refund her the money. She left and I refunded. I paid her flight back to Lagos.
I later found out my girlfriend didn’t pay that school fees. She spent it and when it was time to pay she kept complaining. I was mad at her wondering what she must have used it for. I scolded her and gave her part of the money.(N100k)
3. I have paid several debts for her as she made some mistakes in her online business and was swindled. The most recent one now, she went to get loans from apps online. I don’t even know what would have made her do that as I try assist her when she’s in need. I have warned her severally against borrowing but she went to borrow and now she’s into debt.
I have asked what she used the money for but she can’t even point to one thing. She said she used the initial loan for her personal needs and when she couldn’t pay back, she had to borrow from another app to pay and all. That’s how she kept borrowing to pay another till she borrowed from over 15 loan apps and her debt is running into 350k as at today.
I honestly can’t pay such an amount as I have my own personal problems to carry. I was mad because in the past I have warned her against borrowing and all. Now she’s in trouble and they’ve been threatening her to pay back.
I have told her I don’t have such monies to pay back and even if I had I won’t pay back. I have advised she talk to her parents and siblings about it but she has been scared. I have that money but I can’t pay back as I have more pressing needs to attend to. Since she has refused to tell her parents, I am thinking of telling her parents. I am very close to her family.
This is someone I wanna get married to but with all I’m seeing, I am already having doubts.
She’s from a very good home. Deep down, I love her and she does too. But why these problems, I don’t understand.
Please I seek your advice on how to handle this as I can’t pay such debts. I have done several in the past
Thanks |
Politics › Re: David Ukpo not a minor, Court rules by cedricksly: 2:06pm On Jul 07, 2022 |
FreeStuffsNG: Hmmm. This article below is a reminder again. Do not outsource your role as a father.
EKWEREMADU: Between Fatherhood and Ambition
I recall having this conversation with my wife during the week when the case of Sen. Ike Ekweremadu came up and I was completely in an incandescent shock that this man actually has a sick daughter yet has been all over the place attending political meetings for his political ambition instead of taking time out from the highly demanding world of politics to sort out his daughter's pressing health needs.
He was all over the place during the PDP primaries, he lost the PDP gubernatorial primaries for Enugu state then started planning to decamp to APGA, then APC , reportedly taken to APC national Chairman by HE Uzodinma, Imo state Governor, when APC stalwarts in Enugu APC, led by their state APC Chairman, Chief Ugochukwu Agballah, outrightly rejected him.
He eventually lost and , unlike previous election cycles, Senator Ekweremadu is not returning to the Nigerian Senate.He lost on all the political fronts.
Sen. Ike Ekweremadu was all over the place so much that it appeared like he did not follow through on the health and lifestyle choices of his children.
He did not follow through on what I believe is more important than his political ambition; the life of his daughter and a family at the low ebb of the apprehension of losing a child to kidney failure.
Ike Ekeremadu was so consumed by his political ambition that he had no time and seriousness to do due diligence and background check on the character they got him as a donor for his daughter , I doubt if with his PhD, he even had the time to follow through and read up to ask the right questions from the professionals, understand the risks and benefits of why it could be better for one member of his family of six to donate to the daughter instead of a stranger and seek help to find out if there are some of the tests which can be done on the stranger here in Nigeria before bundling a total stranger overseas.
He was so consumed by politics that when the 22-year old donor went rogue and was allegedly scheming behind him to deny his age and report Ike and family to UK police, it probably escaped his detection and intervention soon enough so he can be the first to report to UK police and then return the donor to Nigeria for him to immediately restart the process of getting alternative donor(s) for his ailing daughter whose life was more important to him.
He forgot that he was first a father and husband before becoming a Senator,Deputy Senate President and SSG.
He forgot that he will finish as a father and husband.
I compared Senator Ekweremadu to Joe Biden and I believe that he could have followed the Biden example. Then in 2015 , US Vice President Biden had a dying son and had the opportunity to contest in his party's primaries to emerge against Trump for the US Presidency but Biden stepped down from that race in order to support his dying son.
At a point, Biden was to sell his family house before Barack Obama intervened and offered to pay for the treatment. Biden's boy made his Dad promise him that no matter what happens, Biden must not give up his life long ambition to be US President, Biden's boy, Beau Biden later died. Biden grieved without the guilt of abandoning his son for his political ambition.
In 2021, years after his son had passed on , Biden contested and won. There are many Nigerian politicians (and professionals) who will do like Biden but not like Ike.
Family is so important that we even need the approval of a sick dying one before we place anything above their life
That is the lesson Ike missed and was almost about to lose from both ends as his wife who takes care of the daughter remains in prison until July 7 and now August 4.
Last two Sundays ago was Father's Day , I really truly hope that fathers used that day to reflect and understand the real responsibility of fatherhood. It is the hardest job for a man but it gives the greatest reward if you do your best at it.
As a father , I have realized that it is not possible to outsource that role of a father and not pay heavy fines.
May God heal that Ike Ekweremadu's daughter and may God help the Ike Ekweremadu family in this their difficult time. I know it is a difficult place for them.
May God help all fathers to realise that "your child is your responsibility".
That you pay all the bills and have a devoted and responsible wife/mother of your child won't still make up for your negligence.
Your child is your responsibility and not even your ambition can replace what you will miss if you neglect your role in the life of your child.
This a lesson to all fathers: Do not behave like Senator Ike Ekweremadu who was literally chasing rats around the house when his house was on fire.
May God help us all to succeed and may our children not develop kidney failure. May our labour of love and sacrifice be rewarded in our life time and when we are long gone, Amen. Sunkanmi Vaughan is a Lagos-based Pharmacist and Author.
Meanwhile,here's free book on business ideas & money sources directory for you,it's 100% free! to download, read and use https://www.nairaland.com/6666800/looking-business-ideas-money-fund. Cheers. everything when you dey write na story, take this two from me which u missed. 1) anybody can get sick, regardless of lifestyle religious background or status, Na bcoz na big man pikin make u hear am. 2) in as much as number 1 is true, the girl in question aid the destruction of her kidney with Bleaching of her skin.. Those Bleaching cream and Toning cream mostly Contain hydrocortisone and other heavy metals that the kidney can't even filter.... Side Note: the fact that he was facing his political ambition does not make it seems like he abandoned his child, get that off ur head... You don't judge the decision of a father if you haven't walked the exact same shoe of that father even tho u are a father yourself. |
Family › Re: Skin Rashes; Nurse Told Me 2 Use Visita Plus As Body Cream For My 3wks Old Baby by cedricksly: 9:53pm On Jul 03, 2022 |
Singlelover: Good day great people of nairaland.
firstly, i want to thank everybody that contributed to finding solution that would cure my baby juandice.
someone here said i wouldn't get help here, you lied as my baby eye is now pure white insted of the formal yellow eye, and the body is now perfectly ok.
i tried the unripe pawpaw as stated by some nairalanders, and its working like mad in just three days of using it.. Thank you nairalanders, this is the reason i love this great forum.
my baby is having skin rashes, i mean sturbon rashes that refuse to go away even though i'm giving him the drugs my doctor provided.
so i took him to hospital today because of the rashes and a nurse said i should use visital plus as his body cream.
i once use it on my face, and the cream over lightened my face then..
nairalanders, is it ok for a baby of 3 weeks old to use as body cream, is it safe at all, afterall i'm not a nurse.
what should i use to treat the rashes? forget Vista and buy Baby Tributan.... Come and thank me later |
Business › Re: How Can I Retrieve Funds I Saved In A "Safe-Lock" Account? by cedricksly: 4:58pm On Jul 02, 2022 |
AnonPoet: See me see trouble o! I made a huge amount of money in December 2021, so in January 2022 i thought of saving the money in a place that will give me interest by December 2022. I planned to use the interest to flex or maybe even go on vacation sef. Someone recommended a platform (I will not mention their name yet) to me on this app that I should lock my money there, that I will get high interest that I can use to run some other stuff when I collect my money. What this person didn't tell me was that once I lock the money I won't be able to access it on a “due date”.
Fast forward to last week, my laptop crashed and I needed to get a replacement. I didn’t have enough money in my bank so I just thought to break my savings at least na my money and i really needed the laptop to continue my job. That was how I was told I cannot remove the money until when the thing unlocks itself. I WAN RUN MAD!! Guys i want to know the next step to take, please o, i really need to remove my money to buy this laptop. I know I made a mistake by not reading Terms and Conditions, but I just felt like saving money should be flexible and stress-free.
Is this how all savings platforms are? Can’t a man just save money and get it back once they need it.
Which other savings apps with good interest and zero stress can I use in the future? 1. FairSave by FairMoney 2. Cowrywise 3. Bank Which of these three is recommended abeg? u no wan mention name how we go advise you, e be like u no know say all get different features to know the kind advise we go give u. If na piggyvest trying to remove the mo ey before the stipulated time attracts a fine, maybe 5% or less, I don't know again.  About the app you fit use that is stress free and u can get money out without stress or penalty, use OPAY... It acts like piggyvest flex but higher interest of 15% on the first 100k saved and subsequent amount is 10% |
Education › Re: Which Course Is Best To Study Among These by cedricksly: 11:44am On Jul 02, 2022 |
teeblaze23: In Nigeria of today, we all know, someone could study fishery and be working in CBN... Connection plays a lot, But for some us who ain't so " lucky" to have uncles and relatives in high places, it would be very reasonable to carefully choose a course of study that will provide us with the best prospect of succeeding in life.
So, please guys. Which of the following courses would you choose if you were to pick one, looking at the current realities and future potentials, and knowing that you have the capacity to flourish academically in all.
*ENGLISH LANGUAGE. *ENGLISH EDUCATION *MASS COMMUNICATION *POLITICAL SCIENCE *SOCIOLOGY *PSYCHOLOGY *INTERNATIONAL RELATION AND PUBLIC MANAGEMENT *HISTORY AND STRATEGIC STUDIES
Kindly give a reason for your choice, thanks the second to the last is the best in that list. |