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Alexxx2000:
It's a long story but I will try to abridge it.

My mom raised I and my brother of 5yrs old single-handedly. There's a separation in the family so we're shuffling the deck. She's an hairstylist with meagre wages.

My dad was never part of the family. They both separated because of infidelity and harsh treatment. Since then, my dad, I guess erased our memories from his life.

I must confess, she's trying but the bills is weighing her down. My little brother was to start school last year but we couldn't pay for fees but after saving, we decided to put him in a cheap school close to the house.

Now, my mom want to stop us from bearing my father's name. She mandated me to change mine as well to her own dad's name.

Yesterday when I returned from the Pos attendant job I do, she brought the topic again and she said, nothing is holding her back on her decision.

Is she right for taking such decision? What will you advise me to do please?

I assume u have passed secondary school with your father's name, Na now u wan change am?? Your mother has no such right by the way, bcoz whatsoever she asked you people to do will only affect you the children and not her. Sorry to say this but it is the truth, YOUR MOTHER IS A SELFISH WOMAN.

You do not meet this man at your peak of success... Her woes would soon start...

Wittyglam:
is she supposed to be having sex at that age? There are lots of diseases more serious than pregnancy. I’m just creating awareness for parents.

I have already said it on line 4 to 6 that talking about what is wrong is she being Sexually active at that age as a minor.. But if she is active already and can't stop it, what better way is it to protect herself?

gshsj:
Can u tell us the danger?
Some family planning is reversible so what are u talking abt.
In developed country, most pornn stars do temporary family planning...pls the gal did the right thing to not fall pregnant if its a temporary one she did.... that's smart of her in my opinion

it is called family planning, "planing" take note of the word in quote, it means they are reversible.. The only ones nor reversible is removal of the uterus, and removal of the sperm duct(in male) this is for people who knows they have finished having children and would never think of having again(that is this who has put a PERMANENT STOP to child bearing).

Wittyglam:
Parents it’s time you start monitoring your wards, I know it’s not easy but you have to try. Make your kids your best friend, visit them on campus.

Be friends with their friends.
A 16years old girl went to do family planning just to please her boyfriend, so they can have sex the way they want. She doesn’t understand the danger she is putting herself in.

Stop trying to do the wrong things all in the name of love, stop trying to please people.

ignorance us the reason for many unwanted pregnancies and abortions... Even if she is 16years old, the fact that she has acknowledged that she is Sexually active, it is better than than unwanted pregnancy or abortion... Talking about what is wrong, the fact that she is still a minor and she's already Sexually active is what is wrong, not the family planning.... Na this same ignorance dey make majority born above their means... ONCE AGAIN AUNTY, THE DIDN'T DO NOTHING WRONG... But stukl them suppose flog him and the boy wen dey fry take advantage of minor

Ken4Christ:
I witnessed a ceremony where one of my Pastor friend was ordained a Bishop. And the head of the school of Bishop was addressed as Lord.

I was shocked and till date, the tradition is still the same.

We have only one Lord who is Jesus.

Why address your fellow human in the house of God as Lord?

Even the Apostles in the Bible days were never addressed as Lord

What is your take?

Lord Simply means a high rank noble officer.... So forget wetin u dey talk.. Lord is nothing but a title

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ccjoe:
I haven't been able to sleep since yesterday. I'm a promising young guy and still in school and this girl is my bestie in school.
We do it regularly and without condom, I never knew it will end like this.
Pls i'm just an orphan and still very young.. I need advice on how to handle this situation now..

##Mature minds only and no insult pls.

you are a real Foolish person to think it won't need like this when you do it regularly and do it raw as u said.... Congratulations idiot, go buy baby tinx

josephoviemo60:
him no dey Nigeria na.. na US

lol, that US u are seeing there is language selection... He is in Nigeria. Mtn no dye US

Taofiq2005:
Which one should i buy Samsung Galaxy s10 plus or a53.
Samsung Galaxy S10- N220000
Samsung Galaxy A53- N250000

lol, bro go for the S10.. As you said it is a flagship, you see that A series, everybody knows Samsung made it for those with more quest for battle ry and fair midrange usage... If you want to game, go for the s10

Y'all are taking this noodles too seriously.... Na noodles u just use everything cook like this Make una dey calm down abeg, life no hard like that, Na Una Wan Chop Orishirishi for C'mon noodles when be junk already.

Adetayo41:
My wife has been depriving me intimacy for the past 1 months, i touched her yesternight, she declined, and later in the middle of the night, I caught her using a vibrator, although I did as if I was sleeping,


What should I do house.? I am pained though

ur wife na Witch... And u on the other hand maybe u are boring sex wise.

This is the most stupid post I have ever seen.. And it is shameful that nairaland aids this support of mediocre and failure by one senseless Nigerian

NeedHelpNow:
I had a meeting with a hooker and she spit on my penis twice touching it with her hands as per lubrication,

Do I stand the chance of getting hiv? Never had penetrative sex with her neither did she put her mouth on my penis. Opinions needed cause am soo scared.

if you get hiv self go better pass if u get genital herpes which is almost incurable and na that saliva e for many pass... Go well bro

JudgeNotHi:
I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.

Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).

The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

I wanted to insult u really bad but come to think of it anybody could make this kind of silly mistake..

How old are you first and foremost if u have matured in age and reasoning I expect you to tell the girl's mother point blank that you have no intention of marrying her daughter, not now not ever, that she should send her daughter over for a better test and maybe ultrasound etc, and if it is proven it is yours, she would have to give birth to it out of wedlock because both of you never planed for this to happen and you are not getting married to her never... The mother's reaction is what we prompt your next move. NEVER EVER EVER ALLOW THEM PRESSURE YOU TO MARRY ANYBODY BECAUSE OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY, IT IS CALLED UNWANTED BECAUSE YOU WERE CAREFUL ENOUGH TO USE CONDOM.. guy bring your mind down, nothing go happen... Make this move I'm telling u first and see the mum's reaction before u come clean to tell your wife to be.... Even if it prove she's really pregnant, go on with your marriage if your finance can forgive you quick enuf and when she finally give birth, don't fail to do a DNA test first before you start claiming after r birth responsibility, too many paternity fraud these days. That of cause if they choose not to abort it after telling them you can't marry her..... I REPEAT DO NOT EVER MARRY HER BECAUSE OF A CHILD... if she wan born am na her headache and her mama own be that. Do the best u can for the unborn baby and don't do further after birth without a DNA test.. If

daylay7:
I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.

I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).

A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!

The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.

When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.

This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....

cc: Relationship matters

I'm a fellow guy, but let me advise you like a sister... There are some secrets that should die with you, no matter the circumstance. There is a local saying where I am from and it goes like this "if the ear does not hear a bad word, the heart does not get bitter". Whatsover you do with this Information Is your business... First and most importantly, forgive yourself and cut all means of communication between ur ex or his family, your ex is a big COW, he broke gentlemen code. You don't sleep with a married woman, it is forbidden.

Don't take this job, it is slavery..... 50k gross is approximately 40 to 38k net, only transport fair for lagos will finish that money, let's not even talk accommodation and feeding yet... Honestly you are better off without that job..

CandyOps:
Damn! She should slow down with the junks. She looks like a mf cow

imagine saying someone looks like a cow because they aren't looking like what u would like... Brooooooo you need help

Blackdeewhy:
That girl deserves happy life and opportunity to grow with her other siblings.
Let the truth reveal it's self.
If you pursue this, the woman in question may organized for your dismissed. And from your analysis she can afford that.
leave that child alone and let God be the judge.
My one cent

I not surprised this is coming from a lady, madam u literally telling him to lie to his friend and suppress the truth, where is your moral?

Inasmuch As you feel for the little girl, she deserve the right to know the truth at an early age to accept it over the years, not when she is way older, ans the man deserve the truth also to come in agreement that he has been raising someone else's daughter.. Is it when he is old that he will be told and that will break him... You gaining this kind of useless advice go and watch Episodes of Paternity Court(YouTube) and you will think more better and more Rationally if you see certain cases, only then you will know delay and more delay makes the revelation more dreadful and disasterous

LoveUdie:
"I got married in 2021. Ever since day one, my hubby and I have sex twice a month. I have tried talking to him but he'll say he isn't feeling fine. If I try to seduce him he'll remove my hand. I'll have to wait till he feels like having sex which is twice a month.

We don't have kids yet and we both work. I'm tired because I'm missing out on the fun of marriage. What can I do?"


What can she do house? How can she make her husband show more interest in sex?

check well if na gay ooooo, or him body dey work well

Danieldara011:
Am gonna assume it's some sort of disagreement with the show organizers .

It definitely can't be because of blings

don't mind this idiot, he is just lying to save face and for PR, Trust me what he was accuse of isn't has a probability of being true 98%.. This idiot refuse to perform in babcock University 3years ago because they didn't come and pick him with a Gwagon

Matrix137:
Guys I had a bike accident that left me with visible keloid scars on my right arm (pictures below) how do I remove or flatten them and cost pls?


Edit : I also have some on my leg but it's not visible so I'm not that bothered

laser remover is your best bet

God1000:
the lengthy sentence clearly has to do with the current frosty relations between US and Russia over Ukraine's war

Hopefully she will regain her freedom soon, though she broke the law by going to Russia with drugs

if na Indonesia or Saudi Arabia u no go dey talk this thing u dey talk... All crime has minimum and maximum sentence, to think it is because of the war, that is really Laughable... If na Indonesia them Don sentence her to death straight. People should learn to respect drug laws in other countries not theirs, the fact say cannabis is accepted openly in her country does not mean it is like that in other countries... Y'all should stop pushing the narrative of Russia and Ukraine war as a reason for sentencing her...

Even failed ostracised Politician still dey get opinion... Lol

Still available If yes I only want to know one things..
battery endurance

Then let's talk pick up or delivery

Ehismarkninetee:
Before you start to judge me, remember that the girl you are sleeping with now is also someone’s Ex. Well I cannot say I am totally in the right for sleeping with my friends Ex girl friend- They broke up 2 years ago.

So coincidentally she rented an apartment close to my house. As I was driving I saw her on the way I offered her a ride and that was how it started. That same evening she called me that she is coming to know my house and I accepted. When she came I noticed she was giving me the green light. I took the opportunity and slept with her so good.

Now she cannot get enough from me. She asked if we could date officially. I told her it will be difficult since she was the one who broke up with my friend. I will not lie to myself I have developed feelings for here. And I think I will give Love a chance.

you are really a coward... Wetin concern you with left overs. Not just left overs, you broke bro code. Never you date or sleep with any of your friend's or relative Ex. Kill that feelings u think say u get for her, Na wetin make u feel say e hard to date her officially when make una dey do hide and seek make u Bleep up to even sleep with her, because even u self know say e dey wrong. Just Grow up mate and leave that girl, it isn't worth it

Throwback:
But was it a fake Baba-Ahmed that recommended on the Senate Floor that all gays and lesbians must be killed?

Meanwhile the gays and lesbians in his native Mauritania are living their lives without fear of genocide.

Imagine the audacity of a Mauritanian to advocate for genocide on Nigerians that are Igbos, Yorubas, Urhobos, Hausas etc.

Na that Doyin Okupe gay son I even pity the most. His father as campaign manager and placeholder running mate, is paving the way for the genocidist Baba-Ahmed that will kill the son.

We must never allow foreigners to rule us in Nigeria.

Vote Nigerian/Nigerian.

Vote Tinubu/Shettima.

inasmuch as I do not subscribe to killing anybody due to their sexuality, but I think it is stupid to always want to subscribe and mirror every negative and sodomy laws passed by the western words, Nigeria is not a place for gay or so called LGBTQ, the faster some you your Recognize that the safer for some of you to enjoy your freedom of movement, liberty and association... Every nation has their core value and dos and don'ts, the ability to respect Nigeria own would save their head..... You dare not speak of LGBTQ in Saudi Arabia, does it make them bad as a country, No!! We need to learn how to base our argument or words appropriately to the issue at hand and not bring gay or similar issh into politics.. Baseline respect people's believe, religion, and boundaries... Speaking of him been a Mauritania, that one is even more stupid and baseless, even if your argument is true, are u aware there is more than one way to be a citizen of any country? If he became a citizen by investment birth or naturalisation in Nigeria, he is fit and more than qualified to contest for any political office In Nigeria. You know how many of your Nigeria decent are mayor's in united States?? So oga leave that ur talk for dustbin bcoz it belongs there.

NOTE: I do not CONDEMN nor SUPPORT gay or LGBTQ, make anybody no Initiate or to do am with me or in my private space.

Gentledizzle:
OGA calm down.. na question I ask. When you dey get headache for another person market. Learn to mind your business. Na so fire take dey burn Id*iot like you.

keep quite thief like u.... If u see the new generation pc go price am 70k..

pansophist:
Thats the base. Try max it out

you never Indicated you maxed out when u bought it. Even if you did, you still won't buy it at 4k euros u said, maybe a little more if u really maxed out. Moreover self base na 2400 $. No sensible person go pay you that amount for used...... Come area make u come see how cheap boys dey sell brand new apple product maxed out..

Gentledizzle:
What gen is the core i7

lol na so them take dey know thief. Him for give u 11th generation 70k naaaa, laptop won't be more than 3 to 5th generation

tensazangetsu20:
You don't know the value of this so don't say anything.

oga Rest, the link he posted says it is sold for 2600 dollar and he wants to sell his own for 3k euros, and u are here supporting nonsense

pansophist:
Hey,

I want to sell my laptop. The latest macbook at the moment. If you're into heavy duty work like 8k graphic designs, cinematic video editing and intense multitasking. Infact the heavier the task, the better. Then this laptop is for you.

Its working perfectly fine and I bought it new this year just few months ago. Its still under mac warranty and I have receipt from apple to prove it. I'm selling it because I got another one as a gift, so I have two.

I bought it for roughly 4k euros (roughly 3M naira), but I'm willing to let it go for 3k euros. Its basically as good a new. I dont use it even, bought it for the hype of it. You can read about the laptop and see the pics on the link below on apple website. If interested, please pm me.

https://www.apple.com/shop/buy-mac/macbook-pro/16-inch

lol the link you posted has it for 2600+ for brand new one, and u wan sell 3k euros.. Lol wetin be the name of this comedy