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Dbillogrillo:
Bello is biting more than he can chew

he doesn't know yet, allow his fellow ebira people to be applauding his nonsense move.... Dangote is one of the most power movers in the country.. This one is just playing with his subsequent political aspiration

Festus30:
I and this girl have been dating over a year. I took her serious, I've sacrifice a lot for her and it made me so heart broken when I noticed she cheated on me reason I almost took her life.

My girlfriend and I live in the same city (Mowe) but I traveled out of the city 2 months ago for work things (ibadan), so around last month she called me that her phone screen (Samsung) is broken, that she's just managing her phone and to fix it is 35k but she already have 15k so she's in need of 20k to complete it. So I sent her 21k.

Fast forward to Friday when I came back to mowe, I went to see her, I saw her holding iphone Xmax. I was like who gave you iPhone? She was just telling me lies upon lies. At first she said she swapped it, then I was like why didn't you tell me you bought iPhone and who gave you money to swap it becus you'll need over 190k to swap. To cut the long story short..

I later found out that a guy bought the phone for her. The 21k I sent to repair her phone, she repaired it and gave it to her younger sis.

I was so heartbroken. For a guy to buy her iphone that means she have been dating and having sex with the guy secretly without me knowing. She has been begging me, calling & texting since Friday but i didn't reply.

She texted me she was coming to my house yesterday. The only word I said to her since on Friday was to meet me in a uncompleted building close to my house yesterday, I have this machanic slege hammer, it's one of my tools I use for working, so I held it while waiting for her.

My plan was the moment she enter the building, just a powerful whiplash on her head and she's dead, I felt so cold inside of me, I was also shaking while holding the hammer and feeling so heartbroken. Then I heard a deep voice inside of me saying "YOU WILL REGRET YOUR ACTIONS" (twice)

Then she called me that she's there, I already sighted her through the window, I came out and I told her to run away and never come back anywhere around me again. She was still begging that she's sorry. And I said if only you know what I'm about to do, you will run.

She left, I just sat on the floor feeling so heartbroken.

for gf and Bf matter na u wan kill person pikin, some people are taking care of 4 children that aren't theirs in their marriage to an adulterous woman.. U GET LUCK, ELSE U WOULD HAVE REGRETTABLY REGRET YOU ACTION

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

abeg Rest, this analogy is nonsense... Your own personal child can do to you everything you just mentioned about those two boys and more, so relax.. The thing is to pray to God to give you good children, I have seen adopted children that threats their adopted parents better than the parents own biological child, Infact one just willed 70% of her property to her adopted child and 20% to charity and 10% to her own son who made her life a living hell and squandered all her fortune.. I see this things everyday due to my line of work, so relax

JackDaAlienz:
Omo we busted village yesterday, we are in my grandmas place.
After lunch, i was shocked when my grandma told my dad to go outside and buy recharge card for her.
See man wey dey form hard man for house
Dem dey send to go buy recharge card

I couldn't help but hold my laughter when my dad went out to buy recharge card

E really shock me, my dad is a Big man ohh
As well respected thats why im wondering why his mother (my grandma) still send him on errands

till thy kingdom come your dad will still remain his little boy... So remove ur mind. Lol

LilMissFavvy:
You need to start aplogising through calls, messages, voice notes.....yes you wronged your husband. Unfortunately he is not mature enough to forgive you and let go easily.

Satan is fighting marriages these days seriously , such that you will see so much ego, anger, unforgiveness over minor issues, how much more serious offense.

Your husband seems all out to embarrass you among your family members and let them know there is a problem in the marriage.

This is the disadvantage of long distance marriage.
Appologise with speed.

madam it isn't Satan, make una stop to accuse Satan of such mischievous Atitude of the woman.. Ego, is this woman's problem nothing more, u no reply man calls or messages for 9 weeks(2months and 1 week) and u want his opinion on an unrelated issue so he can pretend like nothing happened? Can you see the woman is a user

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

the truth is u are not a nice person, minus wife aspect now. How can you foolishly type that you sent him a message after 9weeks of an unrelated issue, and u expect him to swiftly reply you? Are u mad Ma? So after 2months and 1 week was when u sent him a message.... If una just enter that abroad 95% of una go just go mad to know good from bad, left from right, bcoz of the Illusion that the government would always support you women against the men anytime any day.. Some of Y'all Need to learn submission as a wife and mutual respect

JideFine:
Greetings,

My people,I am in a state of Dilemma...

I work as a waiting staff in a Cafe and Lounge.. Something happened on 2nd of this month (september),2022.

The Real story

Some ladies came to the lounge on 2nd Day of this month (2-09-2022) and ordered for a champagne (J.C.Le Roux) and water...We sell the champagne (30,000) while the water is (500).

My oga ordered for some food through me and he later fixed his own bill before the ladies.

N/B : The ladies were on their own separate table...I didn't see them interact with my oga in any way.

So,when my oga was about to go home,he called one of my colleague and told him that I should not collect the champagne money from the ladies,that I should just collect money for the water they took....So,I did as instructed...I collected just #500 from them.

So,I rushed to him to verify if he will be the one to fix the bill,he told me "Yes" that he will fix it.

The next day was my off day,so I didn't go to work....so,two days after....after the sales for the day as he was about to enter his car (we only give him his bills whenever he is about to go home in the night)....I rushed to give him the bill together with the one he accumulated for the day,he asked why the J.C.Le Roux docket is included in the bill.....I explained everything to him and he started yelling at me that I should have collected money from those ladies that night they took the champagne.

I had to call that my colleague that was present when he told me that he will fix those ladies bill,so he came and explained things to him.....He said "Okay" but he will not fix it from his purse that I have to fix it by myself that it will teach me a lesson next time....I was speechless as so many things ran through my mind.....Why exactly will I have to fix a bill that I didn't utilize myself.

I didn't say a word that night,I later sent him a mail explaining how everything happened and the receipt of the J.C.Le Roux which have the date and time the order was placed through my account....

He replied the Mail 3 days after and the mail reads (Well received)

I waited for him to clear up the bill but the sign was not there,I walked up to him and told him about it again and he said he will look into it....fast forward to 23rd of this month,I sent him another mail and he replied "Got it"

Till date he is yet to fix the bill and it's still pending on my account as an (outstanding).

I am really confused

My people,I need una advise....I really don't know what to do again.

It's the end of the month and my salary is at stake here.

yes you should learn an important lesson that words holds no weight legally, now it his word against yours... The best thing to do in such situation is to give him the docket to append his signature as a proof that he said he will settle it.... At times no be everything somebody go tell una, a man can say anything when he is drunk & might not remember shit when he is sober.

EmekaStanley:
So I alighted from the vehicle just to see some boys carrying this baby animal. What's the name?

I bought it for 15k from them. Did I buy it too expensive?

Secondly, how best should it be prepared for maximum tastiness?

you can't even identify the name of the animal you bought yet you bought it to eat it.... Thats how some of you loose your life due to ignorance... Gluttony Is what will kill u Las Las if u aren't careful

plaindealer:

Obidients make una dey open una eyes ooo 😂😂😂😂😂 APC refuse to pay their crowd until they enter the bus that’s conveying them to the venue of the one million March for Tinubu 😂😂😂 if e no be Peter Obi, e no fit be Peter Obi pic.twitter.com/2hu4mkACUA

— Chlorpheniramine (@VictorIsrael_) September 28, 2022

See ObiDatti Flag on top of the bus...

that is what your kind is paid to do, discredit Obi, Datti Labour Party movement.. So I won't be surprised your kind also did the LP flag tin by any means necessary... Who will pay the people asked to go to valour party campaign?? Stop lying to yourself...

UYEMDO35:
I have decided to accept the new changes in my place of work. But with terms and conditions.


That's not really the case here. I have worked for years and didn't get promoted, but then i thought of helping my friend, and my friend ended up achieving what i couldn't achieve while having the same qualifications and even been paid x2 of what am earning. though! I have no bad intentions towards my friend but I think he made a wrong move by making some changes that’s unfavorable to me and others.

Of course I have reasons to feel been treated
unfairly. Am also human too.
some said I was jealous of my friend been made the assistant Boss, but to be candid, I never did... I just didn't like the way he was acting so professional as if we that have been working there for long are unprofessional.

after much thought, I decided to summon courage to tender my letter of upliftment for the Increasement of my salary today, and for God so good... my letter was approved and my money has been increase to what my friend is earning.... so the only difference now is that, he's my superior and I will have to be taking orders from him in which I have started to adapt to it.

To be candid, my friend possesses all the quality that it takes to be the assistant Boss because he's bold and fearless.... not like me that's very quiet.

(A BIG WIN FOR ME)

i will like to use dis medium to thank those that motivated me to go fight for my right.

((Previous thread ----- https://www.nairaland.com/7341973/how-feel-when-friend-becomes ))

I remember lambasting you days back for being jealous etc... Now I can tell you that you have don't well, leave position for who get am, and concentrate on your pay, that is the koko.. Uneasy is the Head that wears the Crown, believe me.... Now that you have done your path, observe if your friend's new position will cause strain in your friendship, if it does, then threat him as a professional boss without familiarity...... Congratulations on your pay raise by the way.

HarlequinLekex:
But wait na him get him body na

I tire oooo, when it was strictly consensual from the female baller, An adult for that matter.

Darren95:
I had femur fracture on my left leg and it’s been difficult to move around the house and get things done because I can’t put weight on the operated leg until the fracture heals.

There is this lady friend I knew last year. Back then I tried persuading this lady friend to let me have a shot from her honey pot but she refused.
Honestly back then I was only interested in her honey pot nothing more because I’m not ready for a committed relationship at this stage of my life.

Nearly 2 months after I had the surgery, i called this lady friend (we have not been talking for close to a year) and told her I had accident. She immediately book a car and came to my house to see me. I was surprised and appreciated her quick response. I told her how it happened and that my two friends (guys) have been the ones helping. I told her I would be glad if she comes around to care for me while I heal as I can’t get food from the kitchen myself because I can’t step on my both legs due to the surgery. I live alone in my two bedroom apartment.

Omo starting from that day she started caring and didn’t leave until 5 days later. She said she was going to her home town and she needed to see her 2yrs old daughter (she got pregnant while in a relationship with her ex).

The issue on ground now is that, ever since she returned she has not gone to her own house where she rented. She has been in my house doing virtually everything and my both friends have left (they are business men). I was tempted to approach her for sex and she gave me smoothly without complain unlike before. I was like, look at you when I was healthy you didn’t let me have your honey pot, but now you gave it to me without stress! Hmmm we laughed over it.

But the rate at which this lady friend is taking care of me is scaring, she does everything to the point that I can’t remember the last time I opened a bottle water myself. She does it for me, the only thing I do is bath myself!
Few days ago my guy who was with me came with his female friend to pay me a visit and omo this my lady friend was looking at this girl with all force and frown on her face. I mean the looking was like; ‘’who is this girl, does she have parol with me’’ you know that kind of look.

It pissed me off and since then I have been feeling irritated. I mean we are not dating, has she taken this too far inside her heart!

I’m thinking of moving her out but I don’t have a perfect option In getting someone I can trust like her to take care of me especially because I’ve not started walking.
Will this turn out to be a problem tomorrow? I only had sex with her ones and refuse to ever do it again because of this.
I always tell her I will appreciate you with something very nice when I heal completely, that I appreciate her support and that if she has anything to do, she can go and do it and come back but NO she never left my house and i asked myself what was she doing before I called her??!!
To even ask her say Watin you Dey before I call you, tire me because e go look like say I dey tell her to go!!!

u wen dey heal go find kitten, u no dey pity your healing process.... Na s*x u initiate lead to the jealousy.. No need to hold it against her, girls are naturally territorial and read every body language from a fellow girl to any male they feel attracted to.... U aren't walking and u want to send her out!? Funny man, u no see outsider to call to come take care of you before u call your female friend Better stay put and heal faster while she takes care of you, make it strictly bro and sis relationship between both of u, coz I would have said strictly friends, but even friends f*ck each other... When you finally rewarding her monetarily, she would know what you mean....... By the way talk to her about it if you are still man enough

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

just kuku hit the pikin with rock for head or slit his throat, fucking wicked soul.... E no go better for you for this life... How would you want to take in your child on the Condition that she abandon her own child, what kind of a mother would that make her, thinking she will agree to this your nonsense How do you even sleep at night as a man or woman You Are wicked than the devil.... Kuku just leave the girl with her child for where she get peace of mind, coz I now see why you could not contain your daughter before she got pregnant, no average person would want to stay with a wicked soul like you, and maybe her getting pregnant was the only way she could stay away from you, have you thought about that Wicked soul

UYEMDO35:
Hello guys~ my best friend and I live together in the same neighborhood.

I introduce him to were I was working at the moment because he was seriously in need of a job...

Though! He had a job he was doing but the money they are paying him is just token, so when he came for an interview today.

He passed the prescription test that was given to him, and he was made the assistant Boss and I have been working there for long without been given dis offer.

Being his first time of working with us he has started giving out policy in which I don't like, he's trying to change the system for us making it unbearable for us to cope. And to crown it all, his salary his x2 higher than mine and we both have same qualification.

So am thinking of going to my Boss to lunch complain maybe to ask him to renew my contract.

What do you all think about my step....

Should I still go on with it?

I think you have a bad mind and you are full of jealousy.... Policies he will give are policies that will align with the company's way to improve, that is why he was chosen as assistant boss and not you...

Alexxx2000:
It's a long story but I will try to abridge it.

My mom raised I and my brother of 5yrs old single-handedly. There's a separation in the family so we're shuffling the deck. She's an hairstylist with meagre wages.

My dad was never part of the family. They both separated because of infidelity and harsh treatment. Since then, my dad, I guess erased our memories from his life.

I must confess, she's trying but the bills is weighing her down. My little brother was to start school last year but we couldn't pay for fees but after saving, we decided to put him in a cheap school close to the house.

Now, my mom want to stop us from bearing my father's name. She mandated me to change mine as well to her own dad's name.

Yesterday when I returned from the Pos attendant job I do, she brought the topic again and she said, nothing is holding her back on her decision.

Is she right for taking such decision? What will you advise me to do please?

I assume u have passed secondary school with your father's name, Na now u wan change am?? Your mother has no such right by the way, bcoz whatsoever she asked you people to do will only affect you the children and not her. Sorry to say this but it is the truth, YOUR MOTHER IS A SELFISH WOMAN.

You do not meet this man at your peak of success... Her woes would soon start...

Wittyglam:
is she supposed to be having sex at that age? There are lots of diseases more serious than pregnancy. I’m just creating awareness for parents.

I have already said it on line 4 to 6 that talking about what is wrong is she being Sexually active at that age as a minor.. But if she is active already and can't stop it, what better way is it to protect herself?

gshsj:
Can u tell us the danger?
Some family planning is reversible so what are u talking abt.
In developed country, most pornn stars do temporary family planning...pls the gal did the right thing to not fall pregnant if its a temporary one she did.... that's smart of her in my opinion

it is called family planning, "planing" take note of the word in quote, it means they are reversible.. The only ones nor reversible is removal of the uterus, and removal of the sperm duct(in male) this is for people who knows they have finished having children and would never think of having again(that is this who has put a PERMANENT STOP to child bearing).

Wittyglam:
Parents it’s time you start monitoring your wards, I know it’s not easy but you have to try. Make your kids your best friend, visit them on campus.

Be friends with their friends.
A 16years old girl went to do family planning just to please her boyfriend, so they can have sex the way they want. She doesn’t understand the danger she is putting herself in.

Stop trying to do the wrong things all in the name of love, stop trying to please people.

ignorance us the reason for many unwanted pregnancies and abortions... Even if she is 16years old, the fact that she has acknowledged that she is Sexually active, it is better than than unwanted pregnancy or abortion... Talking about what is wrong, the fact that she is still a minor and she's already Sexually active is what is wrong, not the family planning.... Na this same ignorance dey make majority born above their means... ONCE AGAIN AUNTY, THE DIDN'T DO NOTHING WRONG... But stukl them suppose flog him and the boy wen dey fry take advantage of minor

Ken4Christ:
I witnessed a ceremony where one of my Pastor friend was ordained a Bishop. And the head of the school of Bishop was addressed as Lord.

I was shocked and till date, the tradition is still the same.

We have only one Lord who is Jesus.

Why address your fellow human in the house of God as Lord?

Even the Apostles in the Bible days were never addressed as Lord

What is your take?

Lord Simply means a high rank noble officer.... So forget wetin u dey talk.. Lord is nothing but a title

Girlfriend By Ruger

ccjoe:
I haven't been able to sleep since yesterday. I'm a promising young guy and still in school and this girl is my bestie in school.
We do it regularly and without condom, I never knew it will end like this.
Pls i'm just an orphan and still very young.. I need advice on how to handle this situation now..

##Mature minds only and no insult pls.

you are a real Foolish person to think it won't need like this when you do it regularly and do it raw as u said.... Congratulations idiot, go buy baby tinx

josephoviemo60:
him no dey Nigeria na.. na US

lol, that US u are seeing there is language selection... He is in Nigeria. Mtn no dye US

Taofiq2005:
Which one should i buy Samsung Galaxy s10 plus or a53.
Samsung Galaxy S10- N220000
Samsung Galaxy A53- N250000

lol, bro go for the S10.. As you said it is a flagship, you see that A series, everybody knows Samsung made it for those with more quest for battle ry and fair midrange usage... If you want to game, go for the s10

Y'all are taking this noodles too seriously.... Na noodles u just use everything cook like this Make una dey calm down abeg, life no hard like that, Na Una Wan Chop Orishirishi for C'mon noodles when be junk already.

Adetayo41:
My wife has been depriving me intimacy for the past 1 months, i touched her yesternight, she declined, and later in the middle of the night, I caught her using a vibrator, although I did as if I was sleeping,


What should I do house.? I am pained though

ur wife na Witch... And u on the other hand maybe u are boring sex wise.

This is the most stupid post I have ever seen.. And it is shameful that nairaland aids this support of mediocre and failure by one senseless Nigerian

NeedHelpNow:
I had a meeting with a hooker and she spit on my penis twice touching it with her hands as per lubrication,

Do I stand the chance of getting hiv? Never had penetrative sex with her neither did she put her mouth on my penis. Opinions needed cause am soo scared.

if you get hiv self go better pass if u get genital herpes which is almost incurable and na that saliva e for many pass... Go well bro

JudgeNotHi:
I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.

Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).

The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

I wanted to insult u really bad but come to think of it anybody could make this kind of silly mistake..

How old are you first and foremost if u have matured in age and reasoning I expect you to tell the girl's mother point blank that you have no intention of marrying her daughter, not now not ever, that she should send her daughter over for a better test and maybe ultrasound etc, and if it is proven it is yours, she would have to give birth to it out of wedlock because both of you never planed for this to happen and you are not getting married to her never... The mother's reaction is what we prompt your next move. NEVER EVER EVER ALLOW THEM PRESSURE YOU TO MARRY ANYBODY BECAUSE OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY, IT IS CALLED UNWANTED BECAUSE YOU WERE CAREFUL ENOUGH TO USE CONDOM.. guy bring your mind down, nothing go happen... Make this move I'm telling u first and see the mum's reaction before u come clean to tell your wife to be.... Even if it prove she's really pregnant, go on with your marriage if your finance can forgive you quick enuf and when she finally give birth, don't fail to do a DNA test first before you start claiming after r birth responsibility, too many paternity fraud these days. That of cause if they choose not to abort it after telling them you can't marry her..... I REPEAT DO NOT EVER MARRY HER BECAUSE OF A CHILD... if she wan born am na her headache and her mama own be that. Do the best u can for the unborn baby and don't do further after birth without a DNA test.. If

daylay7:
I was in love with this guy so much that we do everything together. Aside from the fact that we share the same goals, religion put us far from each other. He was a muslim and I, a christian. I loss my virginity to him (we were both naive in that practice anyway). My parents forbid me and we drifted apart but I loved him still.

I met another guy afterward who shares the same belief with me and we got married three years later. Infact, my ex came for the wedding and celebrated me even during the reception( my husband already know his story and was not surprised when he saw him at the wedding).

A year after the birth of my son, I had an official assignment in another location where my ex's sister resided and because I could not complete the assignment that day, I decided to sleep over at her place. But on getting there, I saw my ex sitting in the living room. It was already late as at that time and I couldn't go back or book for a hotel and I decided to chilled out, telling myself that nothing must happen between us that day. My greatest mistake!

The apartment was just 3 bedroom. A master bedroom for the sister, a room for the children and the other for a visitor. Now we are having two visitors who once shared a thing for each other. My ex invited me into the room but I declined telling him I would rather sleep on the floor in the living room or he should bring a matrass for me. He brought the mattress in the visitors room into the living room and we both slept on it. One thing led to another in the middle of the night.... . And it happened! Coincidentally, my husband called at that time. I had to switched off my phone.

When I got back home the next day, I apologized to my husband that I had a flat battery and he didn't say anything but my husband never looked at me the same again. He never quarreled or said anything even after couple of years later. But the way he talks sometimes as if he kws I am hiding a secret from him and he wants me to open up to him. My fear is that if I should open up, I might lose my marriage and my family. What happened between my ex and I was a one time thing. I never went back or saw him again. It has been 10 years now and I am still feeling bad about it especially when he talked about cheating couple.

This feeling is eating me up. I don't know if I should still open up to him or I should forever remain silent about it....

cc: Relationship matters

I'm a fellow guy, but let me advise you like a sister... There are some secrets that should die with you, no matter the circumstance. There is a local saying where I am from and it goes like this "if the ear does not hear a bad word, the heart does not get bitter". Whatsover you do with this Information Is your business... First and most importantly, forgive yourself and cut all means of communication between ur ex or his family, your ex is a big COW, he broke gentlemen code. You don't sleep with a married woman, it is forbidden.

Don't take this job, it is slavery..... 50k gross is approximately 40 to 38k net, only transport fair for lagos will finish that money, let's not even talk accommodation and feeding yet... Honestly you are better off without that job..

CandyOps:
Damn! She should slow down with the junks. She looks like a mf cow

imagine saying someone looks like a cow because they aren't looking like what u would like... Brooooooo you need help