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emman44:
The first was when I lost my elder brother. It was so painful that his demised cost me my business as I could not focus on anything.

The second was the demised of my mother. I still cry till now.........

Third should be heartbreak.

healthbing:
Just like you
1.Discovering the people you love,trust,did everything for end of back stabbing.

2.Relationship wahala.

Luckyheart:
1. The day my mum fell on the ground when it was raining , she carried me on her back that day heading to school. (I still cry whenever I remember).

2. The day my science teacher died (the man that never made me quit science department in sec. Sch). Your memories still lingers Mr Voice.

ekesimo:
just asking for friend cos I am confused too

BUSHYANUS:
I have warn my girlfriend. His English is tellible, I have warn him severaly to desist ells I am broke her up with him.

Him always desgrass me in porbrik.
Why naija girls English so bad, ah ah

She's in her late 30s and I'm in my 32, she so much loves me more than I do toward her, she has sacrificed a lot to our relationship to make it work financially and otherwise.

ProfessorBerlin:
the day my best friend died.



Sorry about your loss.

I can relate.













he will forever remain in my heart

UsmanFodio:
Why are you so afraid of war mr Afonja? Th

franchasng:
among your girlfriends there is one that you feel so free with that you can even tell her how you grew up soaking garri without having to lie that you were born in Los Angeles to make her value u more.


There is one out of your harem of girlfriends that u can be pooping in the toilet and open the door and be gusting with her and she will be yabbing u happily that u this boy your shit is smelling oh without turning it to something of mockery how how timid u are.


Among your girlfriends there is one that u feel so free to tell that u haven't eaten since morning because no money to buy even garri to soak lol.


Not the ones that when they are coming u hurry and go and borrow money to buy provisions and pack in your room table to form American boy that only drink tea



So when people say marry your friend it means your girlfriend that you feel so free with to gist about life, plan life with without pretence, tell your fears and worst mistakes and she won't use against you or mock you with it, that's your friend

DedeNkem:
- What happens after marriage depends solely on you both. Your relationship supposed to continue to be great. But it depends how deep your love are for each other. A marriage that has a weak foundation doesn't last long. Be together for the right reasons.


- Honestly, marriage is tougher than mere boyfriend - girlfriend relationship. But it can be wonderful and great if the two involved have true love for each other and are willing to work their differences out mutually. Great marriages last "forever".


- It only remains the same if you have true love, understand each other flaws and strive to make each other happy. Yes, both parties do all they can to keep it alive.


- It's never a good idea to rush into a marriage, no matter the peer and family pressure to do so. You're the one who's going to live with whoever you marry, not them.You need to be sure you're ready to marry and also make sure your potential wife/husband is the right one for you. Marriage can be hell if you marry the wrong person.


- It can be wonderful and blissful. A great marriage is 100% better than a good boyfriend - girlfriend relationship. There's no perfect marriage as there's no perfect person. Marriage is what both parties make it.


- Just like in courtship, quarrels are inevitable in marriage. How you two handle it matters a lot. Listen and compromise. Remember, both of you are two different individuals who understand each other flaws and decided to to spend the rest of your lives together. Trust and respect go a long way in keeping a marriage tight.


- Compromise is not a weakness but a feature. Compromising doesn’t mean “giving in.” It doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the fight. In fact, it’s the opposite. Do you know how hard it is to compromise sometimes? You want your way because it sounds right and makes sense to you. Your partner is way off base with their suggestions. Take a step back and look at the argument diplomatically. What’s the logical conclusion? If your partner is right, don’t be afraid to say so. Accept their way, or modify both of your solutions to be half and half. The important thing is not getting your way, it’s staying in your relationship and helping it grow. Compromising will definitely help your marriage grow.


- Of course, there will be complaints. We are all flawed in one way or another. Don't brush off your partner's complaint and expect things to be well. Always try to resolve it amicably. Sharing responsiblies is a part of marriage.


- In most cases shared responsibilities come naturally. Men who help their wives at home by sharing the work load win extra respect and affection. Every couple is unique in itself and how they share the chores should be based their own individual likes and preferences, strengths and weaknesses. Good couple complete and compliment each other and try to give their utmost to the relationship.



- Trust is an indispensable ingredient in building and maintaining a healthy marriage. Trusting one another is one of the most important elements of your relationship, and a crucial element of any lifetime commitment. Without trust, the quality of your relationship will deteriorate.


- a. Prioritize: To make marriage work, spouses must prioritize each other above all else.

b. Anticipate - and Ride Out - the Waves: focus on the wedding day and not the years of marriage that follow, many people mistakenly think marriage is one big party. It’s not. And the sooner you realize that, and accept it and commit to staying in it during even the rough times, the sooner your marriage will benefit.

c. Schedule Time Together: It’s really the one way to ensure quality time. Time together could be as simple as eating together after the kids have gone to bed or scheduling a date night every couple of weeks (sans kids).

d. Give a Gift: Everyone loves getting a gift, but giving presents can be equally joyful. Even a small token, like a six pack of his favorite beer or a takeaway from her favorite restaurant, can show appreciation.


- Many women expect that their bodies will immediately bounce back after giving birth, particularly if they didn't pack on too many pounds while eating for two.

Many women expect that their bodies will immediately bounce back after giving birth, particularly if they didn't pack on too many pounds while eating for two.

Yet, even if she makes postpartum diet and exercise a priority, it can take a while for a new mom's belly to return to normal size, which can lead to feelings of failure and inadequacy.

However, it takes most women six to eight weeks for their stomach to shrink back down to normal size after giving birth.


Yes, the husband should also do chores. Chores are shared responsibilities, and doing a good job dividing up the housework is essential to ensure a happy marriage.


- Support her by doing the following;

a. Encourage and reassure her.
b. Ask her what she needs from you.
c. Show affection. Hold hands, give hugs and kisses.
d. Help her make changes to her lifestyle.
c. Try to eat healthy foods, which can help her eat well.
d. Encourage her to take breaks and naps.
e. Some women may want less sex.
f. Take walks together.


- [color=red] Admiration, affection, intimate conversation, domestic support, family commitment, financial support, honesty and openness, physical attractiveness, recreational companionship and sexual fulfillment.[/color=red]


- By being faithful, honest and truthful to your partner.


- Already answered, check my response above in red.


- Also answered, check my response above in red.


- Yes, if a couple has a genuine love for each other, it doesn't change.



I've been married for some years now. So I know what I'm talking about. You are doing the right thing asking these questions. I hope I've in my little way made you feel a bit comfortable going into marriage.

Marriage is a beautiful thing, especially, when you are in it with the right person. And if the love you two have is genuine and you're ready to work together through tough times, then definitely the marriage will last forever.