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baba dey:

Yup! Such don't happen here.

baba dey: @chikk... Dz how love in tokyo starts

In Tokyo? Well, this is naija. Sorry

190: if u allow me have peace

Just don't post comments like you're not human and stop the 'moon man' attitudes.

[quote author=Ms_Steph]check my profile I post abj jobs try your luck. I am also looking for a job too.[/quote]Ok. Thanks

190: that'l be cool

Till then, can I have peace on NL?

190: No

Ok. Will tell seun to get us a private chat room

@OP, the teacher made the statement on a wednesday.
If the teacher wishes yesterday(being tuesday) was tomorrow(being thursday), then, having moved one day forward(speaking in present tense) the present day would have been friday.

But why is this on romance section?

@mikedan, I'm in abj. Kano is far pls. Thanks for your concern, but I'd prefer something in or within abj


@rollindollars, I'm following you now. Do follow back so I can pm you pls.

cdamsel: don't do dis,its speaks really bad of u,a girl my uncle wanted 2 marry did dis,immediately d marriage ended,even doe my uncle really wanted 2 marry her.if una really dey close d issue of marriage shd ve come up 1ce or twice,if nt,start now & start chipping d idea 2 him,see if he buys it den full discussion shd start 4m there.u shd b his 1st stop @ getting a wife,if he isn't looking ur wayy den its time 2 re-evalute my dear.

You haven't said anything different from what exponential said. I believe what exponential posted was an idea of how she can go about the issue without being too direct. She must not follow it exactly. From your post, you actually haven't given her any suggestion on how to 'chip in' the idea to him in other not to appear desperate and that is what she needs.

NO LONG TIN: Really Kneel down for a girl/lady because of Love Never Ever. i have so much Dignity and respect for myself
But that doesn't mean i cant kneel down to appologise if i'm caught doing something extremely hurtful/bad i.e Sleep with another woman

BTW that guy looks familiar, i'll love to see his face

Flip the picture and view the reverse side, you'll see his face

190: chikk im behind you on this one

This is private enough. Talk

Take this to romance section and modify the body/subject reasonably. You'll get good advices.

190: Have no business with this thread


This thread is for them single folks

U didn't have to say it! Just ignore the thread and move on!

190: Wow really - Nice

Nows my chance 2move in

Hei!!! You again? What did I do to you na?? So of all the posts here, you saw only mine?

rokiatu: Shut up and stop throwing shame at peeps. Don't you have anything better to say?

As long as he love her and he believe in marriage he's sure gonna marry her.

With all due respect ma'am, I don't agree with these. Family pressure can make men do what they don't want to. What if this pressure from home is for him to come home and marry some pre-arranged girl? Or what if his family doesn't accept the OP since the man is yet to take her to his mum. I wouldve agreed with you that she should wait so she doesn't look desperate in bringing up marriage issues, but there's no guarantee that the man will marry her. Love is not enough. 6years is a long time, she's not getting any younger.

Exponental: On a good day, ask him....... "what's my fate in this relationship? U know I'm not getting any younger, suitors keep going away cos of u and mumsy is also worried"........
BTW, consider a plan B.

I like this. @OP, this is a typical example of how you can discuss this issue with him without using the keyword 'marriage'. If you approach the issue directly, he will see you as desperate. The plan B is for you to be ready to put your life together and move on in case ypu don't hear what you want to.

[quote author=mikedaniel76@gmail.com]When 2go boys grace nairaland,the end result is the above.[/quote]Ouch!!!!!!!!!!!

marvelck: I'm a in serious dilemma right now. And it has to do with my boyfriend. I'm presently dating a very sweet and cute guy, who works in an oil company. My boyfriend loves me so much, and I also love him dearly. We're not a perfect couple though, but we're always able to handle/resolve our differences maturely.

And the success of our relationship is making my friends to be envious of me. Cos they've been in and out of several relationship, and are presently sober and desperate for love. And to make the matter worse, my younger sister who just broke up with her guy, is also eying my boyfriend. Now, it's me against them. They want my fine, rich and loving boyfriend, and are hell bent on snatching him from me...

I want to PRETEND that your story is true. From the way you blabbed about your relationship here, I can't blame your friends for wanting your boyfriend. How did they come to know about the 'success' of your relationship if not from you? Besides, he is not your husband so where is the dilemma?

As for your sister, you said she is YOUNGER so what's the big deal? You can't deal with your friends, you also can't deal with your sister? Your insecurity is on the high side. If you and your man are in love and you handle your issues maturely as you claim, then you should know that what you're going through is a normal challenge seen in every successful relationship. Both of you should handle it MATURELY

vivian chinaza: @ Izu, yea isn't this sweet? Learning that you would hit me shouldn't scare me huh? But learning that if you do, I'm gonna make sure you get hit 10 times over should scare you?

There is a thin line between pride and arrogance. We just need to watch it. Pride is good everyone has it, I know I do. But if you don't watch this pride, it turns to arrogance.

And how did u know the kinda kneeling the poster was talking about? Its a picture, for all we know he could be a bf or husband or fiance begging for forgiveness.

You did not understand my posts and you blew things outta proportion. I never justified unnecessary kneeling down, both for a man or a woman, read my posts again.

Isn't it hilarious how you guys undermine ladies and make them feel worthless with your utterances? And cry when we do same to you? You see I don't know for other ladies out there, but as for me, the only man that gets to see how sweet I I am? The only man I will submit to? Is that man who recognises that I'm a woman in the real sense of a woman. Is that man who is willing to let his pride go. Come when we are inside, there will be no man or woman, we would just be lovers. But when we go outside? HE IS THE MAN!

Cabbage in cabbage out (processed), what you put in is what you get. If you want love and submission? They don't just happen, you have to earn them.
If a man derogates me, either by words or deeds? He would be derogated. Simples.

Been following your posts and I must say you're trying TOO HARD to convince this guys and that shouldn't be. A line of sentence should be enough for you to drive your point home but because you're contradicting yourself, they can't get you.

After all the efforts you've made to prove that pride is bad, you return to say PRIDE IS GOOD? You're not wrong to say you have pride, yes, its boldly written in all your posts. But you're wrong to say EVERYONE has pride. There are still such things as being humble and down to earth. I suggest you take your advice of watching the pride before it turns to arrogance

So you'll submit only to a man who recognises you as a woman and drops his pride? Now how will a man recognise you as a woman if your pride is high? You won't be submissive unless he drops his pride. Na competition? Babe, men hate challenges, especially from women. Even God was not stupid when he made it that women should submit to their men.

In union, one partner complements for what the other lacks. Two wrongs can never make a right and PRIDE IS WRONG. Even God forbids it. You don't expect a man to drop his pride for you. In a way, its their nature. Challenge with men in the corporate world, not in your relationship or home.

A man should be a man to you in all ways. You say you're equal inside and he is the man outside. Isn't that eye service? You want people to think that he is the man because you know it is the proper thing, but when you go inside, you rub shoulders. Hmmm. Anyway, maybe I misunderstood you like every other person here. Every person to their opinion. I wish you the best in yours.

Now the last line in bold got me cracking

Scared. So I'm taking the time to get a good job instead.

[quote author=Oga-@-d-top]the moderator can help me push it to the apropriate section if possible.[/quote]No mind them OP. This section is called 'jokes, etc'. If your post is not a joke, then e follow for 'etc'

Oohrhii: @OP...You should stick with your educational jamb and waec things..

Romance section though may contain some fictitious things atimes.. but its mostly meant for emotional purposes and thats why it generates so much traffic.

Just today alone you have posted two fictitious threads. Dont turn the section into nollywood.

I can understand you want attention and replies to your educational threads..they would come if its more than waec and jamb. Kids are few here and even the kids we have here are in tertiary institutions already.

You can also learn by reading peoples experiences and responses.

Try to grow up .. OK this is a thread for matters of the heart. not some movie section.

Na for serious issues.

#FACT!
Besides, OP, I think you're on the wrong section. You should have posted this on JOKES section. That's where it belongs

[quote author=Mr.T Anonymous]What is all this[/quote]Come, OP, you're struggling to be noticed at the front page, we know, your struggles shall not be wasted. But pls, refrain from the unnecessary use of the name of Jesus before something go do you.

Shollypopz: How old is the op?? Teenage fantasies, smh

I don't argue with ladies on 'ladies matters', you're entitled to your opinion. But please, next time, endeavour to get your question answered if your comment depends on it. The question 'How old is the op??' Was not answered so where did the word 'Teenage' come from?

vivian chinaza: I completely agree with you.

But are you saying a man kneeling for a woman when its necessary makes his less a man and less 'head' of a family?


And I don't think you understand me. Men have ego and pride, I dispute that fact. But igbo guys are obsessed with "headship." I igbo too, but I stay in the niger/delta region and their men are not like that.

Do you know what an igbo guy told me? He was asking for my hand in marriage, so we got talking and he told that I cannot bring any of my properties to 'HIS' house. That whatever property that I have should be left in my parents house. *emphasis on HIS o*
Can you imagine that this guy's ego wouldn't let him stomach the feeling that maybe me bringing my properties would mean dragging the 'headship' with him.
I just kept quiet while he went on and on, when he was done, I told him NOT A CHANCE IN HELL!

Well, I'm not here to defend any tribe, so I'll leave you to your belief. But I suggest you take it easy sha, you never can tell, that dream man of yours might come from the igbo tribe, then you language will change. That's the bad thing about generalising.

And as for the text in bold above, my answer is NO. You'll observe I've refrained from commenting directly on the topic. Reason: any real man will do what it takes to please his woman so long as no one is hurt. So all these people saying they can't, well, God bleSs their souls if their dream women demand that they go on their knees to propose.

Funny enough, most of these people saying they can't are from tribes or will marry from tribes that demands a man rolls on a dirty ground and get seriously flogged just to marry a woman. I don't know which one is worse. In fact, BOYS will say they can't, but REAL MEN know better.

vivian chinaza: But seriously, am I the only one that has noticed?

Well, I don't think its just Igbos. We're Africans and no matter what western culture or mentality we borrow/adopt, somethings can't just change.

Both in tradition and religion, Women are supposed/expected to be submissive. They submit to their men and that makes them(men) the 'head'. Its just how it is, tho' that doesn't mean that women should cower at their men and/sell their rights out o.

iebanehita: I totali agree it all boils dwn to luv, respect.
Sex aint a foundatn,bt its a necessity. If a dude ɪ̣̝̇ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇ I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ an affair wit a virgin wu aint ready for premarital sex,,bt values d girl cz she got respect,characta,,he jt can't help cheating on her.

FALSE
Who says the man can't keep himself as the girl does?

vivian chinaza: And again, I do not want to be an "alter-bound" relationship kinda girl, I want to be a "happy-bound" relationship kinda girl where the man will set his ego aside.

Come to think of it, why are igbo guys obsessed with "headship?" in marriage?

Will make a good topic for a new thread. Try it and you'll find out why

iebanehita: ЂƠ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡w do U̶̲̥̅̊ min by ''if they would'', evn if U̶̲̥̅̊ do all dose U̶̲̥̅̊ outlined above, cn U̶̲̥̅̊ stop Your̶̲̥̅̊ man frm cheating??:... Definitely NOT

We're still saying the same thing. The points I outlined are not to guarantee fidelity. Its always good to say 'I did my best' before you give up in a fight.

If a woman is complaining of her man's infidelity, she has to be certain that in the first place, its not her fault. That is the essence of my post.

iebanehita: Chikk,,, if a lady practiced all U̶̲̥̅̊ v outlined n duz nt giv him SE.X, he will DEFINITELY cheat on her..

If its in marriage, there's no disputing that fact and of course, a lady has no right to deny her husband under normal circumstances.

But if its outside marriage, dating/courtship for instance, SE*X is not everything and shouldn't be a foundation. As a matter of fact, it shouldn't even come into the picture.

But if per chance the duo are doing the 'do', it all boils down on love and respect. If a man loves and respects his woman, he won't run outside just for some putang.

poshdiva: If they would cheat they would cheat. Doing all the above would only make them feel guilty about cheating but won't stop them

Yes, they'd cheat if they would. Its bad to be the reason your man is cheating on you but trust me, its worse to know that there are little things (like the ones I posted above) that you could have done to prevent that.