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greatgod2012: don't be naive my brother, many financially independent women are also abused, especially when they marry someone who is below their level educationally or professionally or who do not earn up to what they're earning.
Just last week, a colleague of mine was physically and brutally abused by her half baked educated husband of hers, claiming he was trying to trim her wings, as she seems to be too proud because she's earning more than him.
Such men are wounded lions and are more likely to suffer from inferiority complex.
May God help us from such men.

I am a woman please.

I have dealt with a lot of abused woman in my line of work. I can tell you that the most common problem is economic inequality, hence there is a great focus on woman empowerment on a National or international level ( well supposedly in Nigeria ). You agree with me or dont and you understand it or you dont!!!!!

I have done alot of academic research which has proven that. Though I do not have time to refer you to all the Research papers, governmental reports, UN reports etc. All over the world economic power has been the common denominator. I am not saying other factors do not also contribute, they do, but financial power has been a common denominator.

I would advice you to take your time and also interact with abused victims and ask them what stops them from leaving and also read information sources quoted above .Don't do one eye scanning research and conclude.

You may read this if you want to.

https://www.google.co.za/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=3&cad=rja&ved=0CEIQFjAC&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.gov.nl.ca%2FVPI%2Fpublications%2Feconomicindependence.pdf&ei=Yx56Ut3lN6SN7QaM7YHYDg&usg=AFQjCNFG1Qw73kQjTnQbE6FDmiTwyVxO0Q&sig2=BmEYs0pSZjpnAAqCZK7cxQ

bukatyne: I know a senior academic staff in a university who was abused by her not well to do husband

Not so common though Give a woman money, she go buy wings

You will find that her mama was abuse, thats why she is tolerating it

ladunsky: for real... I tot it only happened in hollywood scenes... Loooool... Its crazie

No be small tin.

It was no Nollywood script for me. It was real.God saved me there. The dude was sick suffocating me like dat. Had to know what colour of pant I wear, my phone calls.... Pheeeeeewwww.
But It took him forever to get over everything. He still follows my behind

I don't want love like that, too much love!!!! That type of love can kill peson. Abeg.

I cannot fully blame the woman. Alot of woman stay in abusive marriages because of financial dependence. Which sometimes they bring upon themselves ( by allowing to stay at home because a man suggests so), laziness or because of unemployment situation.

Name a financially independent person who tolerates any kind of abuse.

Give all woman Economic Power and Freedom, things will turn around.

Sad for her though

Mindependent: I've never done it before and I'm scared

Aaaaaah aaaaah, what type of amnesia be dis

The last thread you said you did it first day. I gave my all in terms of advice. Now you never done it. Something is amiss here.

Tell the truth and nothing but the truth. Check your threads before I bang your head and stop waisting our time

https://www.nairaland.com/1467002/loving-someone-doesnt-love-back

Mindependent: So are you guys saying I should do it or not? Even if I don't want to?

Minimum 90 DAYS rule baby.
Demand STI screening while buying time and demand another repeat, citing window period. Those 6 months your thoughts will be clearer

I thought I made sense to you the last time. If you are referring to the cookie. Hope u didn't do it first day on your "romantic getaway"

See yourself, you don't learn o

DI-ZA-STER

NOIBMUUL: You may need to change your phone lines and enlist on a Boko Haram witness protection program to get me off your trail!
Well, except the occasional bullfights. I know I can be frustrating and demanding as hell, but I will repay you with unparalleled loyalty and love. You see, the real adventure with me begins after the commitment. !

quoted above sound scary

Good luck though in your search

lynpetra:

OP, why are you hurting her.

Shouldnt have said that to a girl. Silly

beryl04: Back to topic,I think and some how believe America is a forward thinking society.if Americans can elect a black man to d white house,I see no reason why an openly gay governor will not stand a chance.cases like this one always attracts a swing vote cos even the republicans themselves will be divided as some of them are also gays. and others will be sympathetic to the guys' cause and daaayuuum, that baba is also very handsome and charming, and yes American voters consider those, too! at the end of the day, the issues that might decide his winning or otherwise will be something far more removed from the issues of his sexuality.
Wish him all the best.

In future, Yes. I don't see it in the nearest future. Remember how long did it take for the black man to be elected. Very long. Also remember some states in the US its still not accepted ( gay marriages ), not all states

BarryX: Stupid Love ??

Don't tell me you meant that !!

I do. I mean it. When I ran for my life, the dude came to my house scratched my car & painted ( black car ) with white paint. Aaaaah, thats silly stupid love. That love was suffocating, I tell you.

He was a Professor of jealousy. Couldn't go to the toilet without his behind behind me. Too much jealousy no privacy at all.

We both had cars, but he had to drop, drop, drop me everywhere. I am glad I ran for my life.

That one could kill me o, I tell you. All in the name of stupid love.

lorretta u: The man said he doesn't want the child. What's the brouhaha for again?
Why force a child to answer the name of a person who doesn't want them.if they grow up and notice they have a different surname from the others,what will you tell them? Your father rejected you but I named u after him anyways.
Hian.
He doesn't want the child.leave him alone. Abort the foetus or give birth to it and name them after yourself and your family. Or they can be a unique baby and not have a surname like Jesus(I don't knw his surnme) or Abraham(not sure he had a surname too)

People can stress themselves sha.

Person no want child u dey force am give am pikin

True. Personally I would give the child my surname. Then he becomes my brother

Emeralddeee: When I see post like this I wonder how intelligent the op is. The word ''no'' means all in the context of your posts if you had used most or some it would have been logical to a large extent. I wonder where you got your statistics from, using no shows that you affirm that you mum, sisters are also in the category you mentioned. You mean to tell me that in your whole life you've never seen a decent girl That's a huge fallacy, the fact that you've been beaten made you turn preacher abi Let me correct your mentality a girl cannot hinder you from achieving your set goals unless you have misplaced priority, more so no one is a Saint guys also misbehave. If you are looking for a Saint you're gonna grow old, everyone has his or her own flaws. If you can live with it fine, if you can't fine. Don't just go about generalising ok that's too shallow experience has thought me that.

OP, suffers from naivity. Hence he believed that his gf is a Saint from the beginning. Wake up from that dream, come back to the world
In Jesus name, naivity leave this man. Amen.

OP, To live a fulfilling life, stop having high expectations for anybody. Accept that we are all humans including your handsome self and we are bound to faulter. Your own parents can disappoint you, how much more a gf/bf.

I cant imaging a life without my baby bears imperfections. Who am I gonna shout when he is perfect.
Tufiakwa. I want a human and also imperfect man oooo. Or else I will go crazy with all the calm and perfection in the house ( which doesnt exist of cause).

carr101: I'm gonna let them know after graduation, at least I knw they won't be paying school fees then

wise move

masonkz: Back to topic.


Do you guys think this guy stands the chance with this new publicity? Obviously it's not a publicity stunt, and I guess many of the democrats would like him.

I don't think he stands a chance. American society is also stereotypical o. They have accepted gays but not completely

masonkz: Mine would probably do same. And I know someday they'll come to know about me. So I'm preparing for it by trying to be totally independent from them, while still maintaining the family bond. I'm doing this so it will at least save me and them some emotional trauma that may come with the whole "disowning" threat.

All the best when you do decide. But I think the best is to be caught, then to tell

GSKing: my own family will immediately kick me out without second thought!

I can imagine. Hope you are prepared for anything.

mimopel:

Dont mean any bad o.

Buy her magazines or anything where he features
She will love you and eventually forget and then idolize you.

Engine mountings

@geolan, in fact I love him with his imperfections.

I don't want to change his imperfections, they make everything worthwile.

When he does nothing wrong for months, I ask him " Are you OK"

geolan: I can't say you are wrong since you are talking from experience.

True, and I don't want a saint as a husband as I am no saint neither.

Keep on deceiving yourself that you are an angel. Angel!!!!??, my stinking foot.

lynpetra: The best way to play him is when you make him for in love with you.That is d first big step.If you can make him fall for you,give him some months to realise that you are also in love.Wait patiently,then PM me

Dangerous, the aim is to play.Play without getting laid. What love na

logica: You mean all those tribalistic Igbo women on Nairaland cannot hire an Igbo lawyer for her?

Is you head stuffed with maggots

Its good news ooo

Hope after her release she will get a plan. And not make a man her plan

Good night. Have a long day ahead.