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Happy Valentinious Sunday guys!!!

As long as u are not d Op, u got no business wit comment. Besides,u can start teaching people u can identify in ur area dat need comprehension.Fortunately, I'm not one of dem

afroxyz:
You seriously need lessons on reading comprehension.

Lol!
But why must it be Ibadan?
#ProudlyIbadanbabe

Congratulations in advance OP
Frm ur write up, d only reason why u don't want an elaborate wedding with 500> guests is not becos u don't like huge parties bt it's becos u don't want 2 spend beyond ur financial capacity,right?
In ur write up, it seems as if u are d only one expected 2 bankroll d whole event. Let me ask u, what is d financial status of ur prospective inlaws? Are they poor? What are they planning 2 contribute 2 d wedding expenses? What abt ur wife 2 be?is she jobless? Doesn't she av any intention of offsetting some of d bills too?
Is it after paying d dowry and buying all d 'eru iyawo' dat u are still expected 2 sponsor d wedding? What abt ur family,I mean ur parents? What is dier own take on dis matter?
Frm what I can deduce frm u, u must be d type dat parades himself beyond his bank account size. Maybe u gave ur inlaws d impression dat u are a wealthy man capable of taking care of dier needs moneywise, probably becos u are base abroad. If dat's not d case, den why are u here panicking?
To me dis is not an issue.it is not enuf 2 freak u out and drag urself 2 NL. It is strictly a family affair. U, ur fiancee, ur parent and her parent shud sit down and hold a family meeting. Lay ur cards on d table. Be firm. Be transparent. Let ur parent support u. Ur babe and her family MUST also contribute 2 d budget on ground. If not, then they shud FORGET abt inviting a crowd. They can't kill u 4 bin blunt.
Let dem know ur vision of taking dier daughter wit u 2 Ogbodo Oyinbo.
Eg, let's say ur estimated budget 4 d wedding is 500k (500+ guests), bt personally ur pocket size can only boasts of 350k, let ur inlaws 2 be fetch d remaining 150k,else no elaborate wedding.
Just be a man and put ur feet on d ground. Wedding expenses,elaborate or simple,shud not be d responsibility of d man alone.it's shud be a joint venture.
As 4 hw 2 reduce d number of guests 2 200, I'll go wit those who suggested holding it on a weekday,preferrably Monday. Just pray abt it and follow God's direction.
I wish u all d best sir

Congratulations in advance OP
Frm ur write up, d only reason why u don't want an elaborate wedding with 500> guests is not becos u don't like huge parties bt it's becos u don't want 2 spend beyond ur financial capacity,right?
In ur write up, it seems as if u are d only one expected 2 bankroll d whole event. Let me ask u, what is d financial status of ur potential inlaws? Are they poor? What are they planning 2 contribute 2 d wedding expenses? What abt ur wife 2 be?is she jobless? Doesn't she av any intention of offsetting some of d bills too?
Is it after paying d dowry and buying all d 'eru iyawo' dat u are still expected 2 sponsor d wedding? What abt ur family,I mean ur parents? What is dier own take on dis matter?
Frm what I can deduce frm u, u must be d type dat parades himself beyond his bank account size. Maybe u gave ur inlaws d impression dat u are a wealthy man capable of taking care of dier needs moneywise, probably becos u are based abroad. If dat's not d case, den why are u here panicking?
To me dis is not an issue.it is not enuf 2 freak u out and drag urself 2 NL. It is strictly a family affair. U, ur fiancee, ur parent and her parent shud sit down and hold a family meeting. Lay ur cards on d table. Be firm. Be transparent. Let ur parent support u. Ur babe and her family MUST also contribute 2 d budget on ground. If not, then they shud FORGET abt inviting a crowd. They can't kill u 4 bin blunt.
Let dem know ur vision of taking dier daughter wit u 2 Ogbodo Oyinbo.
Eg, let's say ur estimated budget 4 d wedding is 500k (500+ guests), bt personally ur pocket size can only boasts of 350k, let ur inlaws 2 be fetch d remaining 150k,else no elaborate wedding.
Just be a man and put ur feet on d ground. Wedding expenses,elaborate or simple,shud not be d responsibility of d man alone.it's shud be a joint venture.
As 4 hw 2 reduce d number of guests 2 200, I'll go wit those who suggested holding it on a weekday,preferrably Monday. Just pray abt it and follow God's direction.
I wish u all d best sir

Proudly level 1 and almost on level 2

Pls are u on whatsapp?

succyreal:
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mummydirect:
Sabinusssss eeeee, you are sighted. the truth is that the message is well comprehended by majority of the readers. op is just mixing pidgin and good English together which make his story lively and sumptuous and it does not depict weakness in his English vocabulary. so oga Sabi nus, what is the excess of blowing big grammar Like obaehegbe abi na Wetin b the man name sef wey come from Edo state, when your readers could hardly comprehend. op, u 2 much.

1st of all,I'm not Sabinusss.2ndly,I'm a female, not a male. 3rdly, I didn't condemn d Op rather I politely corrected his errors which is very important. 4thly, re-read my comment again. D examples of grammatical errors I pointed out were not pidgin bt from his normal English sentences which he used. Or are u trying 2 tell me dat mixing 'she/him/her' pronouns is pidgin? (At a point I was confused as 2 whether d so-called Pastor na male or female) Or 'quit' instead of 'quite' 4 abt 3 times in d story na also pdgin?abi u think say I no sabi pidgin language when I see one? I complimented his effort becos I also enjoyed d story and I learnt frm it as well,bt dat should nt stop me frm correcting him as his fan.
Even in pidgin,u fit make gbagauns sef but e better 2 dey proofread before posting 2 public forums like dis.
NB- Sen Patrick Obiahagbon

Nice story Op.u did well. D mother was jst overreacting. Anyway,gud 4 dem.
But seriously Op, ur English get as e be ooo.chai! I jst dey jam gbagauns left right and center.Kilode? Especially d pronoun 'he' 'she' 'him'. And 'quit' instead of 'quite', 'Junior sisters' instead of 'younger sisters'.
My English is not really dat gud as well even though I'm also a graduate bt pls and pls,always try 2 proofread ur posts before submitting dem online 4 public 2 peruse. U need 2 prove dat u are a graduate indeed.
All d same, beautiful write-up.

Nos 1,3 and 7 are 4 me.
No 1-im not against verbally complimenting a guy u truly appreciate his looks and appearance,I do dat a lot,bt wooing a guy? Hell capital NO! How can I woo a guy who does nt feel d same way abt me? It will look as if I forced myself on him. He may accepts my proposal out of sympathy becos he doesn't wants 2 hurt me, yet deep down in his heart,I'm d last person he feels anything 4. Such men later in d course of d relationship may get frustrated and start misbehaving becos d game is up and they wish 2 quit acting. If there is a serious quarrel between d lovers,he will accuse her of being d initiator of a union he was never happy abt. He may even blame her 4 his misfortunes. What if he's already in a relationship wit someone else when I asked him out,won't I look like a man-snatcher? In my own opinion,nothing can be more emotionally devastaing than being turned down by a guy after showing d courage 2 ask him out in d 1st place. I'd rather remain single than 2 be ridiculed by a man becos I asked him out. Most guys believe dat when a lady asks dem out,then all she WANTS is. SEX!nothing more. They will spread d good news to dier friends (even their female friends) abt dis desperate chic who was so brave 2 woo dem becos of s*x.
At other times, they will turn demselves 2 super heroes in her life. They will make it look as if they are doing a favor for her by accepting her in d first place. She must open her legs everytime they want s*x. If she's rich,she don turn their maga be dat. She must always be at their beck and call everytime they want something frm her,afterall no be she wan bear d title "Mrs"?
U will agree with me dat in many relationships where it's d guys who did d 'wooing' themselves, they still mess up dier babes as if na she begged dem 2 approach her,now imagine when d table is turned around? Ladies, pls if u want 2 woo a guy,I won't say u shouldn't if u are so sure of what u are abt 2 do,bt be ready 2 bear d consequence. Make sure dat d guy u want 2 woo is a MAN with a mature mind who will gently handle d matter wit wisdom, not a BOY with a fickle brain who will see ur action as an invite 2 sleep wit u recklessly.unfortunattely,most guys of nowadays are in d latter category.
As 4 no 3, I can't marry a jobless man becos I can't marry as a jobless woman myself,so what's his excuse? If he loses his job while married 2 me (God forbid though), dat situation is understandable. Having a job is nt all abt d monthly salary system,it cld be in form of self-employed business. D most important thing is,he must not be idle.he must be financially independent,not neccesarily a millionaire.
No7- ur piece on dat was different frm what I expected. In my own interpretation,not taking nonsense frm men means not allowing a man 2 take u 4 granted. Eg, remaining in an abusive relationship/marriage, cooking 4 his mistresses becos u want peace 2 reign, or better still allowing him 2 turn u into a slave who has no life of her own. To me,dat's d true definition of "I can't take any nonesense from a man'. Any woman who practise d things u wrote under no 7 is a devil's daughter who is only planning 4 her own downfall. Real women don't do such things under d guise of 'I don't take nonesense'. I rest my case at dis junction.

*MATURE* Not *MATURED*

jayhumble:
Good evening fellas...

I love my Girlfriend so much. She happened to be my sisters friend back in the University. Well they were staying in same hostel back then. I didn't meet her thru my sister, we met during an occasional event way back 2014. My sister has been silent about everything right from the on set she saw her pic on my phone, little did I know my lil sister was waiting for the right time to strike. Well, I finally built the courage to introduce my GF to my mom since I have decided to step our relationship up. The moment I gisted my sister about my plans... She went on whatsapp and warned my GF to leave me and go back to her ex. I still didn't know any of this was going on until my GF sent a text to my sister saying "If you don't want me to marry you brother, I will leave your brother for you and marry someone else".
The moment my sister got that message, she started telling me her story back in school and how she cheated on her 'then bf' when they had a little misunderstanding and she dated someone else pending the time she settled with her BF. She keeps telling me she is not a type of girl to be trusted and all these blah blah blah girls talk. She even had to call a guy who has dated her before and put it on speaker but I didn't mind cuz I felt it's just a girl to girl things...
My GF broke into tears while telling me all these on phone and actually confessed to every allegations laid on her. Went to check my sister's phone to re-read all their chats and I didn't like what I saw actually but I'm still playing matured.
Now this whole issue has blown up to their alumni whatsapp group where all her mates were accusing her of leaving her ex BF just because she found a greener grass.. All those type of talk.

My question now is that... Should I overlook her past and all these drama and proceed with my plans? Can I trust her with her

Please I need advise from matured minds only .

Cc lalasticl.ala
Prettythicksme

Well, it is d choice of special people 2 serve. If they desire 2 experience d program, they cannot be restrained, as long as such policy has not been implemented. Many special persons who graduated frm higher institutions have gone and are still going 4 service.
However, I think d stress involved in d program should be reduced 4 dem. D 3 weeks orientation camp 4 instance,I heard dat most NYSC camps are in a bad State which may make survival difficult 4 disabled Corpers.

ireneidiva:
That person should be exempted from service.

Chimaritoponcho:
thanks maam am an upcoming artiste

U don get single?

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Laff wan kill me for here o

Seriously guys,u are jst yabbing d op 2 make d thread lively, and it worked perfectly.
To me,d Op slightly resembles Davido. And guy who asked if he resembles Badoo *cant remember his moniker * truly did.
@Op, everybody wants 2 associate wit success. Like some pple said,if Davido were 2 be an agbero or area boy,wld u av d confidence 2 create dis thread?
Moral of d lesson-work hard 4 ur own success so dat youngsters will also be proud 2 post ur pictures and ask d same question in d future "do I really look like Chimaritoponcho?"
U fit get fine babes wey go dey tatoo ur name on dier boobs sef,just like they are doing 4 Davido.#my2koboadvice

4 both engagement n white wedding,70-100k shud be enuf.just make ur parent's parlour ur hall n ur papa compound ur reception area.it's cool 4 a lowkey

twibs:
Your mouth kinda look like you had surgery.

I don't know whether dat's a compliment,an insult or a guess.But either way, I see u. Btw,I didn't av a surgery.dat's natural. Take care

Aiit

kirchofff:
am fine ma'am

Abi na.so what's up? Hope u are gud?

kirchofff:
hmm dats a nice gesture

kirchofff:
I saw u peeping.....so what's good dear

I'm good and fly.wht abt u?
Peeping?yeah yeah,just tryna figure out hw 2 help d Op solve his problem

kirchofff:
cho25bc

Yes?u called me?can I help u?

UI. Thanks anyway

Welcomme:
I wont advice u to go alone preferably u go with someone. I am very sure there is special treatment for those with disability. Cheers! Btw, which skul did u graduate from?

Happy new year scentmarl

scentmarlc:


Am short of words:
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First I would like to use this medium to appreciate everyone that has one way or the other contributed to the growth of our dear forum, Nairaland. I pray may we continue to grow in leaps and bound come 2016. Amen.

Special Appreciation goes to AMINAT508 and CHERLENE . True friends On and Offline to the core. Am grateful for your time, your listening ear and benevolence. May God in his mercy keep our friendship way beyond 2016. Amen.

I am also grateful to everyone who stood by me during the MR NAIRALAND contest, wayback in june. I appreciate Tunnamania11 (Campaign Manager), Adeh39 (My backbone) ... They were 101% there for me all through. I love you guyz. All my Kalakuta Republicans ( Kingtom kinglekan erukumakanaki diddydiva mzmayD twaci tohpahz stephenqueen mzlaurel orijin101 neroz doughyenbae omavik and so many more) I appreciate you for your time, patience and indulgence. May God be with you. Amen.

Also, I appreciate all my crew members for the NAIRA AWARDS, without you guyz, I am nothing. For the little time we spent brainstorming, I learnt a lot from you. ( Wristbangle, tosyne2much, erad, midehi, mhizkel, flow1759, lanicky, dygeasy, luxanne, czar, tunnamania11, adeh39, kinglekan and so many more). Glad to work with you guyz. I hope 2016 is gonna be our year of perfect Actulization.

Shout out to sile12, explorer12, barcanista, lalasticlala, omotayor123, tosyne2much, prettythicksme, tashaamania , vizkiz, cutehector, lekinz, tomfrench, agarawu23, ladyboss1, jollyjoy, vhema, mirexx, dahprech, oyind17, cho25bc, teempakguy, richiedinho, ...


Merry xmas in advance.

SCENT

Welcomme:
d disability

Wheelchair bound or clutches users

Welcomme:
Specify. No offence meant pls

What shud I specify?

I'm really enjoying dis thread becos it's educative. Pls I'm thinking of dis combination,Lagos,Enugu,Kaduna and a/ibom.I guess I'm making a wise choice.Pls I also want 2 ask, as a special person living with disability, is der any special attention 4 dem while on service? I mean does NYSC av special measures put in place 2 make life easy dem while on service? Urgent answers needed pls

Dis is my dream job.I must do dis job when I travel out

Explorers:
1. Professional snugglers.


Professional snugglers can actually make up to $60 per hour. While this job kind of sounds a little like prostitution, there is no sex involved, just snuggling. The job description is pretty self-explanatory. Their task is to cuddle with their clients who might be lonely, sad, or just looking for human touch and connection. And while it certainly takes a special person to want to do this job, that special person makes big bucks, up to $124,000, for basically lying around all day long.

I don't believe dis allegation. It looked staged and set up 2 drag Olamide's name into d mud. How did he get into d green room? Who was dere when he entered d room? What did he use 2 smash d glass? Why was he not stopped wen he was breaking d items in d room?or did he do it in silence? Most people saw him walk out of d Headies' auditorium and went straight outside with his crew,so when did he changed route and sneaked into d room 2 commit dis crime?
If diz questions cannot be answered,den we shud not be quick 2 judge. Pictures or video of him smashing things shud av been used 2 back up d accusation. With his agrressive show-off at d Headies, he had stepped on toes of both d organizers and Don jazzy,so these pple may be behind all diz allegations 2 get back @ him. Blackmail is easy when u want 2 get back @ ur foes. I don't think dat Olamide could be responsible 4 all diz crimes,beating up a fan and destroying things,all becos of award?I've never heard of him involving himself in violence before,why must it be now? Headies' organizers shud prove dis beyond reasonable doubt dat he really did dis,den I will believe dis story

Dis is annoying. Who does dis trash on a wedding day? Who hired d ballet dancer and why must she gv d groom a lapdance? Dat was hw d wife of d best man whose hubby grabbed d butt of d bride came out 2 say dat d instruction was given by d photographer. What kind of entertainers do pple invite 4 events diz days? She shud av encouraged d wife d 2 do d laptdance 4 her groom herself.
On a 2nd thot,maybe d dancer was d groom's ex,so she's indirectly passing across a mesg 2 both of dem dat she's nt done yet wit her ex lover.

Hmmm,if he has all d qualities I want in a man,why not?

AdaNri1:
would you date a midget then?

Besides, short men are also human beings too

Hmmm,if he has all d qualities I want in a man,why not?

AdaNri1:
would you date a midget then?

Hmmm...does dat mean dat short people are not sexually attractive?

Help me ask dem o. Shameless daughters of some mothers who had failed in dier duties 2 raise a children of virtue.
For dier minds now they've become celebrities becos they had a child each 4 d boys. Why can't they work had enuf and make gud names for demselves rather than being stars of immorality.

Zambux:
Dey should go and get and degree and become prominent women prolly after that would know


Abi wen baby mama turn profession