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And which scenes in the movie did u have in mind ??

Antonio Banderas and Angelina Jolie in Original Sins.. 

Well..

I try to be...


Saint.

well.. depends on how I'm feeling the article...


Saint.

Most definitely...

Remember I pm'ed you asking for you to send me that stylz plus song, but u said u didnt know how..

@ Anugirl..

My 'non de guerre' is Simon..

For all my names, pm me later..

ps.. are u back?

@Kazey..

E be like say I don jamm QC for here oh...

@ JustMoi...

I know you're command of english is as good as mine.. why then did you deliberately ingore the "IF" parts of my sentence you highlighted..
the "IF" written there deliberately points to the fact that the hypothetical contact that you constantly allude to DID NOT HAPPEN...

And when I was refering to circumstances or situation, I obviously wasn't refering to rape.. In civilized societies, we don't go to parties or nightclubs with the intent of raping women.. we go there to hang-out and have a good time.. [Me thinks you've been in the US for too long.. even when I was in the US, things weren't that bad, that if a guy and babe met in a club or wherever, the first thing that would jump to the girls mind is that the man was a potential rapist..  ]


@ Everyone..

I wonder if you've ever fallen to this situation before..

You plan a night out with your sweeter half, and at the last moment, she asks you if her friend [or sister possibly, but for this narration, let's just call her a friend] could accompany you guys out.. You being the 'gentleman' that you are, obviously don't refuse.. The next thing is that you now find yourself having to play host between your two guests, and divide your attentions between your babe and her friend.. [when the original plan was to just chill out with your baby-boo..]..
Then comes along a rather nice man [a gentleman.. mind you, not a rapist nor a serial killer..], and he offers to take your babes friend off your hands for a while.. Isn't this a Godsend, permitting you to get the evening back on track to your original plan.. ??

While the above is just a story off the top of my head, it's a situation I've been in time and time again.. on both sides of the frence... and the nights haven't ended up in disasters.. You can meet good people in places like that.. such environs aren't meant to be the sole hideouts for criminals, and rapists and the insane.. 


ps... I'm not in London.. would be nice if you could get some of ur facts right..

@ Seun..

I really wish it was possible to provide you with further information, since you seem to doubt not only my ability to relate all the facts as clearly as possible, but also my integrity in telling you the situation as it is... "pure and unadulterated".. Or maybe just my objectivity in this situation.. [and maybe under different circumstances or situations, this may be a reasonable assumption on your part..]  But, unless you want me to fabricate some more information, there's nothing more I can add.. this is the situation as clearly as it happened.. I haven't left anything out, neither have I added to the story...

If she was there when I asked her boyfriend or if she had been nearby to "overhear" the conversation, then maybe she may be justified in taking ooffense. or whatever her reaction to the situation would have been.. but she wasn't.. and as I have stated earlier, there was no interaction between me and her.. Just a conversation between me and her boyfriend..

@ Justmoi..

I get the point totally.. And I hear you loud and clear.. if I may be so bold, I would put it to you that you are the one missing the point..

The issue here is not whether or not I wanted to dance with the girl.. or whether or not I asked for her bboyfriend'sconsent before approaching the girl for a dance.. but why a girl would brush up on a fellow she's never met before and then start acting up, trying to cause/create a scene..

Say, hypothetically I had actually asked her, then maybe her actions may be justified.. [telling a guy off that she doesn't want to have any interactions with..] But like I've stated several times before now, me and the girl had no contact or communication before that incident what so ever.. And she couldn't have "overheard the conversation between me and her boyfriend, 'because she wwasn'tthere..

But lest we loose the plot here, the issue I'm putting across to you is this..

"Is it acceptable or correct for a girl to brush up on a guy she's never met before, and then act up... regardless or the situation or circumstances.. ".. would it have been any different if it had happened in a bus or a train or walking down a  crowded corridor.. or at a party..

Have we so become so base that civility has now been thrown out of the window..??

And.. to give answers to the other issues/points you raised...

1. I don't know the establishments you may be used to hanging out in.. or if you are an individual who indulges in an active night life [and goes to nightclubs or discotheques].. but most night clubs I've been to hardly have single girls coming by themselves.. more often than not, they are usually part of a group of friends.. [most of the time you come across a single lady, she's more often than not of questionable virtue.. ]..

2. Now the fact that she may be there as part of a group also doesn't forclude her from having her own fun, if she's so disposed.. I figure it's all tied down to the individual involved.. I have made several acquaintances through this means, so there's nothing unusual in this..

3. You do have a point in that you just can't expect a girl  to dance with you if she's not interested.. but I believe that she has to be asked first.. That I believe falls into the bracket of "common sense"... If possibly she had overheard the conversation between her boyfriend and myself, it is possible that based on what she could have heard or believed she heard, she may or may not take offense at the fact that a 'strange' guy asked her boyfriend for a dance with her.. but believe me.. even someone with a directional mike coucouldn'tve overheard the conversation.. because the music was loud.. definitely too loud for someone to overhear conversations between people and definitely when one isn't in the vicinity in the first place..

I know you're only playing advocate here.. and trying to see things from the lady's perspective.. [you're a lady yourself, after all.. and I'd expect nothing less than solidarity amongst ladies..]

But to be frank, does the fact that a lady gets offended or displeased by a conversation that was not directed torwards her [or should I say not had with her] mean that she should now throw civility out of the window
A simple "No, thank you.. " solves a lot of problems in the world..

Let's take this in a different direction..
My facts may not be spot on, 'because I can't recollect all the facts off head.. but some months ago.. in the House of Representatives, a female House of Reps member slapped a male colleague over an incident.. (this was in the news).. She alleged that she was stressed, under duress after a bereavement, and when the incident occurred between them her first reaction was to slap the male fellow.. but is this acceptable behbehavior

To cap this all.. My only request is: "Ladies.. Be Civil... It doesn't subtract from your personality.. "



Saint..

@Just Moi...

Let's say, for example, that I was built like Arnold Schwazzennegger.. and that I had a death wish, then yes, I'd subscribe to your recommendation of walking up to the guy and chancing the shit out of him..

But alas, I am not.. and besides, we live in a civilized society.. if the guy had said "HELL NO! ! !" or something along those lines, then I'd have let them be.. as it was, guys have a certain way they interact with themselves, and there was no harm done in communicating my mindset with the guy.. [that's why guys find it easier to get along with themselves than babes do..].. And as it went, the guy was not adverse to my approach.. [hell, it would have been better than walking up to the girl and asking her, trying to disrespect his presence.. or dont u think so ]

As it went, there was no prior interaction with the girl.. no communication, no talking, no asking and being rebuffed.. nothing..

So, on what basis would she have to "act the fool..."...

And I'm sure guys in the Nairaland forum can bear me out.. Girls are very prone to this kind of behaviour... [I'm sure a survey of guys who have experienced similar incidents would be quite revealing.. Seun, are u willing to take up the gauntlet.. ]

The bottom line is, what right does a girl have to "act the fool"?? .. [to quote a favourite rapper of mine.. Ludacris.. ]

If  I had danced, it would have been even better..

there was NO interaction with the girl in question... 

One funny thing happened to me a couple of hours ago.

I went clubbing with a friend of mine, two single guys just planning to hang out for a while. We got to the club, and after a while, and a few drinks, met a guy who was obviously having a good time with some chicks. I eventually got talking with the guy (he's from Tanzania, by the way) and informed him that if he wouldn't mind, I'd like to have a dance with his girlfriend, to which he consented.

A while later, the girl brushes against me (on some pretext) while I was talking to the guy, and then starts to shout at me: "don't touch me! I said don't touch me!" (this is without me having laid a finger on her).

If not for the fact that I found the situation very comical, I would have been quite offended by her 'stupid' behaviour.

Why do girls behave like this?

(Seun, maybe this is a topic for the "Romance" section.. but you know best )

My People...

I was just having a chat with Kenya on places in Nigeria  that would be interesting to visit..

I have been to a couple of cities, and would like to hear your comments or suggestions about places that would be worth while... Anything or place that comes to mind.. or that would be a memorable place to visit..

Some places I've been to are..

1. ViewPoint at Abraka, Delta state..

2. Nike Lake, Enugu...

3. Yankari Game Reserve.. and the Wiki Natural Springs.. Bauchi

4. Eleko Beach, Near Epe, Lagos..

5. Takwa Bay, also Lagos.

6. Calabar City...

7. Port Harcourt City.. [the best night life outside Lagos..  ]


Places I would like to get to...

1. Oguta Lake, in Imo state..

2. Obudu Ranch.. [I believe this is currently names the Protea Hotel Resort]


So... People.. please help me out..

5 mins is even a generous estimate self... 

more like 30 seconds..

5 seconds to make a "split-second" decision... and the remaining 25 to maneuver his way into the attack...

Well..

depends on how much resources are available at your disposal, as well as how much time you have or can allocate for that kind of trip...

I'm sure Seun [you may also seek a translation from him on his own name... ] could either compile a list of places that would be note worthy to visit.. or alternatively, create a blog on places to visit in Nigeria....

I used to be a bit of a traveller myself... and have been to most of the major regions in Nigeria... so I could supply a couple of names, as well as my impressions of them when I visited..

Let me take a stab....

Folukemi .... I believe this can be "elongated" to: "Fi Oluwa Ke Mi".. which would mean - "Use the Lord to Pet me" or look after me rather..

Folasade... this I need some help with.. but I'd say "Using wealth to glorify the Crown" of something..

I'm no expert.. I'd defer to the forum to provide more exact translations.. I know my limitations..


Saint.

I'd need some help on this one...

People ...... HELP ! ! !

Well... truthfully...

I've never been there.. I've lived in Boston a while ago, hence I can imagine the layout of Minnie... and the "Metro" was a give-away..

The weather being un-predictable.. well, I guess that comes with the territory.. maybe you'd like to visit Nigeria some time..

Well..

If I may ask...

From a lady's perspective, what would be the most appropriate way for a guy who's never met you [and is most probably stunned and over-whelmed by you] to approach you??... what would you ladies appreciate ?? ..

cool..

What is the weather there like right now...
And what is the school like.. from the name I guess it must be like down town or in the city center..

Well..

One is my sister's name... and the second is one I intend to give my first daughter...

which university would that be at ?? [just curious... I hope you don't mind.. ]