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Bro..

Okro na Okro.. Vegetable na vegetable..

Pinky:
morning peeps.. .am just waking up.....talking about NYSC
I was opportuned to be posted to somewhere i work my ass out...i work 12hrs a day, doing morning & night duties.... the advantage of the stressful work is that it has stretched me beyond my limit & increased my tolerance rate to 96%. & my only compensation apart from the meager salary is the cossy crib the company gave me...
Am serving in Benin.. it's a town of FUN but. ..with two big problems... floods & thieves...living here can be hell as much fun has it's gat

NYSC gave me opportunities to meet people, great & small.... but come to think of it, if am to account for this last one year, i will do so 45%....
the stupid allowance in the NYSC scheme is lil or nothing to Write home about, employers of Corp members also take advantage of U, by paying lil or nothing.
I am looking forward to the day NYSC Scheme will be scrapped...

Mizz Pink..

If I may ask, where in Benin are u serving??

The camps were not selected for your personal comfort...

U.. Uchechi...

V... Voke......

CimonJorr:
[quote author=nike4luv link=topic=828.msg14677#msg14677 date=1121765392]yea..but she was unfaithful to you..how can you deal wit that..it makes you feel impotent innit..shows that she gets wot you don't offer herfrom sum1 else..

Is that how you view life?? ...

[Just curious... ][/quote]

nike4luv:
Is that how you view life?? ...

[Just curious... ]

i just say it how it is CJ

Baby girl...

When you've walked these streets before, you kind of know the terrain.. and you know that some times it's not your fault when things don't happen according to plan.. I know I told myself I wasn't going to discuss this.. [because it still hurts when I think of it.. ] but when you're in love, and there's nothing in the world you wouldn't do for that person, and you experience that kind of betrayal... there's no amount of words that can take away the pain.. you analyse the situation in your head constantly.. over and over again.. [like the words of that Nelly/Tim McGraw song.. ].. and you constantly come to the conclusion that you really did no wrong.. and it hurts.. other people outside the relationship.. your friends.. her friends.. don't seem to understand why things went that way.. and you know you're a better person that the person she left you to be with.. but you hold you head high because  you believe.. no.. you know that given another opportunity, there's nothing you could change that would make things better.. you leave matters, knowing you gave it your best shot.. and leave the rest to God..

But guess what...

It Still Hurts..... 

Chatterbox sounds better...

Halima..

When you say courtship.. are u implying that the relationship is already on??

I believe there's a difference between the kind of girl one would want to marry, and the kind of girl one would want to have fun with..

If you can get both in the same place [or in the same person rather].. then you are blessed for life...

Not every girl would a guy want to "take home to mama"... [if u get my drift.. ]

how do you know which topics just come into the forum?

would they all be under the "chatterbox" section??

There's nothing wrong with Fufu...

It's one of the lesser appreciated meals... and is found all over the southern part of our dear country.. from Calabar down to Badagry...

If you want a recommendation, try Maduako near Slaughter b/s in PH..
Fufu and Native soup....

YW ??

Gentlemen... Ladies...  Peeps in the house...

Make una hear well well..

In posts all over Nairaland, we here of the great SIN of generalization.. And yet, here we are at the starting blocks all over again...

First of all, I would like to say that I find the use of the word DOMESTICATING very degrading and denigrating... Men are not animals.. and we shouldnt be addressed as such.. if it had been women which had been the subject of a post of this nature, we would have been hearing fire and brime-stone about our "sexist" comments and statements...

Secondly, the fact that some men choose not to indulge in house chores doesn't make it a generality..

It would be instructive and enlightening for the men in the house who do not subscribe to doing the house chores to come forth and declare in their respective house holds what the current women population is.. how many females they are currently living with or were living with at the time they chose not to do the house chores.. [I'm sure these men aren't bachelors.. or even if they are, possibly have female younger ones living with them..]

As for me, I have neither had problems with keeping my house clean or with doing my own cooking.. My house is my palace, and I treat it as such.. I do not have to wait for a woman to come to my house to keep it in the state I'm acustomed to..

In approaching a topic like this, one should add a reasonable degree of balance.. In the traditional african society of way back, the "traditional" role of the man was as bread winner, and of the woman was as "home maker"... This was the norm then, and was the way children were brought up to respect and emulate.. the fact that modern society has evolved to the point where women now have more active roles in the family, does not make the traditions to now become irrelevant.. or that they should be done away with..

That having been said.. very few children get raised without some form of home training.. depending on one's circumstances in life, that would range from the basics of personal hygiene and home making to more complex tasks as cooking.. I'm very certaint that no Nigerian child was raised without the knowledge of the basics in the kitchen.. [otherwise they'd starve.. ].. and even the one who didnt have the opportunity to hone these skills at home would have done so at their various tertiary institutions.. [even if it meant using a ring boiler to make tea for breakfast or eba... ]

These skills don't just die away.. they are latent.. Hence every man has a certaint facility around the house.. whether they choose to display this is their own choice.. but most certaintly, men are not animals to be "domesticated"...


My two kobo...


Saint...

Bro..

It's better to put things straight, when given the opportunity...

It would be nice for Mizz Pink to explain how one can have an intimate relationship without intimacy... ??

sorry oh Mizz Pink..

But here I must disagree...

Like you guys have all found out one way or the other, it's all a matter of perspecitive..

I guess, one should start with the original intent of the NYSC program..

Is it supposed to be a year spent to acquire professional experience??..
The answer is NO...

Is it supposed to be a year spent to get to know ur country and it's people better??..
The answer is YES...

Is it supposed to be a year spent in the service of your country??..
The answer is YES...

Is it supposed to be a year spent to toughen you up??...
The answer is YES...

Is it a bloody waste of time??..
The answer is MAYBE... [If you allow it to be..]


The NYSC is a period of adjustment.. Not a period meant for you to get going in the job market.. Not a period meant for you to make money.. Just a period for one to get out of the school mentality, and realise that the country, and the world at large.. is a bigger place than you and me.. A period meant for you to adjust to the fact that you're bound to meet people from different places, with different social values and belief.. different customs and practises..

And to adapt to whichever situation you meet yourself..

If it were overseas, it would have been a voluntary program or something.. A lot of countries have similar programs[Germany, Isreal, etc..], and even more have tried to emulate the Nigerian model.. [there have been publications on this.. ]

By Nigerian Law, it is compulsory for all Nigerian Graduates.. Without it, you are not supposed to be employable..

The bottom line is how you spend the time and opportunity you are given.. When you enter the real world [for those who are still living in the comfort zone, or are yet to make the transition to the "reality" that they are now more responsible for their own doings..] one tends to appreciate the fact that they are more or less directly in charge of their lives.. And more accountable for their actions.. and survival..

One thing you'll find in common is that no Ex-Corps member has regrets of the time they've spent during their service year.. They only have regrets for not having accomplished more.. maybe in professional terms or financial terms [or otherwise]..
But they don't regret the experiences they've had, or the people and cultures they've come into contact with.. or the places they've been opportuned to visit [which on a very good day they'd have no opportunity to visit...

So, let's give the concept it's due.. No matter how poorly it's been executed..



My two kobo...

Saint...

Even without the "gutter" atmosphere...

One definitely gets nostalgic about sitting down with a plate of dry fish pepper soup and a bottle of star... or a plate of Nkwobi [just in case the pepper soup is not available..]

Socializing and sololloquizing with people you've never met before in your life.. all under the umbrella of "beer palour gist"...

Asking *or torturing.. rather* Mama Chi Chi for that plate of hot "tortoise"...

[I miss them dayz... I miss the fun... ]

Sorry oh...

But some things are impossible to duplicate...

It's the atmosphere...

Actually..

Cape Verde is off the coast of Africa, near the Senegal / Gambia... [I believe they do regard themselves as Africans.. and Cape Verdians.. ]

And yes... they have Beautiful People...

in this case, I'll defer to mizz pink.. she took the words right out of my mouth..

And CV is ?

And Eric is ? [what to you??]

And you are in what part of the UK?? ?

Bro...

2 Questions...

1. You say that she complains that you don't have enough time for her [as a result of work..].. What happens when things get worse.. ie.. when the "job" demands get more.. and you don't even have enough time for yourself.

2. WHY exactly do you love this girl.. [you haven't really said much..] Is this someone you're planning on settling down with?..

Now, why did I ask these questions..

Because, frankly.. someone who can't accept you for who you are right now.. certaintly won't accept you for who you are in future..
You're better off with someone who'll take you for who you are..



Saint.

nike4luv:
yea..but she was unfaithful to you..how can you deal wit that..it makes you feel impotent innit..shows that she gets wot you don't offer herfrom sum1 else..

Is that how you view life?? ...

[Just curious... ]

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