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Nairalanders always make a big deal out of nothing.

Mind your freaking business.

Every 'peaceful' home must not be what you think it should be. Who died and made you the judge of what ideal couples should be like?
What works for A should not necessarily work for B. Temperaments differ. Some females are more assertive than others and some males are more assertive than others.
If anyone finds a partner who complements them very well and they are happy together, who the fvck are you to say it shouldn't be so?

You displaying such high handed know-it-allism because you're the god that decides how people should relate with their spouses?

Silly.

Acidosis:
The lady I swiftly insulted knows I have a valid reason. She's always on all threads preaching are so called vegetable ideology. She's always eager to tell us how her husband treat her like a KING, I mean when people come to seek advice, rather than be objective, she goes about acting like a SHE-husband.

If this pathetic trend is not checked, she'll destroy many peaceful homes especially those who are currently submissive and respectful to their husbands.

I have unregistered friends who come here to read family related stories and I won't allow some faceless HE-mamas destroy their peaceful homes.

Bollinger:
Wait, what? Something simple ke? You better quit playing around and send my share to 101 Chicago Avenue. Sambisa forest, Lagos. Zip code 71459.

Hehehehe

[b]Op there was nothing right about what you did. It was underhanded and criminal. You weren't being a good friend for doing that as you could have ended up landing your friend in jail with you.

If you wanted to be a good friend, you should have kept insisting he tells her to go with him for a test or the relationship will be over. Let it be his principle. One she either agree to or quit the relationship. With her continuous refusal, he's have a solid ground to stand on in breaking the relationship without feeling like her let her go for something he wasn't sure of. Because at least then he'd be sure she was hiding something.

I can't believe adults did this. Where was your brain when you were doing it? It's like something kindergarteners would do when mommy is not at home.

These foolish people patting you on the back on this thread mean to tell me that it's okay for people to go about drugging others in order to find out their HIV status if they don't agree to go testing with them?
Why is this site full of m0ronic retardz like this? Lord have mercy

You OP and your friend deserve a cell in kirikiri.
Foolish human beings.

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byvan03:
Sting her like scorpion and be the first to invite CNN with lots of tears in your eyes. E get as dem dey take deal with such people, she go fear fear.

Beev!

Bollinger:
Good you had a safe trip. So, what are we having for new year? I love my foods spicy.

Yes good trip.
Stressful too. Wish I hadn't. The aim was to relax and vacay a bit but that didn't happen.

New year's will be something simple the way I'm seeing it for now

Na so the thing pain you reach?
Why not go get your own wife and be the super man in control as you wish. And stop hating on other people who run their own homes differently.
I didn't see her mentioning any of you in her post.
Why the hate?
If her husband loves the way she runs things and lets her do it, how's that any of your business.

Must every one be like you ego-driven insecure toads who's only validation in life is how well they are able to present an image of pseudo-alphaism?

So fvcking irritating.

So Xtupid.

Y'all are the ones who need to go get lives and stop hyperventilating over other people's own.

Acidosis:
What a nice husband. He's as soft as a vegetable; as dull as a duck.


Your evil and witchcraft plans to turn Nairaland women into witches via your self-destructive pseudo-online-non-existent personality stinks.


Get a life and stop this demonic evangelism. Your husband is either too busy shinning other Congos out there or he just don't care about you. Don't get it wrong, giving you the power to control the house and leaving/ignoring you like you're nonexistent are two irredeemable plaque any woman can ever face!

Get a life madam e-boss.

Aww
Kpele.

I traveled for christmas o. Just got back yesterday. So I didn't do any christmas cooking.

Bollinger:
I guess basically the same way you would any other veggie. The only difference i think is when after you wash it, it becomes slick-like which makes the finished product creamy to taste. Sounds weird but it's freaking delicious.

P.s where is cococandy? Been expecting a bombardment of gut wrenching delicacies this christmas, but nothing. Disappointing.

They are guilty

amtheone:
Candy, its like u dont undastand what woged is driving at. She is only trying to help by pointing out some of those avoidable mistakes.

I tell u, you would not want to experience what those single ladies of marriageable age are going tru. Its not funny at all. You may see them puting up as though they dont care, but its a big lie.

Look around you candy, how many women of 50yrs of age are hapily being single.

So this, is good for those who are almost at the point of making the same mistakes made by their "seniors"

johnson232:
i know considerable number of ladies do wet their pillows, i can validate this...
but what i don't know is if it is every night....
but they sure do wet their pillows....

There's goes proof to what's I'm saying.
How do you know all this?
You're part of the reasons people treat single women like they have an illness that needs to be cured.

Mtchew.

Here's another thread on the same issue in a matter of hours.
https://www.nairaland.com/2830491/7-obstacles-might-kept-some#41460803

Y'all need to go get lives and leave single women alone.

johnson232:
i wouldn't want to say every woman, though happenings around presuppose it, but i can't substantiate it...

but i know most women or lets just say most humans, subscribe to the suffering and smiling life plan....

oh really

johnson232:
most married women are suffering and smiling na, which fact u dey find again?

the single ladies are lonely and depressed.....

Lol. Every woman is unhappy I guess.

If you're married, you have to be suffering and smiling for anyone to believe you.

And if you're single, you must be wetting your pillows every night for a man. That's why everyone feels obliged to offer single ladies unsolicited advice on how to catch and keep a man to reduce their misery.

Is 'singleness' a disease?
All this patronizing/condescending attitude towards single ladies needs to stop abeg.
Why the focus on them?

mnairaland:
I find this ur qustion funny. A man washg his wife pants.In my own weird opinion, that is no longer a husband.That qualify for a house help.

But he can wash her cloths so What's the big deal if he includes the underwear?
Can someone genuinely tell me what's up with the discrimination between clothes and underwear.

agarawu23:
I am not married. I am a single dad.

Don't worry, when you marry you'll wash more than panties even.

If you got married in church I'm assuming your vows included "I agree to accept children from the lord" and you said "I do".
Just judge yourself if what you're doing is alright.

Why not talk to him about relocating to come meet you or you go meet him. Once you start living together, who knows you may most likely begin to love him. The distance is the biggest barrier in your marriage. And ever since you got married you guys haven't got to know each other that well. How can you love him.
Did you guys even have a plan before now. Or was it for him to come back get you pregnant and go back to his base while you live as a single mom seeing him only once a year?

Y'all need to talk about how you intend to go about building a family. Getting pregnant is just the beginning of it. There's so much more.

Meanwhile do all you can to obtain his forgiveness because one can't blame him now if he doesn't trust you or feels you're not in with him for the long haul.

Lol. I didn't even read yours before I typed mine.
E go hard to see an African dude willing to consider vasectomy at a relatively young age.


And you're right he's not considering this with a clear head. Just out of fear.

damiso:
I guess he actually meant vasectomy. Castration harsh naa

Its actually a safe birth control method but like Tubal Ligation i.e. tying of tubes or female surgical sterilization its not very popular among black people. Even if a person has 6 children there is that belief that something can still happen and you might need one more

I remember my mum almost having a fit when I mentioned that I was actually considering it( tying my tubes)

Its a decision that needs to be taken with a clear head though so maybe you both need a little more time to think it through.

byvan03:
That's very likely, the lady misunderstood the man . She should be happy her husband doesn't mind being the nipped one .

Exactly.
Many men (especially African men) wouldn't agree to that because it's not very popular among us and also sounds emasculating to them.

Which married women are protesting this?

Where did you see them?

agarawu23:
OMG!!!

Cococandy, I hail your husband

I hail your wife too.

agarawu23:


Please don't tell me you typed that

Yes I typed it.
What's wrong with a man washing his wife's panties?
I can wash my man's underwear. And if I was a man, I Can do same for my woman.

Y'all are weird. In a very strange way.

byvan03:
Which one is castrate again? He should go for a vasectomy.

That's what I was about to ask too. Castrate ke

I guess the man probably means vasectomy but she's seeing it as castration.

Congrats dear OP.
Best wishes

agarawu23:
oga na small small e dey start jare, small time na the man go dey wash her pant

Free hand like?
Make oga say yes make she say no (continuously?)

if he washes her panties nko?
What's wrong with that?

Elliotwiz1:
No, I would just convey the necessary information to her.

okay

OP can you give examples of some of the things your friend's wife does. So we can know if she's really bad or he's overreacting because of his insecurities.

I wonder why no one ever asks:
'the father or the husband, who should come first in a woman's life?'

Na only una get parents. Mtchew.

Are you going to show her this thread?
Since you're asking for advice on her behalf.

Funny story.
But her reaction though. Pepper spray?. I'm sure it's not only the fart that was upsetting her.