₦airaland Forum

byvan03:
Cococandy help me deliver this to my Dil .

Thank you o.
Looks so delish!
Is that chicken or goat?

Useless boy. Sleeping around. Can't he stick to one of them?

Funny story

Really

She needs to eat

SMH

Nice pic. Fine woman

OP why not mind your business.
He is a grown man. Kilode?
If he doesn't want to marry, good for him.
Whatever specs he desires in a maid is also his concern as long as the maid is an adult and can't claim to have been manipulated into anything.

wwhitewitch:
awww!!!! the beauty queen finally replies, ure one of the most beautiful woman iv ever seen in my life

thank you

Ugomba:
is She a Nigerian or African American?

wwhitewitch:
cococandy is african American queen

Lol two of you.
First of all I'm a woman not a girl.
Thanks anyways for the compliment.

And I'm Nigerian.

African American ko.

thelish:
see romance ooo, this ur hubby nor be Africa man at all ooo. if not u should be kneeling to serve him this, or else he brother go provoke o.
happy new year love.

Lol

Happy new year sweetheart

vindisick:
cococandy you are very pretty

Thank you.

Chillisauce:
I was sure.
Yours is temporary though.
Hopefully

Lol @temporarily

Chillisauce:
That's first class. For those smaller planes going to African countries . No much diff between the first class and others diff is only the money and during disembarking.. the hostess will use their body as wedge to prevent the economy class disembarking before the biz class.

Na wa. That's a waste of money

Tenk you.

I see those women as really courageous and brave to hand over their entire lives to a husband like that knowing that any money he makes is 'his money' the house is 'his house' and you are tenant who can't be kicked out as if you were picked from the gutter. See people say "kick her out of your house" as if a grown woman isn't supposed to have something that belongs to her.
One can have a little peace of mind to be a SAHM here because you're protected to an extent if he starts behaving anyhow.

Onegai:
Personal choice. I'm at home right now with a baby, but now that she's 6 months, I've started putting out feelers to connect back to work. It's not really the money per se (we're doing okay) but I would like to keep busy and work on some projects of mine.

I know a lot of people say you can balance work and family, yeah but it's hard and one must suffer for the other (no-one is gonna pay you N500, 000 monthly and not demand your time at work). I heard of a lawyer who came home nightly to see her child tucked in bed for 2 days and on the 3rd, hubby locked the gates that morning. Child had been sick for the past 2 days but Nanny had been taking care of it and mum came home too tired to check. So all she would do was ask Nanny and Dad "is baby okay? " and peek into his room. Her husband got mad at the 3rd day and said she wouldn't leave the house till she ascertained for herself how her child was doing.

I've seen far too many parents chasing money to care for their kids. Here's the truth, in Nigeria you need money for healthcare but that's it. There's a price point for all other things (schooling, extracurricular etc). Those parents aren't chasing money for their kids, they're chasing money for themselves.

Nigeria is a tough place and it has taken the gentleness and kindness out of most Nigerians. I know so many well-educated couples abroad who the wife is now Suzy-Homemaker by choice and they're delighted but their counterparts in Nigeria would never dream of being a SAHM (because menfolk here will show her pepper). I'm not trying to bash, it's just the reality of what we saw our mothers go through: helpless to stop anything or any decision by any male in their family, powerless when he died because his family swooped in and they watched their kids become tenants in their father's house, begging for school fees.

One of my cousins tried being a SAHM, the day her husband decided to take a marital squabble to the next level, kicked his car and travelled to another state, leaving wife, 2 kids and entire household penniless and having to call her siblings to loan her N5, 000 to feed everyone, she wept in humiliation and swore that she was never going to do this again. Now sometimes she's too busy to be there 100% for her children and her husband dare not complain (he's very remorseful now that he's reaping the bitter fruit of an immature decision).

Go to the New Mothers thread in Health section, it seems almost weekly someone comes begging for help and advice on how to raise funds and do business and it's not that money is tight, it's usually that the man in their lives are using the fact that they have no financial standing to deal. with them (imagine having to submit a list and dutifully stand by someone's chair, whilst he childishly ignores you and watches tv. All because you want to buy diapers for your child).

Do I want to be a SAHM? Mostly. But I'm married to a Nigerian man and whilst he seems decent, trustworthy and loving, I'm too afraid to risk it. Too many horror stories and experiences.

The reason I always roll my eyes at all these threads preaching at women is that, if people were really serious about fixing Marriage, they'd talk to men. I'm yet to see how fixing any organizations starts from the followers (wife and children), not from the leaders (husband). But here we are.

Chillisauce:
Hello lingerie madams.
Hope the lingerie still dey size una abi na mama dash me now.

Cococandy cc

Mine are now too tight

My goodness!
I couldn't even finish the video.
What the heck is wrong with humans?
Why not refrain from marrying a person who already has kids if you can't stand the kids?

46yrs for this woman is too lenient IMO.
Jeez

I love that they are dressed in Their native attires

First class ko

Speechless

tottinova:
Can a woman do that to a child??

Yea? But a woman just did

I've already deleted the app anyways because the wahala started a log time ago.
I don't turn on my VPN. I also used to stream directly.
Whatever though. I've given up on it.

VickyRotex:
Oh yea. I think I'm experiencing same challenge. It took longer time to stream the movies yesterday and even at that it dint load them completely, felt it's the network so I dint bother trying again.

Also, Ive always known there are some movies that wont load if there is/are no peer(s) streaming it at that moment.

Do you turn on your VPN? Cos I dont, I just stream directly.

I reside in Montreal.

Onegai:
Did you file copyright documents at the Nigerian Association of copyrights protections? If not, I owe you on N0.50k!

Send me your account details so I can give you your kobo

i did o. Let me go find the paperwork. So you can pay me in dollars.

tottinova:
Because she don born pikin no mean sey she be woman oh!
26 year old is still a child and that's what you expect from a child

A 26 yr old woman a child?

lonelydora:
In as much as i condemn the woman's action, you can never tell what the kid did to push the woman to that level of anger.

Children can be very stubborn at times, go and watch the movie "ITORO". I am in no way applauding the woman's action. Different people's have different anger management.

A 9 yr old? Are kidding me!
What's wrong with people for goodness sake?
You guys will justify anything on this nairaland.
Tufiakwa

When you talk against people hiring kids as housemaids they will act as if you're saying something unheard of.

I hope that woman doesn't see the light of day in a very long time.
So infuriating.

VickyRotex:
Hello! I just tried it, it's working.

What error is yours displaying?

It just won't load the movies.
Where do you reside?

CFCfan:
Aww. I appreciate her concern and your support.
I saw first hand the need for a 4th mainland bridge, and the on-going light rail project. The traffic starts building up as early as 5:30am!!
I even heard that it's common for people to return to their homes from work around 10pm/11pm and wake up by 4am to prepare for work.
That's just madness.

You're welcome.


You heard right. I've a brother who works in a bank and same with his wife.
Whenever I visit them,I never see them until weekend. Up in the morning before you wake up back at night when you're asleep.
Lagos is hectic.

OP did the man tell you he was forced?
Maybe he enjoys it.
Face your life.
Don't assume he's being made to do it.

Sorry dear

shindarayo:
Cant stop crying ....was rily optimistic abt dis and cldnt wait to give my daughter a younger bro or sis.but sadly I had a miscarriage at just2months.dont know y it happened,d doctor too cant find a reasonable reason for it.but it happened,just woke up with crams and bleeding.,today has bn so sad for me,

PresVA:
My dear, it still happens ooo.. my roommate during my nysc told me women from their side (urhobo, Delta) serve their husbands food kneeling down. .

Na them sabi..

Each to their own I guess.

CFCman:
You no know? Also, u can't be carrying "Christian mothers' arms" and demand for a vacation in Hawaii.

abi? How you wan take bikini pics with Christian mother arms?