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This is really sad. Something that should have been a moment a joy of all of them came that of triple sorrow.

Poor guy. This kind of horrible news waiting for him when he gets back.



Baby dust to all expecting mothers. No bad news in your own cases. Amen.

thelish:
This one u r so inquisitive about d food, u wan cook am?

Yea. If I find out what the leaf is.

bukatyne:
Wicked and selfish

That he is

Zehner:
what you do is open a pack of extension and stuff it up with as much as you can. That's the trick people use. Don't mind them. Mtsheeeeeeew

Now I know for next time.

Akposy:
Hello guyz!!! Its bin a while........una just 4get me....... #crying#

Na you abandon us.

donephi:
This happens everyday if u must knw, it must not be verbally, ladies propose to guy by their actions this days, which is widely known by u and me.
Is not so conspicuous Becos it's not verbal but is very pronounced by actions.
Accept this change after all we are in the era of change. Change with it

Accept change? Hello meet the president of the club.


I'm only asking that you don't judge those who aren't flowing as fast as others too harshly.
I know ladies propose subtly all the time. But Subtle proposal and the direct one aren't exactly the same. It will take some time to transition into that seamlessly.

Pastor.

SMH.

OP no words for you.

donephi:
Traditional?
And his traditional mentality is only on this?
How come he has gone past tradition as regards his mode of dressing, shelter but this?
NB;
Men who see this as tradition are very POSSESIVE. Your opinion nor feelings are not valid in his life, you are only there to ans and not question his orders.

Things change one step at a time.
I wouldn't consider a man who holds onto such tradition of proposal as very possessive or inconsiderate about the lady's feelings. Why? Because it is still a very wide spread tradition in many parts of the world. You can't really call him a control freak for still holding onto traditions that happen around him everyday with few if any exceptions.

Where's he to get the idea that it's actually okay if he hasn't seen people do it without dying of emasculation?

But with time, as it happens with many things, it will become more common place and many of them will not find it odd or emasculating that the lady proposes.
Then you can judge him if you want

if the woman ever does, then that's because she sees him as not MAN enough and wants to carry his load for him.

I beg to disagree with this @ mizmycoli.

If she didn't think him man enough, she wouldn't want to marry him.
In fact she thinks he's manly enough that she doesn't want to wait and watch him to slip away.

A lady who does that must be seeing something very manly in the man that she's wiling to defy centuries-old tradition to make him hers. And we all know how hard going against tradition can be.

I'd be flattered out of my boots if I was the dude

Is this news?

He's a gold digger

freecocoa:
I think if he can be put off by such, then he is not the one. That's for women like myself anyways.

Probably for the best I guess.

donephi:
Are there men of such?
Well then there is more to it than just that.

Yea some people are particularly traditional.

Obviously it depends on the man in question.
After dating him for a while, you'd know if he's the type to be put off by such things or not.
Needless to say it would be foolhardy to propose to guy who you know isn't open to such.

But if you're not sure, then putting it out there is better than hanging in limbo without knowing where the relationship is going.

If he says no, what's left to do than move onto the next person.

Corruption is at our core and it hurts me that they do this collectively as a means to get income from poor travelers. Is there like no one among them that can say "this is wrong. Let's stop it."
Instead we will always look at other countries as if they are the cause of our problems while in truth we are the ones who treat each other like dirt.

That's how one was telling me that I'm not allowed to travel with more than two pieces braid hair extensions unless I pay for the rest. Something That's obviously a lie.how much is the thing that I'll even want to pay for it in order to pass. His goal was to make me pay or miss my flight.

Our wickedness to each other is epic.

firstEVA:
of course there are, the The Child's Right Act, The Criminal Code and a host of others.

oh really?

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Chillis:
See jobless niggas

After them come nairaland shout feminism.

Thankgod they are now chaneling their energy in something productive. Hunger Don mama their belly

These ones aren't Nairalanders

No, you quit.

There's no reward for mumuism.

DedeNkem:
Who're you to tell someone not to marry? Do you own them? Are they your property?
St*upid ancient tradition!

Obviously

Mtchew

firstEVA:
there is no law in Nigeria which legalizes paedophilia.

But there's non that outlaws it.

firstEVA:
a land where it's legal for two men to "love" each other is definitely a place where any thing weird, creepy and insane is allowed.

so adultery is also legal too.
Thanks for enlightening me.

One would say a land where old men can legally defile children in the name of marriage is a place where anything insane, creepy, weird and inhumane is allowed.

But it's my country so I guess it's ok.

firstEVA:
shocked about what sweerie? America is sodom and Ghomorah, anything goes,

how do you know this?

^^^^Let me google.

Where I wan find efik person

Thanks very much though.

jaybee3:
A degree in philosophy wouldn't enhance your chance of securing a better pay upon graduation

You already have an OND and will almost certainly be pushing above your weight with a 70k job

I'd say bone the philosophy degree for now

Exactly.

Philosophy in Nigeria? Or anywhere else for that matter. How lucrative is the degree?

No vex abeg, What is atama leaf?

tchidi:
Atama leaf
Water leaf
Stockfish/dried fish
Egusi (small cup)
Pepper and crayfish

Boil your meat/stockfish/dried fish till cooked and has little stock. Add washed/chopped waterleaf. Leave to boil for 3/4 mins, add pepper, crayfish and egusi, leave to boil for another 3 mins, add oil. When it has boiled 'round' like my mum will say, add the atama leaf. Boil for 5 mins, bring it down. Shikenan.


Disclaimer: this is my version o!! Incase one calabar person wan come para with me.

Chillis:
On Sunday you resume by 11am after service.
Wickedness.

Not like it bad for people to work such hours if they want to, but the small pay and no benefits and no security is discouraging.

Plus most importantly, no one to look into your case if you're harrassed. If you don't like the harassment, your only choice is to quit.
That's the most important part.

Chillis:
With the 20 tassan naira they pay as salary

Lol. And making you work all day 7days a week for it.

tchidi:
The stockfish was not finding it funny o!!

@dp, yea. If only we would look into the the mirror...

And YES!!! The ATAMA was WOW!!!!

so how did you finally make it. What and what did you use?

Idowuogbo:
There's boli yellow sef

I give up.

damiso:
>

but no be only her go wear am now. Noe we have to be looking for mustard shoe all over London

Oh ho. I no talk am.

When you find it, see how it will cost more than the same shoe of different color.