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Teempakguy:
we were saying the same thing all along. Yet you chose to directly contradict me by quoting my entire post and terming it wrong. How would you react?
Perhaps you need to learn how to convey your point without seeming confrontational.
You have a good day yourself.

craziebone:
I do not tink the out cry we are seeing here is genuine. I think it is coming from men so as to tell bully feminists that men have got issues to.

Anyway, i am not going to call it rape, really. But that i cannot call it rape doesn't mean it is not serious and shouldn't be dealt with.

The whole involves an older lady cajoling a boy into sexual activities with her. A boy, who by legal implications, cannot be seen as capable of consent. While there are no physical injuries (not all times a female victim of rape sustains a physical injury), there are orientational and possibly, psychological implications.

When you introduce that kind of child to sexual activites at that age, he may be liking it. Afterall, it is sweet and in the end, the lady gives him chin chin etc. But the truth again is...the only lesson he is learning is that sex is basically for pleasure and nothing more. When he grows up with this mentality and orientations, he tends to see the woman as nothing more than a person you can just have pleasure with. He sees sex as not something you have to be deeply and heartily involved with a woman before you can have it, but as someting you only need to have the urge in order to be able to have.

Also, these ladies only use these boys and when they are leaving him, it is always in a harsh way. Maybe the lady has found a guy she wants to settle with and have a meaningful relationship with, and when the boy comes around for the usual pleasure, she shouts him out and warns him she is not his mate. At that point, the boy feels psychologically rejected and he may begin to visit that hurt and pain on other ladies in diverse form, one of them is rape.

Teempakguy:
I'm sorry, what?
Anyway, you're right in that we will derail by attempting to debate on the subject.

However, I still maintain my stance. Just like in the cases of female rape, the best mode of action is one from the outside. Drawing the victim out is a hundred times better than hopelessly expecting the victim to take the initiative and come out. Which seems to be your suggested technique.

Teempakguy:
oh really?
And you don't realize that social configuration is a direct consequence of biological make up?
Do you think the Ego men possess just pops out of nowhere? No it doesn't. it is caused by testestorone. Which . . . the last time I remembered, was biological.
Men being bigger, stronger . . . okay, that was also social? Come on!
Men's brains are wired to feel only pleasure from sex. Whether forced or not. It's women and the effeminate ones that feel "used" or hurt. The guys here are just posting their stories here to spite female rape victims. Some can't even help themselves. They turn it into jokes.
And that is not a consequence of social whatever. It's directly biological.

The social traits you so dearly criticize do not pop out of nowhere. They're strictly consequences of biological make up.

On the issue of male rape, I strongly condemn it. It is morally wrong, and ruins a man's life. In some cases, these victims grow up and start raping women. So, it's just so bad.
However, the victims of this gender specific case find it hard to see themselves as victims. and even if they do, they are promptly waved away by their peers. So, the evil acts continue unabated. And nothing can be done by advising these men to come out as victims. That,s basically asking them to contradict their own personal values. Some people are too proud to play the victim. So, what can be done?
External action is what I advise. Parents should constantly keep up with their children. I've noticed the vigorous journalism on female rape nowadays. The same can be done for the male version.

But in the end, neither male nor female rape will ever be eradicated till the end of time. Kind of makes all of these rather pointless.

iPopAlomo:
no... it's easy to preach to guys to speak out... I've read all your comments... not once have you bashed a female rapist... but you advice us to teach younger male child to secure their sexuality... that's what the female folks do... and how well has it worked out for the girl child...?

Achilies:
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It has nothing to do with families.
There's this general mentality that men can not be raped by women.
but if a woman rape u, then u are very lucky.

I have seen a situation where a man was raped by a woman when he raised alarm, no body took him serious. Some people were even calling him fool and woman wrapper that he should have just relax and enjoy the rape.

iPopAlomo:
And the women that has been raping us...?

Sabrwahaqqo:
Well, let me just say this is how our society had been engineered , its how the world have been programmed to look at us and how we've been designed to look at ourselves as the masculine. The society believes we are alpha positives and expect us to live up to that title. It's saddening but what can be done? Nothing for now!
A typical nigga don't know or isn't trained to shed tears or show pains. Some of us don't even know how to beg for help when we are down emotionally financially or what have you.
We fear we would be tagged weak and effeminate, We fear we would be looked down upon, We don't want our ego to be marred and tarnished by yelling and crying out loud! That should be the responsibility of women our fathers have taught us. So we keep mute and keep struggling till we either die struggling or make a headway somehow.... That's what's up and I can't say its unfortunate cos it has its own merits and this the op has raised being an apparent de-merit that can't be wiped but could be guarded against if parents could wake up and gear up and be more watchful and protective of them wards. One can't be 100 percent but at least one's gotta give it a top shot!
Furthermore, training us to be big strong and resilient like the Iroko tree is not unokay just that we need to be thought how to express pain and discomfort when it comes so we could get help ASAP so we won't end up self-destroyed!
These I feel should be the campaign.

PAIX!

Teempakguy:
Okay, so I guess this means one thing . . . men and women can never be equal . . . like seriously, look at the number of guys here confessing to molestation, and it-s like we're sharing jokes.
In the end, the difference is biological. Our biological differences which grant men partial superiority.

Okay fine.I'm being a male chauvinist here. But come on! Give a guy a break Na. I've got this huge ego to maintain.

shaybebaby:
Thank you!

shaybebaby:
So someone has opened a thread about rape/ paedophilia perpetrated by females on young male children and it appears to me that the victims themselves are trivialising the horror of such happenstance.
How can the gravity be communicated when the victims themselves are making light of it rather than being honest about the emotional and psychological havoc it wreaked and is still wreaking in their lives. We know such experiences becomes part of what shapes their relationships with females in adulthood. Unsuspecting females then suffer as result of this and it continues, a vicious cycle where everyone loses in someway because someone took advantage of a child.
The same education about awareness given to female children should be given to boys as well. I have a son and I shudder to think such could happen, that woman/ man had better be prepared to forfeit future use of any sexual parts they have but they will be fvcked up by me.
Guys, don't make light of this issue, what is wrong is wrong irrespective of gender. If a young boy happens to read the jokes and questions that are being asked on here such as " did you enjoy it?", pray tell, how would ever feel comfortable to speak up when the same people of his gender are making light of his ordeal.

Decibel:
Don't you think that can lead to infidelity. Cc: Cococandy

moca:
Cococandy, u know what I did?
Used big pot to cook corn.
Then store away.
If I want to eat, take out some,add little water and microwave.

Now I hv small catarrh,thanks to corn

That place is not dark but I hv stopped.
D ruffians living yonder has made it their mandatory job to always come out and watch me exercise. So I don't feel safe anymore.

Heard they wanna put police post there. Till then.

How r u?

Roland17:
No..It was already separated and frozen but not canned..I don't eat canned food..

Roland17:
A mix of Beans, corn, ripened plantain and a side of smothered pork with gravy and fried pork..I love variety..the taste is heavenly..

SAMBARRY:
before I'm tagged lazy food is ready I make una con chop. Ngwanu kokokandy pass the serving spoon by the right and come with your plate however plantain is not yet ready o

SAMBARRY:
some wives need to sue their husband of watching too much super sports

Emmanuel1976:
thank you for the insight,

My wife and I are still going to investigate the IVF option

Janeesa:
and now you see why most nigerian-american girls dont want to marry nigerian men? you see it? I dont blame them.
polygamy is wrong.how are ppl gonna sit up there and say ohhhh i'm a christian i'm a child of god, and blah blah yet u beleieve ur not a real man if u dont have 2 or 3 wives or ur not having an affair, like c'mon, some ppl need to get it together like foreal, just b/c you do it dont mean its right, every action has consequences.

CalabarMan:
My question was clearly written and titled "Why look for trouble", sure infedelity may be applicable in some cases but not all. My question still stands, why do women especially the married one's go sniffing around when they can do practically little to stop the man if he is fooling around?

Jahblessme:
Nice discussion.
What would be the suggestion for black children who will most likely be the only black child in school,only black.child/children in the neighbourhood?

There are very very few black people around here,in my area we are the only ones and to be honest I'm quite worried about the kids.

How do I instill excellence and self confidence in them?A sense of identity too?

I am actively now considering shelling for school fees in the belief that it may bring some sort of advantage to my kids? Straight from primary down to Secondary.

Theres no grammar schools here as they believe segregating children according to ability is not right

I am afraid of the inevitable why is my hair this way why is my skin this way question.What are the answers to give?

Then what books to read to keep their sense of Africa alive? Should I actively seek out black people?

We have even considered moving to England just for the kids not to feel alone.The blacks we know here are just like 4 or 5 and live far away in other counties.


How to raise kids to excel in a place where they are the only African children essentially is the question.

himkers:
Girl, I don't know you, but I just fell in love with what you wrote up there.

patrickdarlins:
a lady during the radio call said ....the should be given 5yrs imprisonment...and someone called also and asked the lady...if eventually the guy was released after serving the 5yrs jail term...and still committed same crime again...what do u think can be done??...