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Na so life be Na.

babyosisi:
I worked for a man that disrespected all his employees
I wasn't even an employee,I was an independent contractor in the practice
This man spoke to people anyhow and there was a day we had a heated argument on the hallway and people expected me to walk out of the job like others had and I didn't.
I showed up the next day and did my job and worked at that job till we moved to another town
To his credit he did apologize to me afterwards but even if he didn't I would have stayed at that job
It was convenient
The hours were good and flexible
I loved my patients
It paid my bills too
Sometimes we just need to suck it up and keep on trucking,nothing comes easy.
Until you open up your own business,you have to work under someone and sometimes you just need to shove some things aside and keep at it.

Sadly I agree.

moca:
U eeh!

The bone there rattles(reason I don't walk well) all the tendons/ligaments/nerves r very weak. Then baby come lie inside there since months ago.
So can u see what I'm passing tru? And if it kicks, its still d same bone.

My dr and what I read online said that thhat bone is very sensitive and the hardest to realign should anything go wrong. That means crutches for life or till it heals.
It happened small during d last one but this one is something else.
Though it will get back in shape after delivery but for now, I have to pamper it.

And the worst thing is I have zero tolerance for pain.
Especially from there.

It's hubby that I pity honestly but that dude is strong.
Hope he will not break down one day cause d evidence is written all over him
At least two weeks break doing nothing.

May God help us

try and find ways to help him Na. Explore other options if you know what I mean

logica:
This is a Nollywood story right?

i wish

There must be something in the water that the Nigerian police force drinks.
What a disgusting set of human beings.

I do think roast beef is healthy. At least healthier than the non roast type.
I like mine roasted or grilled dry and peppery.

moca:
Sambarry don hear am today!
She don't know that folks here have doctorate degrees in food and nutrition

See bombardment!

I'm planning to bulk buy beef and smoke.
I usually do that b4.

I simply love that smoked thirst.

Hope it's healthy o.
But all along I've always believed it's a healthy choice.
Am I correct pls?

izuch:
The creation of woman was was the inception of the undoing of man, people have traced the etymology of the word "evil" to "eve" and drom evil you get "devil". For every man that commits sucide if you investigate properly a woman would/must have instigated him either passively or actively but what can we do, they are a necessary evil, God created them to bring a certain "balance" to a mans life.

Look atew

It's funny

But not all of them only apply to men.
Although I can relate to not being able to open all your jars by yourself
Frustrating mehn.

OP you can still make it right.
Reaally apologize to your girl. Tell her you want to be a part of her and baby's life. She was begging you when you left and you told her not to ever call you again. For now, she's still upset but I believe she would want to be wih you when the dust clears.
Keep in touch and contribute what little you can even if it is only for diapers. If she will let you,Visit and help her out too with some baby care when you can. Hold your baby and show her that you want want to be the father. But whatever you do, don't be the absentee dad who walks in years later and expect things to be normal. That's horrible advice from your folks.

Then when you can, pls settle down with your babe and your child and the mom will naturally respect you.

Honestly, I think if you'd been Humble enough in the beginning, you could have stayed there in her work place until you've saved some money to start up something of your own if no other job was forth coming. Seeing as you didn't even have to pay rent, the rent money could have improved your savings a bit.

When you see yourself in a bad situation, you plan carefully, endure a little discomfort here and there and then make your move very calculatedly. No rash judgments and decisions or it always backfires.

With what you're saying here about her mom, who knows if you had some disrespectful attitude towards her even while living in her house or you were giving her that self righteous look when guys come to visit her instead of minding your business.

What is this one saying?
Majority of Igbo men respect their wives.
Bark ko.

Chinom:
Mandatory ? ! Hell no. Some women will look at you in a strange if you even say ' Thank you' after each meal. Some African women are even embarrassed to hear it from their husband. In all my years growing up at home, I've never heard my dad say thank you After meals. On the contrary, he will bark that the plates should be removed. However, my mom cooks the food, but does not serve it. The maid serves it.

I am sure most Igbo wives can relate to this. Many Igbo men still live like Okonkwo in " Things fall apart". Very few say thank you to their wives after serving them food. Many wives feel uncomfortable to even hear that 'thank you' that they don't really know how to respond.

I don't think many African men say thank you to their wives for cooking for them. It is not expected. You can always thank your wife in many other ways.

@bold totally agree.

At the rest of your post, one still can't understand where you're leaning to.
Do you realize that just half the energy homophobes spend on castigating homosexuality on NL would have been sufficient to do something about preventing the passing of that bill legalizing child marriage? Apparently not.
Now the west are the bad guys even when we have worse going on in our Nigeria.

Sadly that time you speak about when kids can't have a say on who they marry even if she's 6 and he's 45yrs old has already come for Nigerians.
And it came because instead of fighting our own social ills, we were more concerned about what's happening in the west and what two adults do in their own bedroom.
Do you feel concerned for the westerners that it may also get to them too? The paedophilia thing? That's why I said worry about yourself first.

There's no connection between paedophilia and homosexuality. If there is, then that same connection exists between heterosexuality and paedophilia. Should we then stop men and women having sexual relations with each other because it could lead to some men or women sexually molesting kids of the opposite gender?
Are you going to say you don't know that happens in large numbers everyday?
Why haven't you made the connection between heterosexuality and paedophilia since the myriads of occurrences where one person of the opposite gender molested a child?
Why haven't you put up a campaign against heterosexual sex?

See we will be in total agreement if you create another thread to condemn paedophilia instead of attaching it to homosexuality and trying to pass it off as both things of the same class. They are not.
If heterosexuals can molest kids, there's no reason why this should even come up when the so called ills of homosexuality is being analyzed.

If you may, Just watch, The same people who would like to paint homosexuality as bad will be the first to remind you that Mary was 12 when she had Jesus.(meaning that by implication it is not so bad).

I can't get around to comparing a relationship where two adult men or women decide to be together and a relationship where one person is forced against her will(or his will as the case may be). There's no comparison there.

5minsmadness:
@bolded, fucking LIE.

Give an inch and pests will invade your household.
If you allow one abberation it makes it easier to allow others.
You see, you are gradually preparing to not minding if pedophilia becomes legalised, afterall its none of your buisness.
what you feel is none of your buisness will one day become your buisness.
One day it will be possible for your own 6yr old child to take you to court for infringing on her rights to live with her 45yr old lover; by then there will be nothing you can do about it since it would have been passed into law.
Give an INCH and pests will invade your household.

Now let me read your post properly...

Bloody hell woman, pedophilia and homosexuality fall under the same category of sexual deviation". It took a miracle for the nigerian government to not succumb to the pressures of the west to legalise homosexuality. we all know how the west have been holding a grudge against us since then. So it just so happens that we have a certain religion in this country that supports underage marriage, this religion has some seriously powerful people backing it else legalising of underage marriage wouldnt have happened too, but sadly it did. Does that mean that all nigerians support underage marriage? Does that mean it was a good moral move by the nigerian senate? Does that mean we should stop speaking against it? Of course not! And how do we fight it? By speaking up against it whenever we can. Because if good people say nothing, very soon they will have no right to say anything and what is considered an aberation e.g homosexuality, will be considered normal even though we know deep down that it isnt in all of its ramifications.

SAMBARRY:
EfemenaXY you no see food.2 shikin laps and 2 indomie
correct balanced diet

you didn't read the topic before posting this?

Lolz. when you're caught chatting nonsense, you call it damage control.
I wonder what happened to make you stop using your reasoning faculties like you used to.

Step out of your world=travel to the west. Lol lol lol.
I guess not "reasoning with religious or cultural bias" also means denouncing your religion and adopting a different tribe's way of life as against trying to see things from ther own POV.

Too proud to admit when you made a mistake

FYI ignoring someone also includes not helping them answer questions directed at them.

And you can pretend like you don't have issues with who moved and where they moved to, but this is the third time you're chatting shyt publicly about this. Monkeys will always be monkeys no matter where they live remember?

It Is beneath you. (Or so I thought)

Pls next time refrain from making any snide comments about my relocation and kindly ignore me and any comments directed at me.

Thank you.

5minsmadness:
What the hell do logs and specks have to do with anything? So because nigeria "legalised" pedophilia so i shouldnt speak out against it??

Are you speaking against paedophilia in Nigeria or are looking for a way to blame gays for paedophilia? Two different things. Very different.

Just wanted to remind you that without a homosexual revolution, Nigeria has done well all by itself to ingrain paedophilia in her system, culture and government. So the sooner you dissociate the two, the better for us.

Gays are not responsible for paedophilia.
Nor will giving them 'laxitude' to free living encourage paedophilia.

As for speaking out against paedophilia we are 100% in agreement on that side.

5minsmadness:
@cococandy,

Do you remember a time last year when we were talking about this exact same topic and you said I and pickabeau1 were propagating conspiracy theories? You can see they are already laying the groundwork for it. Let's see how the next 25yrs will be like. By then they would have legalised pedophilia.

Well Nigeria did not need any gay agenda to legalize paedophilia did we?
Talk about leaving the log in your eye to check the speck in your neighbors eye.

taryour:
I could not sleep well at all. That video never left my head, I woke up this morning and cried again. Oh God that baby got several blows to the head and hits on the back. I pray so hard that baby doesn't suffer any damage to the brain or ribs or even spinal cord. Still feeling so bitter

he may get shaking baby syndrome.

freecocoa:
Mehn! This one has left me speechless.

4 days old? Mba nu.

some people are not mentally balanced. That's just the explanation. No thinking human can do this.

taryour:
Cococandy did you watch it till the end? For like 2/3 minutes d baby dint move. This point my cousin was d one consoling me then the baby moved and I was relieved abit only for the nurse to appear again and continued. She tried to kill that baby.

God know how many baby she had done that to before the camera was installed. And the mother will be happy thinking her child was in good hands.

I did not watch it to the end. I couldn't. I was like hei! Ha! Haba!
DH was like "ok that's enough. Before it will ruin your evening and mine too now" and he paused it.


That woman should be quartered and hung to rot.
such a tiny infant with all the fragile bones and soft brain that is not yet fully formed. He/she will definitely suffer permanent injuries from that ordeal. She must have something against the child.

You even have two and you're still listening to them.
Me I for don tie my tubes since block ears.

Some people don't even know if you're deliberately staying off and they assume you're having issues TTC. Lolz

I just find it amusing. Try to find it amusing too and you won't get angry with them.

damiso:
So annoying. When someone says to you I don't think I want another child must you keep going on and on about it? And be quizzing me on how weird having two children is? Even kept hammering on what are my hubby's thoughts? Woman leave me alone.

I have friends that got married around the same time as me and are TTC I NEVER bring it up. I just pray for them in my closet and ask God to intervene if there are issues.

mistabiola:
I have answered that already

oh ok.

mistabiola:
After running several test and all the test have been showing that the woman is infertile, I'm very sure both party won't be happy with the union even if they really love eachother very much.

they certainly won't be happy with the situation. That's when it is important to remember the vows.

You still manage to dance around the possible case of the man's impotence.

Pls for clarity's sake, What if after several tests, and it confirmed that the man is not able to father a child, would you advise his wife to dump him and marry another man?
Yes? No? No vague answers pls

mistabiola:
Let's assume the man is your son and after 6 years of marriage they are yet to have a baby and all the test and effort shows that the wife of your son is infertile, will you still advise your son not to take another wife Because of for better for worse

absolutely.
They can adopt.

That will be the same way I would advice my daughter not to desert her husband after a few years of marriage and it is discovered that he's impotent.
Anything can happen to anyone.

The only exception is if one of them knows that he or she is sterile and still goes ahead to deceive the other into marriage without first coming clean.
In that case the marriage can be considered null and void because one person entered it blind.

mistabiola:
This is a family matter and I think you should understand that the parents of the husband will keep pressurizing the man after like 5years of infertility.

you don't think the parents of the girl can pressurize the man after a few year too? Because you're assuming it has to be woman at fault. What if that's not the case?

Sometime in future when I'm done having kids, I'll stroll into Colombia on a weekend when I'm bored and get me some perky assss and boooobs to go with my pretty face.
So I can come online and claim prettier than other women

For only 3000 dollars, you can get a Brazilian butt lift. (There's a reason why it is called Brazilian)

For a mere 10,000 you can get full package total body make over surgery, top notch recovery follow up including an apartment with a house keeper and a chef and total confidentiality from your surgeon so that if you turn out to be Kim K or nicki minaj tomorrow, you can come in public and say you've never had surgery and he won't call you a liar

There's actual research on why the women from those countries you mentioned have been patronizing plastic surgery for long

Colombia itself happens to be among the top five countries by number where plastic surgery is rife. Like a dime a dozen. Brazil and Puerto Rico are among too.
They have the best board certified plastic surgeons with UK and U.S. Doctors even going there to set up business.
It is called the passion of Colombia and I laugh when some people imagine the grass is greener on the other side.
they are not absolutely prettier than women from other parts of the world.

They love physically enhancing themselves and enjoy when black guys insult black women by saying the Latinas are all naturally endowed.

Truth is black women fall the lowest on the plastic surgery scale yet manage to rub shoulders with them look wise.

Don't be scammed.

freecocoa:
Okay, that has to be some sort of toy she's hitting, I mean that's not an actual baby, is it?

*faints*

at a point I wanted to console myself so until I remembered the baby moved at the beginning part of the video.
Except it is a moving toy.

Kimoni:
Pls call me when it's time

haha

edwife:
Bed time for me....ciao

nite

all4naija:
Oh, my bad! I apologize!

And always apologizes too.

edwife:
Oh christ!I can't deal with you

cococandy please what did I say i made

Pls Don't get mad at him.

That's how he interrogates me sometimes too.

I don't think he means any harm.

all4naija:
That doesn't look like a steak to me. You called it porridge or something like that in your post.

You won't leave edwife and efe alone?

All of us go join hand beat you o

Good for them