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RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] I still wonder how career, marriage and parenthood can make people forget their parents !!


It beats my imagination..... Is it really possible?[/color]

exactly. Especially in the Nigerian situation. I feel sorry for old people I see living alone in the villages.
I imagine they must be so lonely.

My grandma couldn't stop crying when my youngest aunt got married. She said nobody to be with her again as my grand dad is late and she's always so lonely .

Old age can be lonely from what I see.

Na to travel from one pikin house to the other remain

I just saw this sweet post on Facebook and thought of sharing..

After 21 Years Of Marriage, His Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman.


We often take for granted what's been in front of us the whole time. This man's wife just wanted him to realize that.
...

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who had been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my 3 children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

"What's wrong, are you well?" she asked. My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an Angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation — nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" Asked my wife when I got home.

"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place where mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless I paid for two plates — one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me."

"I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I love you," and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."

fellis:
Kaspr?
That name returned a '404 not found'. I was going to look up the persons posting style to see if I can uncover their main family section account.

You couldn't fill in the blanks. Eya.
Never mind sha. Let the dead bury themselves

fellis:
Hahaha! What a nutjob!
That's what happens when people have nothing to live for except their reputation on Nairaland.
Kind of sad if you ask me.

Oya what is his name? Do tell abeg, don't hide it. Put dots between the letters if you don't want them to come here.

Ka...sp.r
Might be an alternate moniker. Who knows his real family section name

Rate of divorce in Lagos sha
Especially this Igando court.
Una try

Gbam!

mentorandfriend:
I'm very careful about faceless people on a faceless forum. Here on nairaland, I observe that it is usually faceless people without display pictures that are the most vulgar, most insultive, lacking any sense of decorum. Some even hide behind pics of celebrities or outright cartoon images while they unleash their sauciness, cockiness and hatred on every meaningful thread.

So what do I do? Here on nairaland, when a person quotes me with an intention to brew up an e-brawl, I immediately check his/her dp. Once that person is not represented on his/her dp, I ignore the hater/pretender. I only engage people who are bold enough to show me what they look like. To me, nothing beats seeing who I'm communicating with.

I apply the same rule on facebook where I have a large number of facebook friends. I will never accept a friend request from anyone who has no profile picture, because they are the ones who bash your updates, bash your pictures uploads. They do it wearing the mask of no profile picture. They never have a kind word for you. Once you receive notification that such a person commented on any of your post, your heart skips a beat first.

So I see nothing wrong in someone having his/her picture on display, and I also cant say that those who change their dps often are immature. I only know a mature person when he/she talks/comments or when we engage in a discourse.

Shikena!

Why haven't I seen this plant before?

Truckpusher:
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and I thought you smoked.
I see it must be the white powder this time around

I know that one level of highness pass anything.

If you teach your girls without teaching your boys, nothing is really achieved

Truckpusher:
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You come dey mention me.
Why? if you didn't care

If tearoses is really chaircover, I'm loving this new side more.
Not every situation on NL deserves a gentle response. feisty does it well sometimes too.

tell me about it.

Sometimes I wonder what some one like that could really be thinking.
do they really believe someone moved out of NL because of them or is it just one of those kind of talks people do when they don't have anything else to say.

But then they may really believe it given that one idiot was sending me emails how about how himself and 'his boys' ( pause to laugh ) will run me out of NL like they've done to others before.

Narcissistic is a very lenient term.

fellis:
I've never understood people like that. Their narcissistic self delusion is on another level entirely.
Anything you do on Nairaland is because of them.
If you deactivate its because of them, If you fail to post for a while its because of them, if you post a certain way, its also because of them.
I remember one telling shollypopz that I and 99cent ran off Nairaland because he defeated us in an argument. That was at a time when we hadn't come online for a while.
What a clown.

ginawest:
y shud I walk away?I wl simply help im clean it up...wu knows,he myt b testing me

So you're one of those that encourage much behavior among guys in the name of 'testing'

Lol @cut and paste

Truckpusher:
Deejavuu the great witch of nl and her mother in law cococandy must explain this.

You're high again. I told you to eat before you smoke that thing so that the rate at which it will interfere with your brain won't be too much.

Poor child. You never listen.

Who knows the poor fellow that's been killed and buried there. Lord have mercy

The family go dey one corner now they find am

Chillisauce:
We are giving you free of charge tips here but you went and paid 400USD for fast weight loss program.
You see, because our own na free.

its not easy o. Their food is tasteless.
The tasty ones are cakes and muffins and chocolate bars. Things I'm not very fond of.
I'm coming back after the first month

Chillisauce:
cococandy is demoted .
she went behind our back to another program.
Osisi has to go past the 3rd day before any certificate.
Once you make it past the 3rd day, it comes very easy

what? All join Na exercise and careful eating.
What did I do wrong

babyosisi:
What are you dieting for
Biko kwa
Haven't you heard that when someone becomes too skinny their monthly cycle can cease
You don't need to diet abeg

its not a strict diet, just a carb control diet that will let me determine how much calories I need to eat everyday to lose a little weight and remain the same weight. I'll end it soon after my first month subscription because it is expensive and I don't even like their

But now I know how to measure my calories and not add weight. That's all I wanted from them.

Chillisauce:
You will gain back the lost pounds if you continue like this.
Once the pounds are off, eat healthy to maintain a particular weight and not going about eating burgers

i want a burger

This doesn't look like a kid-sized bowl. Pls don't mind her.

damiso:
Tomorrow Lunch prep

Yam porridge and steamed spinach. Made the porridge with 1 tablespoon of rapeseed oil.

My colleague asked me today why I was using kiddie size bowls for lunch. In my mind i said this one does not know the struggle is real you think everyone is naturally slim like you( she is also twenty something no kids )

I started using small bowls and plates for portion control and I have really seen the difference.

Chillisauce:
Oh, I miss this

I'm on nutrisystem diet. Been on it for five days now and I've lost extra 3pounds just in 5days.

But the moment this particular plan expires, the way I'm going to jump on my burger and have a hearty one ehn. Even DH no go believe am.

edwife:
Hmm chilli,i can't tell you how much...

I am having nightmares regarding coke,sometimes i dream of me drinking it with ice cube.....

Hehehehehe

Ok drink coke zero na. At least no calories

olumba69:
Hi, I made something similar to yours which i found here... http://www.myactivekitchen.com/blog/2014/12/17/ownyees-island. TBH, I enjoyed every bit of it. Very healthy meal too.

this is awesome. Saved.

When will I have time to cook all these recipes I'm saving

For fun I think.(at least for someone like me)
For a new style of writing. I guess.
Or Some deactivate because they just want to change name, or be absent for a while and Concentrate on other issues.


Someone like me is very impulsive and may decide to change to something fruitier just for the heck of it

But i won't do that since I've seen that when you deactivate some people begin to feel like you did it because of them. I've seen some fools going around blabbing how they bashed someone and that person deactivated because of them.
Like their keypads can kill someone .How silly!

For that reason, if I was going to change to 'strawberryfondue' it will remain cococandy
So that some asiwine somewhere won't attach too much importance to why I chose a different name.

So you punish yourself to punish them?

OP read this comment again and again and again

NobleG1:

I picked up that word "ORDER" from your writeup. You may want to look in the mirror because the person you'll see there may be the problem.

You can't order your wife around. She's your wife and partner NOT your slave or housegirl! Your mentality is the same with most Nigerian men who see their wives as maids or second-class humans. Respect is reciprocal.

For the fact that she consults google on any subject of discussion with you means you've been very wrong many times and failed to admit it. Google is a very important source of any info. about anything that exists today.

So don't attack her for trying to be well informed. I'll advice you to google stuff more to avoid embarrasing yourself in the midst of educàted people. Don't let your pride to get in the way and be open-minded because you have a smart wife. Trust me, you don't want a wife who agrees with you on everything, even when you damn wrong.

bennyrazz:
its a man's world so get use to it

good for you