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Ok mirajj go back to the guy that says you deserves to be pummeled.

If you die there better than going back to your father's house to start again
Starting again must be horrible compared to living with someone who calls you irresponsible and unlovable with beatings to garnish the verbal abuse.

At least you will get enough RIPs from the nairalanders who feel you shouldn't have left.

kaboninc:
Yes oh!

And they've also succeeded in having a thread locked!

you succeeded in locking the thread who are you blaming?

Awwww.

Sweet.

Bless you guys

CoCoLav:
So in all these comments above nobody has commented on the right to privacy of the people in that picture.

SMH!

they didn't even think of cropping out her face. That would have made a whole lot of difference

This is not cool.
This girl may not even be aware she was sitting like this

cutiereborn:
End product...got burnt a lil bit

it looks great

I want this fish o

babyosisi:
For a young girl you are wise beyond your years

Should I say thank you? I don't know.

Hope that won't make me president of the fangirls club

What I won't read on this forum.

Adanne chukwu gozie gi

kaboninc:
You're a woman!

So its normal you think like a woman. But it will be wiser if you think like both sexes.

Did you notice that your friend, Miraijj did not refute some of the allegations levelled against her?

Biko, bye bye

At least you got my message(s)!

Oh now you're tired?

Don't forget you're the one who set this thread on this path of chaos now.
You couldn't just face the topic instead you were wishing for the day coco and Babyosisi will come to ask for advise.

So what if they do?
Is anyone above advise?

My mother is 50 years old yet she asks for advise when she feels swamped so who the fvck am I not not ask for advise if I need it?

What will happen if I come on NL to ask for advise? You will dance a dance of victory that at least all is not well with me?

Do you know how hateful and spiteful that was? you opened the floor for your fellow sniders with hearts swimming in beef to come take swipes at people who they feel are projecting perfection even when the topic has nothing to with it.
Absolutely nothing!

Now you're asking me if I got your message.

Bros I didn't get your message if you had any.

But now I know you're one of those waiting in the shadows to laugh if you perceive there's something wrong with me.

Jisike. Well done

Or the Fire came on its own because the man is naturally abusive.

I don tire to talk. Bye

kaboninc:
Coco, I've answered you nau!

One thing you should note is that fire doesn't just start on its one. Something starts it and something fuels it. And if you dig deeper am very sure that most quarrels starts with just a foul statement from the lady. Note, I said 'most' not 'all"

Now for every foul reply he gives, he gets dozens more and he admitted that he just can't stand her word for word. So he 'felt' the best way to shut her up was to beat her. You might say it's bad, well its a necessary evil and he can be said to be justified! And that could also be a corrective measure too.

Still not a justification by me!

Your point is that he physically abused her. Fine. My point is that she verbally abused him and these are psychological issues that are difficult to manage. So simple, something led to the other. Of course the guy can't just wake up and starts beating her. Maybe he could have done something she doesn't like and instead of communicating her feelings positively, she could have resulted to insults.

Then gbam, the slap and beating. This brings me back to what I had earlier said: two wrongs don't make a right.

Hope you get my point.

But you didn't answer my question.

He's very mouthy too. Probably worse than the girl from the way I see him systematically throw his belittling punches at the so called mother of his jewel.

Does he deserve to be beat?

He insulted the girl's father. If he sends boys to come beat him up, would you say he deserved it?


Oh bukatyne
Hello friend

nairaland!

kaboninc:
My dear, this is just common sense. They say the Constitution guarantees you freedom of speech. But freedom after speech, it cannot be guaranteed!

If you use your mouth in a foul way, then you deserve to be spanked. Just that it may be through beatings. Do you know some ladies actually become to first to hit?

Like I said, I do not hold brief for the guy but from the post of this lady, in fact, she really contributed to her problems. She fuelled, watered and nurtured it with her mouth.

I can confidently say that the man is more civilised, informed and exposed than her. A wise woman learns from that not compete.

Men make mistakes but a woman should not double it feast on it.

Oh, your friend Bukatyne is around!

The guy has a fouler mouth too.
Does he deserve to be beaten up?

The fact that you think someone deserves to be beaten for their words makes me not want to engage you anymore.

kaboninc:
Violent with their mouth.

You've used it here (with your keyboard or keypad) and in so many other threads.

And that act can earn you a SLAP even from the most timid guy in the world! Even your husband and don't try to say 'tufiakwa'!

My point is simple. This lady has a foul mouth and YESSSSS, she deserves some of the beatings. Maybe it was to 'correct' her excesses and out of anger.

Now you see the hypocrisy people exhibit?

Suppose your father SLAPS you for running your mouth, would you say he ABUSED you?

sweetcocoa:
You are obviously still missing the point. I am not supporting the OP, I just don't think it is fair to blame him for something they are both responsible for.

You keep saying he got her pregnant as if he tied her hands and leg, then inserted a baby inside her, they both got pregnant, she gave consent for sanity's sakes.

How can I be happy if my daughter is with an abuser? I just won't go about blaming him alone after I have warned her about him, I will do my best to remove her from the situation and if she insists and he kills her, well she's dead and she chose to die, the dude will also face my wrath and that of the law, the point here remains, she chose to stay.

Are you saying women should stick to "beasts" because they got pregnant and their families rejected them? If staying with him is the better option, why won't he feel like a god and treat her anyhow?

. Exactly. She did the right thing.

We are hearing about this ish because the dude couldn't get over his God complex and accept that she left because he was not treating her right.
What he did was to create a thread justifying his beating her as if "how dare she leave when she was the one who made me do it"

If she didn't leave, he wouldn't have opened that thread.

kaboninc:
See you and sweetcocoa, and MizMyColi, you guys are very objective.

Cococandy, in as much as you try to fight you cause, also know that men can and are also victims of the very same abuse you castigate them for.

You mean do I know that some women are violent too? Yes.

I hope you will work on your violent attitude instead of turning around to say your next victim deserves it.
If you can be locked up for a such a thing and still repeat that act on a lady again, then we don't have reason to believe you.

mcdokwe:
I am sorry, I won't oblige you and the likes. She wasn't a misfortune. I know you expect me to say how bad her family is, but no. To guide you, it is all linked to how I felt I was treated which even though uncalled for were understandable and thus excusable, what other deduction you wish to make is at you discretion. I learnt my lessons it is upto those who are likely to make our same mistakes to learn or not. I offered myself as a blackboard you could all learn from. I tried making things up between her dad and herself for my gross irresponsibility but failed, the tables have turned and I am willing to take the fall.

With exception to the outright insults, I still pick a word of two from people who think they are bashing me, hopefully she won't see those saying things that don't favour her as spiteful. None of you actually knew what we had and for the records, even though a single push is as bad as beating a spouse black and blue, it wasn't exactly as bad as people want to see it, whichever shouldn't have happened. For those who'd keep bashing, Kontinu, we could get back and laugh at you all or find better spouses and prove we aren't all that unsaleable.

She has won a place already and whenever I talk about her, it would be with a regretful passion not a spiteful one.

To people out there who could grab something from all this, people's wants can't be same as yours, and the greatest mistake is to judge what you have from their eyes. People who have told her she should leave me as much as I know have personally told me she should feel lucky she had me, now knowing both contradicting sentiments from same souls, I wonder what they stood to gain. I think I am done replying these posts.

I could careless about most of you especially the acclaimed wife of Azubuike.
I learn, I take blames and I work out where I need to.

Rose2014:
I agree. Let's go back to the genesis, why will he reply the lady's text? He's controlling, verbally and emotionally abusive
To crown it all, he went physical with deadly blows again cos he didn't think the lady should say a word back to him just because his name is mcdokwe and he has a JT which the op could've done him a favor by cutting it off already )

Very violent.
He forgot to mention he's been locked up before because of his violent attitude. Dunno if it is towards this same girl or another one.

@bold ugh pls don't remind me of that horrible pic I saw last week.
That's not something to joke with o. I still can't get it out of my head.

Better she left than resort to such a horrendous act.

#i believe you're kidding sha. But don't kid with that stuff.

charles316:
your husband is the goat here.

These faggs won't let the poor guy be.

Always jumping at any opportunity to talk about him.

He doesn't do guys. Face me and leave him alone. You and the cowards that like to bring people's husbands into nairaland matter when they don't even know of your miserable existence.

sweetcocoa:
it's not just about the lady now,if you had seen that she too was at fault, we wouldn't be having this discussion and just as na me know wetin I dey talk, na you also know wetin you dey talk again too, after all, you follow dey the thread dey blame OP.

I've read his thread and read hers now. The root of the matter is him. EOD.

He's both verbally and physically abusive.

Yet somehow she's at fault.

Learning from the captain of the "wreck their self esteem crew"

sweetcocoa:
No, that was me using your words.

I have said it countless times that I'm not supporting the OP but I hate it when grown a$$ women can't take responsibility for the actions they take.

I wouldn't date a guy that treats me that way and if I do, I should be totally blamed for it, well unless I'm an 1mbecile with no mind of my own.

He is not innocent just like the OP isn't, that is my point.

as you wish. Obviously the babe has taken responsibility for her actions by moving on. So na you know wetin you dey talk again.

charles316:
go watch africa magic,this kind of thing is not your calling.

it is your calling. Now solve the problem for them.

Goat

sweetcocoa:
Nothing is being jumbled here, you said he is the architect(emphasis on the word 'architect'), by saying so, you absorbed her of any responsibly, you actually said the OP planned it all that's why I brought up equality, because you sounded like he should take the crap because he "got" her pregnant.

I read the dude's thread and I read the OP's. He didn't just start taunting her did he? He told her friend not to come to his house, she started insulting him and a fight ensued, now how is it all his fault?

He has his own faults ofcourse but I don't agree with you all supporting the lady because she is a woman, apportion blames accordingly is all I'm saying.

lol. Planned ke? that was you reading multiple meanings into a simple post


In the spirit of equality, she's moving on and taking care of her shiit.

He should do same. At least now he knows he's not the only one who can 'love' her.
She's loving herself and her family is there too.

Imagine a man who think this kind of love is all she deserves from everybody in the world. He must think she's beneath scum.

sweetcocoa:
Seriously though, why do you clamor for equality when you want to be treated differently in some aspects? How is he the architect of her irresponsibility? Is she underage? Was she raped?

This has nothing to do with equality. They made a mess together. He was supposed to be supportive. He wasn't. Instead he taunted her for a mistake he contributed to. She reacted as a normal human would and his answer was to beat her up.

I don't get how equality has anything to do with this issue.

Do you guys just bring it up to sound politically correct or what?


Say this lady hepled him make a mess of his life for example financially and when others ridicule him for it,she joins to ridicule him and call him irresponsible, if he reacts hurt like is expected, would we be talking about equality and how he's not supposed to be pained because he's trying to show equality?

Nairaland!

Everything jumbled into one. Related or not

babyosisi:
Very very cold
This is the reason I advise girls never to marry any man their parents disapprove
That same man will turn around and do you ntoorr for not having any family members on your side

Even in his so called repentance, he's making and remaking the point that he had better options to choose from but chose to be with her.

Can't wrap my head around that kind of remorse.

Truckpusher:
This isn't about ph ,shiit like this happens allover the world.

I know

kaboninc:
No dear. I know you do not have a perfect like.

I just don't like you JUMPING into conclusions and BASHING someone because you FEEL you're right.

take your own advice too. Thank you.

Wedon:
It's easy for him to appear calmer and cooler on Nld . . . What does he have to lose afterall?

He is a man and will just go right ahead and live his life . .

She on the other hand, is stuck with a child out of wed-luck for a man who not only beat her senseless, insulted her family. Abeg we are all humans, lets not pretend that is not enough to drive someone insane.

He may not have called her names . . . but what he did is worse. Imagine opening a thread on Nld and watching you ex talk (calmly) in details about how he beat you up!

we know how parents treat girls who get pregnant outside wedlock.

They are judged loose and irresponsible.
This man who got her pregnant who should be supporting her in her predicament is calling her irresponsible and saying her parents abandoned her because of her irresponsibility while he was the architect of the so called irresponsibility.

Cold.

fem29:
Just that you were kinda going in hard on d guy

I think they were both a bit crazy and just bad for each other.

I can see through this BS. Not buying the act.

kaboninc:
I never said you do have a perfect life because I know you don't.

oh no you didn't. You implied that since I don't have a perfect life, I should not talk badly about violence and those justifying it.

My dear Wetin be my influence on the matter? They have decided. Aren't we strangers to them?

fem29:
Meehn meehn, reading this I don't think this guy is a bad guy, we can all make terrible mistakes hat can haunt us for the rest of our lives

Or maybe he is just a good orator, I dunno.

McDowell please please I beg of you, work on yourself, decide NOW to never in your life to EVER hit a woman again in your life no matter what she says or does. Can you see what it has done to your life. Also when you can see that a relationship has become toxic as this one obviously was, end it! Immediately!

Please just be looking for a way you can be a part of your daughters life now. Softly softly does it, no gra gra or threats, if you are not paying for your child, start right now, give as much as you can. Then go to her family and prostrate yourself, apologise from the bottom of your heart for impregnating then beating up their daugther. Eventually you will be able to come to some compromise regarding access. It will get better in the end. cococandy et all I beg of you please take it easy on this guy, build up don't tear down

kaboninc:
HAHAHAHAHA...

21 Million are insane and only FEW are roaming.

Well, they also say if while bathing and your cloths were taken by a mad man, you do not run after him because people will think you're also mad.

While calling the guy abusive, did you also note the ABUSIVE TRAIT of Miraijj?

No. I noticed a pained lady.

I'm still asking what this topic has to do with my imperfect life.
If I understand where that came from, maybe next time I will understand your angle better.

And what has all that got to do with me having an imperfect life?

He says she deserved it. That's not the attitude of a sorry person.

kaboninc:
Now we are communicating.

It is generally accepted that a man should not lay his hands on a woman. Maybe you think you are not the 'over-nagging' type to your husband. But some women, if you were a man, you would do more and worse.

Note am not justifying any form of physical abuse.

And YES, some men justify their action because you do not know what they've passed through or are passing through. Also, the 'culprit' here, did REGRET his action and wished he never hit her. Meaning that he is also against any form of physical abuse. Then if you see his responses so far, he has never insulted anyone here, including his ex (Miraijj) but state that he regrets his action.

Finally, I do have a personal experience, not hearsay.