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moreeni:
I know for certain you guys are not Yorubas. We get shame for body no be small! In-law ejecting me ke

To the issue, get an estate agent to work with her and give some of your time to search for an apartment for her. Then, pay and help her move out.No one will accuse you of rendering her destitute. Viola...problem solved!

kunyeo:
As a sequel to my earlier posting,there's a latest development. My father- in- law stormed our house unannounced today and I definitely knew the purpose. He went round and round coming to the conclusion that I allow my sister in law stay with us for some time.I stood my ground and he was about leaving,he gave the parting shot that the lady would stay with us.That was when I lost my cool,letting him know that he can only advise me, but not come and impose his decision on me in my own house.He felt offended that I was arrogant to have boasted that the house belongs to me.He left for his base.I tried apologising to him if I was rude,but frankly there were no ways to assert and express myself.

r231:
Sorry for the late update. We have to make sure that we have all the facts and right information before putting anything out.


Update :

16 Jan 2015

‎As a reminder from the last update which was communicated before the end of the year, Hameed was  referred to a cancer clinic in
VI on suspicion of cancer while still on anti-tuberculosis medications. 

The tests were not able to be carried out last year and for the first few days this year due to the holidays.
They were however done last week


Samples of his blood was taken Tuesday 6/1/2015

CT scan done Friday 9/1/2015
The results of the tests got to us Monday 12/1/2015

Based on these results the diagnosis of the oncologist is that  ‎Hameed has been sick for a long while and has ‎stage 4 cancer.
This is quite unfortunate as it seemed there was some hope that he would pull through to full health.

The doctors working with us were sent the full test results (about 40 pages) and also acknowledged the complexity of the case considering blood tests seemed to show he was ok.

The hospital has sent the results in to their consultants at Rosewell
Park Cancer institute, Buffalo NY for a second opinion

The oncologist has suggested a targeted form of chemotherapy as a means of ensuring quality of life as cure, at this stage, is impossible but quality of life can be managed. 

For now, he has been placed on immune boosters and we are also in consultations as to the ‎benefit of the chemo suggested.

 Hameed and his family has been informed of this development
and we are also working with them to make sure he is comfortable.


Thanks for your support and prayers on this case 


TeHN

Originalsly:
Thanks for gving us the only update for 2015..... .at a time when the men of teHN have turned to mice and hide in the shadows of the thread. Suddenly...the cat snatched their tongues...and I guess their balls as well. Nothing was guaranteed....but what was expected was that we make every effort to release DJ of his affliction. Now it seems it is asking too much to give an update from those who took the helm and held the purse strings. Is it because of ego?...,that Babyosisi would be vindicated if the truth is known? I wonder if these people sleep peacefully at nights? Like I said from jump...,the donations would be used up then they would look us dead in the eyes and in a mournful voice tell us "sorry, but we have tried our best". ...bunch of wolves in sheep's clothing.

SAMBARRY:
lol. I don't hesitate to lash them IF THEY DO THAT AROUND WHERE I PARKED OR THE FRONT OF MY HOUSE


ONE WAS URINATING BEHIND MY CAR AND I WANTED TO SCARE HIM SO HE WOULDN'T TRY THAT NONSENSE AGAIN SO I TOOK MALT in my fridge, poured it in a small bottle. Tied a red cloth around the bottle and took fallen leafs and a strand of chicken feathers and then used the red cloth to tie it then as soon as I got back outside he had gone. The thing pained me. I kept the make belief charm prepared by me for the next person i see urinating there. Lo and behold I came back from work and I met one who was already attempting to urinate. I just parked gently and went to pick up the object and was sprinkling it around the environment and him and was issuing curses that he will become impotent and crazy.


Omo the guy tear race not knowing it's just malt that looks black and a small red cloth I cut out of my napkin leafs picked up on the ground and just chicken feather

Busybody2:
A handful of women castigated the man and wrote him off as lazy!!

Busybody2:
What is good for the goose is good for the gander, so if the man was the evil party I would not mince words either.


But in this case, it's the jaded society that is to blame for the biased viewpoint of ladies these days. Women used to suffer more in the hands of men, so men like the OP are seen as unlucky scapegoats who deserve every evil treatment the wifey dishes out to him even though he is innocent.

And I bet this woman solidarity at all cost is not going away anytime soon so y'all men would just have to buckle up for the ride

moca:
Come o, it seems like we hv more abroad mamas and daddas here
This is gross injustice and inequality.
Abeg,govt should look into this asap

Okay o.

Busybody2:
This Cococandy!!!

He is trying so hard to be a man, but has started seeing himself the way wifey sees him as a useless so and so...And somewhere in there, he is still grieving the loss of his Dad...


So peeps are not just solely attacking wifey, but are giving him a two-pronged solution -

(1) reaffirming his question that yes his wifey is a wicked user

(2) advising him to temporarily get him and his son out of that toxic environment.

Busybody2:
She shoots down and rubbishes ALL his business ideas and talks him out of it and always discourages ALL his suggestions.





He even tried setting up businesses with his Mum, wifey gets upset, he tries to set up business with his siblings, she gets mad, he tries to invest in land and properties with his Mum and Siblings, she goes ballistic, what does she want him to do?!!




He gave her more than half, gave his mum and siblings a pittance, gave wifey's Dad as payment for wifey's debt oh, and used the rest to pay the bills of the mansion in a posh area that wifey insisted they moved to!!! He wanted to move to a reasonable area with modest bills, wifey refused!!! Now she mocks him that they live in a house his mummy built. This woman is pure evil and will soon bleed this man dry and make him penniless.






He is undergoing emotional domestic violence from this evil wench of a wife, and because its usually the other way round with the woman at the receiving end, it will be hard for him to cry out for help without getting mocked as a wimp, hence reason for his helplessness...

moca:
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I think there is a thread(unless it was tsunamized) that discussed these machines extensively. Very detailed.

I think d one Phema is using is very cool abi cococandy(any of d two ladies).
Samsung pdt.
I use LG top loader and don't hv problem with it.turbo drum.

aisha2:
He isn't whinning, he is being verbally abused, I would never blame an abused woman for being abused.
As I wrote earlier he needs to get his head clear but away from her nagging voice always screaming and insulting him.

Verbal abuse is the same as physical abuse because she can't slap him or beat him doesn't make this any less serious. If a woman was married and did so much for her husband yet he beats her regularly for the one he thinks she doesn't do will we be telling her to woman up.and its her fault he is hitting her?

pickabeau1:
cococandy

what does lack of ambition mean

This man is a good provider yet he lacks ambition

zeezahbee:
He can't sue anything , he should just take a chill pill and move on with life. It's only in USA that you can sue someone for not packing the snow from the walkway or just for any reason but in Nigeria , forget it.

aisha2:
So by nagging and insulting him is how she will motivate him abi! Am I missing something isn't marriage supposed to be about building up? She is living in a free house has money to run her business he pays the bill yet he is still good for nothing na wa oh.

Abeg I don't buy the argument that the next wife may be worse thats what is said to abusive wives, next one may be calm and motivating pushing the right buttons saying the right words and helping him overcome what ever fear it is that keeps him from growing.

How are we even blaming this man for his wife's lousy attitude. Ungrateful wrench she is

byvan:
A man is behind that moniker as far as am concerned, so I don't ever take him serious.

aisha2:
Isn't that what a wife is supposed to do? Provide back up and support?
In his " overfed mummy's boy" state he provided a house for her, provided money for her businesses abeg wives and husbands spouses are supposed to motivate each other. He comes accross as sheltered, calm and peace loving while she is a trouble maker. My husband was more sheltered than I was, till we married he didn't know how water gets in a house all he knows is there is water when he needs it, me kuma grew up where sometimes I have to get water from the well or even go a.little far and fetch water when there is no water. He laughs at my obsession with gathering water in every available container
I don't mock or nag or use it to insult him, we moved to our house I made and still make arrangements to ensure we always have water.

She is a bad wife no sugar coating being soft and nice is not a crime. He just married the wrong unsupportive woman

aisha2:
I think so many people didn't read and comprehend this gist.

1. He has raised ideas with her which she shuts down
2. She verbally abuses him and his son too
3. He got 20 million used 12 to fund her businesses
4. She still insults him when she contributes

Poster, why did you fall into the trap of being emotionally blackmailed to be who you are not.
I don't even know what to say, you have empowered her too much and accepted so much that you can't actually call her to order now.

For your peace of mind try a temporary separation and clear your mind.
You seem so docile see how a few women here told you off and you just accepted that they were right instead of clearly stating your points.

You need time on your own to gather strength and have some peace, that woman can lead to an early grave

MrNiceGuy79:
I have always been able to get money from handouts from my family as well as some rental properties that I inherited. As a wedding gift my parents bought us a house that is now valued at about 180m Naira. To be honest, I haven't really been working very hard to chart my own financial path and I don't really know why. I have no motivation to do business, start any business or even work in the family business.

MrNiceGuy79:
Rosarie, what if I told you that I never wanted to move into that expensive house? I begged her to allow us to stay in my rented house which I was paying 100,000 Naira and receive rent from the new house of almost 400,000? She flatly refused and made us move into a house that honestly wasn't of our class (yet). Let me also add that out of that 10m I gave my mum about 1.5m and my bro about 500,000. I also gave my wife a further 250,000. I also had to pay her father 250,000 that SHE had borrowed from him. I also spent some on our new baby who was born that year etc etc. I didn't waste the money my dear. I haven't told the full story.

enoqueen:
This is really bad.

we need a change.

aisha2:
Lol funny story. Find it a bit far fetched, marry my husband's killer lmao, not enough jazz in the world for that
This woman wasn't under duress she said he offered to help with lawyer fees and she felt the fees will sky rocket. Why she didn't tell her husband or even give the lawyer, thats where she says it was a mistake

remsonik:
Well everyone knew the Alhaji killed him through metaphysical powers. The man married her through metaphysical means too. It happened in Oyo town of Oyo state. I won't mention the alhaji's name cos he is kinda popular
Aye wa o
I am not in anyway taking sides with the lady what she did was bad and the guy really needs to find out what happened while he was away so they won't come after him.