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EfemenaXY:

EfemenaXY:
Hey...

Saw your moi-moi with the plantain leaves. Cool.

But you should have taken pics of the step-by-step process on how you used the leaves now. Did you fold the leaves to form a bag, then tied both ends before pouring the moi-moi into it to boil?

How do you secure it so that the moi-moi doesn't leak out from the leaves? What did you use to cook it? Fire wood and iron / aluminum pot? Or firewood and clay pot?

Herzumpther!!

alutacontinua:
How long do you plan on keeping her to get things ready? she's 27, if she's the one you want and you have enough to sustain a young family, why the delay? All that talk about getting ready is just a way of making the poor lady to approach menopause seriously, I see no tangible reason in your post
and how do you know you're handsome?

mutter:
Just marry her. They have literally given her to you!
How could you let her pack in at the age of 31.

Just tell your wife you plan to marry her to make itt official and you will see how fast that sister-in-law is gone

edwife:
We should look at the time frame here,she got married November 2013,and might have joined her hubby after some months or so-Malaysia is a non english speaking country.She might have not have any knowledge of the place,police station and no friends...

All this happen within a year,she was just not lucky....her chances of survival was slim.

bukatyne:
My dear lady,

Keep up the good work, God be with you...

If Liz Benson had the sense to run away from home because of FGM @ age 13, a 30yr old woman does not know when to run?

Let another victim come here and you advice her to separat. While they find a lasting solution, you become a ffeminist and home wrecker or red bra & black pant crew come to teach her How to cook fresh fish peppersoup and wind her waist 360°…

Honestly, next story

pickabeau1:
Are u asking d departed or those of us on the forum

Possible reasons

Starved of money
No passport
Foreign land

may she RIP

bukatyne:
Lol!

What do you want to know?

Babymama1:
Your behavior that day was out of control and would have cost you a jail time in civilized countries

ifyalways:
So, how are you twos typing with same username almost simultaneously?

Hubby types, pushes Lappy to wife?

Film tricks

Anyway, just in case this is happening for real, I think you both are NOT ready for marriage and should seek outside help preferably a marriage counsellor.

soonest:
Story for the gods

2CatWoman:
I don't believe this story. Somebody is bored.

thinkingbee:
Hi everyone, thanks for all your concern and advice. I feel at this point things should be made clear and spoken with truth.
I love my wife always have always will, I was really surprised she has taken our domestic difference to Naira land fully aware we some time use the same account here and I guess it's best I use same handle to clarify things. No man should hit a lady for any reason or his wife, but some women provoke men to insanity. My wife is a beautiful and intelligent lady and blessed me with two lovely kids I adore. She is still and always be the love of my life.
Synopsis: before we married I was head over hills in love with that even when I found out she had been married before (while snooping through her phone) I followed her to the court house to get an annulment and went ahead to marry her. Our issues started after we married, she kept in touch with previous boyfriends, I would wake up by 1am to see her chatting and giggling at her phone,i knew she had a lot of toasters as we call it but after 1 week I thought it would reduce then was dismayed to find out after one week no change of status on all social her social networks when I asked her reason was she didn't want her ex boyfriend mum to feel bad she married me not her son! I was shocked but over looked it I even agreed to give her time as she requested to lay them off, at this point I was asking myself if I made the right choice! Then she got pregnant and when I suggested we name our first daughter after my mum she said my mum's name Adaeze was a mammy water name and didn't want my child named after my mum.
Life continued with every challenge young couples face trying to build a home. Then I began to notice a pattern that the only time things where cool in the home was only when I did things to please her,without question. I tried to teach her things like neatness and eating healthy and being calm with me cos I knew I had temper issues which I discussed with her before we married. She was such a prayer warrior before we married and was my cold water on a hot day. All these ended after our first daughters birth under the guise of work and child bearing.
I started seeing text messages from different men she had mentioned in the past and reported the case to her family by this time things where getting bad,unfortunately this was not helpful.
Recent events:
I am a business development consultant,unlike my wife who has a regular nine to five I come home later than her. I told my wife that she should allow any nanny at home to sleep in the parlour when I'm not home so they can hear me knock severally,on this day I came home around 9.30pm knocked my knuckles for 1hr before the door was opened! This was seen as intentional cos just the previous day I had complained about always knocking for hours before getting in,the worst part is she would instruct. The house help not to open the door for me after 9pm. I got in got a cane to discipline the child and she charged at me knowing fully well I was angry and we got physical, prior to this event I kept insisting we send the Lil girl away cos I noticed truancy and a stubborn lying nature in the girl but she refused. On that very day simply because I told her the new nanny who looked 34years old but my wife said she was 19 needed time for me observe before making a decision about keeping her didn't go down well with her started raining curses on me that I will never succeed when ahead and said our children my generation would die but not her kids and I'm not the father of my children,that she will bury me and before I die I would crawl on my belly till I run mad, said a lot of things, she insults me at will threatens me to go and be with other men

EfemenaXY:
^^ Thanks Herzumpther. Will be looking forward to seeing those pics.

Charcoal. Doesn't that give off a lot of blackened smoke and sooth? You go wash and scrub your pots tire.

See eh, if you ever decide to use firewood and clay pot, please, please, please, hollar me. Na that one I really one see, biko.

**Cococandy'll understand where I'm coming from...**

lilmax:
@last statement

Her actions shows dirvorce depends on gender,i dont think she would think twice about the “D“ word if the case was reversed

passionate88:
You won't... Most Nigerian women don't like the idea of them living with their step-children... They might say no deal when dating, but when they get married, that's when they will unleash the dragon in them..

It's one of the reason, and yes it is a reason to him

crackhaus:
- she always handled them in a rough and cruel way. “My wife always maltreats my children, she hates them to the extent that she only cooks for her children and refuses to give her stepchildren food.

- “Due to frequent fighting and rivalry with them, I rented another apartment for my children but she still refused them to visit me.”

- she does not respect me and she talks to my parents rudely.

Are all these what you classify as bla bla bla? ergo, they're still not enough reason for him to want a divorce I guess.

And to think you are the chief proponent of divorce in all unhealthy marriages...

edwife:
I know my darlings,i was just being naughty
I know for sure you guys got my back,and you have proven it not once but many times....that's why i love you girls for real....
I have always been an introvert,i hardly make friends-but i love having them and you guys are very opposite to who i am and i love that....
I am learning to be tough,even Eds always tease me but funny enough i am physically strong-the truth is i just don't like confrontation,arguments give me headache...

cococandy,efe,chilli,lyndaroyce and byvan i want to be like you when i grow up

Love you girls

100Cents:
PH girls that I know very well.

Hmm !

Once upon a time. One number just called me and said she knows me. I just believed her nah. The next thing is that she wants to come and see me. Since I wasn't at jeopardy, I obliged her. She came from PH, stayed for days.

The truth is that I didn't know the girl.

ileobatojo:
Deep.

Babymama1:
The thing shock me o
You sef efe how did you know it was Ogbono and not bitter leaf soup

killerman47:
u certainly know little to nothing of IVF, u should know, multiple embryos re usually implanted (usually, some spontaneously abort) so eventually d lady could hv at least one, to carry to term..... so multiple gestation happens to be one of d major drawbacks, of IVF, and even fertility pills

Multifetal pregnancy reduction (MFPR) is a procedure used to reduce the number of fetuses in a multiple pregnancy, usually to two. When a pregnancy involves three or more fetuses (high-order pregnancy), the risks of miscarriage, stillbirth, and lifelong disability increase with each additional fetus.

Assisted reproductive technology (ART) and fertility drugs have greatly increased the number of multiple pregnancies.

The goal of MFPR is to increase the chance of a successful, healthy pregnancy. Multifetal pregnancy reduction:

Is usually done early in a pregnancy, between the 9th and 12th weeks.
Is most often done when there are four or more fetuses present.
Can be used to reduce triplets to twins.
Is known as "selective termination" when it involves a fetus with severe defects or one that is expected to die later in the pregnancy, which would threaten the life of the surviving fetus or fetuses.
Procedure
The most common method of fetal reduction is transabdominal (through the belly) MFPR. For this procedure, the doctor uses ultrasound as a guide and inserts a needle through the woman's abdomen and into the uterus to the selected fetus. The doctor injects the fetus with a potassium chloride solution, which stops the fetal heart....

killerman47:
u certainly know little to nothing of IVF, u should know, multiple embryos re usually implanted (usually, some spontaneously abort) so eventually d lady could hv at least one, to carry to term..... so multiple gestation happens to be one of d major drawbacks, of IVF, and even fertility pills

grimandevil:
u r too intelligent to b a lady. like d way u think. most women just wake up and deny der husband sex for no just reason. cos u a wife isnt feeling Hot doesnt mean u should deny d man some punny

Daresh:
It's odd how men honour others marriage vows over theirs. Many men won't sleep with another man's wife, but will happily cheat on their wives.

Nneka123:
lol! at her make up started falling of her face when she was blushing, very funny!

And the first day she visited you, she was already kissing you, hmm! and then she showed you her ring and her daughter's picture, hmm!

op your matter no be for here!

Ewuro4:
Don't mind me. Just teasing CC ni :

But jokes aside , nothing beats hand washing in Naija.

Sunbellar:
I know women will not vote for Buhari!