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crackhaus:
How did you come to this conclusion?

Take a look at these:

Note the emboldened bits.
They all say in summary that love should not be dependent on how well the person being loved treats the lover.

This is my point:
If you say submission is only dependent on love, are you not going against the scriptural characteristics of true love?

Yes, submission is also love...for a woman to submit, she must have loved first.
And since love is patient, kind, not irritable, keeps no record of being wronged, never gives up, never looses faith, and endures through every circumstance, the submission of a woman to her husband is not dependent on how much he loves her.
This is what I believe to be Christ's kind of love.

It will be hard, it will seem painful...but submitting to a husband who does not really love you is the true definition of Christ's love.

since2005:
When will Nigeria get to this stage?

penquin:
more to come o.... this was on thursday. i.e in Church
pictures of today's engagement from Shobanire at Lawanson Lagos

youngcee:
Shei...many fools in nairaland...even andyblaze was got



That penquin is a (m) not a (f)
Seriously that guy is a male..real name bode

Donxavier:
I can't just keep quiet. Something still needs to be said regardless. At least he won't say he wasn't warned

carefreewannabe:
Same thought at the same time.

hollandis:
No,Am in the mood for butt lickets

If it were to be a black woman ,you would all crucify her because of her skin color.

carefreewannabe:
You have a very nice personality. Nicer than that of the OP.


#irony

hollandis:
Hahaha am in the mood today

Are you also a divorcee?
I see a lot of fat women with mulatto kids in baby strollers,she will soon join the band waggon

hollandis:
This is easy to know.

Ok,i dont know the fugly part,but she is fat.

I am in America,I know when a fat woman is lamenting,also there are a lot of alert signals she is giving out

paradoxqueen:
Hello,
To start with I am a white American woman and my husband is Nigerian. We have been married for almost a year. Anyways my husband claims to be frustrated with me disobeying. Frustrated enough he left and went back to Nigeria but returned after a little more then a week.
Now most of the time i don't think in my mind think to just obey him. What he says or we talk about well to me is only his opinion. I don't see anyone as authority to obey. I see people as people with opinions. my personality also contributes to this problem because i am spoiled, spontaneous, and well my husband says i think too much of myself... I say he doesnt think enough. I am not a disciplined person. I have lived my life doing what i want when i want and how i want.
Then other times i will very clearly purposely obey him. However.i only do this if he has upset me so that we may both be bothered and these times i clearly intend to anger him and frustrate him.
Now i have a problem that he wants me to obey him. I have several problems with this.... 1. I can't obey... I can Try.... But its not in me. 2. When we married our vows were messed up so i feel that is my escape clause that prevents me from really having to up hold to the martial vows. but most of all I just can't obey him. I could name many reasons why i won't or can't but i know myself well enough to know there is no situation with anyone i am going to obey.... Its just me...
Now my real problem is he is threatening to terminate the marriage if i don't obey... And i know he will.
I don't want the marriage to end but i don't want to obey him. And its probably easy to say obey him if i don't want it to end but i can't obey i don't know how and i don't even knowmost of the time when he expects me to i think he is just giving an opinion as no one not even my father would ask let alone demand me to obey.
So does anyone have anything they know i can do or any way i can alert.his mind on this obey thing?

Kimoni:
Guy, I ain't judging you, I just don't see the love being shown by men to their wives on this thread from you. What I see is the opposite.

Ur woman(amongst many others) nearly lost her life while both of you were forcefully trying to kill an innocent baby, and then gbam! She gets pregnant again the next month.

U deliberately sent her to the worst camp in naija so she can lose the baby and probably her life in the process, but alas! she survives again.

Somehow, u were forced to make her ur intended and despite all she has been thru, u confirm that she has remained strong in this pregnancy but yet, she still doesn't deserve any compliments from you to her face. Haba! my guy, you wicked small ooooo

But you really need to change ur whole orientation abt women and how they should be treated. The good thing abt you I must confess is ur honesty but it still doesn't make a bad thing right.

Women are more than punanies, just like a man is not all abt blokos. So far, you've treated the women in ur life esp ur pregnant intended like objects/toys which is wrong. For all ur woman has been thru with you and for you, if you compliment her every hr, I doubt if it's too much.The sooner you start treating ur woman right, like a human with feelings just like yourself, the better and happier ur new family will be.

All the best dude!

ogmask:
The moment came and she came forth. Beautiful baby she is. Am so happy and grateful to God. Mather and child fine and bubbling. Tnx for ur love.

edwife:
If you believe the list, then you can believe anything

It obvious they made up.

r231:
No be small thing oo

bukatyne:
Coccandy welcome to this thread

Thanks a lot

Pickabeau1 suggested I do so since the topic tilts toward it and I thought it was a good idea

EfemenaXY:
Lol!

It's what Lynda said na... I only just said it a bit louder...

beeevan:
These ladies una go kill person . Cococandy in labor, has she delivered yet?

SAMBARRY:
It's part of the love they are sharing aftetall there is loff in sharing and to crown it all I can bet they are all using the same toilet where the infection can be strengthened well well, that is if they don't steal each other's pants

ileobatojo:
Excellent!

Apart from those that have been brought up religiously to accept it, I see 2nd, 3rd, 4th wives etc as people without scruples. They probably have no qualms about getting it on the side from other men. Lawd knows the number of STD's recycled in these homes where man and women are all screwing around.

EfemenaXY:
Happy Saturday dear. We're all good dear - but eh, you're scarce these days sha. How's the little soldier and the rest of the family?



Oh...My...Gawd!

You're worse than me sef! Abeg, lemme just repeat wetin I dey read sef...you know, I must read aloud for the thing to sink in well-well these days...(whispers: d'you think I'm getting old sef?)

a. [size=24pt]Edwife[/size] is [size=24pt]pregnant[/size] again (twice in one week!)

b. [size=24pt]Cococandy[/size] is in [size=24pt]labour[/size].

c. [size=24pt]Beeevan[/size] is getting [size=24pt]married[/size].

EfemenaXY:
Nope, never encountered such. But then again, I always ignore such PMs. If I ever respond, it'll only be to people I already communicate with on nl.

People I know.

coogar:
would the society let them stay single? let's face it, as much as what the OP is true, the society is largely responsible for this pressure. if everyone minds their business, women would stay single & happy as it obtains in the developed parts of the world.

our society cannot harass women for being single & expect them not to take desperate measures. an unmarried woman in nigeria is an object of ridicule. it's almost like a disease for a woman with a marriageable age not to have a husband.

her parents will talk, her own friends would neglect her, family friends would keep pestering her about her wedding date & blah blah. just like the society expects a man to go out there & become successful by fire by force, it's the same for the woman to get married.

coogar:
americans would deny you for that - they believe is much easier for you to disappear & never return back if you don't have a family based in nigeria. single men are also treated harshly by the society.



this isn't about sheer numbers, it's about eligibility. nigerian women are highly hypergamous. they want the best of the lot, this is why you have all these outrageous society weddings all the time. it's the dream of most women. most of them won't date their age mates, let alone date someone younger than them.

by the time you add height, finances, educational background, profession, material wealth, etc into the equation, you would see that 90% of the available men would have failed the selection process. only 10% of the men would remain for the vast number of women seeking for a partner....and thus the scarcity of eligible men.

donpeey22:
The statistics above is fallacious to say the least. All evidence on ground point to the fact that their are more females than males on earth.

carefreewannabe:
This would be the end of any ladylike attitude if another woman opens the door of MY and HIS house for me.
https://www.xclusivetouch.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/Gifs-for-your-friends-breakup-kill-him-angry-woman.gif

kingminded:
Cococandy wan use laff kill me.... nice 1 anyway