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lynpetra: I think people mistake me for loretta u.We share same birth date too.Nope I am not married.

Ok. So was she cooking for you?
If yes,did you eat the food?
If yes,you have a share of the blame

krall: cooked story!!!?? I went for a short walk to get something at a shop

I can relate

Cooked up story
You came home one day and met her cooking in your apartment but you don't if she has a spare key or what.
How did she get in?

Taking her bath in your house? Phew. DUDE!!!

Lmao

kalamayat: Some men have four wives.

They'll come around gradually

What is free will to you?
And how do define the will of God?

Kay17: You are obviously confusing terms together and losing sight of their meanings. It seems you think all value judgments are as a result of freewill and magic is owed to divine will. Look at the Adam and Eve example, it is either their freewill OR of their divine will.

alutacontinua: AW: Nice
AS: Nice
tag: cococandy

Here

cococandy: AS : big open heart. Forgives easily
AW: emotional.

Tag: crackhaus

No guns?
You never ready for battle o.

*picks my mat back up and spreads it again*

egopersonified: *Topples cococandy's mat and sambarry's king size bed, spreads swords, axes and clubs for world war three battle of the sexes*

Spreads mat

Waiting for the double standards

How funny is that?


You're welcome btw

apolonius: My mouth is attempting some exercise to ensure wider opening.

How u dey?

Or between one old fart,one disgruntled first wife and a desperate second wife willing to attach to any man no matter the cost.

I wonder why no one sees the abuse of the wife's rights in her husband bringing in another woman into the marriage.

I'm definitely not pro-gay unions but comparing it to polygamy is silly.anytime anyone does , i just look at them and wonder where they kept their brain before typing the comment.

kandiikane: Because majority of the time polygamy in Africa is not by two or three consenting adults. It tends to be between an old fart and babies waiting for their first pube to sprout.

qstar: In summary, Cococandy, the essence of your thread is to preach to us "unbelievers".

What do you know about "theology"? Do you have a degree in theology or religion?

No. Not to preach to unbelievers. How can you be angry at a God you don't acknowledge his existence? It doesn't make sense.

This one is for believers who feel short-changed

I know hardly anything about theology. Neither did I study religion.

Shift for me joor.

alutacontinua: I have a strong feeling that I'll need my mat on this thread.

Neither will i

Apatheist: I will not argue with you.

You'd rather he were the god who's so 'powerful' he makes human puppets?

Judas2013: That is why your god is a powerless god. If i catch him/it, i will kill it!

Lol

TV01: I agree. The title was a bit misleading, but her utterances are very clear - and sensible IMHO. But she has blashpemed against the prevailing orthodoxy. She will be excommunicated if she doesn't repent with sackcloth and ashes. The fact that it somehow suggests that women are mindless creatures who need protection from themselves is besides the point.
TV

There's no relationship between the two.
God can't control your decision.
Your decision is yours and the consequences thereof.

Apatheist: So the "will of god" controls man's free will?

There's no law to that.
My husband was anglican
But we both changed to a new different denomination.

Apatheist: So you're whatever religion/denomination your husband is?

Of course I understand tha's what she meant too.
Just that it is easy to quote her out of context.

Erm we are fine thanks.
My old handle had some issues after the hurricane.

TV01: Clanger alert !

Lottie how far? Just figured out it's you. I liked your old handle jor.

The prevailing notion is "the victim is never to be blamed - in whole or in part - ever". It's PC orthodoxy. It's good as far as it goes, but it does present a dilemma of sorts - in some instances.

To claim it as stated means that women are not responsible for even their own choices. Which is probably what prompted the lady' remarks. There was a thread here a while back about "abuse". It was over a 100 pages.

One poster wrote about her serially dating "abusive men", but was very clear that no one should "blame" her. And of course, no one is blaming her for the "abuse", but one must question her "choices", emotional intelligence and maturity. But even that is off-limits according to the above mantra.

The truth is that if many women were more discerning, savvy and with higher expectations, many instances of abuse situations would never happen and many others would be stopped earlier. But it's simply not PC to say so.

This is what I reckon the lady in the OP probably meant, especially given the high level of support available to those in abusive situations in Sweden.

How's Oga?


TV

crackhaus: That's her husband.
You should pity any man who tries to snatch her from him.

Well what's wrong with what she said?

Hmm. What's the difference?

I married outside the catholic faith tho so I'm no longer catholic

Apatheist: Cococandy, you sound like a Jehovah Witness.

(I know you're a Catholic )

Lol.

Someone who knows me is telling you he is and you still doubt.


Ok just face the topic sha.

AlfaSeltzer: In la la land?
Dream is free.

That's my darling husband.

AlfaSeltzer: cococandy those pics of yours na wa o.
I pity your husband.

Free will and the will of GOd aren't the same thing brother

Apatheist: So it is not really free?

Your free will and the will of God aren't mutually exclusive.
Your free will can let you decide to do good or evil
But it can't let you decide to win the lottery or get hit by lightening.

Visit gotquestions.org

Why does God allow bad things to happen to good people?"

Answer: This is one of the most difficult questions in all of theology. God is eternal, infinite, omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent. Why should human beings (not eternal, infinite, omniscient, omnipresent, or omnipotent) expect to be able to fully understand God’s ways? The book of Job deals with this issue. God had allowed Satan to do everything he wanted to Job except kill him. What was Job’s reaction? “Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him” (Job 13:15). “The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised” (Job 1:21). Job did not understand why God had allowed the things He did, but he knew God was good and therefore continued to trust in Him. Ultimately, that should be our reaction as well.

Why do bad things happen to good people? The biblical answer is there are no “good” people. The Bible makes it abundantly clear that all of us are tainted by and infected with sin (Ecclesiastes 7:20; Romans 3:23; 1 John 1:. Romans 3:10-18 could not be clearer about the non-existence of “good” people: “There is no one righteous, not even one; there is no one who understands, no one who seeks God. All have turned away, they have together become worthless; there is no one who does good, not even one. Their throats are open graves; their tongues practice deceit. The poison of vipers is on their lips. Their mouths are full of cursing and bitterness. Their feet are swift to shed blood; ruin and misery mark their ways, and the way of peace they do not know. There is no fear of God before their eyes.” Every human being on this planet deserves to be thrown into hell at this very moment. Every second we spend alive is only by the grace and mercy of God. Even the most terrible misery we could experience on this planet is merciful compared to what we deserve, eternal hell in the lake of fire.

A better question would be “Why does God allow good things to happen to bad people?” Romans 5:8 declares, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Despite the evil, wicked, sinful nature of the people of this world, God still loves us. He loved us enough to die to take the penalty for our sins (Romans 6:23). If we receive Jesus Christ as Savior (John 3:16; Romans 10:9), we will be forgiven and promised an eternal home in heaven (Romans 8:1)

Yes, sometimes bad things happen to people who seem undeserving of them. But God allows things to happen for His reasons, whether or not we understand them. Above all, however, we must remember that God is good, just, loving, and merciful. Often things happen to us that we simply cannot understand. However, instead of doubting God's goodness, our reaction should be to trust Him. ”Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Question: "Is it wrong to be angry with God?"

Answer: Being angry at God is something that many people, both believers and unbelievers, have wrestled with throughout time. When something tragic happens in our lives, we ask God the question, “Why?” because it is our natural response. What we are really asking Him, though, is not so much “Why, God?” as “Why me, God?” This response indicates two flaws in our thinking. First, as believers we operate under the impression that life should be easy, and that God should prevent tragedy from happening to us. When He does not, we get angry with Him. Second, when we do not understand the extent of God’s sovereignty, we lose confidence in His ability to control circumstances, other people, and the way they affect us. Then we get angry with God because He seems to have lost control of the universe and especially control of our lives. When we lose faith in God’s sovereignty, it is because our frail human flesh is grappling with our own frustration and our lack of control over events. When good things happen, we all too often attribute it to our own achievements and success. When bad things happen, however, we are quick to blame God, and we get angry with Him for not preventing it, which indicates the first flaw in our thinking—that we deserve to be immune to unpleasant circumstances.

Tragedies bring home the awful truth that we are not in charge. All of us think at one time or another that we can control the outcomes of situations, but in reality it is God who is in charge of all of His creation. Everything that happens is either caused by or allowed by God. Not a sparrow falls to the ground nor a hair from our head without God knowing about it (Matthew 10:29-31). We can complain, get angry, and blame God for what is happening. Yet if we will trust Him and yield our bitterness and pain to Him, acknowledging the prideful sin of trying to force our own will over His, He can and will grant us His peace and strength to get us through any difficult situation (1 Corinthians 10:13). Many believers in Jesus Christ can testify to that very fact. We can be angry with God for many reasons, so we all have to accept at some point that there are things we cannot control or even understand with our finite minds.

Our understanding of the sovereignty of God in all circumstances must be accompanied by our understanding of His other attributes: love, mercy, kindness, goodness, righteousness, justice, and holiness. When we see our difficulties through the truth of God’s Word—which tells us that our loving and holy God works all things together for our good (Romans 8:28), and that He has a perfect plan and purpose for us which cannot be thwarted (Isaiah 14:24, 46:9-10)—we begin to see our problems in a different light. We also know from Scripture that this life will never be one of continual joy and happiness. Rather, Job reminds us that “man is born to trouble as surely as sparks fly upward” (Job 5:7), and that life is short and “full of trouble” (Job 14:1). Just because we come to Christ for salvation from sin does not mean we are guaranteed a life free from problems. In fact, Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble,” but that He has “overcome the world” (John 16:33), enabling us to have peace within, in spite of the storms that rage around us (John 14:27).

One thing is certain: inappropriate anger is sin (Galatians 5:20; Ephesians 4:26-27, 31; Colossians 3:. Ungodly anger is self-defeating, gives the devil a foothold in our lives, and can destroy our joy and peace if we hang on to it. Holding on to our anger will allow bitterness and resentment to spring up in our hearts. We must confess it to the Lord, and then in His forgiveness, we can release those feelings to Him. We must go before the Lord in prayer often in our grief, anger, and pain. The Bible tells us in 2 Samuel 12:15-23 that David went before the throne of grace on behalf of his sick baby, fasting, weeping, and praying for him to survive. When the baby passed away, David got up and worshipped the Lord and then told his servants that he knew where his baby was and that he would someday be with him in God’s presence. David cried out to God during the baby’s illness, and afterward he bowed before Him in worship. That is a wonderful testimony. God knows our hearts, and it is pointless to try to hide how we really feel, so talking to Him about it is one of the best ways to handle our grief. If we do so humbly, pouring out our hearts to Him, He will work through us, and in the process, will make us more like Him.

The bottom line is can we trust God with everything, our very lives and the lives of our loved ones? Of course we can! Our God is compassionate, full of grace and love, and as disciples of Christ we can trust Him with all things. When tragedies happen to us, we know God can use them to bring us closer to Him and to strengthen our faith, bringing us to maturity and completeness (Psalm 34:18; James 1:2-4). Then, we can be a comforting testimony to others (2 Corinthians 1:3-5). That is easier said than done, however. It requires a daily surrendering of our own will to His, a faithful study of His attributes as seen in God’s Word, much prayer, and then applying what we learn to our own situation. By doing so, our faith will progressively grow and mature, making it easier to trust Him to get us through the next tragedy that most certainly will take place.

So, to answer the question directly, yes, it is wrong to be angry at God. Anger at God is a result of an inability or unwillingness to trust God even when we do not understand what He is doing. Anger at God is essentially telling God that He has done something wrong, which He never does. Does God understand when we are angry, frustrated, or disappointed with Him? Yes, He knows our hearts and He knows how difficult and painful life in this world can be. Does that make it right to be angry with God? Absolutely not. Instead of being angry with God, we should pour out our hearts to God in prayer and then trust that He is in control and that His plan is perfect.