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crackhaus: No one remembers? Aren't you stretching a little bit too much?

But these new generation pastors like women sha, True story.

BraveGuy: Proverbs 26:4 Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him.
Proverbs 26:5 Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own conceit.

BraveGuy: Call it what you will, what is the point of trying to convert someone who is adamant of facing the consequence of the Hell he denies - no, I am not trying to convert the hardened heart.

This is just an information to be shared, at least, we are in the information age.

Enjoy the info as you make your way to Hell. Have a nice trip, but sad trip!

crackhaus: I would be surprised if he (the pastor) comes up with one for women.
Most of these new generation pastors are very woman-friendly, no offence meant but they like women no be small.

I can just imagine ladies chanting 'ride on pastor' from the audience when he preaches.

feedthenation: What about the powerful messages for married women?

Apatheist: As a feminist or as a Christian?

LyndaRoyce: Hello room! Hope we're all good.
Halura and Amjane, I saw your complaint about indigestion in the pregnancy thread. I cannot reply ya'll over there because I was banned. So I thought of giving my reply here.
Actually, one will probably have to live with some indigestion during pregnancy. Though it's a discomfort to you but the slowing down of your digestive system gives your body time to pass nutrient through the placenta to your baby.
During preggy your body secretes hormones which tend to make your muscles relax. That relaxation of your muscles slows ya digestive progress after meal.
Indigestion during preggy cannot be escaped but can merely be managed......
Take your time to properly masticate your meals before swallow......
After eating,try not to exert extra pressure on yoir tummy/waist, instead of bending with your waist,use your knees.
Sit-up straight,wear loose/comfortable wears and also wait for atleast 1hr b4 lying down after meal.
Eat your dinner early(3-4hrs b4 bed) thus to prevent bloating.
Drinks containing caffeiene also aggravates indigestion...minimize your intake.
Avoid alcohol and ciggarettes for they encourage indigestion/heartburn.
Wish you both a stress-free pregnancy/delivery period.

Zemaye.... I recognize this moniker! Hope u're good. How bobo?
Chillisauce edwife cococandy efemena royalroy naijababe damiso r231 tonyxtopher etc I dey greet o.

Apatheist: Calling _Christian feminist: Cococandy
Your thoughts?

bukatyne: Thanks

How are you and bros

edwife: Condoms for the rest of their life?

How boring is that?

bukatyne: Very funny OP:

What happens when the wife becomes more ambitious yers after marriage?

The key is not finding a less ambitious wife; it is finding a woman with the same values.

Also, one's path does not equal ambitiousness or lack of; I heard of a teacher who never married because he always wanted to be there for his students and saw marriage as a hindrance (wierd considering the fact that teaching is a go to profession for married women due to time. Let us not go into the reason why most teachers are frustrated and add absolutely no values to the pupils) ; while I was serving, I organized night classes when I felt the day time was not enough.

There are also women in seemingly ambitious prfessions who are just there by chance.

Don't also confuse hours spent with ambition; a cleaner who lives at Oshod and works at V/I will spend more time at work (transport included) than a bank mgr who lives at Lekki and works at V/I.

Training a child is not the hours spent but the quality of the time spent.

And lastly, it is the duty of both parents to build a home and train their kids.

P.S.: What class would late Dora Akunyili fall into?

hayorbaami: As simple as the above. I do not understand why some assume every ambitious woman lacks time management and will not know how to balance the homefront. Are they trying to tell me teachers or these ministry workers raise kids better than their counterpart in the corporate world? As far as I am concerned, all hands should be on deck for a family to progress. If a woman decides to settle for less just to keep the homefront, what happens when the husband dies, gets sacked, starts misbehaving and the money flow from her less ambitious job isn't enough to cater for every member of the family anymore?


Should a woman who is a nurse that would definitely run afternoon and night shifts give up her job and passion cos homefront will suffer? Or a female doctor who's always on call? These people with(or sometimes without) the help of their husbands still train good children because they manage their time and multitask effectively even if it is at the detriment of their social lives.

To each is own, but we have stop this misleading assumption that every ambitious woman will fail in her home. These women are seen in all sectors in today's world having the best of both(career and family).

TV01: I was really liking this until I hit the bolded. It's plainly contradictory. As a husband and father, I reduced my "personal activity time" to be with and contribute to my family more.

I also cut the hours I was putting in at work - in many corporations working smart is fine, but you have to be seen working hard as well, moreso if you are a "minority" - I curtaied some of my personal ambitions - am I in bondage?

The myth of "have it all" or the fallacy of role "reversal" can only ever hold true for a few, and that due uncommon circumstances. They simply won't work for the vast majority.

Biblically and in most cultures, the primary rsponsibility of a couple is the well-being of their family. Moreso if there are children involved. Ab initio, getting married means there will probalby come a point at which sacrifice is involved - i.e. putting others, especially children before yourself. There are natural roles and roles that tend to come naturally. Do men give birth? Do children not instinctively turn to their mothers when in distress. Are both parents equally needed during a childs earliest years?

Biblically even men are to ensure their homes are in order before they take on duties in the church. For both men and women, the well-being of the family unit comes first and if personal ambitions - in any endeavour - have to be curtailed/sacrificed/truncated to ensure this then so be it. You are implicitly agreeing to this when you get married, so be sure to understand that fact.

As for role reversal, especially in the sense of being a bread-winner. I won't repeat myself having written on that here;
https://www.nairaland.com/1804695/whats-happening-men/8#24591430


If anyone wants to work with a model that is not scriptural, cultural or traditional, fine, but be sure both parties are clearly aware and accepting of this before marriage. Otherwise it's touching stories of "after marriage they changed....". If your career or personal ambitions are more important than your marriage, please let them know long before the "I do " stage.


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Joel3: i'm fine and you. are you loreta_U? What happen to your username? Is this a new id?

carefreewannabe: And the man does not have to succeed as a family man, right?

And a woman who decides not to marry and have children is a failure, right?

lynpetra: The role of a father remains different from a mother.Naturally,kids knows that daddy is the one that works to put food on the table.That is why a situation where a woman is the bread winner is seen as totally abnormal and far away from the norms.No matter what,a hardworking father will definitely have little time for his kids excerpt he is jobless.He spends little time and thus dependent on the wife to give more info concerning any problems he is not aware of.A situation where the wife is also ambitious like him will definitely place him in situation where he might not get vital info about his children's welfare and challenges.The role of the African woman/mother should never be sacrificed at the alter of ambition.There should be a reasonable limit to achieving her ambitions especially when it clearly affects her family. I know women wants to play vital roles in the society, heck this is the 21st,but a woman who succeeds as career woman and yet her family is in shambles is still considered a failure!

lynpetra: I believe in maintaining a balance between being a family woman and a career woman.In a situation when one has to suffer,let it be the latter.The family remains the smallest unit of a society,if it's foundation is lacking, the society must be negatively affected.

Joel3: i think we have treated this topic before? Why do I have feeling that the op might be carefreewannabe who only user another moniker to popup this again since the former thread is gone due to the recent attack.

It was a complete debate between carefreewannabe, loreta_u and we. We silent them from the debate. Dailynews Well i just imagine what the username of loreta will look like now.

crackhaus: These things are not black or white.
Who says a career oriented and highly ambitious woman can not also be there for her children and family?

There are ways around these things that work for heaven's sake...unless the woman is just plain lazy, which is where problem arises.

tonididdy: brb let me get u a link pls.........................................................................................kk read this quickly https://www.nairaland.com/1807244/how-describe-girl-like please comeback here to quote me "with your final tots pls"

tonididdy: I doubt the sensible part sha