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I'd see a problem if she didn't take his name at all.
But if she did,what's the big deal?


Op tell her,for peace' sake. She can drop her middle name, use her former surname as middle name and use hubby's surname as her surname. Matter go end.

Ghen ghen!!!

Are guys so weak they need prayers to keep their thing in their panties?
The other day it was karma to blame
Today it is lack of prayers.
Na wa o. When will you people start taking responsibility for your actions?

I pray for my husband every morning I wake up. But not about the silly prayer points the OP offered. There are plenty things to pray about and keeping his pants zipped isn't one prayer can solve.
We Nigerians can like to pray about things that God has given us the common sense to handle.
Disturbing the poor guy when he should be busy listening to the other people's important prayers.

For me the second was is the one that's too much.
One can say the first one is grossly inappropriate
But the second one when no one was looking and when they thought they couldn't be seen.
Hmmm.
To me that one speaks volumes.
Who knows if some smacking of lips happened before he saw them?

(watching)

pickabeau1: That was mentioned also.. however the first one is too much

@topic. Yes it can

I wonder what he'll be like.
Probably over the moon.
Lol.
A name has already been chosen for her by him.

Anyway until then

See people cracking brains to give this jobless OP advice.
I'm sure he didn't believe one word he read here.
He'll keep thinking what he's thinking.

Fancy coming back to see my mention button vibrating.

@renessanx
Oga get a life and stop hating. And stop disturbing my mentions too.

Your rants doesn't change the fact that you're not a well meaning critic but a hater in disguise.

Laughing like m0r0ns are we?
Ok lemme join

can I give up my mirror addiction?

A NEW beauty trend is on the rise which promises to help women feel more confident – introducing “mirror fasting”. The theory is that by avoiding looking in mirrors for a significant period of time you will become less fixated on your image and will boost your self-esteem.


Excerpts from a convert's testimony




Debbi is happy to be reunited with her mirror []
This is right up my street as while I don’t see myself as a particularly vain person I can’t deny that I’m somewhat addicted to my reflection. We have nine mirrors at home, three of which are in my bedroom.

When I admitted to a friend how much I check myself before going out she was amazed I found time to leave the house at all.

I don’t stand there gazing adoringly. I scrutinise myself from every angle, keen to see how others view me, so I know exactly what is going to step out of the door. Once outside it doesn’t stop. Car and shop windows are perfect for a quick image check.

Sometimes when I’m out for dinner I even have to make sure my seat doesn’t face a window or mirror otherwise I’m distracted by my own face all night.

A recent study, published in the journal Behaviour Research and Therapy, found that women look in the mirror around 38 times a day

I’m not alone. A recent study, published in the journal Behaviour Research and Therapy, found that women look in the mirror around 38 times a day.

It’s clearly high time I begin my mirror fast. For a week I decide to allow myself a small hand mirror to do my make-up and a cursory glance in a full-length mirror to make sure I avoid any sartorial skirt-tucked-into-knickers nightmares. I then cover the main mirrors in my house. I’m under no illusion that a habit I’ve had for years will be hard to break.

My first task is getting ready in the morning. I no longer spend precious minutes agonising over the new wrinkles etching themselves into my face or the odd blemish that may or may not evolve into a pimple. Basic tasks such as brushing my teeth or putting in my contact lenses are considerably more challenging. I play my outfits safe by wearing tried and tested jeans and T-shirt combinations but I can’t deny I’m anxious. Using a small hand mirror I quickly apply some eyeliner and mascara.

However, the second I leave the house to take my son to nursery, I’m hit by my reflection in a car window. I duck my head before being greeted by a bank of reflective office windows lining the road.

Usually I would glance sideways in order to make sure I’m standing up straight or to see if my bottom has changed in size since I left the house.

Now I’m not able to, I’m suddenly aware of how much I seek out my reflection.

My new plan is to keep my eyes in front of me and allow myself to think about other things such as the various meetings I have to arrange.

“It will get easier,” I reassure myself but like a true addict I’m suffering from withdrawal. I can’t help feeling that my teeth aren’t clean enough and I have to rely on friends to tell me if I have any spinach caught between them.

I don’t see any upsides to avoiding the mirror until my new regime comes into its own after one particularly late night.

Instead of gazing at hungover bloodshot eyes I scurry past every reflective surface and head out of the door carefree. If I have no idea how wretched I look I can’t possibly be bothered by it.

I reach new heights halfway through the week when I complete the nursery drop off in my scruffy gym gear but I find it impossible to remain reflection-free for the entire week. A rogue mirror in a public toilet catches me unaware.

At the end of my week I’m eager to check in the mirror that all is as it should be.

It’s a thrill to see myself brush my teeth and get dressed with the reassurance of my reflection.

Part of me misses the freedom of not worrying about what I look like though and since my experiment I’ve made a conscious effort to cut down on how much I look at myself.

Mirror fasting made me quite anxious at first but as the days passed I felt liberated as I became used to not checking myself every minute.

How many ladies can go out a day without first looking in the mirror?
'Not I' said cococandy.
Many of us even carry one around with us in our handbags.lol

Unfortunately,from mere habit this has turned into a full blown obsession for many women.

While it may not be harmful at first,continuous indulgence in this obsession has led to conceit and vanity and sometimes narcissism for those who don't like what they see

Studies have shown that this addiction is becoming a globally recognized one and scientists have developed a method known as mirror fasting to help women work on this addiction and improve on their self esteem.

So sad

Most of us don't even know how addicted we are to mirrors until there's none available

Lol. do girls fall for such lines these days?
OP next one that says that to you give him a chase with your high heels in your hands

Some will even give an emphatic NO when you ask them if they are married.
Denying the marriage instantly. With smooth stunning lies that make you cringe when you find out the truth about their marital status.

Girls if your instincts say 'run'
Pls run.

Too bad.
RIP to the deceased.
What a horrible way to go

softsparkyy: Cococandy, I'm the one liking his posts.
For once let's try and call a spade a spade . Did you guys even see how that Babymama1 described the woman's husband? She called him a tout (omata) and said the man must be pinging with one of his numerous ashawos. Imagine, a man she doesn't even know.
Damn!!! Most times I doubt if that woman is really married or a mother.
I followed her because of one wonderful thread she opened about showing our parents love . now the same woman turned around and termed us bush and uncultured.

To me callling a spade a spade is to say that when I see something going over board I know. I don't find the pictures amusing and I won't lie I liked some of the mature critical posts that I read.
The guy you liked his post and a few others like him are full of hate and for them this isn't about the pictures but more personal stuff.
It is as simple as that.

For you to even know,the thread had been dead for days and he came back to wake it up.
Mr renessaince Dude what's your problem?
Pls this is weird even if you guys don't see it.
I do.
It's too personal for them. One has to just wonder why.
If the MOD didn't think it was weird too he wouldn't have hidden or banned the poster that made the post which led to my hate comment in the first place

Besides I don't know babymama from anywhere so the allusion that she's my friend by some posters is just plain silly.
Cest finis!

softsparkyy: Cococandy, I'm the one liking his posts.
For once let's try and call a spade a spade . Did you guys even see how that Babymama1 described the woman's husband? She called him a tout (omata) and said the man must be pinging with one of his numerous ashawos. Imagine, a man she doesn't even know.
Damn!!! Most times I doubt if that woman is really married or a mother.
I followed her because of one wonderful thread she opened about showing our parents love . now the same woman turned around and termed us bush and uncultured.

To me callling a spade a spade is to say that when I see something going over board I know. I don't find the pictures amusing and I won't lie I liked some of the mature critical posts that I read.
The guy you liked his post and a few others like him are full of hate and for them this isn't about the pictures but more personal stuff.
It is as simple as that.

For you to even know,the thread had been dead for days and he came back to wake it up.
Mr renessaince Dude what's your problem?
Pls this is weird even if you guys don't see it.
I do.
It's too personal for them. One has to just wonder why.

Besides I don't know babymama from anywhere so the allusion that she's my friend by some posters is just plain silly.
Cest finis!

Go in peace
And get a life while you're at it.

MrRenaissance: Do you specialise in being dumb or what? Are you so embedded in dumbness that you can't process thoughts well anymore? Of course it's always been about the person!! All those that harshly and softly criticised Babymama1, who were they criticising? Antispambot? The "critics" you have no problem with, who did they criticise? Are you blind or just being stùpid?

Who posted the pics? Did the pics post themselves? Who invaded the woman's privacy? Spirits? Your village witchdoctor? Who called the woman and her kids, uncultured things? You? WTF are you spewing?

Hold up, so let's say you murdered someone, in the court, the judge will say "I sentence your acts of murder to life imprisonment but you the killer, I set you free"? LMAO!! Damn, you are more dumber that I gave you credit for.

Smh.

Do you need to go back to school to learn what friendship is?

5minsmadness: Oh, beg your pardon. She must be your enemy then or someone whose posts you couldn't care about less. Its a wonder your even answered her. My bad.

Highness

myboy2010: those that ve sense of reasoning are very minimal.. imagine where 99.5 hav got just fish brain so watz d point saying they hav 1....moreover those that ve is only by God!'s mercy.. check rom;9-15...

You're funny.
In a weird way kinda.
True intentions as in I've a case with the woman in the picture? Or the OP? Or I have a vested interest in any of them?

I must have too much time on my hands this morning to reply your silly insinuations and even try to make sense of what you're typing.Because frankly they don't make sense.I've nothing personal with the OP.
I don't get why you guys do.

And you guys better end your hate online.
The childishness is getting too much. You take care too.

Anacksunamun: As always, you shift the post again. When someone exposes your true intentions, you mask it up with vague conclusions. You can't fool no one. You tried it with Pickbeau1, trying to make your Babymama1's invasion of privacy seem like a kid's play but he stood on his words and you now became the judge to judge what can be called hating or criticism.

One funny thing about hypocrisy is, the way the person keeps making lame excuses in order to sound right.

Your scenarios will make a good Nollywood script.

Scenario 1: Babymama1 takes the pic of an unsuspecting woman WITHOUT HER PERMISSION, brings it to Nairaland, mocks hers, calls her uncultured and insults her kids, calling them bush THINGS. A clear case of invading the woman's privacy, and you call it CRITICISM/LOVE.

Scenario 2: A member invades Babymama1's privacy and attacks her, giving her the same treatment she gave the old woman in her post, and suddenly after weeks of keeping quiet, you stood up for Babymama1 and calls the member a hater.

LMAO..this is some Oscar-winning movie stunt you pulled there. Back to reading without commenting, this comedy is meant to be watched without commenting. Take care.

That's because you read with bias.

I stated clearly that I don't have anything against critics.
And I know I've used the word 'unsavory' like 3times already about the pics.

I do have something against those taking it personal. And that is the hate I'm talking about.
It's no more about the pics but about the person.

What you people want is for me to start ranting like the rabid dog some of the posters here are so you'll be satisfied.
Mtchew

pickabeau1: cococandy.. morning

So you still dont accept that both acts are wrong?


Hmm...

Bla to the bla.

So what's with the 'friend' line? Is there something in the water you guys drink these days? Or every female on the same thread are friends?

5minsmadness: Truth my ass. Keep deceiving yourself. There was no truth there.
Half of what s/he said was rubbish and highly biased, the other half could equally be blamed on women as well as men.
"He was furious and resisted the urge to punch him" he should have done it na and received the beating of his life.

Yeah its a 2009 thread. Nairaland was much saner then that's why the MODS didn't bring it to front page cos it wasn't quality material. The mods of nowadays however are just looking for anything that will bring traffic thier way hence it hitting front page after 5years!
Gender wars are the in-thing now so go figure.

And for your friend's answer, No men have not devolved. They have stopped being dumb. They have simply realised there is no pleasing you females and have decided to enjoy their lives without your constant bickering input.

Done with the bullshit.
Hang around and wait for the next person to lambaste.
Try convince me it's about the post and not about your personal bias against the poster. I look like a baby?
Mtchew.

Like I said before.
'May hate not kill you guys'

Those who disliked the thread said theirs and left you're still here mastobating on another thing entirely.
Liking each others posts like secondary school boys.

OP I have no advice for you.
Just be prepared for 3somess.
You guys can enjoy life to the fullest and have all your sex parties in your matrimonial bed
You know the bring-a-date kind of party.
You bring your bf and he brings his gf.
Parryy all de way

Mtchew.
You that was created from sand we can see how smart you are.
Grow up

What does that tell you?

craziebone: what i saw on twitter is that the pst got few responses to the #MarriedMen tweet series. But the #MarriedWomen tweet series got overwhelming negative response.

I've no idea.
Na so I see am.
It's mostly only on NL anyway.

shaybebaby: So what do you think happened to guys? Have they devolved ?

5 ......Divorce..... ahahaha...how show are you Miss Touchy-fingers-Attention-cometh wont do worse ?

What's this? People gat jokes sha.


Op sorry o. It's normal what's happening to you.
But you've already gotten some ok advice here. Just apply them and see if there'll be improvement. I hope there will be.

Gay because he's speaking the truth?

2009 that's 5yrs ago. Nairaland was a bit more sane than it is now. We had mostly real and humble men. Not closet misogynists.
I wish I was around then.
When I go through the posts of guys then and guys now there's a remarkable difference

5minsmadness: Its obvious Mrwaters is either female or gay anyway.

You really want to understand something?
She posted an unsavory picture,people criticized her. That's no problem.

But the critics left and the haters came.
How is that too complex to grab? You may not know what's going on but I do.
One even carried his hate from the polygamy thread where she ousted him to this thread and the other one and eventually took it to another entirely different thread where she didn't even post or visit.

So pls shut it if this is your first time of being here.

Na me una dey teach the difference between hate and criticism.
Wicked people hiding behind critics to wish others ill.
If I wasn't a victim of this hate on this forum in the past,maybe one could say I don't know what's happening.
To the extent that another had to go find her 'purported' address and come paste it here for anyone who might be interested in dealing with her.
I guess that's still ok by your standards.

His hate filled post and those after him rejoicing at her probable imminent demise is what prompted me to make my comment about hate before pickabeau jumped on my case and your oga renessaince came riding on his wooden horse brandishing his sword of foolishness to save the day.

You guys can rant all you want. But it doesn't change the fact that I know those who criticized out of the honesty of their hearts and I know those who'll travel the distance it takes if they can find their way to physically harm the OP.
It is what it is
And y'all can't pretend otherwise and act like you don't see deep hatred in some people's posts

Anacksunamun: I want to understand something here. So your friend taking a pic of an unsuspecting lady, bringing it online and going ahead to insult her and her kids is because "she loves her so much and doesn't hate her," and hence wants to show the world how dumb the woman is? Did you really type this comment just to defend Babymama1 or what? So your friend can bring up another anonymous human's life on NL and her's can't be revealed? Because she's God or what?