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Klass99:
Lol. Okay I give up, you make a valid point. It could be a fake story but from my observation fake posters don't always stick around to engage and answer questions or when they do they are very dodgy. But then again I remember the likes of oldie.naive and I can't help but laugh.

What did oldie navy do? Lol

Klass99:
I have had medical tests where I didn't know some of what I was being tested for. You know how you go in for one thing and they decide to do the full works, then they write stuff down in medical terminology lay men don't understand........I always have to ask them to speak English and break it down to me. It's possible that looking at his results alone he didn't figure it out, until popsie a medical doctor pointed it out..

I think you can be excused because a blood sample can be used to test so many things so of course unless you know what they are testing for, you many not realize it at the time.

But male fertility test requires sperm sample. They have to ejaculate semen into a cup and hand the sample over to the lab to be inspected under a microscope for concentration, viability and motility etc. Which is why it makes no sense that he didn’t realize what test it was for at the time. Just wondering if it’s another NL story. That’s all.

Gerrard59:
Another fairytale from Seun and his boys. So, a 38-year-old man does not know that fertility tests are important prerequisites to be married? That he needs to make it known to a public forum.

Not only that, I wonder how he went for fertility test and didn’t realize it. What did he think the semen sample he provided was for? The way he said it as if he didn’t know at the time that it’s fertility test.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.

Sorry for your loss OP. Pls don’t blame yourself

You’re right she has a right to refuse.

But I too think it’s not a bad test for couples to willingly go through before marriage. I think my only reservation is that it’s coming from the dad (with ultimatums too) which gives me the vibe that he might be an intrusive parent in law after the wedding. Hopefully he doesn’t really mean it that way. Maybe just to get them to comply.

I think the second part of my post was mainly at OP not even you. I failed to indicate that. Just wanting him to know a simple blood test is not all that’s needed to judge a woman’s fertility. I don’t even know if I’m putting sand in this girl’s garri by typing this.

Let me come and be going

Persephone1:
You are right, the lady should do some investigation too ( nobody holy pass) for the father to even request for his son fertility self raises eyebrow. Why did he do that? Is op struggling with any sickness? But I decided to input my thoughts from the males perspective because he created the thread, he needed the response. Don't worry Coco this thread won't generate into insult for women , op get too much for body. Lol First he will have to explain to we council of elders what he was doing till 38 before he could get a woman and why he is reluctant to ask his online lover for necessary test and also why he is eager to marry an online lady without meeting her physically first.

You explaining it this way gives me shivers, scary. She has every right to reject the request but I believe intending couples should be plain with each other to avoid unnecessary issues. It's the same way I will investigate the death of a widower's wife if I consider getting hitched with one. The past is just as important as the presence of a person.

pocohantas:
Hahahaha. He has a blue passport na. They are untouchable and perfect. Person wey we suppose investigate for the girl sef.

I go help her investigate. Make she just find me small something

Persephone1:
Seconded!

The fact that the father requested the test from his son shows he has no bad intentions here.

With what some ladies are into these days, I will request same if I'm a guy.

What are some ladies into these day’s that’s so different from the past or even worse than what men are into?
Only asking because I’ve seen a few comments talking about what the ladies are into. Anyway it’s a rhetorical question. You may not mean anything by it but I just know how threads like these slowly devolve into Nigerian women insult fest even if it’s unintentional.

That being said, fertility test for women is not as simple as that for men. A man’s sperm count and hormone levels can easily be checked via blood sample and a sperm specimen in a jar. Female hormones can be easily checked too and they’ll tell you all is well. But the Egg count may or may not be easy to check depending on location of the lady. What about structural integrity of the uterus and fallopian tubes? Also depends on her location. And those are even more important than hormone level because you can achieve fertilization all you want due to normal hormones level but implantation will never occur due to conditions in the fallopian tube and uterus that you can’t see in a blood test. Sometimes invasive ultrasound is the only way to check for those. What if she doesn’t want to go that far?

She’s even doing him a favor. Small small he will clock 45 and still wait for his dad to tell him what to do.

pocohantas:
How about you pay an investigator to find about yourself? Majority of you diasporans will use your hand to come for homebased partners, then peace of mind would depart them. Save yourself the stress and marry there.

The guy is 38 and SINGLE, but na the girl you wan pay to investigate. So the OP hasn't visited another woman's house since he was born? Diasporans always claiming spotless by virtue of foreign citizenship. Na all these girls wey fit die to marry abroad guy una fit do this one for. Bunch of narcissists!

Tiwa baby. Shine on

Ngige said that people borrow money to study medical courses in most countries, which they pay back after graduation.

He claimed that it is the reason they don’t leave their countries unlike their counterparts in Nigeria

This man must be an slowpoke. Does he realize they get paid well hence they can pay off their loans comfortably?

GloriousGbola:
For me, this is on Chioma. She had 3 years for any scales on her eyes to fall off.

The unfortunate death of ifeanyi was a dark opportunity for reflection and a reset. Am I comfortable with being married to a guy I will be publicly sharing with several other women? Does being married to him constitute anything but a pyrrhic victory?

I won't say it is unfortunate because imho, she took the final step (legal marriage) with her eyes wide open.

At some weddings friends of the groom or bride are muttering among themselves - does this person really know what they are in for? Well Chioma definitely knows.

I agree. As dark as it was, the kid’s death was an opportunity for her to detach. Maybe?

Honestly I can’t speak on that type of grief because it’s hard to know how it can affect one.

I also heard her family as igbo culture does won’t let the kid be taken to the father’s house for burial without proper marriage ceremony. Maybe she felt she had to marry him so she wouldn’t be the person that stops her child from “resting in peace”.

We’ll never know.

But I wouldn’t have married him. At least not without some ultimatums

GloriousGbola:
Good luck senior wife Chioma.
You can now take Annie idibia as a mentor for tips on how to manage a serial baby daddy hubby.

Isn’t it unfortunate?

Davido could have just respected this lady seeing all they’ve been through and all the promises he made to her publicly

1Sharon:
Didn't you know your sexual orientation as a teen?

No he had to try men and women first before deciding which one he liked best

advanceDNA:
No dey quote lgbt text book abeg..

I don’t know what that means. I’m just telling you I didn’t have sex as a teenager yet I knew I was sexually attracted to men. It’s the same for gay people. It’s not complicated

You can know if you’re gay or straight in your teens. No sexual activity required

advanceDNA:
...is she having sex already that she now knows and has come to the conclusion its women she likes to fvck?? All these small children seff

She just entered teen years ...all she's doing is playing to the script of the movies and media content they watch these days, there by trying to put a label on what she doesnt even understand but what she's seeing.......its media influence and the doctored lgbt manipulation that is everywhere these days

I remeber my neighbors kid that used to say he has super powers like henry danger... u need to see how he gets serious about it...

dont tell her parents..they will just demonize her......let her figure herself out as her hormones start to rage.......but let her know she's not ready or mature for sex yet.... So there is no point sexually boxing or labelling herself based on any media content as her life just started ..... she should explore, process and engage things as they unravel in the real world with boys and girls

You sound like a kid. Bye

theredaddy:
Whu intiated the 1st "Hi" in garden of eden
Between Adam and Eve whu made the 1st attempt at night
For every male friend you had, whu made the 1st move

Maybe it Men call to always make moves on women, however one thing is sure all those gurlz that get bullied here aint saint including you, guyz pick on them cos they are known