₦airaland Forum

bukatyne:
you admit that you misrepresented what I stand for in your previous post.

MrCuteking:
Same thing happened to my customer. He was in Canada. His Nigerian wife showed him shege so he had to retire back to Nigeria. Now he sells outdated wallpapers. I charge him less than the rest because he's yet to stand.

bukatyne:
So every time a person rides on a post engaging you, they are referring to you or looping you in their post? I like the level of self-importance in display. Are you the person referenced in the OP because I directed my post to the question asked. If you are, confess, let us help you.

Better Christian compared to who? You? You are not a Christian. It is not an insult; it is a statement of fact. If someone reads my posts and comes to the natural conclusion that I am not a Muslem or traditionalist or feminist or Igbo, it is a statement of fact.

Except if you do one thing in your closet and say something else on NL which means you are ashamed of Christ and deliberately leading people astray which is another problem.

The Bible is clear: by their fruits you shall know them. Your fruit (which is your posts on NL) tells me you are not. As I have said earlier, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

And if you claim to be a Christian, then review your posts/ opinions on topics on NL and repent.

You will give account of every post on NL.

I am still waiting for those receipts or you admit that you misrepresented what I stand for in your previous post.

ahnie:
Things are happening o.
Semi docile in naija,powerful in the abroad.
Their 6tem really favours my gender.

bukatyne:
1. I said your experience and not your personal experience. I also said my experience. However you got that experience (books, patients, relatives, neighbours etc) is inconsequential.

2. This is cracking me up. Are you the OP? Come out and let's give you advice. Efficien. cie made a post I agreed with and I quoted the part relevant to me to address the OP. If you are not the OP, I honestly do not see how my post concerns you.

3. I gave a summary of what forms my 'naive' posts and you think it is tackling you again. Seems you dreamt of me this afternoon. Abeg send me meatpies and puffpuff. Since you mention Christianity, let me address this: you are not a Christian. You are struggling not to identify as one; I don't know why. Why did I state you are not a Christian? By your fruits (posts) here. You support things that God has stated is an abomination; you support Nigerian women doing wrong things because 'it is in retaliation to men'; you do not uphold the sanctity that the Biblical marriage has. You shy away from supporting the Biblical model of marriage and lifestyle. Nobody would read your posts and think you are a Christian. I do not know why you are struggling to dissociate yourself from Christianity; perhaps it is your conscience or the Holy Spirit still trying to convict you. To be honest, you cannot please the world & God. You need to choose one and be proud of it.

4. From the little you know about me, you should know I love receipts. Quote the post (not out of context) here. I have written epistles dissing fathers who think their role stops at financial provision. I have addressed several posters who think only women should do chores. Bring the receipts, don't speculate.

5. Back to point 4. Bring receipts where I stick to strict social norms. I don't stick to strict gender roles in my home so why would I preach it here when I know I would account for every post here as a Christian?

Waiting for receipts o! It makes the posts sweeter.

bukatyne:
When DJ Cuppy tells us that her daddy flew her from UK to Italy for a cone of ice-cream, it sounds strange to me because my papa nor get that kind money. I would however not dismiss her experience.

The fact you are surrounded by evil men doing women dirty or you have never seen a good man doesn't mean it is my experience.

I have seen really good men (nobody is perfect) do all they can to make their wives and children happy. I have seen men really respect and uphold the sanctity of marriage. I have seen men give wives second chances that wives might not give their husbands. I have also seen the not so good and the ugly.

So ma'am, leave me with my 'naive' posts borne out of my experience, my Christian faith and my personality while you continue to post your complex and nuanced ones borne out of your own experience.

Thank you.

Flight90:
Which one by oral cancer again

Kriss216:
I love that you didn't stop her from Hoeing. It shows you're three steps ahead of her.

She may think she's playing smart with you but she didn't know she's only fooling herself.

Just focus only on your hustle. When there's need to change oil and she's available, use her to quench your konji. Please don't allow her to stay past a night in your place again. She's only your cumhole henceforth, don't give her the benefits of a girlfriend.

When you balance, kick her like a used tissue paper out of your precious life.

BeStroNG:
Man got to be wary with the way things are. No man would want to marry a woman who had destroyed her womb via abortion. Some girls have committed more than 5 abortion and may have destroyed their womb in the process. Imagine getting married to such a lady. If the womb is intact and the man is fertile, pregnancy cannot be an issue.

I'm trying to take that bold step by asking her if she had committed abortion before.

What do you think guys? Is it going to bring "wahala"?

Should I ask her or not?

efficiencie:
I don't see how you could deduce that I am inferring that more men lack the qualities I listed or that the woman gave the man a chance - which chance? Your conclusion does not logically follow from the premises you culled from my statement. I am not debating your so called facts even though overall, women are more likely to initiate a divorce than the man. My point is that men and women are complicit in the disaster that happens to them. Women prioritize financial security and physical attributes in their choice of a spouse while men prioritize physical attributes and sexual gratification in their choice of a spouse. Most men and women end up incentivizing bad men and bad women by gratifying them maritally. If all ladies agree never the marry a man for financial security or physical attributes but rather seek piety, purpose, leadership, selflessness and character I assure you that most bad men would be weeded out of the gene pool. Also if all men refuse to marry ladies that falter in piety, purpose, submissiveness, loyalty and sexual purity such women would be weeded out of the gene pool as well and generations later humanity can be proud of their ancestors and the decisions that made towards creating a perfected human race. However, this is not the case as most women love bad men that have money and look good while most men love bad women who have great physique and can perform signs and wonders in bed.

I knew about this line of thinking way before I got married and to GOD be the glory I have never regretted my marital choice. If couples make the right marital choices we won't have anyone asking the question that the OP asked.

bukatyne:
@bold and 2nd paragraph:

Very well said.

People should stop marrying foolish spouses so they stop asking foolish questions.

Klass99:
You are just wicked or should I say evil?

DKM123:
I laugh wholeheartedly when I see this people crying that women only marry them cos they have money and I wonder if it's the same Nigeria where 140million are multidimensionally POOR and the rest are just barely surviving with the basics leaving less than 1 percent as rich. Yet every Saturday this men are getting married to the same Nigerian woman they say only marry rich men. Hahahaha. Where are the rich men, biko?

This same men will DUMP thier wives for another woman or cheat the h#ll out of their wife's life when they manage to hit small money and then you come on Nairaland to defend the man. Only you think men should have the privilege to cheat and still you that is crying that the man shouldn't be the provider. That's by the way.

In any case, since when did choosing money over poverty become a crime to Nigerian men? This same men that are PROUDLY saying they can't marry a broke woman but are under the same breath swearing for women who do not go for broke men. Aren't you all "gold digging" abi aluminium digging cos most Nigerians no kuku get silver talkless of gold ? This same men will pick thier sister and daughters marrying a senator over a 30k salary earning teacher o. Hypocrite much....

If this men didn't like money, we wouldn't have this many yahoo boys and fraudsters defrauding thier bosses and even going to the length to k!ll thier fellow humans for money. So everyone prefers money to poverty, abi?


Marriage is dead, and may it remain so. Let everyone go and be hustling this money instead of bringing in innocent kids into the toxicity they call Nigerian
marriages. Men can marry men so they can be happy and women marry women so they can stop "aluminium digging" men. Make everybody kuku rest from this marriage.

1stGenAmerican:
It’s going well and I’m so excited for daylight to come so that I can send you some pictures!
Your peas are amazing! What a bumper crop!
Lavender does seem to mimic rosemary and I used to have numerous problems keeping both alive. My first question is did you plant this year’s lavender in the same kind of soil as last year’s? My first suggestion is to transplant it into a different type of soil—cut off any brown or gray parts, shake the existing soil loose from the roots, sprinkle a liberal amount of cinnamon on the roots (fungus loves at attack lavender) and plant it into a different pot with different soil, adding in about a fourth teaspoon of Epson salt. When you water it once weekly, water it indirectly—pour the water into the sides of the pot away from the plant, and put it indirect sunlight. Lavender plants are finicky and unlike other plants, like being left alone. Please let me know how it works out for you.

chymdyx:
for ur mind now you don talk sense. I've never been one to insult ppl on here.. but shut the f up and let men with real life experience talk!

you think they just attacking women? you dunno shit!! i say again shut the fvck and learn!!

u go just open ur mouth. u think english is a measure of intelligence.. be yarning dust!! nyen nyen nyen nyen

nairalanda1:
Marriage is not dead, and let's stop these kind of articles on Nairaland.

The truth of the matter is that when it comes to marriage, Nairaland has turned it into war between men and women. Indeed it has become so disgusting that I wonder if I am in another world.

When I look at the life of myself and my friends, I wonder if we live in a different world from the world of most Nairalanders, a world where men are stingy and women think only about money. Where men have sidechicks, and women have babies for other men and pass it off on their boyfriends.

The OAP is (I apologise to the mods beforehand) talking a load of rubbish. You need money in a marriage. You need to pay school fees, need to pay for food, need to pay for car maintenance, and new car, house rent or mortgage fees, clothes for the children, furniture, repairs, even bedsheet. So, why won't women and men be looking for money. Is looking for money a sign that one is greedy or a sign that one needs to pay school fees before 3 pm tomorrow or else little Elsa would be kicked out of school for fees?

Are not men's relations too looking for money as well, and putting pressure on family.

Women are suffering too much on this site, and so also are men. And on this thread, women too are suffering. Yes, GOD knows there are materailistic women. God knows that. But when a woman needs money, is it for materialism all the time? Yet these online heroes think that when a woman asks for money, it is because she is being greedy.

Honestly, I am a very conservative person. I believe a man is the head of the house, and all that, but this nonsense that is being propagated on this site everyday just because of the bad habits of a few women needs to effing stop. And let's be frank, for every materialistic woman, there are 9 women who put their families and others first...yet on Nairaland, every woman is evil and conniving apparently.

All for clicks.

Abeg, call me SIMP, I no send you. You cannot be here abusing women and tomorrow, begging woman to marry you. Or abusing women, and forgetting your mother too , sisters too are women.

If you think women are after you for money, just go and marry yourself, or another man. Stop disturbing us here. After all it is acceptable these days.

Seun, enough is enough.

Make people laugh at me, this man does not care.

AImiron:
Women will have photo shoots for literally anything.

Klass99:
Lmao 🤣.

efficiencie:
Why would any lady marry a man that will divorce her if she is terminally ill? Well probably because she's marrying for money and comfort and not looking out for character, leadership, purity, piety and selflessness.

efficiencie:
She can divorce her terminally ill husband if she expects her man to divorce her when she eventually becomes terminally ill.

Fahvvy:
First off...
Where in my write up did I compare men and women in issues like this? ... Abi is this one of your delusional "smart" response? ...

Secondly...
"Being alone is a whole lot better than being with someone who have no qualms leaving you when things goes south ..."

This concluding statement of mine is not gender specific, but I guess a "smart ass" like you couldn't figure that out uhn ...

Enjoy your day "smart ass" ...

Gadafii:
Same way hakimi wife filed for divorced when her husband hasn’t even been judged guilty of the râpe case by the court

Women are users, imagine this wife wants to leave her husband because he has terminal illness, right now that he needed her most, I am sure she has drained him and see that he’s no longer wealthy

If she knows there are property for her to inherit when he dies she wouldn’t leave him oo

Fahvvy:
Sheybi when people say things like "women are users" "women love men only for what they can gain" and the likes, some folks will be shouting "misogyny", now look at it ...

When things are alright, "I'll be with you till death do us part", when things are bad "this isn't what I signed up for, I want out"

OP...
Tell her to leave him, oga deserves better and will prolly be better off without her in his life ...

A woman who can even conceive the thoughts of leaving her man in such trying times is a demon, let her go! ...

Being alone is a whole lot better than being with someone who have no qualms leaving you when things goes south ...

Billionaire2:
His mother will never ask this question.. she will always stay with him …

You see why we support Hakimi??

Billionaire2:
the way it is now, it’s like everyone is going to the other region’s hell

Oyerinde16:
I will say for the first 5-6 years of marriage, it should be the mother, but after that, he should transfer it to the wife...

A foolish friend got married, quickly changed his next of kin to wife, 6 months into marriage, accident , Otilor... Wife come inherit wetin mama use 35 years build...

ncblaze:
It's quite sad that a subject matter like this would be debated. Our women have given us reasons to doubt them, hence the trust is tilting to our mothers.