₦airaland Forum

The way people punish children as if they are not human beings

True talk

GloriousGbola:
Nigeria has a gambling epidemic and there are no support services available for treatment.

1stGenAmerican:
The MIL doesn’t want them to divorce because she doesn’t want this irresponsible gambling addict to move back to her home and cause her trouble.

Lol exactly

Kobojunkie:
ROFLMAO!

It’s exasperating.

Imagine her MIL. Crying and telling her not mention the word divorce . Manipulation in the highest form. If her son were a billionaire would she begging the wife to stay? She would have been the one to go find more women for him just to make the wife’s life uncomfortable. I won’t even say anything about her parents. As long as they are going to provide for her and the kid and keep them safe from his lenders , then she can listen to them.

Until the people he’s owing come to kidnap you and your baby to get their money back.

The way some of you let yourselves get talked into dangerous situations I don’t get it. Someone up there said keep praying for him 😑

Mummyfour:
Yes, he was sick.

Oh no

Why are Nigerian rich men always pregnant?

Akposy:
Well done ma

Thank you!!

Akposy:
Thanks.. I will be posting some here

Meanwhile, these were yesterday’s harvest
Habanero (yellow & red)
Jalapeños
Purple cabbage
Grape tomato
1 strawberry, again

I love purple cabbage

This harvest basket is so colorful

Was he sick?

Mummyfour:
This story is true coming from zulu Adigwe. They were close and had been climbing the stairs of Nollywood together.
Meanwhile, some of us knew saint was having terrible issues in his marriage.
His wife and her siblings tormented him. But he tried to play the macho man in reality as he used to do in the movies.
He just fizzled away from Nollywood. Yes he was doing well in his private business that was rumoured to have gotten a massive assistance from his wife due to her financial strength, but the guy was not happy.
Now everything is gone.
Just gone.
And he went down with it.
People that knew him, said he was a very good man.
A kind hearted person, who could give the only shirt he had to please anyone.
May his soul rest in peace

I’ve been hearing a lot of grammar but no one actually says what happened?

Please who has the succinct details, what happened? Did she make him sick? (Like a sexually transmitted disease or something). Was she violent towards him? Did he die of injuries he got from being physically battered by him?

Fuckyoumod:
what more can I say? This street arab, uncultured girl, unmannered and lost child is another proof that failed parenting will only breed rude and wayward girls like this.

To everyone in this platform, don't fail to correct your kids properly, teach them patiently, with love and care, so they don't end up abusing everybody they come across like this guttersnipe.

Sister I love you... Have a pleasant evening.

Kisses 💋😘💋😘😘

I thought your parents raised you so well you don’t cuss people you only bless those who curse you?

And just like that, the stinking hypocrite that you are is laid bare to the whole world.

Of course your parents can only raised a hypocrite who thinks he’s a better person because he was beaten as child not knowing how damaged he is. Gutter mouth himself with absolutely zero sense of self awareness. You should be ashamed of yourself. And this only the first page of your disgusting vile posts

Evidence that your parents correction turned you into a sly deceitful person.

You asked me if my parents never flogged me. I said yes they did but I didn’t find that helpful. Never did I tell you that I didn’t appreciate other forms of correction. We were never even talking about correction. We were talking about flogging. Flogging isn’t even correction. It’s punishment

But being the daft idiot that you are, you turned around to say it’s sad that the correction didn’t help me. Who do you think you are kidding?
Instead of you to stay on the topic you decided to twist my words because obviously your initial argument was xtupid. Maybe all the hitting with iron metal they did on your head has made it impossible for you to learn. Daft slowpoke

Fuckyoumod:
A part of the home training and upbringing I got from my parents is never to insult people, they taught me to be respectful and decent.

Calling me an idiot is evident of the fact that your dad's corrections never worked. This is why we advice parents never to spare the rod.

I hope your husband, that's if you ever get married, does the right training on you. He should never spare the rod like your dad did when he is training you. Because, the way you go about insulting men on Nairaland for no reason is so alarming and scary.

Sister, I love you 💖💖😘.

We are trained to bless even those that curse us and respect people no matter how different our views about life is.

We are trained to correct people with respect!

Have a blessed day ahead sis.
I love you... Kisses 💋💋😘💋😘💋
He smiles.......☺️☺️😁😁

Home made strawberry jam with strawberries from my garden. Preserved with heat and lemon juice only

Straybullet:
Small matter you already calling him an idiot. How did your parents succeed

he deserves it for trying that lamé attempt of a jab at my parents and you’re about to get it too if you don’t mind your business

Fuckyoumod:
The corrections from your dad didn't help you because he obviously spared the rod.

I would have been a lost course if not for the training, discipline and continuous correction of my wonderful and lovely parents.

The correction from my parents that didn’t involve violence helped. The ones that included flogging did not help.

But like the idiot you are that your parents raised , you’ve decided to twist my words to make it what I didn’t say

It makes me wonder too

1stGenAmerican:
Why are some Nigerians so preoccupied (to the point of obsession) with adults in the West that choose to have sexual relations with consenting adults of the same sex but turn a blind eye to the huge social problem of adults forcing sexual relations on children of both sexes who are too young to consent in their own country? Do a thread search and see the high amount male and female monikers who were sodomized, raped, and molested by adults telling their stories and admitting that nothing was done to the adult. Thread after thread, pages and pages long. Next, search the threads for all the stories of female CHILDREN being impregnated by their fathers, family members, or other adult males and you’ll see an endless amount of threads. Very few monikers condemn the evil, sick, perverts in those threads but let it be something about LGBTQ and you’ll see monikers storming the thread with comments.
What makes people tolerant to adults sodomizing little boys, raping, molesting, and even impregnating little children in their own country but so angry and triggered about the sexual practices of consenting adults that they’ll never come face to face with in other countries?

You did the right thing

TrainPark:
I had to 'deport' my own woman from this yeye Europe back to naija last month for a similar reason after repeated pleas and warnings
She was becoming too violent with the children even flogging my daughter on their way to school. I had to leave work and come back to pet the pikin mek she no go talk for school say dem beat am from house.
The next day, I called my wife to discuss the issue in private as a couple. Na so the woman begin shout dey insult me. I come begin fear mek neighbours no call police for domestic abuse again.
She started telling me that she wants to go back to Nigeria. I asked if she will go with the kids and she said no.

I come reason am say this woman wants to cause me wahala that can lead to loss of the job that brought us to Europe. When she continued showing attitude, I asked her to put it in writing that she wants to go. When she write finish, I just book am ticket back to naija fir the next morning flight.

She did not believe me until when I carry am reach schipol Airport.. she come dey shock. She is not the type to ever apologise to me so I deport am. Now she is making trouble in naija that I pursued her.

I now live with the two kids. It is tough but my job is nice and allows me to go to office only 2 times a week.

My peace is worth the stress of living as a single father.

I have worked too hard from abject poverty to an expatriate position with a multi national to allow woman mess up my life with disrespect and anger issues.
Worst case, the marriage end. Can't let no woman Bleep my life up..

Someone up there said I was unintelligent for saying that

1stGenAmerican:
Right, Cococandy! You’re a medical professional so you know that bruises and cuts that still weren’t healed when the mom returned could’ve meant that the child had internal injuries that could’ve silently killed him. The mom did the right thing because if anything would’ve happened or the someone else would’ve noticed the child in pain then she would’ve been thrown in jail for not reporting it. Then, the POS husband tried to call her a liar and place blame on her..

I don’t know the kind of beating you think will make a 15 year old who didn’t previously respect you to start respecting you. If the foundation is right, you won’t need to beat them at that stage

InvertedHammer:
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Valid argument.
When your kid mixes up with the wrong crowd in a Junior High School, let me see how you control that with your presence.

Right now the most dangerous group in US is 13-15 years who shoot without questioning and brag about spinning the block looking for opps. From Chicago, Memphis, Bowie to parts of Indiana, it is a shooting expedition.

If you don’t earn enough to move to the suburbs but reside in the inner city, chances are high that your kids will end up suspects or victims.

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Sonyboom:
What you wrote here proves you are brain dead, no point enlightening your foolishness any further.

Injury under the skin..lol
I guess you have no idea what internal bleeding entails so I leave you to delude yourself, hairline fracture 😂😂😂😂

Bruises now equal punctured ribs n lungs
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You beta go open a joke factory.

Ignoramus

Fuckyoumod:
did your father not flog you?

So your papa for chop 3 years for flogging you?

He did. And no he didn’t go to jail because obviously…

And before you ask, no the beating didn’t help me in any way.

I also think 3 years in jail is a bit excessive. Just as his punishment to the kid was excessive

Octopusssy:
I agree that some parents cross the line between discipline and abuse, but overall mild corporal punishment is one of the effective ways to keep a naughty child in line. Even the bible says in the book of Proverbs that "foolishness is bound in the heart of a child but the rod of correction will drive it far from him".

Not a literal rod. But I don’t want to have a theological discussion today.

However on the topic, we are in agreement that parents cross the line between corporal punishment and physical abuse. But who’s regulating it? Who’s there to tell them hey now it’s not longer discipline it’s abuse. We all know of that wicked madam who hit someone else’s kid and the kid suffered bruises all over. We all agree that it’s evil and wicked. Why is it excusable when the parents do it to their own kids

If you are intelligent you’d know that bruising is an indication of injury underneath the skin. Meaning it could be internal bleeding, hairline fracture, punctured ribs/lungs. An open wound with the bleeding controlled is far better than bruising because at least you know what you’re dealing with.

Don’t be ignorant and try to tell someone else they are unintelligent. You sound moronic when you do that.

Sonyboom:
Must some of you comment like you are not intelligent ? What brusies could kill a 15 year old ? Brusies o not wound or broken bones.

The wife was deliberate in her action n my grudge is with her, the child did not die while she was away after all.

So long no form of support will be required from me while am in jail 3 years go finish now now now.

There’s no way a gentle smack is leaving bruises on a kid. Be for real. Unless your definition of gentle is different

MrBrownJay1:
the above is as stupid (no offense) as saying that because some people drive drunk and kill people, we should ban driving altogether.
YES some parents are abusive to their kids but, educating a child through mild corporal punishment is not abuse.



a child has to learn somehow someway, so when you tel your child DONT DO something, and they knowingly go and do it, then you have to show that child that your words should be respected/followed. even a gentle smack upside the head would leave marks on that child's body...thus can get you arrested.

sadly, in todays world, it pains these kids more if you take away their gadgets than beating them black and blue. the father should have just unplugged that Playstation or whatever it was and throw it through the window... problem solved!

Octopusssy:
Coco leave English. Beating is part of the installer of respect. If you do anyhow you go collect

To the extent that the child is bruised?

That’s absolutely not true

abbey621:
Funny.....Upon all the talking and loving, being their friend and having an open mind, guess what? Kids living in the USA and the UK are 50 times more disobedient and wayward than Nigerian kids, this is pure undiluted fact! When all things are equal in terms of shelter, food and attention, Nigerian kids are angelic compared to those American kids calling their mom and dad, Joe & Betty!

Let's forget 9ja and focus on black Americans, households where at least one parent is a disciplinarian are often better off than one without a disciplined parent. You'll hear a black kid tell his friends, "my mama don't play that, big mama will slap you upside your head if you misbehave!"

InvertedHammer:
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That's one of the culture shocks that a man that's quick to japa with his family will face in the West. He loses control of his children. The wife "may" start disrespecting him. But when the child gets into trouble, they will remind them that they are Nigerians.

3 years for beatings wey people dey collect for free here? . Now imagine how the remaining parent will discipline the kids. The kids are the boss!

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If a parent needs to beat their children for them to respect them , then they never had control over them in the first place.

Our kids even when they are stubborn and disobedient (which is normal) still need to be able to have respect for us without the threat of violence. Your kids need to be able to look at , your presence, the way you carry yourself etc and feel a sense of respect and reverence for you. If violence is the only way to get that from them, there are baseline issues that need to be resolved

Instead, he blamed his wife. He said she had encouraged the kids to fabricate allegations against him because she was upset with him over citizenship and her family’s entry into this country.

Of course he’s blaming his wife

Did she tell the hospital staff to lie against him too? Smh