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Liposure:
All thanks to IVF

and?

Congratulations to her

Ishilove:
Love and cherish her. Such women are very rare

Ishi they are not rare and you know that.
Men have a way of focusing on the few bad experiences to paint all women bad.

RedpillAnalyst:
They already have many harlots at their beck and call already who they cannot raise a family with. They want a mother, not a combative wife, not a retired 304s like many average American broads.

HiGh vALUe mEn should have no problems finding the perfect mothering non-combative wives. In fact they should have so many to choose from that they wouldn’t need to search fro strangers on the internet

Your millionaire buddies should have no problems finding their spec. Why do they need to get connected?

RedpillAnalyst:
How old is she? I hope she has not hit the wall. These Americana broads don't wanna settle down until they are tired of riding the corck carousels.

If she can cook, clean, less than 24 years old and has less than 2 notch counts, I have high net worth millionaires buddies who are ready to connect.

Breakfast

Mindlog:
What is wrong with the mother living with her husband (his dad)?

They don’t really like their fathers . But here they are, sowing the same seeds that will ensure the children grow up not loving them too. Or do they think their children will observe them mistreating their moms and still love them? Nope. The kids will grow up and favor the mothers too leading to the unnecessary cycle of dysfunction.

Not y’all trying to turn this around on the wife. Nonsense. Maybe she should have left him since women who stick around to provide when you can’t still gets blamed if you get emotional and harm them for your shortcomings.

MuyiBinary:
Most men i have seen this happened to,were gainfully employed before and after marriage but, things turn around and the men suddenly become dependent on their wives. The wives turns the home upside down...it only takes different length of time.

If you lose your job as a husband today, NEVER expect the peace in your home will be sustained. It's just a matter of time...depending on the tolerance threshold of your wive, the cookie will crumble sooner than expected.

For next generation of men, have a small family, if your wife abuses you at home because you lost the status of breadwinner, ignore and talk a walk. If you can not cope, leave the house or move to another town with opportunity so that you can fend for your family.

@emekachinwe She didn’t abuse him. He stole her money instead

Obviously

BRATISLAVA:
They don't. It's probably lies from the rape apologist camp. You know that since there's evidence, they must create scenarios to ensure he is free by all means. They usually demand evidence knowing that most rape doesn't happen with cameras, but now that they have it they've cried everything from it is a set up to claiming a lot of things about the girl in question.

To them this isn't a criminal case, it's a case in which they must defend their gender and past/present actions by all means.

It's now about what a true friend is to them. Lol.

I keep saying that if we are to see the feet of the people posting these comments, we won't be surprised at all. Wretchedness and evil poverty has damaged them. The Christmas and sallah threads are proof.

How do you know it?

dragunov:
Oh yeah! But our people are so wicked, judgemental, impatient and confused. They didnt even allow the poor guy to defend himself.

You know this for a fact?

dragunov:
Bros use ypur God given eyes and reasoning faculties.
1. Princess told a lie! That girl was not raped or molested by Lanre 7yrs back. She alleged that he even used a key and a cherry fruit to deflower her. Lies!

2. That girl is not 14yrs old. She is much more mature than that. Another lie!

3. Princess claimed that the girl became traumatized and reacted emotionally after seeing Lanre in a movie on TV. Yet this same girl was used to bait him. And in the so called CCTV coverage, that girl was responding sexually to Lanre's advances. No traumatized and emotionally disturbed girl will respond like that to the one who raped her. Another badly thought out script.

4. Princess was a scorned mistress. She updraded Lanre when the going was good. She brushed him up academically and connected him financially in exchange for love. Lanre was however secretly disgusted and was playing away games with other girls, including the so called rape victim who happens to be under the care of princess.

5. Princess found out and planned to nail Lanre. She would never forgive him for daring to bleep a girl right under her nose. Princess is known to be an abusive, manipulative, vindictive and dangerous woman.

6 Lanre was thoroughly beaten by princess's cohorts while princess herself mercilessly beat up the girl involved. Why? Because the girl attempted to burst the sting operation in the kitchen where there was no camera. He apologized under duress and at gun point while he was being filmed. Nigerians saw him apologising and then concluded that he was confessing.

7. There is something, perhaps a hidden beef, between Iyabo Ojo and Lanre. Ojo homed in on the opportunity that Princess presented to the public and got Lanre fixed through her connection.

8 Princess and Iyabo Ojo have both stopped ranting on SM when their secrets began to emerge.

Maxymilliano:
Let's see what the witch has to say

Gunayo:
lf she is not a witch why is she behaving like one? If she is still suffering trauma as you have said, why can't she use this energy in ensuring that those that raped her her brought to book instead of carrying someone's load for head and carrying her own for hand. There is more to this. Very soon the truth will prevail.

Wow

New trend I guess

Prestonn:
Village kitchen


Breakfast ❤


Second photo- pasta cooked with coconut milk

Halcyon123:
For those in lag,my sis is into banana bread. Trust me when I say the taste is heavenly. A trial will convince you. Chocolate chips topping(dark and white) and coconut or you could choose the topping you like.

Looks amazing

mariahAngel:
Wow!

You know I've always wondered about that, and I think a lot of women find it difficult to accept/adjust to the new person they've become.
This is actually a very good topic, and you've been of major help so far.
Thanks a lot.

As for the bolded, you just have to learn to enjoy it...they're not always going to be that little

That’s absolutely true. Part of the problem being that many of us don’t even understand why the changes occur.

There’s scientific evidence to prove that women’s brains undergo physical changes during pregnancy and childbirth. The changes happen due to female adaptation to physiological occurrences during that time and the following caregiving role expectations.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6440938/

So yes a person can become very different after childbirth and won’t know why.

mariahAngel:
After going through all and over these, did you come out feeling like a different person from how you were (before having your first child)?
Did you feel transitioned?
If you did, how did you accept/cope with the change?

Definitely!

1) I was a big softie before I had my kids. Like I cried so easily and abhorred physical confrontations.

I can say I’m a TOTALLY different person in that regard. Not necessarily hardened but I’m much stronger. How can I and my baby stay crying at the same time?
I still hate confrontations but if I have to, imma step up to it. When you have to keep someone else apart from yourself alive and cared for, you quickly learn to shed some characteristics that can get in the way of doing a good job. I know I would take a life before I let someone hurt my kid/s and that requires putting unnecessary softness away.
I actually don’t miss that old soft me.

2) I feel like my heart grew and I can empathize more. With almost anyone. Much more than I used to.

3) my patience and tolerance grew.

4) A lot of your time when you’re not at work is spent around the kids. It can be frustrating if you’re someone who likes peace and quiet. (And I do). Once they start talking, they don’t stop. There’s never a quiet moment unless they are sleeping. I haven’t adjusted to this. Someone send help please.

Swinger60:
All you wrote us true, I'm yet to give birth, but, I have stayed with my sister when she gave birth to her second child.

You won't believe that baby kept us awake one day from 11pm to 6am. she fell asleep by that 6am.

at a time, her mother broke down and start crying. if not for me who calmed her down and asked her to go and sleep while carry the baby till morning.

in the morning, my sister was damn angry with her husband.

@bold, All new moms have done this. Even with help.
I don’t know how to articulate the exhaustion. The other day I was comforting my friend over the phone for the same issue.

I think what makes it worse is that as the new mom, you’re not assuming the role from a place of perfect health and fitness. Rather you’ve been pregnant for nine months and didn’t have time to recover your strength before jumping into the role of new mom. It’s just a culmination of the months of prenatal sickness, tiredness and even lack of sleep during the later months of pregnancy.

Because y’all historically consider anything female inclined as beneath men. That’s why when a man takes care of his own house and children, he’s “emasculated”. It’s rooted in misogyny. The lack of respect and regard for the works and contributions of women. It’s not a complicated reason.

I don’t know but the post sounded like a threat. That’s all I’m saying.
You people should be careful with what you post in case of legal issues

dairykidd:
Come on why will threaten him? Don't even know the Op or any of them but the story on here. I saw a comment on the thread that made me post that as a warning to him. Now everyone is painting me bad for that? I don't threaten people i even know talk more of someone i haven't even met before... omo me don tire to dey explain... Can't I smoke in peace again?

sgtponzihater1:
Don't blame me for firing someone I paid bride price for fully. I only do this once a month.

After this baby is born, Choose her non fertile period to do it henceforth. If you’re really doing it only once a month and you do it then, chances of pregnancy are very slim.

Or you can invest in permanent birth control and do it as much as you like.

dairykidd:
Every right thinking person will condemn ur stupidity. Lol... if u had any brain u would have avoided her like a plague the first time she forced u to kiss her. I don't u after reading the first thread.. well, just Know that the moment u start getting better u will get hit again, this time more fatally. Hide ur self if u get sense. You dey knack but u no sabi woman. Without wisdom woman na highway to the grave. Na introduction u see so. HIDE UR SELF!!!

so you’re threatening him still?

I thought all men love themselves and women are each other’s enemies

chatinent:
Ok. I'll create a topic later.

why not this thread? Seems fine to me

yungpowers:
A close friend of mine knows the guy in question. He wasn't poisoned, he died from kidney disease three months afyer his birthday.

See the medical report below.

I was gonna say that’s something very fast poison

chatinent:
How many kids have you now?

Two

chatinent:
Mind if I interviewed you on Nairaland today?

Sure go ahead. If the questions are health and healing related, even better.

I may generalize when it comes to questions that require very intimate personal details but otherwise, I’ll do what I can to answer satisfactorily

mysticwarrior:
That kind of woman you just described here is a demon.

she’s just a traditional wife

Arizoner:
is that part of the lactating process

It is. However it can be made worse by plugged milk ducts and mastitis. Which are very common especially when the newborn is still learning to latch on and drain the breast completely during each feed time.

After breastfeeding and milk flow had been established, the occurrences of both decrease so the mom might only have to deal with cracked sore nippless which are much more tolerable than mastitis.

chatinent:
Thanks. I'm learning to be a good husband and father.

congratulations

chatinent:
So, this is a question for both wives and husbands (not girlfriend and boyfriends, please).


What was it like after pregnancy?

Pertaining to stress, responsibility, gender roles, and finance.


Thanks for your time.

If the mom used to work before delivery, you need to save a bunch of money before the baby comes. That way one parent can be with the new born for some extended time (beyond what the workplace offers) before returning to work. If saving is not feasible, then consider lifestyle modification so that the reduced income won’t hit hard.

The stress is going to stress. Not much way around that unless you have good help. That reduces stress. Newborns don’t sleep. Max is 3-4 hours at a stretch on a goodnight. But they get better as they get older.

The only gender roles that apply in this situation is who will push the baby out and breast feed. (Mom) Everything else is can be done by anyone. If she feels up to it, awesome. If she doesn’t, then her partner has to step up or you outsource. Wahala no dey finish.

Newborns start to laugh and giggle at around 3-4 months. Their laughter is so sweet and will make you very happy whenever it happens. So there’s a rainbow and unicorn in all that stress.

Icesnow:
Thank you for saying it as it is. Especially those that gave birth abroad, CS with no relatives to help. On coming home after few months, MIL started her wahala.

Honestly it’s not easy without help. I don’t know what I would have done without my MIL and mom who both came at different times to help with my first born while I worked and went to school.

I can’t imagine for those who did have CS and no reliable help. I empathize