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truthsayer009:
Madame I never quoted you remember? I was on my own jejely, I quoted someone else. God! Omo I have entered once chance today oh!

Oya sorry no vex, can I go in peace now?

You never quoted me but you quoted someone else to talk trash about me. I suppose you’re the victim now and I’m the one picking on you. Typical

Maybe I should have ignored you as usual. Like I usually ignore you when you don’t quote me directly but quote anyone talking with me to say stuff about me. I should have ignored as usual. You will still do it again.

Yes you can go in peace and stop misbehaving

Rihanna. My husband understands

Sorry, “pick me” doesn’t have anything to do with relationship. Are you living under a rock? Sigh

Anyway quit heckling me and we won’t have a problem. Or....direct same energy to your brethren misogynists and women haters who you conveniently ignore but turn around to call me brethren accuser when I call them out.

Your misogyny is showing

truthsayer009:
Your concluding passive aggressive tone is just obvious that you are all over the place trying to twist and turn.

If we are both going to agree on the point that you are just fighting for your own, then why debate me unnecessarily back and forth.

She even made a clear statement, turned back and called it Urban Lingo lmao!

Good night abeg, Happy Eid al-Fitr

truthsayer009:
Madame, no one is picking you, you are already married. What exactly does anyone stand to gain by you being a pick me? I mean we would have argued so many men would send you PMs.

tell me you don’t understand urban lingo without telling me you don’t understand urban lingo

You are just looking for sympathy where it's not necessary.

A Hiny Umoren that was killed recently attracted a lot of attention, nobody is happy these things are happening.

1. Did you go to the crime section and see people saying she is deserved to be raped or killed?
2. The journalist that exposed him, is he not a man?
3. The people on Twitter that helped with the case, aren't they both men and women?

The people talking shit about Women are even in the Romance section, some of them already claim to be Red-Pillers, we already know what they stand for right?

My point was that you are simply fighting for your own, stop hiding under the umbrella of fairness and equity.

Just own it with your chest, that's all.

Well actually yes there were people saying she deserved it. And she’s not even the only recent victim where you guys have been foul and wicked. You just jump and pass because e no concern you. But it concerns you when I have an opinion against those type of people. You know what redpillers stand for. Yet you’re silent towards them. But you have no issues heckling me. Why? Is it maybe because they say what you wish to say but do not have the face to?
Hence you have issues with me calling them out?

Yes I’m fighting for my own. When did I say otherwise? Am I supposed to fight for you?
Please move along.

Let’s blame the feminists.
They are ruining our society by importing all these western evil

truthsayer009:
I never saw you also calling black/Nigerian women out as well. It's always the men, which is why I am doubling down on my comment that it is never about fairness. You are simply just fighting for your own.

So in all the ways that women are maliciously targeted on this forum. Relentlessly. Day and night . Violence and rape against them justified by any means necessary. Double standards applied to us when it comes basically everything. I’m supposed to join in on the attack or kiki with y’all while you denigrate me. So that what will happen? For y’all to pick me? To like me? To call me a good woman who is nOt LikE tHe OthErs?

Very much the typical male is what you are. You don’t have a problem with those who vilify women. Anyone can say basically anything they want against women in here and you will be blind, dead and dumb. But You only have a problem when someone stands up for women. And that’s on your subtle misogyny. Excuse you!

Even you know that’s untrue but continue. It’s the incel talking points y’all memorize and recite thinking that if you say it enough times, it will become true

larryjonze:
Men can't live without women, aww aww !! sounds touching you forget methusa lived without a woman, father mbaka is living without a woman and una president buhari is ruling without a woman.
Men find replacement cos its convenient irrespective of baggages a man's attractive value slopes upward with time, while a woman's attractive value drops like naira with time. bin married or bin a widow with kids is enough baggage to put men off, most widows are single because of lack of interest not because of commitment.
Even if a widow desires to remarry whats her chances In a society single gurls are wasting no one to marry them aside intense banging

100

pocohantas:
You are correct. Not to say women don’t do it too, but there are more widows doing their thing, than widowers.

Give a widow money and she would focus on her kids. Give a widower all the money in CBN, he won’t have rest till he finds another woman that will submit to him.

They like marriage ehn. Especially when they have tasted it.

@bold, you would do well to remember that and say it to your brethren when they decide to yap about black/Nigerian women. That’s all I’m saying

truthsayer009:
What you don't realise is that scum is not gender based, anyone can be a scum. What I find amusing is that black women always seem to stick out their necks for each other even when the women are wrong. At the end i realise men and women have conflict of interest in relationship/marriage and women are just simply fighting for their own. It is never about fairness.

In my final year, a female friend newly wed husband died and this my friend couldn't even wait, after one month she already dating this tall handsome dude she had always had a crush on and they had sex immediately. I was so dissapointed when i found out. Her other female friends were giving excuses on why it's not that bad.

Honestly this isn't a cooked up story, it happened 7 years ago and i still even have her contact.

truthsayer009:
Na Accuser of brethen she be, waiting for every man to slip up, so she can slit their throat

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I wish you’re this vocal when your brethren sit on women’s matter morning and night.

pocohantas:
The death of a woman is a loss to her family and her kids. Those are the people that will eternally feel her exit.

Forget men. 97.86% of them will move on before your casket sinks, this includes some of them castigating OP. They will say “IT IS FOR THE KIDS”. I bet if you check OP’s posts, you will find that phrase somewhere.

For a gender that claims not to benefit from marriage, they are always too eager to get a replacement or take on extra wives. Make I dey go abeg, una done talk everything finish.

Exactly. I know why I said what I said.
As much as we love our spouses and they love us too, men can’t live without women. If a woman stresses herself to death for a man, he will replace her. The ones that really love you will wait a few years. But a few (very few of them) will stay unmarried for life like most widows do

@sanchez01, this is my observation nothing to do with Misandry or feminism.

So women can have sex for other reasons besides love? Right?

JESHAL:
Women are Hypergamous due to their ovulatory Biological realities which is empirically proven by science, they look for good genes or good dad traits in men depending on their cyclical hormones released during the ovulatory process


Women like men like sex and experience pleasure from it but men have testerones which is 13 times that of women and these is the primary hormone responsible for sexual drive in human beings

DEMZEE:
Wat the Bleep is mansplaining??

So understanding women nature is mansplaining uhn hmm interesting.

you don’t even understand what’s bothering you much less understanding women and their sexuality.
Parroting incel talking points is not knowledge.

DEMZEE:
Lol

U are an emotional estrogeneous being so u can't understand logic and common sense babe

Mansplain to me some more.
Tell me what it’s like to be me. Go on

How do my hormones make me feel?
How does sex feel to a woman?
How will I know what to feel if I don’t have you to tell me?

DEMZEE:
U are talking from a feminine lens, women do cheat. Men just have sex

It's that simple!

Men and women love differently and show love differently

Men don't cheat, they just have sex
Women however cheat

DEMZEE:
I understand women's nature and sexual mating strategy

DEMZEE:
Men are designed to be promiscuous and polygnous by nature.

DEMZEE:
Once a woman loves u, she respects u. Other men become invisible to her

look at the mental gymnastics it’s taking for you to accept your weird logic and try to make sense of it.

Maybe repeat it 109 more time and you might actually start to believe it. All over the thread going mad

I’m not even sure this story is real anymore

family6644:
You have made a lot of sense, you have made me even more weak. More like she has refused to leave, I have discussed it amicably, she has pleaded that she will change, I should give her more time. Her apt is till there but she doesn't want to go back claiming she's in love with me and she can't stay away from me. I think I am in trouble, I don't feel right about this anymore

@bold, That would have been the first comment with 964 likes and 200 shares

eyinjuege:
She is actually right and she did give advice, albeit sarcastically . Very good advice infact.
Bringing in gender is just for all of us to reflect. It's not a bad thing at all and by even talking about the gender OP can actually realise the place he went wrong.
3months is too soon to move on after losing someone you had a fantastic relationship with and if it were a woman she would have been accused of killing her husband, by some people on here
Any relationship you go into so quickly after the loss cannot last and should have just been FWB kinda relationship with all involved knowing the scores.

Apt

LilMissFavvy:
If you had told this woman to give you a little time, at least 9months before you start a relationship it would have been better, I guess she would have accepted to wait till you are ready, 3months is too short to finish mourning and begin a relationship. If you had healed a bit from the loss of your wife, you wouldn't feel bad whenever she refuses to recognize the dead, you would take less offense and allow her handle things her way. If you tell her you need a break now, she will feel bad and insulted, but a break is what you need, or accept her as she is, or you end the relationship. It is very wrong to cohabit with her for now.

4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage = 17 years together. And 3 months after her death, Mr. man is already getting entangled with someone else.

Ladies love yourselves and care for yourselves while you’re alive. Stop putting these men’s needs ahead of yours.

OP I wish you and your kids a nice smooth transition.

There is no way any part of Nigeria will secede without a civil war. We are so integrated that it is impossible for us to sit at a conference table and allow each part to go their ways, it's not possible, it's not a tea party, there will be war. If any part of Nigeria wants to secede, there will be war, maybe even more serious war than what we had before between 1967 and 1970. So, if anyone is calling for secession, he's calling for war.

“And we in the North fought the war to keep this country together, so it will be a contradiction for those of us who tried to stop this country from breaking up to now be engaging in activities that will break this country; we don't want this country to break up. Nigeria is a great country as it is. We have problems but those problems are not enough for us to break up.

We’ve seen how much y’all love us

abbey621:
So now Baba Ijesha is the victim and the 14 year old is the one being character assassinated. Guess it is playing out just like most rape/sexual assault cases in 9ja. What we are also learning now is that video evidence which shows oral and visual confirmation is no evidence at all, at this point I'm not even sure if the police caught Baba Ijesha in the act whether it would be enough. It seems the only way for victims to get justice in 9ja is to have rich powerful people on their side or just be lucky. All in all, the shitshow continues......9ja I hail o

and I’m not surprised

So she was raped by two different men? So we should exonerate the baba ijesha? All it shows is that the average Nigerian girl is not safe around adult men in her society. That’s something all of you should be ashamed of instead of trying to use it as a talking point

Boys club
He’s one of their own, so....

Following for the tears

And all the mumbo jumbo that they conveniently forget to recite when it’s a man and two women

BluntCrazeMan:
This is typical of those:
“I love my baby.. I don't want my baby to cry... If my baby cries, it tears my heart apart.”
...
The baby had reached FOUR YEARS, and the baby is still a baby.

a four year old is still a baby.

LilMissFavvy:
I am not trying to place the blame on mothers, but the truth is that some of these men who should protect little girls, uncles, tutors, fathers, etc, are actually the ones committing these crimes. They have failed us. If you follow up the Nigerian news, you will see i speak the truth. On the baba ijesha's child rape case thread of last week, he confessed he began raping that child from 7yrs old, yet most males want him to be freed. They will say it's false accusations despite concrete evidence.

Honestly it’s saddening

LilMissFavvy:
The earlier mothers counsel their daughters and warn them against unnecessary/unguarded interactions with guys, the better for us all. She has been abused, wounded and a scar permanently left in her her. Whatever the jail term those bastardds will be given, it's definitely not comparable to the misery she has encountered.

you found a way to bring the blame to the mother and the victim.

etrange:
Men, it's time to really start asking ourselves questions. It's start to hold one another accountable. It's time to stop pretending we are superior. We must focus on Nigerian men the way people focus on Nigerian ladies, what they, how they do, etc.

yes . accountability is the way forward

Dickson178:
Sometimes girls cause the rape ! Apparently some parents do cause it though

Katier00:
How do we know you are he

right. How do we know he’s not one of those pained niqqas on that thread.
Many of them seem really upset that the single mom was about to get on with her life.

Let’s be watching as the story develops

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