₦airaland Forum

gentlestdude:
poor guy marrying whores all over again, take heart bro. hope your next wife will be a good wife.

abbey621:
Some men Broloshos can't jjust live with women and their ways. They prefer pay as you go rather than a lifetime subscription. My guy nothing do you, as long as you have kids and your kids know you are there for them when they need you, no shaking. Go forth and multiply....May the force be with you

olisaEze:
Her followers seems to have increased after she dropped her husband’s name.

Akposy:
I used my air fryer. It doesn't need oil. I just put it in, set it to the needed temp and let it do its job

They each checked our phones to know the kind of people we were and went through the pictures on our phones, to know if we are living a comfortable life and have money or just managing life.

Mecka:
Fabulous food

TruthinAction:
What will they use to defend themselves? Sticks? The state assembly should pass a law to permit them to possess arms. Otherwise, they will be arrested for being in possession of illegal arms. But the killer herdsmen will never be arrested.

johnmartus:
Bokoharam and armed bandits are also fulani and hausa people, but since they are going against the law justice are melted on them so be to ipobs. I have a friend and he is proud of igbo heritage not ipob.

KEVIND:
This thread below was deleted for saying the truth.
The conspiracy against the Igbos is so real & its very noticeable on this forum.

johnmartus:
Alright but terrorist sympathizers are also a terrorist they should be all wasted.

eyinjuege:
Birthing a child isn't the end .
You might as well pay a surrogate, and an egg donor to have your child and thereafter raise such a child as you deem fit.
If you can't raise such a child by yourself, you will at least pay whoever you entrust to do so.
Many working married couples cannot afford ordinary day care for their children abroad and one partner has to stay back at home to do the job.
You cannot downplay their contribution as housewives and mothers.
Even if you employ a live in nanny abroad, their services will not be 24 hours a day unlike your housewife. As soon as you get back from work, your children are all yours to look after. They are also entitled to their off days by law, so their weekends are theirs.
Many women give up their dreams, career and job opportunities to raise a family.
Doing almost 24 hour nanny job, with a career on top means that your career will always suffer and your sacrifices will never be appreciated by many men. They will see it as doing nothing.
If your partner insists on going for business trips like you do, taking job opportunities that pay more but inconvenient to the children and their husbands, perhaps you will appreciate them more.
It's not laziness for not taking those opportunites but rather putting the family first in everything. Those are huge sacrifices not appreciated.
Perhaps if your wife insisted you both equally take time off to look after your children, and you realise you lose lots of deals and opportunites in that process, you won't call her lazy.
You don't realise the relief you have when you are assured your home front is covered, and you can face your work squarely. No need rushing things because the nanny is calling you that she's leaving o, as her closing time is up, no calls that you're late in coming to pick kids up from school.
Infact, one of my kids has a dentist appointment next week and I still haven't sorted time off work to do that. We've already missed an appointment before and they dont take it easy if you keep wasting appointments. It may even be considered negligent if your child needs care and you don't take them for it.
I don dey para for the father that he has to take time off to do it because I'm always the one taking time off for hospital appointments for the children.
Imagine if I was earning as I worked, that means I would lose a whole day's earning for each of these different appointments. A sacrifice the mothers are just naturally expected to be the ones making.
So if I can lose money to take our child to see the Dr, and my partner at the same time goes out to make money, would you term it unfair if we split the money he made while I took our child to see the Dr?

Thugnificent:
Amala in yankee how possible

Shedrach00:
Chai! Chai!!
Deriis God oh!
There should be a way one can download food. Any swallow can go with this

This is so lovely �

UDUJ:
Truth be told I see nothing in helping my wife wash dishes if there is no one else to help out in the restaurant and if I am out of a job.

I think it boils down to the manner and way in which she says it. If she says it in a loving way then why not- I'll do it since the success of the restaurant is for the family. It only becomes a problem if she says it in a condescending and mocking way, that will hurt the mans feelings.

So in summary it all boils down to communication and teamwork. In fact, communication is one of the most important aspects of a satisfying marriage and this brings about love and mutual respect between both parties.

See me talking about marriage when I am not yet married sef

Grandmeister:
Always virtue signalling and posturing like you can accommodate half the bullcrap you support here.

The man worked, earned, saved and opened the restaurant for the wife which means he was never lazy like many of you( including the Op) is trying to paint him. He also does school runs willingly BUT see the Op making it look like it's nothing, I thought women are always asking their men to participate in the active upbringing of their children? So now that we see a man doing school runs it's inconsequential? He gave the wife a sign that he wasn't comfortable being told to wash dishes in public, a wise woman would have let it be at that moment but NO, she had to run it in!

The man lost the moral argument because he slapped his wife in public, which in itself is a greater sin.

Hotshisha:
Honestly when you think like a man you end up without one

Will she treat her business partner in such manners even when the investor earns no dime from the business he coughed out his income for

You women this days get on people's nerves....

Wash dishes?! Haha!!!

You won't even was dishes for your younger siblings and kids yet a man should do all that

Hotshisha:
Will you wash plates for your teenage kids?! Even after working your but off getting them a cosy life

I work hard to give my wife a business and she turns around to ask me to wash dishes for her customers

The more I think of this the angrier I get

Hotshisha:
Yeah yeah, go wash dishes for free at the nearest McDonald's

Why you ladies dish out what you can't take hiding under feminism BS is strange

Hotshisha:
I payed 100k to rent a shop

I payed an extra 100 k to buy plastic chairs, table and accessories for interior

I bought gas stove, microwave, cutlery, and food stuff almost 100k

Gave the wife another 100k working capital

All in all I spent 500k on a business venture or $1200 USD on a business venture I earned zero Kobo from( 1.2k is minimum wage of hard labour in USA) and annual income in Nigeria

Yet I am told to wash plates for the customers and I should not get angry and slap the person degrading me because I want to be a real man

I won't slap her , I'll take over my business with receipt and proof of payments I made starting up the business, I'll start washing the damn plates and keeping my profits for my damn self, for 50k I'll get an excellent cook in Lagos and run a proper business, let her go and ask her father and elders in their village to wash plate after buying her plates and business so she can survive




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Hotshisha:
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Idzitari1:
Still asking what u did wrong. U ar jst disgusting, he gave u a sign with a bad look nd u still repeated urself. Madam ntin wrong in asking him to wash plate, but all is wrong when he don't want to do it publicly. Get small sense

Nnamaka1:
So what would the next request from the wife be assuming the husband agreed to start washing dishes for her in her shop

Automatically the husband stops being the head of the house and wifey becomes the head.

Ladies please listen to this. No matter the condition of your husband, I mean husband ooo not fiancee or boyfriend. Accord to him the respect and regards due to the head so that you can be blessed and remain blessed.

Abi you didn't say for better/for worse

Biafranboys:
Women of this generation are crazy, for me I do dishes myself but it is an insult to tell your husband to wash plate, same man that opened the business for you

Obainomilano:
Many people supporting the woman here are crazy and unreasonable we are Africans we are not Europeans..we do not have the luxury live or good governance of the white men and yet the Nigerian women always want to compare the man with their European counterpart.
It is highly insulting and highly humiliating to open your mouth to ask your husband to wash plate in ur restaurant to serve customers.. especially when that husband do not have a job ..when his pride and personality is at the lowest ..that is the time you are supposed to treat him more like a king ..support him in any way u can and give him maximum respect...if customers are too much they can come and wash the plates by themselves I have washed plate in so many restaurants so I can eat and I believe many people here have done so too ....there is no justification for such a public humiliation of a man that is supposed to be your pride ....

Jayrow08:
I will slap u again, nonsense!

Hotshisha:
Hunger in my own bloody establishment.... I will trash her and take my business kicking her to the street

Let her also hustle for money and start a fucking business, her father can give her money and wash plates

Godada:

The man in question is at a very vulnerable point in life. I think you pissed him off. The level of understanding between the both of you would have smoothened any rancour here. You hurt his pride

ImaIma1:
That's why it's important to have someone around to help if it's possible. For me, I plan to go stay with my eldest sister when I am having my second because the first wasn't easy even with the people I had around who I thought would help.

Help is really important so that the new mum can rest and sleep too.

Hathor5:
Realistic expectations can help a mom-to-be prepare better even though every pregnancy and baby is different.

Hathor5:
I wonder how pregnant ladies will feel reading this ...

descarado:
Pastor cococandy
You go preach tire