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So they made a video of themselves assaulting someone?

They will only go free if she doesn’t want to pursue litigation against them. Otherwise, she has ample evidence against them to win a case. Fvck sibling relationship.

If they can’t resolve the issue verbally but had to go violent , then they deserve whatever course of action she pursues against them.

Lmao

Benscolari:
your MESS be like:

I was referring to your last post. Not the one where the wind woman has to use her own share to take care of the kids

5thElement:
The woman in the scenario went away with less.

That’s fair

5thElement:
Well the money should be split into two and given to each spouse. Then an estimate of each expenditure needed to cater for the kids monthly be calculated including school fees, feeding, clothing, recreation, etc.
The cost split in two and the man should bear half of it by sending it to the ex as child support.

That is the fair thing to do in my opinion.

Again, I never said anything about a dad who manages to spend quality time with his children. You’re chasing your own tail.

Read the story in the OP. Take my initial post that you quoted and apply it to the OP and that’s all I’m talking about.

If you’re interested in going into different angles of which might be greater or possibly works harder in different situations, create another thread for that.

Your responses are fueled by assumptions that you’re making but not really voicing. Assumptions that are wrong because you don’t even know the true stand of the person you’re quoting when it comes to working moms who also have to be primary care givers. Put your assumptions away. Stop chasing your tail and just apply my initial post to the story in the OP specifically and not as a general rule that applies to all families

Tedpgrass:
I clarified the competition you subconsciously raised in your statement...

If you are of the opinion that a full-time mother works as hard or even harder than a father who works full-time and manages to spend some quality time with his children... Then it's acceptable to think you will think the same of a full-time working mother juggling motherhood alongside..

Your argument smacks of the "2-bit theory".. A bit of both to garner points but not a true realistic analysis!!


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You have not a single clue how divorce works.

Not one clue

eddiebruk:
If she’s caught committing adultery, they will be divorced with the man taking custody of the kids and she loosing everything.

That’s your interpretation of my post. I never said any was greater than the other.

Also no one can work full time and do mothering full time. There has to be daycare, nanny or daddycare involved.

Someone has to be with the kids when the mom is working. Versus a full time mom who always has to be with the kids (in most cases).

Don’t bring the competition into it

Tedpgrass:
With due respect...
I applaud full-time mothers...

But please do not equate the stress full-time mothers go through to that of mothers who juggle both full-time work and mothering....

Your statement above just did that...

Please each stays on her own lane Strictly!!!

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In his counter claim and defence, the ex-husband stated that when he bought and constructed the Akure property, his wife was a full housewife and had no contribution to the project, adding that the situation was the same for the Ibadan property as his wife only signed as a witness as she had no job and only depended on what he gave her to take care of the children when he travelled out of the country.

She didn’t have a job? What a mor0n

One kid is a full time job. Multiply that by four and if you had any sense, you will know she worked more than you even did in that marriage. What insolence

It’s only common sense. Nigeria usually wakes up last minute when the rest of the world has moved on

Boiled yam and egg with fish sauce.

Just type in ‘mukbang’ in YouTube or instagram.

armyofone:
ibkayee/cococandy,

Please what channel?

Of course she’s the problem.

Not him.

haywire07:
Let's not pay attention to the torn boxers, phone, key and that Gtbank Atmcard .

I'm only concerned about a girl who find it cool to chill with a guy who still sags his trouser at that age.

rickyboss333:
but then girls ennnnn, how can u be dating an unmatured guy at such age still sagging? una can fit love rubbish o.

so the girl is the one with the problem huh? Not the so called ‘unmatured’ guy?

You people and your misogyny will never cease to amaze me. You always have to twist it around on the woman. Ridiculous brainless bunch.

Enjoy.

I plan to go out with my girlfriend to eat a bucket of shrimp and lobster at a seafood boil place near me. On Sunday.

I’ll be watching seafood mukbang while I do it

ibkayee:
Yeah, I believe she gave out the recipe so I’ve seen a lot of people make it, I may try it out one day

Thank you!

Yes that’s her. She looks clean with nice nails in this one

I hear she has a sauce. Bloves sauce. That it’s really good. People buy it for their seafood. I want to learn how to make it.

Please watch that @africanfoods guy. He’s just makes eating Naija food so appetizing

ibkayee:
Lol do you mean this lady? Her name is Bloveslife, some of them can be so offputing, sometimes I wonder if they’re just putting it on

Haven’t heard of those people but I’ll check them out, I’m yet to watch a naija mukbang, my mouth is watering just thinking about one lol

I don’t really have any favs, I just search and click on whoever comes up and looks good

TreasureJunky:
The Last time I checked , having side chic is not a crime in Nigeria

xana101:
no need to get another wife. Pray and hustle more to get more money to bang olosho and have a side chick. Me I don't disturb my wife any more. Most times I know she's tired I just go disturb her for sex knowing that she'll reject me, the next day na my side chick sure pass. I'll use her rejection as my excuse.

san316:
Why didn't he just marry another wife?

You people are assuming that he doesn’t have extra women on the side. Or that extra women would have stopped him from being the beast that he is.

Some people have mental illness towards sex. He appears to be one of them

He should be put to death right away.
No need wasting public money to feed him.
Kill him immediately

He’s not only a murderer but also a rapist

Mr James the side chicken

How market?
Some of you are so bored that you just manufacture stories and use us to relieve your fantasies. Well done

Maybe in your next life, you will have the opportunity to be a side chic for real. Nothing stops you from being a side piece now anyway. Many women also cheat on their husbands. You can find one and hang onto. Fantasy achieved

Hi

Akposy:
Hello guyz!! Its been a while

I miss u all. Where are my people cococandy britiko roland17 I have forgotten all your names o.

Lemme drop this here... Made by your son Akposy...babychef.. My love for noodles is second to none

I watch the seafood ones especially but I always skip that popular woman called queen or something like that. With her dirty nails, and lipstick smeared around her mouth, burping and chewing. Yuck.

But generally I like the seafood ones. Lot of them

The few non seafood ones I watch are @flavasbydamedash (and his cute little girl) and then I watch @Africanfoods. He was the reason why I made Pomo stew out of the blues the other day. He just makes me miss home food.

ibkayee:
Lol come let's share the shame

Do you watch specific ones or any will do? I'm obsessed wth the seafood boil ones

Rich Chicken curry.

Was served with homemade cornbread

Me



I’m ashamed to admit it.

ibkayee:
Anyone here watch mukbangs?

Accurate

Hedonisst:
Exactly. That's why you're 'coco' on the Internet, but loco in real life.

You can be anything on the internet

Hedonisst:
Eeya, sorry.

It's your cross, carry it.

That's why some of us have always been dictators and absolutists with women. It didn't fail us then and it is not failing us now. If one party has to be the submissive, docile 'mumu' in the Union, it has to be the woman. And we compensate her in our own way for being a good girl, for knowing her place. We blow hot and cold and keep ourselves happy, keep them happy, and make the world a happy place for us.

In everything, we keep at the back of our minds that these species are dispensable. Never give them a sense of utmost security and impunity. Even with the children, be ready to leave them all and burn the house down. Mean it. And make sure she knows it, from the beginning. It's not a 'trick' you learn at your old age. It has to be from Day 1. If you mumu from the beginning, then you are destined to be mumu to the end or to die in the process of liberation. No two ways.

When you decide to become a 'good' and 'patient' man who overlooks a lot and puts females on a pedestal, you're guaranteed to have a miserable life.

Nuff said.

You do you accept correction from her?
I’m a millionaire.
Blah blah bla

What is it that you’re even correcting? Grown men always nagging and looking for faults

Treasured4eva:
Most people are really getting me wrong here.I lost my job but I still have a multi million naira business which I still run,though it hasn't started yielding much.

I still run the home and pay all the bills and rent.I've never asked her for money let alone try to know how much she's been paid.

I go to market whenever I can for her and also get involved in domestic chores at my own will.I shoulder my responsibilities very well.

My wife doesn't like correction or advice. She gets irritated at any slightest provocation,slams the door at me.She looks down on me all the time and will never accept that she's wrong.

We can't stay together for a week without having an issue. I only try as much as possible to create my own happiness.

Yes whoring is only a virtue when it’s the man doing it. . This line only works on females that people like you have brainwashed. If you’re not going to treat your woman like you want her to treat you, then STFU.

Shameless hypocrite.

I’m sure she can get sexual satisfaction from wherever she wants if it comes to that. His peniis is not the only one in the market. YES SHE CAN GO OUTSIDE . There’s nothing wrong with that in your own words.

What’s wrong with going outside for something you want if your partner won’t give it to you? Nothing.
He can go outside for his extra kid if he wants.
She can go outside for whatever else she wants if he won’t give it to her. Sounds fair to me.

Gaggi:
If she allows him have his way outside, he will likely stop 'hating'. She doesn't want another child and her partner desperately wants one, what is wrong in that? Let him go outside and get it, after all the burden of care will be on him. This craze of women wanting to keep the man to themselves is why many women discover their husband have kids outside wedlock when he dies. The man wants a kid with his wife and the wife says no, allow him go out then.
A woman who has a philandering husband still needs sexual satisfaction and it's only wise to use protection. or are u also suggesting she goes outside to get satisfied? Dear coco, not all women have whoring tendencies, irrespective of their partners behavior. Not all woman are like u liberals who believe whoring is a modern day virtue.

Nothing new.

Women have always been co breadwinners or sole breadwinners. That only changes when they recently have a child and are recuperating or when they have to leave their jobs temporarily in obedience to the “head of the house” for the time required to raise their kids.

And in the few cases where it’s permanent (tiny portion of the population), it’s when the man is very well to do and decides for the woman that she shouldn’t have a career.

But in all cases, the women always do their share. In the case of those who are co breadwinners or sole breadwinners, they do MORE than their share.

So this yahoo boy who is insecure AF , constantly telling his wife she will cheat on him and leave him when he’s broke, is now looking for advice?

For all you know, she probably didn't cheat on you. But since you’re convinced that she will, then accept that she did and continue with your life.

Also all the sugarcoating in your looooong post does nothing to hide the kind of person you are. May the spirit of all the people who died prematurely because of the heartache you caused them find you and haunt you. Repentance indeed

Yea exactly

Chommieblaq:
I cringe at some of the advice I'm reading here..
A man that publicly agreed you are dead!

Cococandy why are wasting your time, she clearly ignore your advice.

Op pray for your husband, fast too and don't forget to remove the family planning. Keep trying, if it's a girl abort it and try again, i guess this's exactly what you want to hear.

As expected. You can’t say yes or no because your hypocrisy will be revealed.

One only enjoys the partnership of a partner who is in it with them.

Emotional support of someone who wants you dead?
And I’m the one who’s not thinking. What kind of emotional support do you think he will provide to her?

Also you assume that she wants to have sex with someone who’s a public property. You show a clear lack of reasoning. As if using protection with him will erase how she feels about his philandering. Would you want to sleep with your wife is she’s sleeping with different men because you have protection?

Take your condescending “dear coco” and tell it to yourself . My username is cococandy.

Gaggi:
Will you adopt the kids and provide all their needs? If no shut up and come up with a better solution. You can see I even advised her not to kill herself having more kids. 4 is even more than she should have had. Let the man go f**king around to find the chosen heir. He will be the one to have regrets in future. Yes, she should use protection henceforth, no one is against that. No be every time run, run, run. Run for mouth when una dey enjoy the joy of having a partner by your side when raising your kids. You think if it's you, you'll look this pretty with 4 kids and no support even if it's just emotional support? You will age for sure, learn to think properly before talking my dear coco.

If I have a fish brain, then you must have a fishier brain because I bet you would never stay with a woman who is sleeping around and telling you you’re dead to her.

Would you stay with such a woman?

If yes then welcome to the world of fish brains

If no, then choke and suffocate on your own hypocrisy

Gaggi:
Women and their fish brain. That's why I had to take a break from here, too much emotional talk with very little deep thinking. How easy is it even for a woman who earns 350k a month to raise 4 kids? The emotional wahala, the physical wahala. What kind of life will 350k give 4 little girl? Cost of schooling, clothes, accommodation, food etc. not to talk of personal needs and household needs, generator, cable, maintenance etc, except she wants the kids to live a struggling life. Women who are always absent from work when their kids fall sick, who will take up the burden if she gets sacked? It's always so easy to advice a woman to exit. Please a woman with this kind of 'load' should not think of exiting except the earns a very very good income. With the way the OP writes, I doubt if she has decent education.

@Op,
Call your elders let them talk to your husband. Worst case scenario let him go and look for his son from another woman. Don't put yourself under further stress. No reasonable person gives birth to 4 kids these days even if they earn millions monthly. As long as he takes care of his daughters, na him sabi. Stop fighting this battle, a man looking for a male child will go any length, don't kill yourself with high bp and leave you girls motherless, that will be far worse.

I am ashamed of you for not having the guts to quote who are talking about. Also ashamed that you’re ignorant enough to compare the actual process of giving life to another human being from conception, the arduous pregnancy stages and the very risky moment of birth in which anything could go wrong to a man ejaculating in his wife. You just say the first thing without thinking.

It’s very obvious you have no respect for women. Or the gift of the formation of life. If you can compare 5 secs of ejaculation to almost one year that it takes for the woman to form the human being and bring it into the world at great personal risk (which includes the possibility of death). A risk that increases with age and higher number of previous births. Most women are more likely to hemorrhage during subsequent births compared to their first birth. And each birth carries a higher risk of that than the one before it.

Frustrated in real life indeed. Because I am not advising her to lick his pennis after he’s done sleeping around.
Only hopeless people with low self esteem (ergo the frustrated ones) would consider such advice as good. It shows you have no idea that she deserves better and can get better. Probably because you don’t know there is better out there and have never experienced it. That’s the definition of frustration

nonen:
I’m ashamed of people asking the poster to divorce her husband. This simply shows that many people are extremely emotionally frustrated in life and wants to poster to join their team. Shameful to read someone saying birthing is a life and death thing - have you not heard of men who died trying to impregnate their wives? For the OP, your challenge is not as big as some frustrated people are trying to exaggerate it, as I believe with proper communication and speaking to people your husband respects, the issue can be dealt with harmoniously.