₦airaland Forum

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Couldn't have said it better

RaggedyAnn:
Actually, feminists aren't trying to persuade the world that women are powerless. Because we are not. They're saying that women are repressed by societal norms. They are trying to get the world to recognize and accept (and not be afraid of or intimidated by) the strengths and capabilities of a woman in all its forms. For centuries, a woman would only show her influence by influencing a man (who is the ultimate shot-caller). Feminists say women can be shot-callers as well. It's not about who does what, but about what's being done.

If a woman's only access to power and influence is through a man, then men have made themselves indispensable to women. And when they are indispensable, then they have all the bargaining power; they can disrespect women and treat them shabbily and get away with it. When men are indispensable to women, they can set standards that women have to conform to if they want to be taken off the shelf. Feminist try to give women independent legitimate identity, sense of worth, and societal relevance. To rule independently, and not indirectly.

It is still largely a male-centric world (Especially in third world regions), where a woman needs to swallow herself and perch on a man's shoulder to matter. But things are changing. Today is better than yesterday.

Who rules? No generalizations can be made, and it really should be a matter of substance and not gender.

shaybebaby:
That's not true. Visit the family section and see hot feminists who are married. Cococandy come to mind. Sorry girl for using you as for bragging rights.

And you're beautiful too my dear

Lol. They say those things to make girls feel bad about declaring themselves feminist. All the feminists I know are hawt.

fatymore:
dont you get...I don't know why people don't comprehend before replying.. Mind you I am not in the teaching field.. I only said teaching job is good for a woman who wishes to take care and have time for her kids..Choose whatever profession you wish to and have all the money you can but if your kids ain't getting your attention..you have greater things to brood on than been successful

So since you're not in the teaching field you're kids aren't getting your attention?

Not every woman is desperate to have children immediately after marriage

HARDDON:
Brotherly!

As much as i admire your periscope, i must say those are nothing but words of a juvenile. Why? because then, there Wud be alot of variables.... Chief among them been your wify! No woman Wud agree to stay 3gud yrs without seducing u and traping your sperm. Do you want ppl to brand her barren?
Even if she agrees during courtship, then she goes out and sees other ladies she wedded b4 strolling with their babies,
She Wud get you so high and rock u so hard you wudnt know when u Hala the kids!

Don't joke with ladies mehn. Don't

Block her number simple

It seems suicide is the leading cause of death now in Nigeria

victorakpabome:
Feisty lady. Ok no vex. That was childish of me.

I didn't expect any better.

Not from a sexist prig anyway

needful:
This is the only reasonable speech here. Men do not want their wife to be rich because when they wife is rich, all their nonsense wont be tolerated as the wife is capable of taking good care of herself.

Lol
Leave them let them keep beating about the bush as if we don't know the real reason.

victorakpabome:
Long epistle. But this your forehead na die

Thank you very much

But You're still a misogynistic asshole who thinks his opinion about my looks means shyt.

victorakpabome:
Hurts right? Going through all your posts and seeing the insults you dish out. If you can't take the heat get the Bleep outta here. You ain't even pretty. I pity your husband. All you have is a foul mouth and rotten character. Feminist my foot. You know what? Hang yourself and save the world the trouble

You sound very hurt.

You're a misogynistic asshole . Sorry if my refusing to agree that it's okay for him to slap her in front of the kids makes you mad. Stay mad

While you're thinking about hanging maybe you should do that yourself seeing as I upset you that much.

What makes you think I care about your opinion on my looks? Classic Retarded chauvinist. Always thinking women need their validation to be whole.

I'll be here a looooong time upsetting asshats like you. I DONT CARE WHAT YOU THINK.

I might be ugly but I'll be here with my ugly looks in your face and calling out your stupid misogynistic ideals as long as I have the time.

I don't even pity the woman you're with. if any woman is foolish enough to accommodate you, she deserves whatever she gets including humiliation in public. Senseless goat.

victorakpabome:
Bitch please. Get your motherfucking feminist stinking ass outta here

No sensible response

ourkobo:
so you will slap your husband back in front of his kids?
and make him look weak?

seriously leave sentiment apart, those children might not respect him again.

If he can slap me in front of the kids, yes he can get slapped back in front of the kids.

His weakness or lack of it shouldn't be more important than my wellbeing.
The marriage isn't all about him.

What about the kids respecting me? I guess I don't deserve respect since it's okay for him to slap me in front of them but abominable for me to do same. You can't even see how damaged you are.

How many wives do you have?

Omg you're so entertaining

Rabid. hyper-sexed. self conceited. egocentric. Everything that proves my point.

nairanaira12:
Before you place everlasting curse on your immbecile parents, you should get this into your useless retarded brain, that a man can marry as many wives as he wants. You will regret your life as a woman if you try it. You don't believe? Then go and do it and see how useless you will become. Cursed retarded dumb soul.

Die if you want, you are created for the pleasure of the man.

mikeujoel:
You are so abusive. No wonder it is said that short people have a grudge to settle. Thats why they are always angry. From your picture I can see you are a dwarf. It's women like you that can drive a sane man crazy with your nagging

Ad hominem when you have nothing sensible to say in return

So if I was taller I'd be more prone to accepting bullshyte? Well in that case I'm glad I didn't use my brain matter to only grow tall and have not sense left with which to see through bullshyte

nairanaira12:
Commit suicide if it makes you unhappy. A man can marry two wives; why not ask your stupid, useless and unthinking head if a woman can marry two husbands? Cursed bassttard.

Why? Because retardss like you make them think it's okay for the man to do but an abomination if the woman does it. Your nauseating hypocrisy is the reason why some men get away with such behaviors.

And not all men can do it. Only those who are married to dumb women who don't know their self worth can do that.

You sound like you're the one about to commit suicide

Actually yes if she hit him first it's okay for him to hit back.
I wouldn't say how dare he or that he should respect her ego and not hit back.

So who's the hypocrite now? I bet you don't even know what the word means. Dumbo

alezzy13:
Your likes are the main problem with fighting female battery. Such nauseating, bare-ass hypocrisy. SMH

Okay lets turn it around. Suppose the woman hit first, would it be acceptable for the man to retaliate? would your likes not scream to the high heavens how he should "have walked away"??

Can you see just how unpardonably double-minded you lots are?

The man is a coward for hitting her, we all agree, but the retaliation of the woman strips her of the right to claim the moral high ground. She is not different from as him they are both abusers. End of

Stop defending the indefensible simply because you both share similar reproductive organs.

Well at least not all the men here are morons.

Thanks

Backinfront:
They should also consider marrying foreigners. No one was born to suffer in the hands of frustrated men.

Most nairaland males abuse Nigerian women at the slightest opportunity, just anything to run down Nigerian women.

Sometimes I wish I was not a Nigerian male.

No wonder you are where you are

And you're proud of your idiocy

PHC1stBorn:
Taar! This is Africa and Nigeria for that matter, in fact its an abomination in my Ikwerre ethnicity for any woman to even try to respond back to her husband in equal proportion....is she insane? Feminist right is only applicable in Western countries not in Africa. Period!

I can't believe how many mor0ns are present on this thread. Hard to say I'm surprised.

Sense has been bred out of all you.

PHC1stBorn:
Thank u jareeee! no matter what, a lady dares not slap her husband back..the moment she responded back she. . .should be ready to fight him like a man. Trust me, I would gladily teach her a lesson once and for all

hokafor:
You shamelessly engaged your husband in a fist scuffle in front of your children, now that you lost with blood on your head .you run to social media to blackmail the man. Once a woman lost respect for you as a man trust me she is up to something more sinister than you can imagine.

Ekiugboughelli:
You talk back at your husband……..you slapped him back, all in the presence of same kids

and all these is happening because your brothers and sisters work with DPA or whatever.

you lack respect……can two wrong make a right? NO

If you husband is angry, can't you be calm and allow his anger pass away and politely address him

BETTER GO LOOK FOR HUSBAND THAT WOULD NOT SAY A WORD IN THE HOUSE BECAUSE YOU ARE HIS WIFE OR WOMAN….rubbish

This lady just painted a picture, whats the argument over house help all about?

Nesso:
No mind am. Hw can she challenge him in front of the kids? What is she teaching her daughter if she has one? why not wait until they r alone in the room before stating her case.

She's teaching her daughter to not accept being beaten and humiliated in public (or private ) as normal.

You people have been damaged by the kind of home training you received where you see his action as okay by are appalled by her response

I almost feel sorry for you. It hurts my heart to see what had been done to you.

Flashmove:
Why must you argue with him? Must you slap him back? so what can we do for you now? I am a man who dont like a woman to talk when am angry. I hate a woman who wants to challenge me.

Because you're an abusive control freak
If you can't have an argument without delving into violence, that means you have a long way to go in getting mature

LordIsaac:
Before it ɗeteriorated to the point of ɓlooɗ, it only speaks volume of the kinɗ of woman we talƙing aɓout here. Maƴ Goɗ ɗeliver all the men already venting here from aɓusive women! Scripture says, a soft answer turns away wrath.

So the woman is abusing the man here not the other round?
People like you make me ashamed to call myself a Christian. Deplorable abusers using scripture to hide their hideousness

bamasite:
HE SLAPPED YOU AND YOU SLAPPED HIM BACK: YOU ARE A BAD AND DISRESPECTFUL WIFE BOTH OF YOU FOUGHT AS EQUALS, YOU SPOILT YOUR STORY.

I bet he's a good and respectful husband in your opinion

Damaged human beings that's what all of you are

ladja2013:
What will come his way ? Tell us . What ? Except you pack and leave the home ,the heaven will not fall . One of those ladies who take side with you will soon go back to seek the hand of the man in love .

You're clearly a Mor0n

You're an idiot.
No time for long post you probably won't understand it

LUCKIE2014:
Raising her voice in argument and slapping him back in the presence of the kids led him to do this. A wise woman knows when to speak and when to be quiet to her hubby. Men are naturally egocentric, what she did was to hurt his ego before his kids which made him apparently lost it. Women need to understand their limitations and embrace their femininty while using it to their own advantage in influencing the behavior of the man. Don't try to be his equal because despite what society wants you to believe, we are not the same. This is what our mothers understood hence a high rate of success in marriages.

ourkobo:
you slapped back??

you are a bastard

So what's she supposed to do?

You people are infuriatingly dumb. Jeez!

Sell your phone and buy a brain dummy

ladja2013:
Let us have an understanding of the issue. The man slapped the woman twice and the woman slapped the man back . I don't give a damn about what any woman on this platform will say, we are not getting the truth from the woman in question, she must in addition have done something worse than provocation. The right thing for her is to keep quiet ,and refuse to slap the man back ,or rather when they get home find a way to excuse herself and call the family or friends to report the case .
I could see some women threatening fire and brimstone here ,you have a right to your comments, go and ask the elders ,you endure marriage and enjoy later . The woman must have an understanding of how the man normally behave , she need not disturb us looking for sympathy, I just for those of you guys who are still single never to get across a troublesome woman , you will come back here and confirm your experience.
So you just wake up today to know you have rights ,the right to slap back ,the right to provoke and drag his manliness on the ground. Continue , there are scientific calculator to assist in counting the average period you spend with each men while storming out of marriage . That is why I like the Muslim way of life ,very easy to ask a troublesome woman to leave ,no need of painting a man in Black all the time .

You're a despicable goat

joeeee240:
HOW DARE YOU SLAP YOUR HUSBAND ARE YOU MAD? SOME WOMEN DON'T KNOW HOW TO TALK NA TO DEY RUN THEIR NONSENSE MOUTH. NOW SEE WHAT HAS HAPPENED. MAN NO SUPPOSE BEAT WOMAN BUT WOMAN YOU NO GET SENSE. UNA TOO DEY TALK RUBBISH ANYHOW

Animals don't understand glass

Lol.
I can't this morning.
Jeez. Nairaland

Prettiepearlz:
So the man beating up his wife and family in public isn't enough shame to you abi? It's her saying she has had enough that is bothering you? What exactly is there to keep in the family secret that has already been exposed by the man and to think you said why did she expose the family because of ordinary slap is infuriating. Besides what is your business with their family matter? Why bring it to Nairaland? Oh I can take a guess, to promote patriarchy. Good for you! You call slapping a woman an ordinary slap? SMH. Cococandy pls take a look at this post.

Dummy

What would recommend if the woman starts sleeping outside with another man after 21 years of marriage?
Tell me fast before I start addressing your foolishness.

nairanaira12:
Do you support divorce of a 21 year old marriage because of suspicion of infidelity? And she also recommended divorce as first option without even thinking. Does that sound reasonable to you? If you support such, then you are worse than an immbecile.


If this is what you teach one another in your feminist group, then your useless lot are bound for everlasting destruction. It is a sign that you are bunch of dead brain idiots, people who aren't qualified to be mothers, because you will infect your kids with your immbecility and unreasonable notions.

You are copying Americans, not knowing that Americans use sense in handling issues. They will first try to work things out with their husband once they discover that he is cheating, and will only resort to divorce if they couldn't work it out.

But you and your fellow useless "feminists" are so unreasonable in your conducts that your first recommendation is divorce. If you must be a copycat, at least copy properly.