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For me it was the attention.

Everyone wanted to talk to me even strangers. It was cool sometimes but at other times I just wanted to be left alone for 2 minutes without someone asking me if I'm okay or need anything.


Also at work I got away with a lot of stuff. I loooved that part.

Stop this nonsense please.
I don't care how you restructure this but it's victim blaming at its finest.

It's even worse than those who outrightly say she deserves it.

Try raising small children while keeping a trade or going to work to support your family (which we all know the men can't do all by themselves) then come back here to spout this nonsense.

I agree with you about not using children for these services 100%. NEVER USE A CHILD AS MAID

However to say that it is caused by laziness is victim blaming. Stop it.

FortuneTeller:
The husband is solely to blame for his sins. HOWEVER a lot of Nigerian women need to restructure their minds. Too many Nigerian women are abusing other people's children as "maids". Stop this use of child labor and slavery. Go through a nanny service or ask an older family member for help. Sometimes people make room for the devil to come in by having a lazy spirit. Please Nigerian women, stop being lazy because your life may depend on it.







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raphy:
yes my sister from different mother.na the woman fault. I don't even like female House help they can crash ya home.I prefer strong boys.tht I knw very well.try cn work hard.gdmornin thanks for seeings things my way.

I didn't see things your way. I was using sarcasm
Too bad you're too dumb to see that.

Pls don't quote me with stupid talk like this next time. Thanks.

Someone died at the hands of your husband and you think it's her fault for hiring a house maid.
How retardedd are you?

raphy:
when ur wife breast have dry up n u bring a sexy house maid in the house.just get ready to park.some woman don't think with there head. I hope my wife won't bring any housing help in the house.#teamnohousehelp

Of course. It's the wife's and the maid's fault

Nothing surprising here

Organs:
Cococandy, seriously i wan know? you don marry?? You no too sound naija, you sound like all these "He carry my eye see shege, me sef i carry him eye see shegeshege!! kinda lady. I mean for better i stay and for nonsense, i waka or him go hear am wella. That is not naija style oh.

How does this your post relate to anything I posted on this thread?

EfemenaXY:
Cococandy and Ifyalways are still regular (I think). Edwife's probably migrated to the footie section. Chillisauce's missing in action. Mindfulness, I can't find, kulyie a.k.a dangotesmummy appears and disappears like mamiwater

I am

@armyofone. Hi

True

I prefer Tekno's music to both of theirs.
Especially Davido. Wetin that one dey sing sef

SMH.

I thought I'd seen and read it all.

So this is better than standing up to him to demand your respect or leave his sorry ass.

Clap for yourself lady

That's too little

This Op, The way he was sounding with DNA rubbish, body no be wood and bla bla bla, you will know he's out to look for trouble.

From your story, I was even thinking your wife left the house without reaching any agreement with you .

If you agreed for your wife to stay back and learn how to sew wedding dresses, what caused the sudden change of heart after she has already paid the non-refundable fee?

Maybe someone has whispered something in your ears and you suddenly had a change of heart. I can bet that this is what happened. you should have a mind of your own.

Make sure you have a stable source of income to take care of your family (not hustling) before you get in the way of your wife learning a skill that can help your young family in the nearest future. Just because of whatever someone is whispering to you behind doors.

That person won't pay your rent or kids fee and they won't be there when you have don't know where the next day's meal is going to come from.

Analog95:
I wasn't going to cheat on her anyway. because if I will,I would have done that during the days of courtship and not now. but shouldn't she consider the fact that if I meant to cheat on her,I won't be disturbing her to come back home because it would have been an open ground for me to do whatever I wanted without she knowing. I said it before. she is a girl I love so much but I'm missing the aspect where my daughter is growing up. all she do is tell me that she is already eating solid food, she is already trying to crawl,she is already trying to walk.but all this I'm missing. but for the cheat aspect,that is out of it. just saying if she eventually pushed me into it. body nobe firewood na.

You know when men do it, it's normal and perfectly okay.
When a woman does it, she's must have been corrupted because of her money.

Tsk tsk.

OP please FOH with your useless thread. It will only appeal to men with low self esteem

Sterope:
It s natural to act arrogant when you feel powerful whether you are a man or a woman. I don't see gender when people act like assholes because they have money. Stop trying to sound like men don't act like assholes, threatening to send a woman's back to her husband, telling her to look the other way when you cheat etc are also abuses of power.

It is also normal for people to feel insecure and see issues when there are not any when they realise that someone is richer than they are. Which basically means that some/most independent women may not be assholes but men actibg insecure.

It is human. It is nature. It is the liabilities that come with power for either man or woman. You and the OP should deal with it.

It is very important for married people to live together. I can't over state the importance.

However It does take a while to get used to the married life, especially for a woman. She usually has to leave everything she's used to in order to form a new life with you. Leaving her place of comfort and familiarity. It's hard. I'm speaking from experience.The home is one you're used to unlike her. This is the simple reason why she's acting that way.

my point is that you guys problem hasn't gotten to the point of divorce. Over what?

And how did DNA get into the conversation. Don't create problems for yourself unnecessarily.

Talk to her parents. I don't know why they agreed to let her stay there after you guys are officially married.

My parents would usually tell me to stop visiting too often when I first got married. Lol . I was going there all the time. This is a temporary problem that doesn't need to be escalated.

jakandeola:
baby wy did u alwz get mad at me we disagreed to agree dis not family rooms were we fight I tink u are beautiful is dat a crime

Oh so you insult me in one breath and the next moment you think I'm beautiful.

Lol. Go away.

At least she can afford it

vertueptime:
that life is not worth saving

Are you better than him?

I've done this before. In Owerri when I was robbed in a taxi. The guy even looked like he was suffering.
I pleaded for them to let him go.
What will be the gain in killing your fellow human being in such a gruesome manner because they stole from you?

This is for those who always ask 'what if you fall a victim to them'.
Yes it a bad experience but ever justifies becoming a murderer on their account.

Pls nobody should disturb my mentions with irrelevant things like this. No intentions to be rude.

But anyone that feels they must quote the OP should kindly edit my moniker out of the post before posting it.
It's spamming my mentions.

Thanks kindly.

banmee:
Should have just kept my mouth shut. Which kain tin be dis na? You better mail me some.

Posting mail ASAP

@banmee, So here goes.

Meat pie and puff puff for appetizers. I prepared the meatpie sauce yesterday so it was easy to bake today.

And then some Hawaiin luau rice as side dish.
I got this recipe during my vacation in Hawaii. It so good.

We are going to my sister-in-law's. She's making the main dish and providing drinks.

Enjoy your holiday people

banmee:
Happy 4TH cococandy. So what are we chowing today?

Happy 4th

I woke up late hahaha. Still fumbling around in the pantry. I'll serve lunch instead

Xda59:
Mistaken identity with black oil and grinding stone inside their suv right?

This one has added black oil to his story.
Make una continue
Murderers

SonofDevil:
bleached mof***o don't throw ur fish smelling saliva at my face.
Go to ikorodu and question the eye witness that raise alarm . am not the one that burn the criminals to death.

Keep up your fathers work.
You will reap the results sooner than later.

So you know you're not one who saw the materials with your own eyes but you're parroting the story like it's true.

You're a sorry waste of cells and space.

So what if I'm bleached? Does that mean those boys deserved that death? Your lame personal attacks will not remove anything from this evil that had happened which you endorse.
It's in the universe because people like you have agreed that it should be. It will come back to you.
It will visit you when you least expect.

You will mourn the gruesome, brutal and cold death of your beloved and the world will tell you that he deserved it for being lost or stranded or from a different tribe. You will feel 10x the pain of any family members who's loved ones have been killed unjustly. And it will be perfect for you.

I don't know how I ended up among a species of creatures who are so heartless and unfeeling that a tragedy only matters if it happened to them directly.

You know retardds once their minds are made up.

TheGoodJoe:
When I was a kid in secondary school, my roommates were absolutely convinced that I stole the belt of my bunk mate and I was beaten mercilessly like a thief to bring back the belt from where I sold it. For over three hours I was drilled by Senior Students. Despite my pleas, tears and explanation, no one listened

What saved me was a Senior student, our house captain came back with the belt. He took it to go and check a babe out without telling anyone. He felt shocked when he heard the horrible pain I went through.

So, when people are convinced, no explanation or plea can help. Just the grace of God.

hakeem4:
they found grinding stones m charm , and other badoo stuffs on him


Then one of the indigenes shouted badoo ni won ... then the mobs questioned them and they said they've actually dropped two of their members at first gate to perpetrate their evil

And the human barbecue began

keep adding salt to the story

It's only a matter of time

Your own jungle justice will come. I have nothing more to say to you

sammydirectly:
Once olosho, always an olosho. Take your stinky pvssy to court to defend his innocence. I forgot that you were there that night to know that he was innocent. You stayed with them from midnight till early morning when he was lynched. You are a sorry nitwit.

In your logic, you didn't cry like you are doing now, when the toddlers and pregnant women were being terrorised and maimed, because they weren't innocent. You are only crying now because it's a chinedu. Cry cry baby. Eediot.

You are a shame to womanhood.

I am not surprised though, you are only upandan because your Igbo got involved. I checked, I didnt see your energy elsewhere.. Only here where your bobo from your village got involved.

Olosho, how market?

Lanretoye:
when she finally get a husband,her testimony will be up to volume 50.

experimentist:
that doesnt mean she wont give a nigga a good head, does it?

soberdrunk:
If she like make her CV be 120 pages, the major question is can she cook egusi and do doggy?

What is wrong with you people?

Are you so insecure you feel you have to rubbish a woman's achievement by making it seem like her intelligence and hardwork mean nothing unless it is used to service you guys?

Can you see how deplorable you are? Hateful insecure beings.

Trust some stupid person to think her achievements mean nothing if she's not attached to a man.

Wasn't disappointed

sammydirectly:
Fvck off, eediot. Didn't see you cry when the said terrorists were killing babies, pregnant women and taking out brains from their victims' skulls? Why didn't you lament like this then? Where were you then? Hypocrite, motherfvcking Igbo.
Playing victim card as always.

Olosho. Your mama

Sense fails you. Because some animals have been unleashing terror on innocent families in the area, other innocent people should be put to death for that?

You're the epitome of all the things that's wrong with that hellhole called nigeria. No reasoning before actions. No application of common sense. No empathy.

And when your weak argument fails, call the woman an olosho that will make her shut up.

Stupid modafvcking retardd.

Keep repeating the word olosho. Yea. It will make me stop calling you out on your subhuman reasoning.

I don't need to insult your parents. They are already unfortunate enough to have you as child. What other insult or tragedy is bigger than having to call a numbskull like you 'son'.

sammydirectly:
Its obvious who the stupid one is, fvck!ng bigot @sshole. Marginalization campaigner.

Take your emotional fl@thead elsewhere, you don't deserved to be noticed. Go to Boko haram thread, if you really wanna cry.

Olosho too wan show relevance. Your papa

I'm the bigot? Oh the irony.

Versus you who has no problem with the horrible murder of your fellow human beings simply because one of them if from a tribe you detest.

You obviously have no sense that's why what you just said makes sense to you.

You're a deplorable waste of oxygen.
It should have been you who was killed in that manner in error since you have no problems with such methods of justice

It's never too late anyway. You will get it. If you don't, one of your sons will.

Since you have no problems with his horror, it will never depart from you.

You will lose your way one day or be stranded or just down on your luck in one way or another and some over zealous residents will raise alarm on your head. You will be killed in this horrible manner and it will be okay. We will all type 'serves him right' because that is what you think is okay.

And it will be your fault for simply existing