₦airaland Forum

OP you're not a bad person. Don't let any judgmental person tell you otherwise. I'm sure you're asking this online because someone might have said something to you that makes you feel like it's bad to not want more kids. It's your life. If you want none at all, it's still your life. It doesn't make you bad.

What you want out of your life will never make you a bad person as long as you're not hurting anyone in doing or living that style. The only problem is if your husband isn't in agreement. Then both of you will have to work together to come to a common ground. One of you will have to concede to the other if you both don't agree on this issue.

You know what's best for you. Not some folks who've never met you. What people (who won't help you raise the kids or pay their fees) think shouldn't even bother you in the slightest bit. You don't need help. You're not mentally imbalanced.

You'd be a bad person if you go on to have more kids that you can't care for just to show some know-it-alls that there's nothing wrong with you.

@bold, exactly.

First of all the people who will be in charge of the money are those related to the people in power. Nepotism and tribalism is the order of the day.

banmee:
No one on that list can help Nigeria's case because of one very important reason; They are Nigerians. Nigerians don't have the mentality for progress, oneness, goals, and meeting objectives. Unless of course if it is corruption, they are all up for it. When the last recession hit America, they all agreed that they phucked up by being greedy, fat and lazy. They decided to do something about it so they could get out of the doldrums they were in. First thing was they injected 800 billion into the economy by bailing out banks. Think about it; if it were Nigeria, do you think that 800 billion dollars will reach it's intended destination? Everyone would be salivating on how they would "share the cake". Americans dug in deep, did what they were supposed to, and clawed their way out of it. It can't happen in Nigeria because people don't just understand that the responsibility for greatness rests with each and every one of them. But yet they are there blaming everyone including God. Some Americans took salary cuts, higher taxes etc, but they understood that it was for a goal. Nigerians are busy burning people on the streets, littering, bribing, etc, and thereby creating more chaos. The funny thing is, Nigerians want to be great, but don't want to do the things that make other countries great. I wonder how this makes sense to you all? Smh.

Cc Cococandy.

A man can't impregnate a goat. I wonder who those ignorant folks disgracing us on the front page are.

majekdom2:
Diversification would do no poo. Are there markets for the products?? We need FDIs. Only a president that understand economics would agree, unfortunately, our president is only a fighter- That's what he was trained for anyways, "he has chosen to fight corruption" other than chase investments.

If he's fighting corruption, it would even be a good thing. He's simply fighting his enemies.

Good for him

So your friends call you on the phone to come and fight and you pick up cutlasses to go fight. Without even knowing the origin of the fight.

Talk about useless unproductive lives.

I choose not to believe this. For my own sanity. Or I'm gonna go crazy.

I'm dumbfounded. Is this how they are supposed to carry out their assignment? What did they think will happen when they grew the tire at the moving vehicle? God have mercy.

banmee:
What is gries? I'm running out of Garri and the thought of driving all the way to texas to buy it gives me toothache. six freaking hours. At this point, i'll take any worthwhile substitute. Even well grounded sand.

Mashed potatoes. It's smooth like pounded yam. But Be careful when adding water so that it doesn't end up too light.

Besides that preacher woman's death had nothing to do with gender equality. It has everything to do with religious intolerance. So that was everybody's protest. Why didn't you guys do something?

The Dino/Remi case has everything to do with gender and how women are constantly sexually degraded in Nigeria. So yes the women are right to protest it. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If the preacher's death really hurt you, you should have done something. Not try to use the opportunity to downgrade someone else's movement. You're actually the hypocrites here.

I agree there should have been a protest for the life of that murdered woman. For justice to be served. Heck there's so much going on in Nigeria that deserves protesting against.
But I'm in support of their protest against Dino. He's an example of what's wrong with Nigeria. If someone insults you, insult them back. Do not use it as an opportunity to bring out the rapey part of you and perpetuate the rape culture we already have going on. That's a big problem by itself.

Prettiepearlz:
Thanks mama. How are you and how is our smiling princess doing?

we good. Thank you

The acts of the 1st, 2nd and 3rd accused persons which caused the death of the deceased were unlawful,” Mrs. Imadegbelo said.
The court also sentenced the convicts to 14-year jail term each for the offence of child stealing.

Is it death by hanging or 14yrs jail term?

Yea police is your friend.

And he's probably sure he's untouchable. Why else would you have the guts to rape someone, detain them and ask for money for bail.

The things that happen in Nigeria

100

Prettiepearlz:
Hmmmmn,in my opinion I think you only told the story of you and Toyin so that you wouldn't be blamed. It's your word against hers and this story is one sided but if your story is true, here is my opinion. For crying out loud, you had a choice and you chose something you felt you were comfortable with. She dumped you without prior notice for a guy she met in her working place and got pregnant for him and then she came back to you asking you to help her with an abortion(which IMO is very wrong), the innocent baby wasn't yours. I just hope you didn't "render your assistance " because you didn't specify if you did or not, so I wouldn't conclude. She told you about all her sexcapades and you had a choice to walk out of the relationship or stay and make it work but you chose the latter and I want to believe you weren't under any pressure and you weren't held at gun point to make a choice, so you told her you forgave her but you turned to having sex with prostitutes Is that your definition of forgiveness, I as a person, I hate cheating and I am not a fan of people who do, if you can't deal with something, you get out of it rather than putting up with something you can't deal with and living in pretence. She talked you into having a baby and you agreed, so you both decided to bring a child into your relationship, although I don't have kids but I feel having kids mutually isn't something you just think of overnight and then you carry it out, if two adults can sit down together and discuss about having a baby, you must be ready to be committed and responsible, so that means you should have stopped considering a date with someone else( corrections are welcomed if you feel I am wrong) and do everything within your best to make your union a success so that your baby can have a happy life with both parents. So now you have fallen in love with a Yankee babe and you have also put her in a family way too and now you want to marry both of them . In the same country or Toyin will be in Nigeria and the Yankee babe will be with you in the country ? Don't gamble with your life, a foreigner especially non Africans are not into polygamy and to my best knowledge I think it's an offence in some countries. You're the architect of your dilemma and not Toyin, you had a choice and you chose, so deal with it. I will not tell you to dump Toyin and I will not tell you to abandon your second baby mama, you just gotta be a man and be a responsible Father to your kids, a responsible husband to one of the ladies and a responsible baby daddy to the other lady . Choose wisely .

Tonylyte:
babe u didnt spot the sacarsm in my comment right? We are together. I am not one of those direction-less zombiees.

I know. Was just agreeing with you

Tell me about it. As if she wasn't borne into wealth and held high paying positions all her life.

God is watching buhari and his wickedness

Tonylyte:
Enjoy your loots. The new sherrif in town is behinfd u. No wonder u worked tirelessly to make sure he gets into power. You are free to own even cars incapsulated with gold. And dieziani should never try to engage in anything gold related, because we the efcc will come strong this time against her. Immunity that covers sanusi will not cover her.
Sign: efcc(tha attack dogs of the new sherif in town AKA king of impunity).

Despicable

hahn:
It's an old video. Saw it already two years ago. That boy that was saved by that Dannish lady was a product of that video.

Christians just won't admit that there are Christian terrorists among us. I am sure they are okay with it since Jehovah is doing nothing about it, why should they?

hahn:
This is the kind of mentality kingebukasblog, winner01, dejideji1, malvisguy22, fynestboi, deepsight, opeaceo etc support.

As long as he is killing in the name of Jesus and Jehovah then it is alright. Afterall, god works in mysterious ways.

If you ask them why god will allow such things to happen they will start throwing insults. God must enjoy self-servicing while innocent kids are killed in it's name daily. One of those kids in that video had a nail run through her head simply because of a mere accusation Jehovah be praised

Really?

Oh my god.

I don't have the heart to watch the video. Gosh.

This is horrible. My heart bleeds. That some people believe witches exist in this day and age is frustrating enough. But children being made to go through this is abominable. In fact any human being made to suffer for accusations of being a witch is an affront to humanity.

Is the government going to do anything about this? I'm surprised it's this bad. I mean I know that state is known for such practices but one man killing more than 100 people? How many have all of them put together killed? And he's walking free? Look at the myriads of problems we face as a nation and our leaders and citizens are more concerned about western countries and their problems. Misplaced priorities.

I know I'm ranting but I'm so pissed off and disgusted right now.

Was the alhaja's husband limping too that he couldn't go to withdraw money for his wife? Instead they gave their pin and card to total stranger? Foolish couple.

And the bike man. Someone just wants to transfer money into your account for no reason and you accept. These people. No reasoning

There might be real terrorists among those released. I hope they did their investigations thoroughly.

Congratulations

Smart

Flexherbal:
At first, I did not want to post anything related to my products. But, on a second thought, I decided to. How can I tell someone that there is a cure and not show them how and where to get it?

Only in Nigeria is a mechanic considered a low key job.