₦airaland Forum

tolusan:
Dear Cocolav, I hereby adopt the foregoing submissions of Jamean as mine in wishing you a happy birthday.

@ the bolded. This court suo motu grants you abridgment of time to do the needful. You case is hereby placed on the fasttrack procedure. I so hold.

Cheers

Thank you Tolusan

ksstroud:

HAPPY
WOMB'S ESCAPE DAY
Cocolav

more money in your new age

Thank you.

I really like the last line. Amen Amen Amen

davide470:
CocoLav,

You can do this!

Na wa!

Come and open my head and put the book inside

HarveySpecter1:
Hey little sis, you have done well for yourself. I have finally seen someone "who beat my record". I also hope to finish my M.eng in Uottawa within one year If my civil engineering department will offer courses during the summer. Nice to see that you have updated your diary. lol

Btw,I'm HarveySpecter1. Nice to meet you

Hi, it's nice to e-meet you.

You didn't have to copy and paste all of that here. I would appreciate it if you could modify your post. Diaryland posts should remain on diaryland.

Thanks.

davide470:
Nne, go and marry.

Why in the world would I want to get married at my age? Just why??

I guess I would just never understand why marriage is such a huge celebration.

Did she hire friends?

One person has this many female friends? Wow!

This same shit happened to me and my dad was even on the board. Cut off was 70.3 and my score was 70.2. I wasn't admitted under merit coz I didnt make it obviously. Had to get in through staff connections. Top universities DO NOT joke with their merit lists. All of you saying nonsense are blatantly ignorant.

davide470:
Why should it make FP? *rme*

I knew you were going to comment. My personal stalker

The second boy from the right must be a player by now with that smile and pose

Lalasticala, Seun, Snake

misspicy:
Is like you didn't read where his wife gave him a free pass to cheat abi.
That aspect has been taken care of already.
I fail to understand the grievance of most ladies on this thread, this story whether fake or real is what is obtainable in our society and who are those trying to change the world here, y'all better don't kill yourselves for the world , Jesus did that already.

My point is, it has happened, Op needs a solution on how to handle a polygamous home, so the essence of these insults is what I don't understand.....

Lol...I only read the original post and didn't follow the updates because of all the back and forth.

Omegalala:
Thanks CoCoLav..

You are welcome. Correct this mistake for the sake of your child and not necessarily for the lady because she obviously lacks a moral compass.

Another thing you could do is to tell your wife and get the child to live with you and your wife after he/she is weaned and if your wife is willing to continue with the marriage. The issue with this is the likelihood of the child being maltreated and the probability of your lady agreeing to let her child go. It is the way I have witnessed this issues being handled.

Each of the potential solutions is riddled with problems as getting an abortion is frowned upon by society, letting the lady raise the child alone brings with it the stigma of a single mother/absentee father/possibly delinquent child and marrying her will definitely incur the wrath of your wife.

Choose wisely.

Amelian:
But irony is that someone in his family or one of his friends or even her friends will tell the first wife.
Do u honestly think Nigerians keep secrets like that?
Lol

One person will definitely snitch!

That's life.

Yes, I agree but there is also a 10% chance that no one will snitch unless the girl starts advertising him after stealing someone else's husband. I'm sure you must have heard stories of women who only found out about their husband's second wives at his graveside.

Hi OP,

Your next line of action now should be to do a small traditional marriage with the girl and keep her far far away from your first wife. What you don't know will not kill you. Ensure they have no contact whatsoever and you will be fine.

Ensure only trusted family members know about the second wife...possibly only the men in your family because women can talk for Africa. Since your wife is based abroad, the likelihood of her finding out would be slim unless someone tells her which is why you need to keep it under control.

I know people who have two wives due to either childlessness or mistakes like yours. It is not the end of the world.

I am not here to judge you because nobody holy pass.We can pretend all we want but we know most men ain't faithful in marriage. you were just unlucky. Personally, if I were your wife and I got to know....damn!

LastMumu:
Most Calabar girls I know can cook. Come let me teach you how to cook.

To be clear, I never said I don't know how to cook. I just refuse to be confined to a particular role because of my gender.

What if I don't want to learn?

LastMumu:
Obviously Cocolav can't cook.


https://www3.pictures.zimbio.com/mp/y608yqtJ0oKx.jpg

Hahaha...maybe you are right but trust me, it doesn't give me sleepless nights.

DMeanMan:
CocoLav have vex

Lol..yes I have.

How can any sane person still reason like this? How can the worth of a woman be tied to her culinary skills? It's like the worth of a man being tied to his sexual skills.

Marry someone because you genuinely like them and not because you associate them with good food. If you need good food, hire a cook or a chef. If you need a companion, get a spouse or a partner...whichever works for you.

Some African men are so stuuuppid really, listening to some of their views makes my skin crawl. I have never met people with such a silly sense of entitlement then the traditional African man. Because you were born with a pe.nis you somehow think in your overinflated head that women owe you something.

exlinkleads:
however, it took the firefighters about one hour to put out the fire.

Although the fire was quickly put out by the firefighters,

Really?

Someone asks a simple question calling for analytical or critical thinking skills, some of y'all get all emotional about it and start attacking the messenger instead of answering the question. That's why people doubt Christianity and religion in general. We seldom answer the critical questions thrown at us.

shinarambo1:
Lol..that greyhound is just disgusting.

It's the absolute worst...it stinks to high heavens and some of the passengers are pretty weird.

Qualer:
you see yasef! your ijebu-ness don commot your leg for outside finish!

Chisos!

I still rep Ijebu

kkokoma:
I paid $80 from Toronto to Ottawa and its was just a small muffin and water they gave me. I didn't take it because I felt they may charge extra for it and I was feeling queasy from the way Air Canada fly almost vertically for the first fifteen minutes. Its the same all over the world , their breakeven margin is very tight

Wait o! Toronto to Ottawa is $80 by air?!

And I have been suffering myself with greyhound and via rail?!

badejob:
Before we even got married, all his Nigerian friends called me his wife

Don't fall for that please. You will be surprised to know they probably attended the wedding ceremony of the other lady. Nigerian guys?!

OP I feel your pain. I can't imagine how much it hurts to think you found the one and it was all just a sham. Continue to believe in God and he will bring you a man that deserves you. Nemesis will eventually catch up with him.