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boman2014:
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You know that early treatment against Hiv.

Good morning All,

Please a friend of mine was just raped, i would like to know whiCH clinic she can go to get treated against possible exposure to STDS

eveekudos:
Ok. Thanks. I will WhatsApp u asap

Will be expecting.

eveekudos:
can i get a very good 5pages website for 5k? Please drop your number

Id design one for you. what is the concept. Btw you have your domain name and hosting already?

Chat me up on whatsapp: 08068259551

Imagine all these Yahoo guys in 20 years. No where to be found.

I used to think blood money was fake or yahoo plus, but Mehn I know a dude who drives 2 benzes and he isn't smart neither does he speak good English nor know how to use a computer well.

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Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

Be patient a little naa. Money doesn't just roll in after a major breakdown. Give him max a month so then you know he has totally failed in his promise. But till then you are only acting frantic

Patience.

This was legit funny.

tiffanyfan:
Am a 200l student, I met this guy here on NL, though when we started I didn't tell him am 18, I told him am 24, I cooked up different lies for him, so that he won't see me as a teenager, but with time, I felt deeply in love with him and I think he felt the same way, though we have never slept together.

I decided to confess all my lies to him....which I did on Saturday, though he was angry initially but he later calm down and said I should come to his place today so that we can talk about the issue....av never been to his place b4, we only meet at public places. The problem now is he is threatening to call it quit if I did come to his house today, though I really love him but am not ready to go his house now. PLEASE NO INSULT

Go and you will become his sex slave for 4 years, abort a child for him, after which he will break your heart and you will hate men.
You will then give your remaining to the boy you marry.

The only reason he wants you in his house is to sleep with you, let me tell you now, Man to young lady.

You love him but he doesnt love you, he is old enough to outsmart you.... He is already outsmarting you by feigning anger.

If you like your life run.

Daeylar:
You could have just followed the conversation, it would have saved you the stress of typing this.

Guess we both are stressing cos you responded

Daeylar:
I agree with this whole post completely.

let me rephrase my comment though, this is nice to see especially in the Nigerian context where it seems men are free to cheat, can give silly reasons for cheating and the wife is expected to forgive or manage it, while at the same time the wives are never expected to cheat, so to see someone not follow the crowd is always nice.

We are not talking about Nigeria or whatever, cheating is cheating and it is unfair to whoever is the victim simple. in this case the man was cheated on, a heart was broken simple.

GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)

Dump her. Move on, at 30 you are still in your prime my brother. Even men of 50 are still being contested talkless of 30.

Let her go and marry the guy she is sleeping with (Most likely he wont marry her or even date her cos a man that knows a girl is cheating on her boyfriend with him cannot trust the girl she is simply a sex tool).
There are better women out there, trust me, and if e bad e bad, get a foreign girl, you will be surprised that from my experience, Nigerian girls are actually quite unfaithful if you compare the tendencies to even british ladies(or at least British Nigerian girls).

If you accept her back, you are in for trouble, accept that this was God stepping in to save you, she would have been doing it since, you just got to know.

Beverly1:
Hi fellow Nlanders

I was born into Catholic faith and practice till I was 12 and I enjoyed it. My parent became deeper life member while we were living apart and now a pastor in that church. I re-united with them when I was 12 and since then I've been attending the church with them and still attend Catholic occasionally....I love the preaching from the founder of deeper life as he preaches the bitter truth but I believe most other young pastor see d church "doctrine" as commandment and so must be kept 100%.....the founder of the church addressed this issue several times but NO.

18 years on since we re-united, I'm a graduate, married and living abroad but my father still forcing his believe and doctrine on me. I considered myself spiritual but not so religious. I connect with my God easily but not a 3G church guy.

He made me and my siblings antisocial and introverted simply because he believed we shouldn't be involved in any social activities even sports. I still remember being beaten for playing soccer, he believes we would be influenced badly. Watching TV was a crime especially movies.

Fast forward to yesterday he rang my wife to check on us but the first question he asked was if we attend to church. I told him it's been raining and temperature was really low....then he started lamenting asking if I won't go to work if it wasn't Sunday,complaining about the country where I can't worship God...then to get me more exasperated he asked and insisted I tell him how many time I've been to church lately and how many times I've read d bible....I told him we've been attending but he insisted on a number.

This got me so mad that I stood up for myself under a heavy breathe as I do not want to disrespect him or hangup on him.I told him I do not appreciate being asked questions like a 10 yrs old boy and at my age I should know how to live my life and what's best for me.....he got angry and said goodbye and I guess he was still on d phone but I didn't know...I just hang up.....Now I've block him from reaching me ... planning to change my numbers.....but not any financial support. Only cutting all communication with him but not with my siblings as they mean more to me and I wanna see them through as much as God help me...

Please is this not an over reaction because I loved him as he's a very responsible man who puts the family first and strived to make us who we are. But we do not av a close relationship because of his believe even though he's been forcing it.

Dont block your dad, Since you have stood up for yourself, maintain your stance though.
He is talking to you based on what he feels is right, so just cut him some slack. The next line of action for him wont be talking like that to you anymore but praying (LOL, We all need prayers right?).
Dont make the man develop a bp biko, just cut him some slack.

gabazin080:
it happened that I exchanged memory card with my wife. so I saw 2 call recordings between my wife and a guy. the guy was toasting her and she was laughing and telling the guy on phone that she will go and think about his proposal and give him a feedback later.

am confused but have not challenged her yet. am thinking of ending the marriage but my mum died last month and no one to take care of my son.

what can I do pls

Get more facts. Know the guy etc.

ehie:
lol i am imagining a scenario where it is the army that will push itself into a corner, it already has a terrible reputation internationally, with the crackdown on peaceful protest and probably Niger/delta militants joing the fray and the west pumping arms into the South South, that is probably the next scene of the play,the arewa republic might come earlier than you think. I got my visas ready just like Buhari and co

I need to renew too asap. The military cannot have much heat off IPOB all evidences point to Nnamdi Kanu as the one who began beating war drums, all his videos of burning down the "zoo" are still on youtube. The only claim the military needs to make is they are bringing peace back to the region.

Babe, let us travel together.

They have fallen into the trap, now they will be treated the way boko haram is treated.

Bokoharam even seemed to have military sympathisers, ipob will hardly find sympathy with the military.

Its unfortunate what being boastful and not being able to actually back it up can cost. This actually saddens me.

yasmina85:
My BF and I have been together fo years (6+). We both have good jobs, we're both well in our 30s, I think we love each other (I sure do) and we get along fine.

3 years ago, he wanted me to move in but I said no, not before marriage.
Since then, it's been the status quo. We spend time together either at his place or mine.
When I bring up going to my father he deflects with something like "don't worry, it's coming"; "I'll go when I'm ready, be patient"...

Last year, I got mad and sort of gave him an ultimatum.He said he would but was still draging his feet.
I became bitter, he felt over pressured and we started fighting and arguing for everything.
We eventually broke up and spent almost a year appart. He came back 6 months ago and things are like when we first met

The problem is, I feel like for him, it's a whole new relationship and we have to let it mature like any new RS.
For me, we just took up where we left so we've been dating long enough. He either commit or leave me alone.

I don't want to lose him but I can't do this anymore. I really don't know why he can't bring himself to at least do the door knocking.

Please what can I do ??

He doesn't want to marry. What's the point when he has enjoyed every possible benefit of marriage with you.

This is what might happen. You guys will break up and he will find a new girl he will marry within a short while cos she still get him excited. Your relationship probably came back cos he missed the free sex.

You can't force a man. Everything a man does is calculated, nothing unintentional. If you force him you will regret it.

Give him a time frame in your mind, after that start looking for another man. And don't allow yourself to be used, also don't give him too much info about your previous relationship (how you smashed, belittle why you broke up, baby abortion).

The big mistake will be these ipob picking up weapons. The death toll will be incredible.

2017 will be worse than the 1960s for eastern Nigeria because the military is filled with northerners who despise the ignorance and have the weapons and Nigerian resources to back it up. Worse is that it will all be televised.

Nnamdi kanu (a mad man in sane clothes) and his men are foolish if they believe war will help them out. It's unfortunate they can't see past their nose. At least be more powerful and influential first before chest beating but no.

Lagos and sw go com choke with new sets of igbos since they have made the zone a war zone for the sensible ones.

FutureLeader00:
Let me not bother you with too much stories, I will keep it short and concise.

My girlfriend has been acting strange lately and I couldn't find the reason why she's doing so. We started dating last year while I was still looking for admission, things has been going smoothly for us not until after ileya festival.

Before then, she celebrated her birthday on the 23rd of August this year had to sent a message to wish her, although I was around for ileya holiday as we both live in ibadan but am schooling in osun state.
She came to visit me on ileya festival(friday) which we talk extensively about her birthday, we both discuss on how to celebrate her birthday since I wasn't around then so we resorted to go to the cinema and have some few drinks.

Also, I promised to get her some women undies as a gifts before I left for school.

I ought to have been in school by now because the festive holiday has come and gone but have told her that I would love to spend some days with her before I leave. Before she left my house of friday I asked where she will be for the weekend, she told me she won't be around on saturday but sunday will be okay so I made up my mind to visit her on sunday and use the opportunity to see her mom and sibling.

I called on saturday to check on her but she inform me that she couldn't go out due to headache, the following day which was sunday I called her severally she didn't pick my call neither return all the messages I sent to her not until yesterday when she picked and told me that she intentionally not to pick my call because I wasn't caring enough for her. Asjed her what exactly have I done wrong, she said I didn't care for her meanwhile have been calling since sunday just to check on her but she didn't pick my call, mehn I was shocked!!.

As a gentle guy wey I be I asked for frogiveness and repeatedly told her "I'm very sorry" countless of time she cut off the line on three occassion, I was very furious by her action yet I keep cool had to call her once again she told me there's nothing she wants to discuss with me anymore except what she just did.

Till now, she hasn't pick all call neither reply my messages.

Now, have bought those things I promise to get her like pads, panties, bra, bum-short, and those girly things I even sent a text to inform her that have gotten her my promises she didn't reply me.

Pls I need your advice on how to go about this because it making me so sad.

below is the screenshot of my text messages I sent her
Help me to move it to the front page

Of all things, my own is how come you're still using this ancient blackberry phone.

And why is it only pant bra pad you know how to buy for your woman. How about perfumes, wrist watch, shoes, bag.

To collect wife from you go easy ehn.

I don't feel too bad for akpororo.These comedians just talk anyhow about people like they are not people themselves.

They won't say they have nudes it if they don't. Tired of these women having bqd pasts now giving their remainder to another man. Let your present be decent so it wont bite you in the future.

ebonflexy:
Y'all know me as that freak.
But I think my ho-ish ways have finally caught up with me.

There was this chick I met at the club last weekend. Beautiful. Sexy. Thick yansh.
I told her exactly what I wanted to do with the latter.
Long story short, I was eating her ass out in my apartment 2 nights later and we straffed.

However, I woke up 2 days after that to a very bad sore throat.
Went to get checked by the doctor and waiting for results.

My fellow yansh choppers, be careful how you chop dat ting and who's ting you chop.
Always eat it shower fresh, no matter how clean it smells!

Will this stop me from chopping big black yansh? We'll see....but I doubt!

I pray your sore throat leaves. If I share my experience you will flee from putting your mouth down there. I took several courses of antibiotics, different types for over 8months. Throat infections can kill you, it can spread to your lungs and give you a major tract infection.
The girl carried her dirty vjay away with the consequences while I suffered for 8 months spending over 150k on drugs, and hospital consultation fee.
If you like yourself and ladies if you like your partner kick against it.
Trust me, a disease in your throat is serious. You will loose weight ehn.

Thanks God, it could have been fatal, lost my lungs or something.

Passy089:
I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her....

So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her.

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??


MOD please help forward this to FP

She can't choose for you. Good women who are loyal and supportive are hard to find. Don't give up, tell your dad how you love her so he can talk to your mum.
Shield your woman from all this mess too.
Mums could be funny sometimes.

Saliman22:
Good morning my wonderful family, I had an issue with my girl 2015 which I open a thread here in romance section, we settled early this year,.

Lemme go straight to the point, I work with micro finance bank which I don't normally have time, my girl is on her IT at ministry of health in my state, what happened yesterday shocked me, my church is having a youth conference currently going on now in Anambra state, for the past two weeks now I'm in the village, she don't normally go to her IT place telling me that there are on malaria program which she don't considered it useful according to her.

What happen yesterday I'm still in shocked right now that is like I'm dreaming which I'm not.
It was past 11pm at night that my girl woke up and shout dear dear and I asked her what happen, then she narrated how she had a dream and I was killed in the dream, I was like what is going on because someone warned me about this month that I should be careful, so I went outside immediately with my Bible and olive oil for prayers. I was in the middle of the compound praying and I asked her to wait for me and she said she cannot wait, that she feared standing alone at night, my compound has a very big gate o, now she went inside my last born room and I was still praying.

Some spirit entered me and I stopped half way and to my surprise ever when I stop she couldn't come out and I waited small and it wasn't up to 2mins she came outside and asked me to wait for her and I didn't wait, she followed me, when I came to the house, I didn't talk to her for some minute and she asked me what the problem is and I explained to her that she should stop that thing that is going on with my last born. She said she's surprised that I could think about this kind of a thing and she's not stupid to have make love with my brother, I told her immediately that I want to make love to her and she said until we finished our discussion and I objected and go straight there and put my hand, behold she was extra wet, so at this point I went inside my last born room and called him to come and the boy followed me.

I now asked him to knell down and he did, at this point I brought out a cable and asked him to tell me why she make love to my woman, at this point my girl knell down and started crying, both of them confess that I did it twice. I now asked my girl the reason she did this even when she knew I was praying, she didn't give me a concrete answer.

So this things has been going on under my roof and I have spent my hard earned money for my brother and her.

Pls I need your advice. Pls what can I do, this morning I have called her aunty to inform her, and she said I should meet her on Saturday.

Pls help me brother and sisters.
I need help Pls.

Please forgive your brother, he is just a smal boy. A 16 year old boy is exuberant and will be consumed by lust. He is just discovering his sexuality so common sense eludes him,

Break up with the girl, she will cheat on her next boyfriend too, sometimes only God can deliver people like that, dont carry fire biko.

God will not make you die, you will live long in Jesus name.

Abiola was the richest man in Nigeria before his death.

etiosa97:
So i was enjoying the sweet-scratching my self today due to scabies( treating it though with benzyl benzoate and sulphur supplement) and the scratch got more sweeter in my UNDER i decided to use my phones touch light to view my plick and i saw two slightly raised bumbs on the tip and one bump on the rod.. What does that means? I'm not too sexually active

God be kind to you that it's not herpes.

SLIDEwaxie:
Omo yoruba, mo le feyin shi Pepsi...

That Yoruba man you used is not a good representative of odua.

secretlifesaver:
Hello my fellow people please i have to register this new account to keep my identity private as i don't want the SSS knocking my door and it's a secret i have to keep from my wife because i introduced her to Nairaland so i need to go anonymous.

Ok...


I'm a University graduate but like everyone of us, i have the bad friends and the good friends. I'm used to both side of life. Just 3 days ago my close bad friend hinted me about a kidnap that will happen in this coming week( i guess,) They are expecting about 30M from the ransom from the job. I know these guys don't joke because they have succeeded in the past before by doing over 3 kidnappings and they have once had a close call with the Law.

How i knew this....


This close bad friend of mine told me about a kidnap they have done before last year, Mentioned how it went down and what happened when the family of the kidnapped people didn't turn up with money on time because it was a misinformation. He said he had to stood up to the other member that they should let them go since their family can't raise 20M, He said it was a big fight and he forced them to collect 2.5m from the kidnapped family member and since then he told them he's out. Afterwards the gang continued their job without him and did another 3 successful job. The fourth was the close call they had with the police and the kidnapped victim was rescued by the police when they locate their den. The other guys ran out of town for more than 6 months but this bad friend of mine never let, he has the courage that he hasn't committed any crime and nothing happened to him. About 5 weeks ago, the gang leader is back in town after about 7 months out of town and I've seen him on many occasions pulling forces and resources together but never knew their intent until my close bad friend hinted me about their plan.

So i asked him if he's going with them and he said YES, I was shocked and he said i shouldn't worry that nothing will happen.

I am not worried because he's not my blood just a bad friend,

But i haven't been able to sleep at night since he told me;


Please what do you suppose i do? If i let them go ahead and do the job even with my close bad friend with them and they got paid nothing happened, this will hunt me forever. I can't change my close bad friend mind because he has already made up his mind.

If i blow the whistle on them and involve the law, Our law system is F@#$ up , and they will treat me like a criminal.

If they go ahead and do the job i know i need to stay away and clear from him....



Well with this out of my mind i should be able to sleep.

Please tell your family and friends to watch their back and be safe ...


Please i need advise from my N'landers member. I will be watching and reading this post closely and learn from the comment. Please i don't know the location or the time when the job will go down but i know it's going down.....

When they interrogate him. Who else knew about your plan, he would mention you. You are already an accomplice by association. Choose your friends wisely. Leave the vicinity if you can, change your friends.

Funny enough, this is competitive.

Igbos will support this duo cos of fayose as a result of lacking better option + the usual protest vote.

Hausa will be torn btwn Buhari and Atiku

Only the Yoruba and core south would rather keep votes from these duo.

tomi87014:
Help, Trouble In My Marriage

Hello Nairalanders.

I have been married for a year and half. I thought hubby and i have been living happily and i would've swore he was faithful. A few days ago i saw that a random lady messaged him on Facebook and they got talking. I was shocked at first to see that he was chatting her up. Fast forward to yesterday I checked his phone and saw that himself and the lady had more conversation and what started as facebook chat had progressed from phone calls to whatsapp chat. The content of their chat seems they were eventually planning to hook up.

I confronted hubby but he wasn't remorseful and told me he doesn't owe me faithfulness and went on to sleep in the other room. Hubby and I pray together and are looking towards a very bright future together, this is not something i really saw coming from him. I am very troubled in my heart and pregnant for our first baby. He dozent feel any atom of pity that the whole issue might cause me problems and I have been wondering what has come over him. I am 100 percent faithful to my hubby and want the union to work out. I am at work typing and holding back tears. Please i need advise from mature people in the house, how do i deal with the situation. I am in my late 20s, he is in his late 30s.

If he wasn't like that, he may only be reacting to something you did, have been doing.

Do you keep male friends? He might be uncomfortable with it but cant argue with you about it cos women know how to make men's feelings seem immature and belittled when it comes to the opposite sex.

Solution: Tell him you want to talk to him, put your cry or emotions aside for now. Ask him to please open up about what the problem is? Ask him is there anything you are doing he doesn't like, if you have male friends he knows of, bring it up, tell him if it makes him uncomfortable you will break your relationship with them. Tell him you love him and this whole fight I hurting you.....

He should respond nd open up.... He is distracted by this external lady.
If he is not responsive to u, don't let it stress you and ur pregnancy. Be patient and pray. Tell God to turn the heart of the strange woman away from him.... Prayers still do something.

Thats a pretty bold statement.

So if there are 1 million married people in Akwa ibom, 500,000 have HIV?

Out of 2 married couples, one couple has HIV?

I DON'T BELIEVE THIS STAT!!!

Addictedtodrugs:
Good morning Nairalanders

I'm a guy of 25 years old , please I need your help , I'm addicted to drinking 600mg Tramado everyday , drink one bottle of codeine everyday , smoke up to 5 ties of weed every and I self service twice a day before I sleep , I have been doing this since 2014 and I don't think I can stop it , if I try to stop it for 2 days , I will fall very sick , my body will be so hot , my head will be so heavy and I will be shaking , please you guys should help me , what must I do to quit all this because I know I'm hurting my self :

Start by trying to stay away from the codeine first. just dont go to the pharma for it.
Next is the tram
last is the weed
masturbation can leave last

its a tough journey but with determination you can do it.