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JackDaAlienz:
I want to find an apartment but na money kill am.
I will be turning 30 on october and im still living with my parents. I feel like i have failed in life at my age.

It pains me that as a guy, i dont have my own apartment. Apartments are so expensive now than before. And i dont have friends that i can squat in their house.
What should i do?

Why speaking like a woman, they are the ones scared of a particular age.
Anyone telling you Nigeria is not hard is lying big time, I pay the most bills of my parents family, but I still live with them so I can curb promiscuity, I know myself, like this sef, I do lodge hotels once in a while then imagine if I stay alone, my ashawo go get better style, girls and my guys know I am doing well for myself, at least I am contented with the little I have achieved and hoping for more.

If I am to leave my parents house then I will be getting married in the next year, so I don't have plans for that now, I am still a student and I hope to have atleast 6 landed properties before I leave them, don't allow anybody kill your self-esteem, you are better than most of them it's just that your secret is wide open unlike theirs, so achieve what you want while staying with your parents, they won't chase you and will still borrow you funds willingly if they have unlike when you ask others. I can remember when my mother pushed for a loan for me, but when she wanted to take it I had gotten the money from somewhere else.

So you aren't a failure, Nigeria is just hard, we aren't where we want to be but we are happy for Life, Buhari's regime killed 90% of my plans, I killed 5% with my own hands and only 5% worked out, so that's how life is for many of us now.

Life isn't about who arrived first, the goal is to be rich and healthy at our 50's and retirement age, according to my elderly friends, na that time life dae sweet pass not even our youth, the youthful age is the time for laying solid foundations, so don't envy those buying cars and carrying leftover girls, build your future bro.

dominique:
Tried hard to be savage and failed woefully at it. Nobody lives in canoes in Lagos, maybe in Bayelsa or riverine parts of the south south buy definitely not Lagos. That aside, what is the guarantee that the candidate he's forcing us to support will solve Nigeria's numerous problems? And please age is not a factor is deciding who is competent to rule or not, one of the worst governors in the country is the youngest. Go and verify!

You say people don't live in a canoes in Lagos, you aren't even in Lagos or you don't move at all. Near Makoko first or the flooding Lekki that make cars float, you really don't know how horrible it is to experience such flooding in such a dirty Lagos that the Bullion Van APC Leader wants to make the whole country like. I don't wish such for you because I understand your naivety.

There's no guarantee but any sensible person would rather choose for a fresh plate of rice over a rotten plate of rice if given the luxury of choices.

I am sure the mods of Nairaland aren't above 70 yrs old and you should know that people retire at a certain age because the capability of a human tends to reduce as he ages from his prime years and aside that Yahaya Bello is a useless man, it's not even about age for him but personality.

So what else do you want us to verify?

All he needs is hardwork and dedication.

He should show more interest in the job and learning it, even managers learn too.

He would be very difficult and stressful initially because he's trying to do something new but with increased efforts he would be good at his job.

He should get closer to his experienced colleagues, whether junior or senior.

Failure44:
I'm in pains and so annoyed.
I can't even boast of 10k in my account,
I'm crippled with debts on loan apps
This ASUU strike has only made my life worse.
The useless man I call a father that earns half a million monthly, spends It on drinking. I vow to make that man suffer at old age and to bury him in a shallow grave.
What did I do in my past life to be born into a broken home?
Where both parents are like cat and dog.
While my mates were learning yahoo, I was reading like a fool preparing for school.
Now I have secured the so called medicine but am suffering in silence while they're buying cars.

Do you know how painful it is to see the same people you were with now buying cars and using the latest phone?
How painful it is to see them spraying money in the club while you're borrowing money from loan apps?
How painful it is too them those you helped now snub your messages?

Now I understand why people commit suicide

You can also commit suicide if you want to.

Just so you know, you can also leave your education and be doing Yahoo so you can afford your dream lifestyle.

Your dad spends all 500k on drinks, he doesn't cater for the family at all, tell another lie, you are just one ungrateful and entitled Fool.

Life will teach you the real lesson you deserve, go ahead and look for those who will tell you that your Dad is the problem.

sahm4u2nv:
none is 5G. Thanks

S10 has 5G bro.

Ajay7411:
He said that 5G is needed

Oh I didn't notice that.

Then Samsung Galaxy A73 can replace the iPhone Xs max

Others are A53, A52s and Nokia 8.3 all slightly above 200k.

Samsung S10 or iPhone Xsmax 64gb rom.

I guarantee you a good user experience for both of them.

Wetin you wan carry Gionee Phone.

You nor know say them dae invade privacy. Download apps without your permission, send text messages, #20 per sms without your permission.

Ndibuna:
You only did the 24hrs twice. I thought you would say for 2,3,6,8 months lol

You must be really stupid.

Revolution2022:
You are sentimental not factual.

If this is sentimental, then show me what you said that's factual.

Oga Rest abeg.

If people resort to scamming to meetup, una go still talk, now if I vent my anger on you now, you will say I am disrespectful.

While I was still a Trainee was when I worked these extra hours, the pay was very small, about 35k, some of my colleagues were into romance scams to meet up, but I did what I had to do because I am a big fan of legit hustle, I easily get angered then, if you just tell me rubbish without providing an alternative source of income, I finish you without looking back, I don't allow anyone kill my self-esteem for nothing.

The man working overtime has a target, at a time I did so many overtime, to help admit one kid in my area whose parents couldn't afford to put her in a public primary school, I shouldn't even be telling you this because it seems the Sun has always shone on your compound, so you won't understand.

Revolution2022:
Babalola is a lair.I have worked from 7am to 7pm and 7pm till 7am respectively.That was a factory own by Lebanese and indian.It was terrible.I would be sleeping while I was operating a machine.Any mistake that I fall,the machine I operate would amputate my arm.
I would take an excuse from my supervisor and go into the bathroom to sleep because if I got caught by the Indian I would be sack.

In as much as everyone's strength differs, I still don't think he lied.

I have worked 24 hrs straight without sleep or Rest. From 2pm to 2pm, I have done it twice or so, I am talking about operating a very technical mechanical machine that requires full time sober mood, I know someone that can do 48hrs too, but you will likely catch fever or have a mental instability after it, I had a serious target then, so I am not familiar with borrowing, maybe I am just not lucky, so I had to do it.

But 7am to 11pm, it's workable, there are many people who can do, they just reject because of the low pay but in overseas, though the pay is still low but when converted to our poor currency, it's like a fortune.

jesmond3945:
no i mean in abroad. White man dont give black man middle class opportunity like that.

I am saying same thing bro.

They put their citizens/Indigenes first unlike us.

Revolution2022:
Do you believe what babalola said?Have you worked from 7am to 11pm to know whether it is easy?

It's very possible, but you will take some minutes rests in between.

It's not forever, when you tell some persons that you start from somewhere, they will call you evil and say you are demonic.

jesmond3945:
frontpage material. They system is rigged against the black man. We only get shitty jobs the white man cannot do.

The system is not rigged bro.

I repeat it's not, we are the ones who give our lucrative jobs to foreigners on a platter of Gold.

It's only Africans that give a managerial position to a foreigner then allow the locals work under him.

Ndibuna:
Why are African immigrants mostly doing 2 to 3 jobs, working long hours in a day while their white counterparts take vacations with families to greeny environment. Even in the so called obodo oyibo the blacks are still treating themselves like second class humans

A Frog doesn't run in the day time for nothing.

It's either it's chasing something or something is chasing it.

Those people doing those jobs are called breadwinners in their families, they have so much financial responsibilities on their shoulders.

Imagine getting a scholarship to study in a university with conditions that you maintain a CGPA, then you will relax like others would pay their fees.

Das1mama:
Good evening to all great men, women, boys and girls in Nairaland.
without wasting your precious time i will cut the long story short; as the topic stated, I just got a job in a pure water factory as a Driver, after much interaction and oral interview with the manager of the factory and gave me two options to accept either he will be paying me 15k per month or in every sale I made per bag that i will be earning #4. and aside from the salary he promised of giving me #200 everyday to serve as a meal, so out of curiosity I accepted the second option which is #4 per bag... pls which is more preferable, #15k monthly or #4 per bag sold? thanks and remain blessed. Note: Am to resume on Monday.

What's your location?

I can link you up for a better job.

It simply means If we fire you, you resign or retire from Coca Cola Plc, then you have to wait for a year before working for Pepsi Plc or Bigi Plc.

Tb222:
another yahoo boy noted.

Keep Defending your foolishness.

Allow people find love from where they see it, that lady is finer than many Naija women you will bring to compete with her, let us not even talk about character sef. Mtchewww.

If I know how to fall in love online I would have gotten my own white babe, but I suck at online relationships, I don't even like it and I prefer Black women.

Tb222:
I hope she will not wake up one day demanding how she got here, because i find it strange that despite all the reportage of kidnapping, killings, banditry, rape, corruption and whatever the devil can manufacture, a sane and literate human being who enjoys constan good water, 24 hour electricity, 24/7 security, a transparent and accountable government will leave that place of comfort to come look for a jobless hopeless youth here in Nigeria, anyway what is my own they say love is blind, because yahoo boys nowadays are performing signs and wonders, anyway i will keep my ears glued to my radio, and my eyes on nairaland......

Shut Up

Fool.

Romanoff:
Men throw out women out of their matrimonial home far more than women do because such men pay the rent or own the home. The women are learning from the men.

Men will put out their wife and sometimes their kids over a disagreement.

We must learn to treat our wives the way we would want them to treat us.

It's not an argument please.

I don't understand why you are giving contrasting points.

How better can you treat a bad woman, I am not saying JJC Skillz is a good man here but stop contrasting, it's annoying, I don't do gender fights.

Romanoff:
I'm it saying a man should not be financially stable before he marries. But even if that happens, his wife can still be more successful than him. Why should that emasculate him?

No woman should have to dim her light or not become ambitious so her husband can feel like a man.

Ngozi Okonjo Iweala get husband, Madam Folorunsho Alakija get husband, Madam Ibukun Awosika get husband.

Imagine if the husbands of these women didn't let them shine cause they were insecure.
If you treat your wife right when you have money, if you don't treat her like a subordinate but an equal when you have money, if you love and respect her when you have money, if you care for her like you should and valued her opinion when you have money, what the tides turn, that woman will turn up for you.

The only women who become monsters after their husbands go broke were probably waiting to have money so they could get back at their husbands for all the times he maltreated her.

Some of such women even wait till old age.

Be your wife's friend, her support system, love her like you should, she would not become a monster just cause she's richer.

My husband is my business manager, lol. If he's there when my clients come, you need to see how he gives them inflated prices. My clients don't like meeting him when they come.

If I get a job that pays triple what my hubby earns now in another state, he will resign and follow me for the job. He won't ask me to turn it down.

If he gets a job that pays him up to what he earned in his former job, he'd take it and we'd be happy.

His worth is not tied to his pocket, as much as he loves a good life.

You have spoken well, but you only did so for yourself and those women you mentioned above.

You don't know how evil some women are, you can marry a good woman today but all it would take is one bad friend to spoil her mindset, I am sure you will call it evil if a man chases away a suspicious friend of his wife, things dae happen.

I have seen women throw out their husbands from time immemorial, this is not the first time, not all women are virtuous dear RomanOff, you need to understand that.

I know you are trying to encourage men to marry financially stable women, but it's not advisable because if she had bad manners before she became rich then she won't control it if she marries a man she's richer than but if it's the other way round, she would be pretentiously submissive.

That's the main reason elders advise young men to marry women from good homes and forget about beauty.

Romanoff:
It's sad that a man's worth is tied to his wallet. It's why a man feels emasculated once he is broke.

Only men with a healthy self esteem know that their value and headship isn't tied to how much is in their bank account.

I know women richer than their husbands with godly homes. You will never know unless you're very very close to them.

No man admires his poor self.

If a woman caters for a home for more than a month, forget it, she will throw you out like this, unless it's your house then she will frustrate you with naggings and insults.

I just pity unmarried ladies supporting this nonsense, in this hard economy, if all men wait to be financially stable to their taste then a lot of single women will never get married because by the time a man becomes successful, he will go for younger ladies.

There's no healthy self esteem without money, your decision won't even be respected in family meetings, your wife may even make your children see you as a weakling.

The truth is that the institution of marriage is dying rapidly with all these jargons of events happening and series of useless advices here and there, I don't think many people will be going to the altar even if the economy is balanced.

Ebubu3:
He get why bro. Never marry if you are not financially superior than your wife, that way you can call the shots!

For this hard economy.

If all men wait to be financially stable to their taste.

Hmm I laugh, many women go die for their papa house, Nigeria women sef no dae reason them just dae support nonsense.

Certificate is just a piece of paper jare.

As a Student and a Worker I can boldy tell you that.

Sabificate is what grows a Nation not Certificate, I know too many Lecturers and Professors who don't know a thing on impacting knowledge, even certified engineers who run away from tasking jobs and leave them for the so called uncertified but you see those people with the knowledge, forget abeg they will make anywhere flourish if being appreciated, That's why those First World Countries are where they are today.

If I am to employ workers tomorrow, once you can speak English and know what you are being employed for, I will employ ASAP, Speaking English is the basic reason for going to school, I can't employ you just because you went to Massachusetts Institute of Technology or University of London. There are so many people with quality certificates, all it takes is GIGO to the Lecturers and you will pass with flying colours.

But you see acquiring knowledge, it takes hardwork and fast learning to get.

BoredBerry:
Why would I even want to have sex with someone who's married?

It's disgusting...

Men who commit adultery suck... Those with the fantasy of fu**ing another man's wife suck...

Keep Quiet.

You keep saying rubbish all the time, Gosh. You are too stupid for my liking.

Do you even talk out of experience at all or you just open your mouth and contribute to whatever you don't know.

Have you been in the shoes of a man to know what it takes to resist a half naked woman, that man is very disciplined, many persons would jump at that offer and prefer to bear the consequences later on.

If you think that Red Headed Agama Lizard isn't beautiful then I don't know what is beautiful to you, or is it because the picture was taken under the sun.

Moreover there skin colour is as a result of the environment, it may change if they relocate and some of these foreign lizards are of different species.

Mummyfour:
I watched a documentary once on Discovery channel that white owls that are rare actually inhabit haunted places and homes.

It was a scary documentary with a lot of eye witnesses accounts, and to make matters worst we were actually
Seeing these white owls around our house and trees especially at nights.
Armed with this information from the documentary, we delved deeper and realized that people actually died in that house. Few weeks later my son began to see things . We had to follow it prayerfully, but later moved out of that house.

So yes! Even oyibo people know say owls are not too good to have around

I don't think Owls are such evil animals, they are beautiful animals with their necks turning 360, their calmness, it's very lovely to watch, it's just that they are manipulated by people to perform evil acts during the night even Bats too.

The only animal that I don't like is the great scavenger, The Vulture, if it comes to your compound it's a bad omen and if it perches on your rooftop then one person from that household is going to die soon, there's nothing beautiful about it.

Travicon:
Hello Nairalanders,
I will try as much as possible to make the write-up short.


I'm not from a rich family, not even from an average family. I'm even from a polygamous home so I know what it means to have suffered as a Nigerian. I was on the street and I guess that's what is making me this weak emotionally. I'm a simp all-around in my life and relationship with people. People are always cheating on me, taking advantage of who I am.


I NEED genuine HELP, please.

That has to be a beautiful street, not the ghetto streets some of us grew up in.

If anyone even your family members try to take advantage of you, you withdraw yourself or run an eye for an eye.

Be good but not to the detriment of your emotional health, when you help someone or show love to them and they don't reciprocate it back, don't blame them, just forget about helping them again, pass that help to others.

Let them say whatever they like.

thedarkened:
I got a freelancing job (writing job), here on Nairaland. I used both days and night to execute the project, but when it was time for him to pay me, he blocked me on WhatsApp, that was May this year, till now he has not unblocked me neither has he paid me; meanwhile I took the job up because I was in a need.

it is interesting to know that I have never picked my phone for once to call or to insult him! yet, each time I reach out to him through the email he once used to send jobs to me, will insults me. Anyway, I hope nemesis catch up with him soon.

He is right here on nairaland and still uses his number.

So, yeah i got a job, but the experience was not a favorable one!

I met the likes of him too.

But I blocked him when he would give me topics to write on and after writing 3 interesting articles for him, he said I would be paid 20k at the end of the month that I was still a learner.

I saw my articles on a blog, I just kuku blocked him.

LadyD22:
This is very true I made the mistake of dating one of those guys ones , slim and a big dick , Yoruba man for that matter self esteem dropped to 0

Big guys are actually the ones that go for slim girls , most guys that approach me and sincerely find me attractive are tall and sort of buffy , it's like they're all in the same body category or maybe those are the ones I choose to notice

Yeahh
In the hierarchy of women.

Thick Girls rank first then Slim Girls before you see Fat girls or Plus Sized.

Slim is the best for me because after marriage they add some weight and become thick.

Flesh Everywhere.

Most fat girls are dirty, lazy and the worst part is that they will sit like a bag of beans and try to order you around like they are your boss.

There are guys that like fat girls, especially those guys with very slim body or big dicks.

MrRajhu2020:
My concern is
The founder telling me to pay 2300 into the company account for registration…

It's a scam.

Forget that one.