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victooman:
1) most of them are not psychologically and emotionally stable for marriage,

2) financial liabilities: most of them are broke , and hasn't build anything for themselves, the most valuable property they have at that stage is their phone.

3) Unnecessary drama: they are not emotionally stable so they Will intensify little things and frustrate your life,
4) High body counts!! yes you read it well, most of them are not virgins, and their body counts is on the high, this new generation of girls are even worse than their counter part,,
Guys!! girls in their late twenties and thirties are not evening newspapers , a woman body count does not in anyway correspond with her age o,, marry for sanity and peace of mind..

I don't even care about these things.

Once I observe she's respectful, obidient to me and can raise my future kids properly, I will marry her when I feel like.

Girls in their thirties are evening newspapers, before you wife her, do investigations to know if she was a LovePeddler, then you know if you can continue, if she was, that marriage has a 50% survival chance, if it was just normal datings, then no issues, everyone had an ex.

Your masculinity will fix her, if she tries to misbehave.

Most times, it's not about how quality the things you feed your children or buy for them are, it's more about the love you shower them when giving them these things.

My parents didn't have enough, like real poor but if you see us when we were much younger, you would think that we were Ajebo or Fresh Kids, even when I go to hawk in the market, people do pity me and some voice out by saying you are too fine for this.

100k is more than enough to run a home, it all depends if you marry a sensible lady. Personally a woman can't ask me how much I earn, I will just shout on you anyhow and if I even do, I will tell you a lie that I earn way below that amount, my mum and sis don't know how much I earn, when my curious sis asked, I told her 60k while my mum never bothered to ask, that's how you know the difference between a married woman and a single lady.

I spend way above 100k monthly but I don't like being bothered or asked irrelevant questions and I do ask for urgent 2k and 5k a lot, so we can't live together if you are a broke lady because you can't assist me.

There's no amount suitable for running a home, it's all on financial management, when I buy clothes I go to Onitsha and my 50k would buy me clothes worth 120k in the local market, the more reason I don't date jobless or demanding girls because they don't know how difficult it is to earn money and can't strategize.

SultanOfPuna:
For a male child to be born, the man must exude femine love and energy to his wife.
When 2 feminine energy combone the result is a,Male Child

For a female child to be born, the man must show masculine love and energy to his wife.
When masculine energy combine with feminine energy the result is a Female Child.

That is why many macho strong masculine Alpha males give birth to Girls

While Men that are soft and feminine towaeds their wife give birth to Boys.
If you are a guy it means your father was soft to your mother during that period.
If you are a girl it means your father waz an alpha male to your mother during that period.

You might be right.

I know a workaholic at work and he has 5 girls, he tried again and it's a girl again.

While those not as strong as him, give birth to boys like it's their birthright, some even twins.

Your theory may be correct.

Elohe001:
how about you try mushroom farming

How does the business look like?

Can you give me an insight?

I did a Ugu Farm around same time I asked this question, Surprisingly Cows doesn't eat Ugu Leaves but the Fulani Herdsmen and their cows scattered the entire farm like I had a quarrel with them, I was really sad that day when I went there.

It's a small plot of land 100 x 50 so I couldn't employ security for it, the damages were done, I saw them the next day but I dare not challenge them, because they were holding guns and it was a deep bush, if you shout/scream you won't see any help, so I left them and went home.

So I don't know what better way I could do this mushroom farming, someone had once recommended it to me too.

Omo

People get problem oh.

Divorce her abeg, don't discuss anything abeg, there are too many cobwebs in her cupboard.

eedimo:
MADNESS
The groom isn't matured enough to face the realities of Life.

Reality Facer.

Will you shut up your mouth.

bepositive11:
Have a good day.

And you too.

bepositive11:
Why do those women lie? Some women lie because they are scared that their man can't handle the truth. Couples that can be open and honest with each other have the strongest relationships and marriages.

85% chance of not cheating. Where did you get that statistics from?

Lol! Having so many sex partners affect women negatively but affect men positively? You're not serious. Male or female, if you sleep around anyhow, you're a lost cause. Male or female, it will affect you negatively.

It's alright.

You win!

I have given you so much luxury of my time.

bepositive11:
Don't take my word for it. Google the signs of insecurity and assess yourself.

A virgin woman will be curious to explore what she couldn't explore before marriage. You can't say that she's more likely to be faithful.

You see. Men and women who are insecure cannot have honest and vulnerable conversations. They cannot tolerate constructive criticism. They see it as a personal attack. Those men who take drugs are a good example of this. They'd rather endulge in drugs and alcohol than be vulnerable with their partners. How can you learn to please your woman when you can't communicate openly with her?

Communicate what?

So you don't know women lie a lot about so many things which sex is one of them, a woman who could reserve herself to get married as a virgin has 85% chance of not cheating and deserves accolades too.

Do you know the dangers of having so many sex partners and how it affects a woman negatively and a man positively, if you don't, please don't qoute me anymore.

bepositive11:
The words of an insecure man. Secure men have enough confidence to learn how to please their woman better than any other man on the planet.

That virgin of yours can end up sleeping with other men out of curiosity. That day, your brain will reset.

Lol

All the time, it's insecurity, that's the emotional manipulative word you all know.

You can never tell if you will satisfy a woman because you don't know the amount of sexual satisfaction she had received before you came, you can't say you are the champion in her sex game. That's why some men take drugs and they end up damaging themselves just to satisfy a woman.

Cheating is not applicable to non virgins only, but with a non-virgin or loose woman, there's a greater risk of being cheated on.

bepositive11:
Thank you!!! Don't mind them!! All these Nairalanders who you see demanding virgins are insecure men! They are worried that they won't be able to perform better than their woman's exes, so they shame those women to make themselves feel better. Women should stay the hell away from such men for their own good!

Exactly.

Why should you live a life where you have to worry about performing than your wife's ex.

Abi you no get your own sense.

Very few women forget about their ex that's good in bed. Like 4:40000

Whatever you do, just don't kneel down to propose, that's not African.

What does it matter in finding out about her ring size, just propose to her and take her to jewelry shop and buy her a ring.

You should be more worried about the future of your marriage.

I just hope she's a virgin, else I can't see why you should go through this stress, focus on having your kids in a good home, na why guys dae marry now, we just want to raise our kids with fatherly and motherly love.

Else who marriage help?
Ans: Woman.

marlow1962:
Fr Fr means (For real For real).
Thanks bro, I will try again.

Okay Noted.
For Real.

marlow1962:
Fr Fr, they damaged all the parts I have for love. I just go for fwb and mind my business.

What's Fr?

Get a girlfriend and an companion you like, fwb can be really disgusting sometimes, thst loneliness still lurks in sometimes but with a girlfriend you get the full package just use your head and not heart then plan life together.

People get married, live their lives without being in love, it's more about understanding.

Persephone1:
Dear Op, forget all you read about trust and respect here. The "if your guy loves you bla bla bla". Reality is dating someone that everybody wants is not easy. Believe me when i say it takes more than love and respect from a guy, you as a woman have a lot to do.
Number 1 question How confident are you in yourself , your partner , your relationship. What's the basis of your relationship? How committed and connected are you to each other. What makes you different from other women out there? What's that uncommon value in you? If you can answer these questions and you have both logical and practical answers to them then you are good to go.

The above may seem like walking on egg shell to some ladies, its fine. But if you want a cute guy of value with you, then you dont leave the work to him alone. You have to keep that fire burning. It must burn so much that even while you are miles away, he feels your heat.

No go kill yourself oh.

Love don't cost a thing, you don't compete for love, be yourself and watch who likes you come meet you even at your worst moments.

marlow1962:
I am not a cute guy, 7/10 I say.
But my ex was lucky to have me, likewise me too.
I am not like all this Bleep niggas around, I hate it when someone take my love as a joke.
Haven’t dated for more than 3years now, I can’t stand a girl using me again cus am inlove with her.

Date but don't fall in love again.

Even if you do, don't make her understand you love her, most women feel extremely superfly when you profess your love for them including the ugly ones and they start misbehaving, sometimes just act like you don't care.

I don't know how they cope.

But they can keep malice with you for over a week until you make them understand that it's nothing serious.

Some even go ahead and flirt with other guys just to make them feel jealous too.

Personally I think if a cute guy really values you and understand how you feel then insecurity would be at it's barest minimum, who loves you won't stress you at all.

LocalStandard1:
Good point. Question, are they increasing salaries? If salaries are increased in direct proportion to price increase trust me, baba me no go complain.

I am a salary earner too for a private company and I understand how you feel but if they increase salaries due to inflation, what happens when the economy becomes stable? Will workers accept a pay cuts to the former salaries or even lower.

Aside that you should know that same way the prices of goods and services are affecting you, it is also affecting them too. It all boils down to the government in providing and managing a better economy for it citizens and countrymen.

Kokaine:
mehn... we share the same sentiments. I live in the north. This dispensation made life so difficult for the common man that my greatest regret today is that i didnt save money to leave this country when i started working. I was giving people money who i felt were also in dire need and those who even lost jobs due to covid19. Now im almost hopeless about a change in this country. Its a depression giver. No good jobs.

What i can do for you bow is this... i can teach you solar calculations so you are able to make quotations for number of batteries, number of panels and even the configuration for installing charge controllers. I can also help you with some installation pictures so you hunt for inverter work as a side hustle. If you get the contract, give the installation to an installer and pay him. All this is for free. We are all one and in the same problem caused by bad leadership.

I recently discovered that this pv system design is on freelancing website called upwork.com people usually request for it. Although i haven't landed a freelancing job but im still trying. Did you study anything related to maths? It will go a long way in assisting you assimilate these things. I wrote two books already. One for house wiring and the other for solar installation. I can give you for free. But then in order not to burden you with learning new things, just forget about the qiri3and focus on the calculations for solar. If you still want to learn the others later you can.

Like i said.... never ever give up! I have learned that the rugged sailor is the one who sails on troubled waters. Let us survive all the storm with our hearts bearing in mind that tomorrow will be better. Good news! Kaduna state and nassarawa held massive campaign in support of peter obi. The hausas and fulani beef may have a negative consequence on pdp this time. And all the lost votes will be for peter obi. So there is hope. Lets just survive this one.

Nice! I hope you secure the project.

Travelling out of the country is so many of us are planning on but come to think of it, a foreign man's land can never our land, so I have understood that fighting for a better Nigeria is the best option even my friends overseas are complaining of racism and some other things.

I am good in Mathematics so I believe I can assimilate whatever you want to give me, I am ready to learn, a side hustle with a good pay would really go a long way.

I am on WhatsApp for quick reach.... 0 seven zero one eight 7 three x3 one nine.
Thanks for your proposed assistance and help.

LocalStandard1:
You are right. But understand, I don't think it happens like this in other countries.

When the government increase tax these companies should be the ones to pay for it or vamoose. Don't throw the load on your consumers. And even doing it to an astronomical proportion. While still paying your workers peas.

Vamoose. Did I hear you right?

You want these companies to go, it's like you don't know what you are saying, if they go, who will employ people, is it the useless government? How many companies do they have?

You want these companies to increase salaries without increasing the price of the services like other sectors are doing, who will incurr the losses, it's a company not a charity organization, they are in the business for making profits.

The best option is to vote in good leaders that have the people at heart, that's what you should be thinking about.

Shascky33:
Good morning Nairalanders.
There's this lady who lives in my street, just two houses away. She's about 38 but single, and am just 26.
I've been observing her for the past 8 months, she's beautiful and a working class but i don't intend to make her feel disrespected after approaching her. Please how should i go about it?

It's just lust, not love.

You like her assets and beauty, that's it., it's normal but be careful, most times it doesn't end well.

You will eventually get tired of her in 2 years time and wished you chose younger women well unless you are a Diamond Digger.

Kokaine:
You live in lagos? The traffic alone? I understand. But please still try to relax. Put off phone at night and sleep. The stress level in this country is very high. The country is very frustrating and makes our best efforts not even enough to make us blame unworthy. The dollar rise and high cost of living with low patronage keeps you thinking and working long hard hours. Not like the travelling abroad is even cheap. But in everything you still need to rest. We are only humans and we pray for a better situation in this country.

I live in Delta, No serious traffic here, but my job and side hustles are the energy killers.

It's not easy out here in Nigeria, The FX rate is so high because of high international dependence and the value of money is so low.

My only hope is for a better president to enter come 2023, the rat-race is so tough. I want my children to enjoy a better life.

Kokaine:
What drug have you been taking?
Someone even had to offer me a native medicine which i turned down because i dont know what it is. The chest pain and upper belly pain is terrible. But please try to relax. My doctor said its stress induced ulcer. Dont let anything bother you at this point. You need your health now more than anything else.

Yeah same thing I was told but funny enough I am still going through same stress.

Making it legally in this country is so difficult, putting up with all these hustles here and there can be so demanding and stress induced.
The Doctor said I should deworm every week for atleast 3 months while some native women said I should drink the light top of palm oil every morning before I eat and before I go to bed.

I have been trying my best to reduce these stresses.

Kokaine:
Bro dont complain. God knows your kidneys are still working. I had ulcer for the first time in my life three days ago and since then nothing matters to me again more than good health. Pain is no joke. Yet people are going through the pains of dialysis and failed internal organs. Be grateful!

Same here

I did a general test 3 weeks ago and I was told I have ulcer, mehn I haven't been myself since then coupled with other things bothering my mind, it's as if I am depressed but I sure know I am not.

After much thoughts, she finally came up with something, it was expected.

That's how women/ex partners behave when they sense you are soaring high, they try to bring you down.

Farid24224:
This just keep making it worst for me..I have to do it.

No go kill yourself oh.

There are many things to enjoy in this life, it's a sad life but sometimes we drop our problems and stay happy like we got none, na so we take dae survive oh.

It's not even about money sef.

Penguin2:
What were they talking about before he excused himself to go to the toilet?

Security operatives should subject the mother to interrogation.

It’s possible she has been abusing the boy emotionally; always reminding him of how “Chukwudi” and “Chinonso” who are his mates have built a house and even bought a car.

The sister too, will be their adding ad libs and backups.

Those things culminated in making the boy see death as his shortest route of escape.

I say this from the perspective and position of an emotionally abused person, so I understand how psychologically damaging it can be.

Again, what were they talking about?

It's sad to say.

You may not be far from the truth.

BigDawsNet:
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Virgil

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Allison

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Try it, if the urge still persists, then you have gone far.

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