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TheManofTomorrow:
This is it.


The op opinion is that you'd rather date someone who's interested in dating you because they have no choice but too.

Great advice, but I won't settle for that.

There are tons of young ladies that have their shit together. You just have to match their personality.

If you are looking for a serious girlfriend, it starts with you ideals in a lady, not the other way round.

Personally, as a lady, once I converse with you for 2 straight conversation, I already know if you are my type or not. And most time, it's not age dependent.

It's just about setting a standard and maintaining that standard yourself.

You can't be looking for sex and big boobs and expect to attract serious goal driven young ladies.

For real, the bolded is funny, what if a more better option surfaces as time goes on?

The truth is that what want in a woman matters a lot, your expectations should be mild and reasonable not ass and boobs, those girls with big ass and boobs usually have nothing to offer than their physical attributes and when you marry them, some are too lazy to keep workout to keep in shape after childbirth, then they become very fat.

Them don show you 99.

An average Nigerian Lady will take advantage of your naivety whether she's 27 and above or below.

Don't be stereotypic with your condemnation on the girls that showed you shege because every one has what they want in a woman.

Many prefer young women and moreover women with children don't ever seperate with the father of their kids, that's a big red flag.

In addition to that, these women above 27 are usually pretentious because they are very close to the wall, so I would say it's all about the individual rather than the age bracket.

If you change your circle and what you want in a woman then you will meet good girls, you can't go after big ass or boobs then expect to be worshipped or treated like a King.

Mbannu.

IyaTola:
he would ride it from Alimosho to Ikoyi or Ikeja?

To Ikoyi I guess, it's the one with more benefits.

Well if he's afraid of accidents or the road then he should take the other job that is closer.

Scooters don't consume much petrol.

IyaTola:
Noted. How much is a scooter? Is scooter no a motorcycle?

New Scooter is about 300-350k while fairly used should below 250k, depends on how neat and sound it is.
Scooter is like a mini motorcycle.

SerikiFulani:
Hmmm......No wonder a lot of married women whose husbands are out of the country are fvcking around....

I have fvcked at least five of such women in my estate

The OP's husband is a smart ass.

He understands how most women are wired especially the ones with body counts (above 1).

If she complains about this to her husband, she may lose her marriage instantly, he may just forget about her and marry over there, not all men are Simpsons.

The best is to complain about the bad attitudes of his sister so she can change, but I know she's lying.

She should get intimacy gadgets(dildos), I have an Aunt who has them in her house, her husband has been overseas for 2 years now leaving her with 2 kids.

Tell her you are in a distance relationship.

Show her the picture of any random girl online and save her pictures.

In other terms, she might want to fuvk you, but don't allow the Devil use both of you.

SerikiFulani:
Some men do fvck up big time

How can you leave your wife here in nigeria and travel out of the country ...No wonder a lotta married women are fucking around.

OP , your husband's sister is there to monitor you...They know you might want to fvck around and they put her there to keep an eye on you.

If you get hot now,how would you handle such situations?Would you cheat ? Or would you get intimacy gadgets?

I'll love to know @OP

She can order for intimacy gadgets.

He went to hustle to provide a better life for them.

She's just needs freedom to continue hoeing.

Watinhapen:
Madam your husband has traveled out, that means you’ll be alone if his sister leaves. Do you want to be all alone in the house? Won’t you feel bored and lonely? You should even be happy that you’ve someone to talk to at home. Try to make her your friend and tell her to assist you with house chores. Bring her close to you just like your sister. If you want her to leave by all means it’ll look like you want to have privacy so you can start bringing men to the house. I hope that’s not what you’re planning.

That's her plan bro.

It's very obvious, she just needs validation and online support to do so.

This is why I love wise women, you have to be logical in this situation.

No matter you paint the story or whatever you are true intentions are, if you chase that girl away, everyone including me telling you this will assume you are a slut, there's no privacy needed here, it's not as if it's a man, why can't you live with a fellow woman.

I have had bad experiences with my uncle's wives without even living with them but I don't want to assume you are bad.

If you can't live that girl, forget am, you be olosho, I personally think your husband brought her in to monitor your movements and also keep you away from boredom, so if you have any complaints about her, it's best you tell your husband so that he would talk to her, warn her and she will take corrections.

If you like go disgrace your family, moreover you shouldn't say he travelled because his family's problem are unbearable, that's very stupid of you to say, he travelled to hustle for a better life, abi nor be you dae complain of money, it's not as if he went to vacation.

Infact I can see you are a bad woman, typical Naija woman who wants everything for herself and her family.

Spits.

atheistandproud:
Are you high?

A house is an asset and it accrues equity. The price/value of that land will forever rise. Land that my uncle bought for N100 in the 70s is worth 200 million today.

Cars and phones are liabilities because their their value depreciates as soon as you buy them. A car or phone from 1970 is basically worthless today.

Can you drive around with a Santana or Peugeot 504 today?

Na wa oh.

Sometimes you have to ignore these people.

It's best you act like a Fool so that you can actually fool them.

He's not ready to learn, it's very obvious from his insultive words.

jojothaiv:
Comrade, most of the 12/13s wey you dey see so na Android version...

I swear.

I see their ads on the Internet.

Most of these guys won't allow you to check the details of their phone

It's a tough decision for her to come home.

You must help her avoid commiting suicide, you will have to sit her down and tell her the implications of her sickness and she must have her things kept privately and try her best to keep her metallic objects far from others.

She can still live till old age well unless she gets frustrated that she commits suicide or there's no money to buy drugs for her daily.

Take care of her, your blood is your blood no matter the bad decisions they make, because if it's for good I am sure your family would like to benefit from it too.

Fiscus105:
Women dnt have genetic build up for that, it has nothing to do with Nigeria's women but globally, if she is doing it now, it's just in anticipation that it would still change for better in nearest future.

Even if she doesn't complain for now, the respect she accord will greatly diminish.
Dnt forget, "she" who pays the piper calls the tune!

Hmm.

You mean there's nothing like Gender Equality?

These are conversations between a lady and her boyfriend who lost his means of earning money for some months.

What's your take?

You mean everything there is #1500.

Chaii no wonder some people wan vote Tinubu/Atiku.

If you don't have 3k, you won't get those items in Warri, what's your location please, na juju you take buy the food items?

IyaTola:
Good evening,

My younger cousin got both offer below
80k in ikoyi with pension and HMO or
80k in Ikeja with no Pension or HMO

He resides in Alimosho

Which would you choose and why?

Pension and HMO

Aunty follow am oh forget location abeg.

You can buy a new or fairly used scooter for movement.

Nothing beats pension and HMO for a person planning to have a family soonest or someone that already has.

Indians are not really bad people, they just get wrong OT from our Nigerian Bosses, Indians know how to manage resources even to the detriment of the workers, all they know is work work work.

Lebanese and Chinese, forget them, they are so mean and stupid, they shout anyhow if they spot a small mistake even though it's their fault.

Japanese are not really bad people, they have a lot to teach you.

Even some Nigerian Bosses are not bad but you see that word called Tribalism. Na there the problem dae.

The biggest flaw here is that she doesn't listen to advice.

People who don't listen to any advice usually cause problem for themselves and people around them.

Do street investigation by paying and sending strangers to inquire about her past relationships and to know if she's truly a virgin and has good manners.

If it comes out good then please marry her, don't use and dump her.

I still prefer Airtel because of their fast internet.

Glo is really cheap but there's no network for it so I switched to MTN and that yellow brand sucks data like a hungry baby sucking breast milk, finally I am with Airtel and the experience has been lit!

I am big fan of data, I don't mind the usage, so long my job is done.

Mumu First Son.

You have 4 younger siblings and you are bringing a woman home, you are going to be worse than your father, infact you seem cursed, bro you aren't supposed to have a girlfriend (liability).

I paid my entry school fees into the university and I am still paying it even though ASUU dae looseguard, I never had the luxury of my parents catering for my needs. When I see people like you whose parents pay their educational fees , I envy you guys.

A lazy father won't see you through the university, learn to appreciate him more and discharge that girlfriend of yours, abi your sense dae your leg wey you dae carry am match ground.

garriAndsugar:
Login with uc browser and on night mode

Oh

I am not a fan of UC Browser, I prefer Chrome like that.

How do I turn it on?

Our history is terrible.

May God help us.

zedegit:
It seems you are even the man.
Go ahead quoting everyone instead of sleeping.

Siblings betray each other talkless of different people coming for marriage. If he needs money from her to setup his business after marriage that's another thing but let that money he's requesting not affect her own business.


But joint account, is cancelled. I said so.

AdelekeToyin

You must be troublesome in nature.

She can go ahead to decline his request, what do I care.

She requested for a public opinion and I dropped mine, then I replied some of those who qouted me.
Tell me where I do bad now, I don't have time for rubbish now, I am in a sober mood because I am at work now.

It's her life and her money, she can do whatever she likes with it.

I don't need bad energy at all.

At a time, a female neighbour of mine that got pregnant out of wedlock was sitting outside and I sat down at a distance opposite her thinking of how to get money to better my life.

Suddenly she said out loud, lenon(imaginary name) your eyes don full oh, I was surprised, I looked backwards and sideways but I realized it was just me and her, then she said, nor be my Kpekus you dae look since, I was marvelled and scared at the same time. It was at that time I knew she was pregnant, normally I don't notice people on a good day.

Since then I kept my distance and didn't even greet her till she delivered a baby girl, then I gifted the baby monetary gifts then I congratulated her for not aborting the baby, about a year after she needed funds and she met her brother's friend but he requested for sex, then she came to me and pleaded that I assist her, I gave her the money and she was singing praises to me then she narrated how her brother's friend wanted sex for money.

I just smiled and let her be, she greets me everytime she sees me till I left that compound, perversion is not my thing, I can be weird with my approach by saying I want sex but I can't be spying on you.

Some women don't know how to sit properly, it may not be your fault, sometimes the things I see inside those laps make me find the nearest shop to buy TomTom sweet so that I don't vomit.

Stop going to your friend's shop, you could meet at a bar or quiet spot where you can do whatever you guys do.

zedegit:
Forget it. We are dealing with human beings and joint account is not advisable. I will even be skeptical for even mentioning it because that's a red flag.

That man is money conscious and could be dangerous just like Osinachi's husband.

Nawa

IamMobisola:
I still don't understand why some of you guys aren't getting the point, I have a small business that I do, my bf has a job but he wants me to use the money I get from my small business to help him setup a business for himself so he can quit his job. Question is; Haven't I become jobless with no income? How will I survive financially? What happens if this business he wants to venture into folds up or doesn't yield anything, how do we survive?
Another thing is, why can't the BF save money from his current job, atleast to be accumulating something so as not to put the burden on his GF?

Only a selfish person does this.

Madam that's your formulated own story, not the she wrote up there.

I don't have time for explanations abeg,

zedegit:
Either way it's not a good way to lay a marital foundation. It's like putting the cart before the horse.

Take Note.

She said he wanted it after marriage.

To think I never saw that part baffles me, It's hard to trust people but sometimes we have to especially when we claim to love them.

zedegit:
That's how love Scammers operate.

Look, in life we have our own load of lucks.

I know men who trained women to the university or a professional skill and the women left them, same way I know men that the women married them and they have children now.

Whether she chooses to take the risk or not, it won't change the person in question, that's why I said if he is a trustworthy person, she should support him.

IamMobisola:
Did you even read her post well? Her fiancee wants her to use her own money from her business account to help him setup a business for him so he can quit his job. Lol, is that even sensible at all?

And IF they break up today, who owns the businesses and the house they are building? Let me guess, the man will throw the woman out. LOL

I am sure you are against women helping men.

If you like spend on a man or don't spend on him, the one that will marry you will do so, it's all about what the man wants, how well the relationship goes along the line and not how you do it.

If she rubs it in his face then they will surely breakup.

It's not as if he collecting money from her to squander it. All the same, she has the decision to make.

If you can't trust him with your money, then the relationship is not worth it.

End it now because una marriage nor go get head.

There's a young lady in the street next to mine, she runs a phone charging and pos business with her Fiance, the guy works in the market as a real hustler, I hope you understand, nor be white collar job, they are currently building their own house.

It's all about love and trust, sacrifices must be paid, if you don't agree now, you may regret it or enjoy it later, it's all about trust, if he's a trustworthy person, then I don't see a problem there.

Appliedmaths:
This is highly possible. There are high flyers, you only see them once in a blue moon.

I can also bet that some other people have been on one position for the past 5 years in the same organization. So the question is, what did A do and B did not?

25 years sir not 5 years.

I know people who have been in the same position for up to 30 years.

Well I am not the one to answer what Mr. A do that Mr. B did not do