₦airaland Forum

kimberluge:
your not a spirit your jst a sexually frustrated gal  so stop deceiving urself! [b]Am a virgin too so I shuld know [/b]

Hardunnii:
@coogar why would anyone lie abt virginity

sexkillz:
[color=#000070]Helloooo! In the world ahead of me, are there married couples or not? If cohabitation is better than living separately before marriage, can you guarantee that my marriage would not fail, after we cohabit? What's sweet about sinning before you get married? Unless you are an atheist! So what is the JOY in marrying someone you have been cohabiting with all your life? What's the difference? [/color]

[color=#000070]Really? And dating and courtship? What's the purpose of that? Is dating used to measure the number of girls you tried your hands on or just what exactly? What shock? And what is the guarantee that the next lady wont give you a shock? And the next? or the next? Now how long will you keep expecting a shock?[/color]

[color=#000070]No! It wont be pleasant! Would it be pleasant that Hardunni cohabited with someone else, and discovered a shock in him, and left him, and you found out that she is NOT a virgin because she lost it while cohabiting? Haha![/color]

[color=#000070]And how many times will you keep kicking out! Or lemme get something right. . . Does cohabitation involve sex? If it does and you kick her out, who are you leaving her over for?[/color]

sexkillz:
[color=#000070]And that is the typical excuse when defending cohabitation! Cohabitation itself is one of those ills! Substituting marriage for cohabitation?  How would you truly stick to your man if you are not married to him? What's the point? Did you know, that when you are open to cohabitation, you will be open to separation when married? Co habitation only teaches us how to run away from problems confronting us! Instead of working on the relationship, we decide to tail, and move to the next person! If that is not a great ill of the world today, i wonder what ill is then!I'm NOT judging her, but Co habitation should NOT be suggested to anyone either! Nothing good comes out of it![/color]

Beync:
If you are married to this man, the child can call you husband daddy.it doesnt change the fact that she has a biological father especially as the child is going to leave in the same house with you and your husband.  teach her to love and respect your hubby the same way she would to her real daddy till when she grow she can choose whether or not to continue calling him daddy
we still call our uncle daddy and my causins too call my dad daddy. we grow with it and with still do. when they are together and we want to call any of them, we know how to differentiate, it feels so good honestly and it makes for close bound btwn families.

Ujujoan:
[b]Okay maybe it's not a model idea, [/b]but there are greater ills with the world than a lady moving in with her bf. Besides she obviously has her reasons . . . . who are you to judge her   

buzugee:
1.The name Africa is actually a white mans name. A white man named scipio africanus. So by calling ourselves africans are we re-enforcing  our subjectivity to white-power ?

2.The image of cesare borgia that is worshipped all over africa as jesus is actually the image of the son of  pope alexander the 6th.  The europeans during the renaissance painted all the image of black people (as black people were the dominant force prior to that and the image of a black jesus was the norm all over the world) white. they white washed all the images and arts and history. this was why it was called the RENAISSANCE. the image of cesare borgia was painted by leonardo da vinci. and ever since then the whole world has been worshipping the image of the son of pope alexander the 6th. if that is not idolatry i dont know what is.

3. The name lagos is actually a portuguese city in portugal. When the portuguese came to nigeria they named it lagos because it was a sea port and looked like their own lagos. The name has stuck ever since.

question ? is it too late to reclaim our dignity by switching these things or is it too far gone to even bother ?

Hardunnii:
@kimberluge for the record, av never known a man
On d issue, [b]she probably [/b]didnt marry d gals dad, now she's moving in wit anoda dude, its wrong, call a spade a spade n not a garden fork

jenny2007:
Hi everyone,
I guess you are wondering what I mean. I keep going through posts here about relationship issue like confusion as to where you stand in a relationship, your man is dating you and also dating others, he does not give you enough attention etc. I quite understand all of these. I stumbled on a blog online at the start of the year by rori raye (google her name) a relationship counsellor which has changed my life.
First of all, the most important thing that every woman needs to be happy in a relationship is self-love. When you love yourself you give out confident vibes which is what a man picks up on. This will determine the way he treats you. When you love yourself you do not tolerate his bad behaviour instead of dying in silence hoping he'll change. You communicate your FEELINGS to him when you love urself. Loving youself means that you put yourself first and your needs first before his. A man does not want your whole life to revlove around him. Loving urself means that you don't cancels plans to hang out with your friends just becos he called you and said he wants to see you. A man will respect you when he feels that you do not put his neeeds before yours. That tells him that you VALUE yourself. Secondly, a man wants to give you things and pay your bills. Forget all these men here in nairaland and their complaints about paying their women's bills. Ladies, a man provides for you because he loves you and therefore FEELS the need to take care of you. When u are the one paying his bills you take his masculine role away from him and that is dangerous. They might enjoy the feeling at the moment u do it but they will never feel CONNECTED to you because you have moved from you FEMININE role to the MASCULINE which obviously gives off the desperately- needy vibe. Ladies why do think that majority of men dump women that has helped them to the top from the bottom, its becos they have played his role and therefore they feel insecure and not man-enough around her. They feel less of a man. Next tin you see them with a new girl who they spend the money on, money that the other lady has given them or helped them to get. Their new woman makes them feel more manly because they GIVE to her and she RECEIVES. The other women comes off as desperate and need and a man can see this and either runs or takes advantage of you. So ladies, sit back and receive from your man. Thirdly,  I come to the reason why you must get yourself into circular-dating. It means dating several many men  all at the same time. It is not advisable to ' put all your eggs in one basket' as they say. Unless you have a ring on finger you should circular-date. When you circular dat you find that you do not put all your hopes, dreams, love, attention, time, etc on just one man who might end up calling off the relationship. When you circular-date you have options, you have a CHOICE out of many men. It does not pay to be exclusive with a man that isn't exclusive with you and this means the both of you dating each other alone. When you circular dat you do not feel the need to attach yourself to one particular person. Any man has to fight for your attention. Unless you are sure that your man is exclusive to ONLY YOU then yoy shld circular date. Don't get me wrong circular dating doesn't mean sleeping around. It simply means going on as many actual dates as you can with people you are attracted to. When different people are asking you out, you go on different dates with the ones that you like afterwards you get to make a choice and pick what you want and who you want when u have really gotten to know them. Increase your degree of difficulty. Don't play hard to get, be hard to get.by loving yourself, having your own life outside your relationship, being comfortable with receiving from a man, and circular-dating. This three factors make you a challenge and increases your degree of difficulty. If u love urself u would know how you want to be traeted by a man, what you want, when you are not getting it and what to do about it. People want what they can't have and when they finally get that thing they don't want to loose it.

deekseen:
BABE!: Little angel, we are moving in with Uncle Jide next week.
Little angel: so what do i call him now?
BABE!: you can call him daddy.
Little angel: so in a week's time my uncle will now be my daddy? What about my real daddy?
BABE!: sweetheart, you'll call uncle Jide daddy because we will be living together as a family and he will be a father-figure in the house. Your real daddy is still your real father, uncle Jide isn't your father, just your daddy cos we will be a family. Is that okay?
Little angel: okay mummy.
BABE!: i love you my angel.
Little angel: i love you too, mummy.

That should settle it.

Hardunnii:
She can call him whatever she likes, what you should be concerned abt is teaching your daughter moral principles which will be a diff task, since you dont have one urself, poor girl goodluck.

Dgunnerz:
Jupiter's rooster! No fitness?
No training?
Have you forgotten how he got to Capua?

He was a Warrior! He had no fitness and killed four men of his Master's rival(Good Solonious) before he bagan his proper training as a Gladiator in the House of Batiatus.

Can't wait to see Gannicus and Spartacus working together!

nateevs:
I wonder how Ibime lives in the UK and believes everything the Daily Mail, The Sun, News Of the World say. Post anything as long as it supports my argument. This is lazy journalism at best. Put two and two together and arrive at the conclusion that at some point in history, AVB must have apologized for his error of judgement. That way you are not far from the truth.

In actual fact, you are far from the truth as you possibly can be. AVB admits he was wrong, but there are no quotes. Jeeez!
The same Newspaper telling us what AVB told his players in the dressing room. . . and AVB "instructed" his players to celebrate with him whenever they scored, like they were there and Ibime swallows hook, line and sinker.

brainpulse:
You are a child of a Dog for this comment

djustice:
When I pointed out the envy evident in his tone, he denied it vigorously. Now you can see it for yourself. The bobo is still busy trying to get his residency papers in the UK, while envying those of us who chose to leave that country to try and build up our own through sheer hard work, and not involvement in government business.

Na dat envy and bad-bellus go kill am!

Hm. True. This issue wouldn't be a problem if we weren't Nigerian. Too much "respect" issues. It gets confusing

He's a correct Naija guy. Born and Bred in Naija.

Yes, he's still very much in her life.

Calling him by a nickname is still like calling him by his first name.  

lefulefu:
that is if the bobo get big belly with long white bear bear

Ijogz K:
Una no dey Crash Ni? , Like seriously, are U guyz dis dead?

MsDarkSkin:
her step father. His first name, a nickname or what ever.

If her biological father is in her life, there is NO need for another man
to have the title father or dad as far as she is concerned. PERIOD.

jmaine:
Fighting blind folded was amazing . . .and his deft skill, less dependent on brute force is really interesting . . . The guy is simply a fighting machine . . . Spatacus na demo jare . .even Crixus ( Area boy) sef dey bully the guy (Spatacus) . . .

jmaine:
Gannicus is pure d/o/p/e . . . .

manmustwac:
well i don't know about that. Besides i believe he will go during the january transfer window (because[b] i can't imagine him staying at chelsea much longer)[/b]. Which means there must be some truth in this story.

manmustwac:
its called an exclusive dude which means they got the story from a reliable source

The One:
I have been following this thread for the past 2 days and have been holding myself back from commenting. There's a lot of uninformed commentary here from a lot of people who obviously don't know much about the area in question. The first myth I want to correct is the talk that the people in the area covered by the road are rich. BIG FALLACY. Not up to 20% of the people are comfortable not to talk abt being rich. People see estates on the main road from phase 1 to jakande and conclude that represents the population of the place. I challenge anybody to go along any of the roads off the main road and see the abject squalor in those without ANY govt presence. Places like Ilasan, interior Agungi, igbo efon, alfa beach, lafiaji village, olugborangan, onigbongbo village, ikota village epecially the one behind the oando filling station, the slum at Ilaje and Alesh, Alaguntan village and if you branch into Ajah places like oke ira, owode, langbasa etc you will think you stepped into the 18th century. Now govt does nothing for these people and the only remnant bequeathed to them by Jakande is now being taken away by Fashola. You see why they'll fight with the last drop of their blood. Now if you say they don't contribute to the state coffers, what about the so-called rich ones that live in the estates. Again govt does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. All the estates come with their own amenities which the residents pay for because the govt will not do anything. The irony is that to do any project in that place costs an arm and a leg for consent and permits. I will not go into the argument about the morality or legality of the concession. Because of this issue, I went and checked my year-to-date playslip today and discovered to my chagrin that[b] I've paid 8 million naira [/b]in PAYE taxes to the LASG this year alone! And someone will say Iam not entitled to a good road as the ONLY amenity govt provides for me?! Fashola cannot have it both ways, he either collects TAXES or TOLLS but not both of them.

Genius100:
This thread has conclusively proven you are a certified . I really pity the man who has the misfortune of marrying you.

TAKING into cognizance the protest that characterized the proposed tolling arrangement on the Eti-Osa-Lekki-Epe expressway in time past, the Lagos State government, in conjunction with the Concessionaire, the Lekki Construction Company (LCC), last week unveiled the alternative routes ahead of December 18th, toll collection date.

The alternative route for those who may not want to pass through the Admiralty Circle Plaza (1st tolling plaza), located at kilometer 3 along the expressway, is the Ligali Ayorinde-Oba Oniru road, en-route Market Road-First Roundabout. The road is an entrance point to link the expressway for road users coming from either Ikoyi or Victoria Island.

Besides, the second alternative route is for the residents along the Lekki axis, especially, those living in places such as Agungi, Osapa, second round about, Jakande and others and those coming from Eleko-Epe axis. These set of road users have the opportunity of avoiding the tolling plaza, by making a detour at the second round about. The link road passes through Remi Olowude-Kuboye road, also linking the Oniru-Market to connect Exxon Mobil office in Maroko, for those going to, Ikoyi, Obalende and Lagos Island and Ligali Ayorinde to those going to Victoria Island.

Apart from the alternative routes, there are also slip/access roads linking the various communities and business concerns to the expressway. Such newly constructed roads are in places like QMB Builders market, Insurance PHB, Elizade motors immediately after the second round about and places like the Osapa-Agungi axis.

[b]The third alternative route[/b]that commence from both sides of Chevron areas are still ongoing. It was non-completion of these routes that informed the decision by the Lagos government not to allow tolling at the “Conservation Plaza”, the second tolling plaza located at kilometer 13, in the vicinity of Chevron Nigeria Limited.

[b]Briefing Journalists during the tour of the road last week, [/b]the Director General, Private public Partnership (PPP) in Lagos Dr. Ayo Gbeleyi, explained the rationale behind the construction of these alternative routes and access roads.
According to him, one of the agitations by the residents and other stakeholders was the perceived financial burden that tolling would impose on them. Besides, there was this complaint about the inconveniences the fencing of the right of way (ROA) would also impose on the residents and businesses to connect their respective homes and offices.

“The reality was there that these agitations are not unfounded. However, government, in its quest to ameliorate the financial burden, asked the concessionaire to ensure that alternative routes are provided at the appropriate locations. Besides, they were also instructed to provide slip roads at the various locations to avoid undue frustration on the residents”, said Gbeluyi.

On the issue of fencing, many factors informed the decision. Part of the reasons, explained the PPP director general, include the need to protect what he called “traffic insanity”, by the various residents and business owners that may want to come out or get to their premises at every point. “This, coupled with the instances of animals that usually strayed into the highways and the need to protect the ROA from any form of abuses were some of the reasons that informed the fencing. It was purely to ensure safety of lives and property and not for any other ulterior purposes”.

On whether there is political undertone for the suspension of tolling by government last year, the Commissioner for Information, Mr. Abdul Lateef Aderemi Ibirogba, said contrary to the notion that tolling was suspended because of election, “the main reason is that government want to ensure that all the grey areas such as provision of alternative routes, fencing and number of tolling, among other issues were properly addressed”, he said, adding that it was the same consideration that informed the suspension of tolling at the second plaza, pending the completion of the alternative routes and slip roads in the affected areas.

Earlier, the Managing Director, LCC, Mr. Opuiyo Oforiokuma, had announced the commencement date of tolling to be as from the midnight of December 17, 2011. He explained that apart from security and other traffic related innovations being put in place by the L.C.C , “Nigerians plying this route would understand and experience an uncommon service delivery along the axis”.
He told the gathering at the media parley that the second phase of the project will complete in 2012.