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Abuja1:
my wife is sceraring out every member of my family,she dosen't want to hear anything about them,anytime i say any thing good about them her face will change,i take care of her mother and my family,i don't know what is going on any more, can anybody advice on this issue

What is going on is that you are 'chicken'. Sounds to me like you are the wife and SHE is the head of the family, confidently in charge! Or why else would your wife scare away members of your family in your own home.

Were you at your mum's burial? And your two remaining brothers back home, were they not home when your mum died? As your brothers shouldn't they have at least told you what happened to your mum, whether she was sick, in hospital for a long time before she finally gave up? Were you yourself not contacting home?

flext:
i have 2 houses of my own one in london and the other outside london,im not married but i am fulfilled at least.
the reason why im on about it is because i have 2 junior brothers in nigeria who needs a start in life,like you said its a polygamous family and everybody is looking out for theirs,

If I have 2 houses in UK and so fulfilled with no reponsibilities - am single, no kids, I would find schools for my brothers, pay their fees, get them to apply for student visas and bring them over to UK. With a resident guardian who is a home owner and all fees paid, visas should not be a problem. And with 2 houses, there wouldn't be any question about accomodation either. The only thing left now is your mums property which rightly belongs to you - her children. It doesn't belong to your dad if the papers were in your mum's name, moreso as your dad has other wives and children.

meyome:
After some years precisely my 2nd year in university one thing led to another and we started going out as at then he had 2 wives yet I could not resist him.

He made me a woman and what I am today. I got pregnant after my service year and I decided to have the baby though there was serious pressure from my family not to go ahead and even from his wives and families as well but we were unstoppable because we were determined.

To me I would say you knew what you wanted and went for it. I would also want to think it's been so far so good. So tell us what went wrong or what your husband has done to you to make you feel this way now. You can't just wake up one day and start feeling like this - there has to be more to it.

@chiogo:
"First of all, how old is she??You mentioned that she finished high school before movin' to the UK and that was over 10 years ago.Therefore, she shouldn't be anythin' less than 25 years old. Does the house belong to her mother or her?? If it belongs to her mother, why hasn't the mother kicked her out?".


She should be 32 this year. The house belongs to her mum and why she hasn't kicked her our beats me too!


@chiogo:
"Again, i don't want to run into conclusions so i need more details concernin' this issue, where's her father?"

Separated from her mum and living in Nigeria with his remaining two wives.

During intercourse your partner had a heart attack. Would you quickly pack your bags and run, leaving him to die, or would you call the authorities or his family?

chrisoml:
D Poster is yet 2 let us know d exact color (green/blue) of her friend that beats up her Dear Mother.
at least it will help d response and a good advice recommendation for her friend

She is black Nigerian.

brownbonno:
All this naija children when their parents don suffer bring they to Europe finish,as soon as them don begin dey wear this Koboko pants they think say them don get sense pass their parents.
Na so a close family friend bring the wife cousin(small girl of about 12 years) come Europe(papa and mama die for accident for naija) after two years she begin fight people when bring her come for BETTER LIFE.She even report them to her school and social service come dey involve.Well,Okra plant no dey grown pass the owner.Na so them use number six take give am TC and she se herself for Oshodi oke.
After one week she begin make telephone call to say I AM SORRY.My guy tell her say u don loose election.That na the end of the story.

You don't know how right you are brownbonno. My friend's mum really suffered to get her here. Doing all sorts of menial jobs to be able to arrange and pay for her visa and ticket. My friend grew up in Naija and only came here after her secondary education. Even then we all thought she would have a better life but in 10years has succeeded in turning a proffessional thug.

Dodnextris:
sorry again just contact the social services within the area regardless of the country

Thats cool and thanks

Dodnextris:
Just a thought Mr Cooler i hope you are not actually the person who is beating up the mum or your mum!!

Ms Coolier.
And 'am not the one beating up my mum. God forbid bad thing! I am too kind and compassionate, I wouldn't hurt a fly.

Dodnextris:
4 step for the friend - Mr cooler
a.) Ask God forgiveness because you are a bad friend
2.) You need act now and inform the local police and all the relative because you have contributed to the ongoing abuse, you are very aware of it and you have not stopped it.

I would think 'am the only good thing she has left and I wouldn't describe myself as bad. I am the only one that has stayed by her, continually ministering unto her. Maybe you did not bother to follow the thread, you just came and posted, because if you had done that you would have seen that the police had been called in at a point and my friend's mother herself bailed her out of detention simply because her family members said people back home would blame the mum for sending her daughter to prison abroad.

There's no way I could have stopped the beatings, it's not within my power to do so, I don't live with them in the same house and so am never ever there when it happens. I only get to hear about it afterwards.

Viante:
@Coolier,
Waste your time? you gimme time to keep??

Anyways i don't know what you would call registration forms et all sent to somebody

isnt it an admission package?, did i say the school has accepted me??

The point of the topic is schooling in Scotland, be it in Edinburgh, Glasgow, Aberdeen, Wheredeen,

Dont come and sow discord here o.

Oh oh, whats this? I didn't know you are Gamine too. My reply was directed at him.

But for your information dear Solicitor and Advocate, Registration forms sent to anybody is called just that - 'Application forms and brochure'. And when one is finally admitted, he or she gets an "admission package" which includes letter of admission, notification of tuition/hostel/maintenance fees etc.

hilli666:
No wonder the boy is beating up his mother.

She's a girl.

ajk:
Birds of the same feather flock together.

Thank you Sir.

As my people used to say: "it is a person's yam that dips ones fingers in palm oil"

mafolayomi:
what about her siblings? what are they saying to this, or is she the only child the woman has? if no so why are they not saying anything to this, and if there are no other children what about the family member now?? is this how is going to continue@ poster please i beg you with the mighty name of God talk to other of their family now HABAAAAAAAAA

Three people, my friend, her junior sister and mum live together. The junior sis could do little or nothing at all or she gets beaten too. But they have other close family members outside of their home who think(you know the Naija mentality)if this girl goes to prison abroad, it would tarnish the family name and the mum would have herself to blame for the rest of her life.

tundewoods:
Quite a hilarous but sad story i must confess.
But lets face it,i've got a hunch that this story may a bit over exaggerated or better still a hoax.

But if in any case it is true contrary to my thoughts then i presume that there is more to the story that has been posted by the poster and next question is are we sure that both Mum and Daughter are not having bad blood because of Man

Nairaland,thank you for feeding me humor that will keep me laughing and smiling for the rest of the day at work.
Threads like this keep me going. Damn it,i love this game.

It's a true story and it's not funny so stop laughing.

ibkaye:
Does your friend live with her mum? If she does what is her mum doing still keeping her in the house!? She should have fly kicked her out ages ago, nonsense!

Yes she does. She is still single. She was in a relationship and it didn't work out.

I would think 'Aso Ebi' by itself is an invite.

And I would say find out where the venue is and attend the wedding. Sometimes these people are too busy with last minute preparations to remember minute things like who they haven't sent an invite. Far too many things to think about at times like that. She told you about the wedding, you bought the 'Aso Abi'. Am sure as far as she in concerned you have been invited.

On a final note no sane person would see you as a gatecrasher in 'uniform'. 'Aso Ebi' is close family and friends.

Seun:
By the way, what are you doing with a friend like that? What do you have in common?

We are more like family friends. I've known her since I was a child. I've spoken to her a couple of times and she keeps telling me she cannot help it, that when she is angry she gets out of control. I can't abandon her, every other person who's been close to her in the past had run away and I know fully well she needs help.

Alaafin of Oyo according to Yoruba history.

'Honour your father and mother', biblically, morally, culturally, traditionally and socially it is acceptable. That is the way we were brought up, that is what we were made to believe.

Why then has my friend taken it upon herself to continually 'discipline' and humiliate (because that is the only way I can describe it) her mum at every available opportunity. She slaps, hits her with all sorts of dangerous things, her mum is really scared of her.

At a point her mum had to call in the police but again had to bail her out as she thought she couldn't press charges against her own daughter. Help! I just know she would kill her mum one day.

bawomolo:
it's none of our business as long as it's not government money.

We're saying the same thing thank you.

I wonder o!

bawomolo:
all traveling expenses for Nigerian government officials are usually paid by public funds. he would be accompanied to Europe by staff whose welfare are paid by public funds. this is absurd in whatever way u think of it.

Am talking about so called rich people in the private sector not government officials.

ow11:
@poster

Do I believe you? NO

Your written english has a lot of 'Nigerian Grammer' in it. I believe you are in Nigeria and grew up in Nigeria. So save us this bullsh**t and open a better thread!

I thought as much myself but again I thought let's give him the benefit of doubt and ask for a photograph of his dad instead. No 'oyinbo' boy would ever use the word 'half cast'. But then again maybe he doesn't speak english. If he grew up like he said in Belgium, he would probably speak Dutch.

Maybe a photograph would be in order as there might be so many Emeka Kanezi in Igboland.

How would you react to news like that?

no.

I should think that particular case is still in the tribunals. They probably are taking their time like they did with Oyo State. And they do that a lot when 'magomago' is brewing. Give me Mimiko any day, he is a peoples man, 'am part of the masses.