UyaiIncomparabl:


Chuchuchu. 😒

UyaiIncomparabl:


I agree with you.

Reminds me of my pablo boyfriend that year. Dude was chivalrous and stupendously generous with his funds, but will never aid you in a way that would financially liberate you. Everytime, he would ask "My Uyai, do you want hair? Say it. How much is it? Can 500k buy it? But, tell this same guy to give you money to purchase something that is progressive, for example, a laptop to help you study or a professional certification to promote you at work, NEVER. Well, I learned to make every request about HAIR and CLOTHES since that was how it could work. Kilo kan boss.

I would always wonder what sort of human he was. And they will come out tomorrow to bash materialistic women when they advertently aid/aided the materialism. Everyone is a hypocrite after all.

advanceDNA:


(Yes..there are dead beat fathers just like there are dead beat mothers...infact if there is truly any gender that display abomination it's your gender that trashes their kid in the toilet and bush...

Anyways u only proved my earlier point... y'all always make whatever u do a bigger sacrifice.
Even right from the dating stage...one kiss and sex.... and y'all already start expecting the moon and sun in return

Kobojunkie:
What in the world does a mere opinion expressed by a president-elect got to do with this?

2. Childish ethnic law which to this day is upheld every time customary marriage law in Nigeria is acknowledged in customary court in that same Nigeria? When you are ready to be serious, let me know!

FRANCISTOWN:

Thats exactly my point.
Why should you request a DNA from such a beautiful and innocent being that is incapable of evil.
Such an angel.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Which financial situation? Whether I have money or not, my man should provide. I am a giver, but you will provide. How about that? Or is it too hard to understand?

UyaiIncomparabl:

Or maybe she believes in gender roles, have you thought about that?

UyaiIncomparabl:

Speak for yourself, darling.

I find it very uncanny for a woman to assume the "provider" role when it is not that the man is incapacitated to provide or is going through a financial meltdown. If not, why should I? How then do you assert your masculinty? Breeding kids and causing an uproar in bed?

So, it is okay for me to a part or full provider and still assume the back breaking chores while saddling with the kids in the home while the man does what with himself? Make it make sense.

I am a staunch believer of gender roles. That someone does not share alike values with you does not make their opinion(s) gibberish. Remember that two truths can coexist and we can still be happy.

EreluRoz:
You will always have your way even if the truth stares right in your face. No be you again

maxkenny:

Long story short her dad told me to organize meeting between my family and her family to settle matter.

To be sincere I'm not interested in the meeting for any settlement but only my baby girl she ran away with.

EreluRoz:
Why do you think marriages no longer stand the test of times?
Modern world has forced women into being providers which is against their nature and thus fighting back which eventually lead to crashing of marriages.

I'm sure you always applaud marriages of older generation, were the women hustling like women of these days? You can't share roles and expect everything to remain the same. Like I said, a woman should be her husband's backbone and cover-up for him immediately as at when needed without being told but not to be assigned a particular responsibility to shoulder financially. It's actually about the mindset for me, I dislike such mindset of sharing bills from men, it makes me look at such men as being lazy and not masculine.

Tallesty1:
Why?

ahnie:

Finest male nairalander.



Crackylious

cybernaut:
Hello friends,
A brother to me wanted to marry a mother of four kids .

She has divorced and the husband took the four kids and the bride price was returned.

My sibling brother who has never married before want to marry the lady .

He is in early forties and the woman is in her late twenties.

Your suggestions is needed but I know nairaland may not be best but I want couples in the same shoes to comments.

Thanks

VeryWickedMan:
Advice from a failure in life will make you a failure in life. If he was so smart he wouldn't be chopping wood that he's older than.

descarado:

Hahaaaaaha.
Leave crackhaus my runaway friend.

Family life has indeed calmed him down.

Some ladies were like him too,they got married and disappeared cos reality is so different from social media.

Him and his gang should come and set this place on fire again.
It's kinda boring with 13yrs old children.

descarado:
Who told you old generation husbands doesn't test before marriage?
Unless you mean before the civil war.

Klass99:


Crackhaus this is 2024 abeg rest from this your pretentious, sanctimonious, bullshit and be real.

I vividly recall that you engaged me in the past about this issue of not wanting kids and being childfree, with one of your alternate monikers which I can't accurately remember, but Uyai publicly pointed out that you were the owner of that moniker and you didn't deny it.

You asked questions and even insinuated some kind of childhood trauma or medical disability on my part which led to such a life choice. All of which I answered no to, maintaining that a lack of desire and zero interest in being a mother/parent, were my motivating factors.

You conceded at some point and said you couldn't understand it. Whether you recall that conversation or not, I do, as if it was yesterday. Yet, here you are again casting aspersions on folks like me who don't want children. Insinuating again that it may be some sort of medical or health challenge, or in your words, you automatically assume something is wrong with such people.

Why is it so hard for folks like you to accept that people are wired differently and we all want different things in this life? There are essentially three purposes of marriage;

1. Companionship
2. Sex and then.....
3. Procreation/children.

A person can want marriage for three of those reasons above, just two or only one of them. You asked, why marry at all if you don't want children? I want marriage for the sex and companionship only, sex and companionship on a platform heaven will approve of and I won't be fornicating or sinning.

The live-in lovers lifestyle you suggested is not the better option or the way everyone wants to roll, for the sake of companionship. You are a believer, aren't you? I expect you to know better.

Additionally.......marriage and children are life choices, not mandatory goals or achievements we all have to meet, in order to unlock happiness or the adult phase of our lives. There is no rule or law that says you must marry for children!

I know married couples who are childfree as a matter of choice, there is nothing medically or spiritually wrong with them. Abeg rest! What was the point of engaging and drilling me with questions back then, only to return now, with the same assumptions and insinuations as before?

You don't need to understand "childfree by choice" folks, but respect that as humans we have free will and the power of choice given to us by the creator himself. And some of us are exercising both free will and power choice, by intentionally and deliberately, choosing to not have children. Our choice does not harm or affect others. We must not want the same things you do.

Mindlog:


Many are sexually active outside marriage and procreating without being married!

A woman who is very intentional about nothing getting pregnant would do "everything" possible not to get pregnant. there are gynaecological and andrological options available.

Some crave for companionships in marriage while being child-free, that is their choice that is also valid!

Mindlog:

Not everyone's concept of marriage involves birthing children, some choose to be single and having kids then we have those who got married and intentionally being child-free

greenie77:


Then ask yourself , If a man has all he desires in a union can he remain happy forever?

Don't we have men around us, who you have keenly observed that their wives are truly wife materials who are beautiful, homely, family-oriented and when you visit their homes, you sense calm and positive vibes BUT the man/husband is out on the streets, salivating over ladies and having sex with them, sponsoring their lifestyles, ladies who are no where in comparison to his wife, he claims he still loves.

No human, male or female is created to remain happy forever as they are not static beings as time and life will happen to each one of us.

Jman06:
Sometimes I wonder how I'll be racking my head on being the best at my work so I can make money in order to keep my woman and kids happy, and at the same time worry myself on how to keep her.

I believe that there are wise ladies out there from good homes with good upbringing who'll understand that she doesn't have to stress a man so much to meet her mundane expectations provided he's doing well in the aspect of providing for his family.

Watianoengineer:
The US president flies the black hawk helicopter and never has any accidents been recorded. Seems there are special helicopters built for people in power

pocohantas:
Helicopters are generally unsafe.

Commercial airlines are safer that helicopters both in Nigeria and Pakistan. Thank you.

planetx:
Stumbled on an American website reporting this crash and 90% of the comments were just disgusting, making mockery of the dead, talking about how can he afford to go watch the super bowl when everyone is starving in Nigeria. Lot's of jokes about the Nigerian prince that will now send them e mail to transfer his wealth and on and on it goes. Don't understand why Africans show sympathy to this bastards when they suffer tragedy.