Kobojunkie:
It matters a while lot.

Getting well "naturally" means not having to take any artificial concoctions, not even agbo in order to recover from a situation. Needing to take drugs and injections in order to get well means your recovery was facilitated by the medications, not natural.

Karleb:

Yes. You didn't get well naturally.

Because you took artificial drugs.

Tonero5200:

I would respect them more if they come out to say it's ivf

Merxi:
Good evening everyone, I need your candid opinion as I am about to return my proposal ring to my husband to be. We plan on traveling out of the country next year after getting married. All of a sudden he has been insisting on us not having a court wedding. He just wants us to do traditional wedding and that’s all!…I have tried to change his mind but he is really adamant about it. This is someone I have been dating for close to 6 years

NoToPile:

Mr crakkhaus

Where have you been.

opeyy:
Whilst it is true that men are the biggest hypocrites of all time, that lady doing that is disgusting! Even if I was in a complete stranger's house and an older, even sister/brother, not to speak of mother, was sweeping, I would most definitely take over!! Common, this is basic home training!

We should not lose ourselves because other people are not acting right. Two wrongs don't ever make a right. Don't let anybody turn you into who you're not, it is not worth it. Always stay true to yourself and be on your best behaviour by doing what you know is sensible and the right thing to do.

descarado:

Where have you been?
Happy new year,crackhaus.

Gerrard59:
Has OP tried Northern Nigerian Christian females? The ones raised in Adamawa, Taraba, Sokoto, Kaduna, Plateau, Gombe, Bauchi? My hypothesis is that due to the general conservatism in the region (Islam is a very conservative religion), they are not too "open eye" like their Southern counterparts. They don't easily follow social media trends. Check all the hashtags of social media trends, I have not seen a video from a Christian female raised in Northern Nigeria. From Buga challenge to that of Beyonce or those during the Covid-19 lockdown. Also, I don't know any Northern Nigerian Christian female who is a popular feminist, offline or online. Due to circumstances surrounding being a Christian in the region, they hold steadfastly to the Christian faith. You rarely meet a fairweather Christian who was born and bred in Northern Nigeria. From the tales about Nigerian women being peddled online, there have been little to no descriptions and stories about the females in the north, Christian or Muslim.

In summary, for you to find a homely, dedicated, traditional, western-educated wife who is a Christian, head to Northern Nigeria.

UjuJoan2:



I have experience. When you’ve been married as long as I have you need to be creative with your arguments

UyaiIncomparabl:

The both of them!

The mother for having an entitlement mentality.

And the son for not being well trained by his mother to have collected the broom from her to sweep rather aided his mom to fuel her entitlement mentality!

UyaiIncomparabl:
I saw this post on Facebook and it makes me question myself asking what "Nigerian men want". It irks me so bad.

Women have been debased to NOTHING that a chore has become a yardstick in choosing a wife. I keep asking myself if God did not make a mistake to have given the headship to them from the beginning.

And now, I'll reiterate this here. I also don't care about the reactions it brings. It's not my business how you feel but I must say this to men- DO NOT SET UNNECESSARY STANDARDS THAT YOU WON'T MEET. Read that again. Would he have washed the girl's father's or mother's clothes if turns were switched? NO. Many men here won't either. It degrades them after all. ONLY women should cower and wash g-pee tanks because they want to marry. Marriage only favours the women after all. It's the women who do these things I blame. You don't rate yourselves.

If you try this with me, I'll FAIL your test woefully. It is the audacity to make this a post for me. They make marriage seem so unpalatable and dramatic.

Manners should tell you that you do not sweep when a guest is around. It is ABSOLUTELY rude and that shows that you do not even respect me enough to have kept your abode neat before my arrival. And that to me, is a RED FLAG!

It also tells me that "I am not welcome in your abode". I am immensely glad that the girl in the story dodged a bullet. Good riddance.

Signed; Bitterleaf Feminist.

UjuJoan2:

I know you feel betrayed, but come to think about it, why does it bother you who your wife confides in or not? Most women gossip to their friends and family and it’s not a big deal. Getting married will not make them stop that habit overnight. You can’t expect to become her confidant because you married her a year ago, when she has know these people all her life.

A woman only complains if she is being treated badly.

I don’t know what she tells them by are any of them lies??

The way you mentioned her joblessness, I think you are more worried about the fact that she talks about your financial capacity. But why is that even a problem? Do you want her to lie and say you provide the things you don’t?

She may not be working and contributing financially, but you calling her “jobless” is very unfair. How do you expect her to be happy when you belittle her every chance you get just because she doesn’t have a job.

You should concentrate on making her happy so she will stop complaining to her family members about you. That’s the only solution!!

PrimadonnaO:
To be honest, arguments like this are usually fraught with sentiments.

It is true that age isn't the friendliest to women...

It is wise to know this for a fact and make hay while the sun shines.

Making hay could mean different things to different women. We all do not have the same priorities.

Defining what is most important to you will inform how you use your time.

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Rather than try to live in denial of facts, the important message should be helping women understand what self-worth means.

Helping them define their purpose in life early enough.

These two things (self-worth and an understanding of purpose) underlie everything that makes a woman's life much more meaningful.

Animegirl:

Lol.... See who is talking. Nigerian men are more obsessed with marriage. I can't even enjoy WhatsApp conversations without men asking me to be their woman. 28yr old guys are the ones disturbing my life. Like, why the rush?

OscarJaden:
Good afternoon nairalanders,before i start pardon my grammatical errors please
So sometimes last year a female friend of mind came to stay in our apartment me and my guy for a while because of accommodation issues,during that period they started having unprotected sex which i warn my guy to be careful to avoid story that touch.
Around june she move out of our apartment since then we are always keeping in touch via chat and calls,just today she told me that she is pregnant for my guy and she will soon put to bed by first week of February..
She warn me not tell to my guy about it no matter what and i promised her to do so.

The main issue now is that should i let my best friend know about it or i should keep quiet,what if he found out later that he has a baby with her and i have been keeping such secret from him, won't it affect our relationship?mind you,this is a guy we went to the same university together,we do most things together and also presently doing our nysc in the same organisation together


Please i need your advice on what to do so that at the end i won't look like the bad one
Below is our chat between me and the girl

odinson1:

You women are always so Serious whenever the Issue of DNA test is brought up, why?
Is there something you and your kind are not telling us

graceama:
Good morning Nl

Please i will like to know the best way to make a spouse that hardly admit/apologize for his wrong doings, to do so without it resulting to arguments.

Thanks

babyfaceafrica:
The money no small I, na GLK the guy dey use o

babyfaceafrica:
Very True. A coursemate once told me in school she can't date a short black man.. Fast forward last year.. She married one!! Never take ladies words literally

mk3jax:

Been married for 10 years. Have 2 maid in the house that do almost everything yet wife still complains like we all came into this world to perpetually enjoy. By the way 100% of my friends and colleagues have this same problem with their wife. What women say in the public is not what they do. Even when they work, their money belong to them 100% and they will still disrespect the man that is providing for the family.
A man is valued strictly on his ability to provide. They are never loved unconditionally.

The VAPP law has now made provisions for what is considered spousal rape, which can either be a rape of either a husband or a wife by the other spouse.

This has thus reduced the standard of proof of rape, from producing a cogent medical report from a medical professional with proof of penetration, to now a voice evidence depicting inappropriate touch of a man by a woman and vice versa,” Mr Ogbankwa said.