Nonam:
As civil engineer. I have spoken face to face to more than 500 men within four years. I always discovered one common thing about them..... Majority of them are redpillers.

There are too many men who have swallow the red pill offline.

Blessedmercy8:


As usual, I'll ignore you. So don't waste your time.

Ishilove:

Looks like a mega jumbo dildö

Jovialjune1:

Hehehe on point

Let me not talk too much, I don't want to reveal bag of bones

pansophist:

Honestly I've tried so much for a long time to determine where that mentality comes from. I think about it alot. How lots of women operate from a position of perfection, that showing up with body is contribution and valuable.

My conclusion is that its a feature of weakness, or as the bible put it, a weaker vessel. You know, empty can makes the loudest noise.

Because to be fair, I've seen few women that are hardworking and strife to bring value to the table, that think in terms of contributing not just suffocating others. It's an energy thing. All women have the ability be strong, but most choose to be weak instead and be a burden to others.

A woman that have achieved literally nothing with her life, except bad behaviours, entitlements and false heightened sense of worth would feel she is a catch and better than a hardworking man that have build himself up front scratch.

Blessedmercy8:

I've seen you wella and you don't come close to my type. Forget the hype that rozz girl was giving you by always asking if you're married. Na her type you fit trip not me.

Pack well.

Blessedmercy8:

Na your type?
All these dry nairaland men with akward looks, what makes you think I would want to have anything to do with you?

How were you on your lane? You came to comment on my post and you're claiming you're were on your lane?

Just stop clicking on my post. Ok?

ecolime:
Men who cry on their wedding are Princesses

This one off me

Blessedmercy8:


Dirty slap dey hungry you.
Stop mentioning me. You know you and I don't agree. Just go and mind your lane o.

All these old nairalanders are the reason I keep changing my account, yet una go carry una unwanted face dey pursue my post up and down.

Please, I want fresh peeps in my space.

Ayamatanga0:

I must confess I enjoy reading your posts, but you need to understand something bruv, the OP was simply a "spur of the moment" post, it wasn't based on any sort of assumptions, facts, anectedotes or any sort of antecedents.
I simply wrote what I observed, whilst deliberately avoiding any inferences about gender and capped it with a catchy topic .
Live and let live has always been my motto, being single or married is by choice, both have their merits and demerits.
After all we have "married singles"

Happy Sunday!!

Blessedmercy8:

Yes we are still a big catch to reasonable men outside this forum where you all have a warped mentality about women.
Only here on nairaland do men reason like this
and I'm glad my man is not here and doesn't even know about nairaland.

Ayamatanga0:


Make of it what you will, marriage is a beautiful thing when it's with the right person.

Have a good evening everyone!

pansophist:


Youre talking too much. Women are their own worse enemy. They give stupid advice, believe stupid things and never for once put themselves in the place of the man.

I can't imagine a woman that I want to marry to be assessing my salary. I'll feel like a wallet, financially objectified. So as sophisticated as I am, it's just my money you're interested in. How about earn more and support me? Is marriage not teamwork again?

No wonder old cultures choose suitors for their daughters. If not, this lady will cruise to seventy years old still waiting for the perfect rich man in this Buhari economy where the average Nigerian don't have 30k cash in the account.

Surprisingly, she never saw herself as a burden. A man that is productive and earning 100k monthly is not good enough, meanwhile you, the woman that earns nothing is the catch. Women sha.

bukatyne:
@Topic: no

However, you can't stop anyone who wants to leave.

bukatyne:

HowardWolowitz:
Many times crimes are traced to children who want to give all they have to make sure their parents are in good condition, of course, that is good. My point exactly is that children do not owe their parents obligations to repatriate all deeds.

The concept of children's birth comes with the luxury of choice and consent, people get pregnant because they want to get pregnant, either
accidentally or not, even if mistakes occur I THINK abortion before the formative of the child in the first four weeks might be legal, but I am not sure. This all adds up to the fact that most times keeping a child is CHOICE.

At a point when the child gives no consent of their own, you are then principally obligated to care for them, government can act in certain situations where there is foul play in child care and that is the extent of how obligated parents are.

My point:

Since you consent to the childbirth without the child's consent, the child owes you no obligation to do the same, IT SHOULD BE THE CHILD CHOICE TO EITHER PROVIDE OR NOT.


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Lalakas:
Am not happy with my husband's utterances towards me. He unapologetically told me my duties are just 2: to give him se. X and to cook. This guy has really hurt me in this marriage, he seems not to know how to talk.

I work and equally contribute to everything. I dont hide my income and i give him for the building we are both building. I am not useless and i am not a liability to him.

How it all started :
Moimoi or beans is for every other Friday or Saturday ( moimoi could be ones in 6 weeks except my kids specially ask for it) but for a while now whenever I prepare any of the 2 he would complain, regect it. He told me he doesn't like them during the week and I will never prepare them Sunday to Thursday. Friday because he won't be going to work the following day. My kids like eating moimoi very well, infact, it is one their best meals. Atimes, they ask for it. My husband sees moimoi and beans as crap. Guys, he buys it and eat it outside!, my moimoi doesn't purge anyone of us. Even him but he'd keep saying he purges with moimoi, it's just an excuse.

It is difficult to cook 2 foods, i will not stop making moimoi or beans because of him, my kids like the meal so much. For the fact that he buys it out there and this food is what we usually enjoy together before now, i cant stop cooking it.

He has in many ways abused me, he is not someone I should even go the extra mile for, he doesnt sacrifice for me, he doesn't respect me, he doesn't stay close to me except when he wants se. X, always going out. He is very scarce at home. I can't cook 2 foods on days i cook moimoi or beans.

And for telling me my duties are just 2 in his life, I feel abused for allowing him have se. X with me all these while, i feel like a kitchen tool for cooking for him. His intentions and motives about a women are so demeaning.

I am feeling so ashamed of myself. He place no value on me.

Richy4:



Honestly, I won't be surprised if you tell me that you have hired a PA to handle your Nairaland account... Or you've met groups of die.. die.. die by fire by force on your way to Damascus

That statement is like something you can comfortably say without even batting an eyelid those days

UjuJoan2:

So you are not above resorting to manipulation like the rest of us? I thought you were a bigger person? Lol!

Anyway, the only way I see balance being restored is if he has an affair too. When it comes to cheating, two wrongs do make a right. Otherwise it’s just going to keep eating him up. The marriage might as well break up now and they both go their seperate ways.

MadarasBlade:


Just say you don't have big bums.

ahnie:
Crackhauz oya i admit on ishi's hype on you.

ahnie:

Jay's head is *bigging now**
Lolz.

Ngbotor de lor di?

Richy4:

Anyone who have married for more than 5 years... Who tells you on this forum that they have never had an argument where bad or hurting words were exchanged is most likely lying to you... What he said was bad...really really bad...( That statement reminds me of a friend here.. crackhaus of the old.. not this new and refined one that I'm seeing now )

Ilekokonit:

The grip effect though good, does wear out after max 2 kids unless kids were born by cesarean. In any case even if the grip lasts forever and the woman is a demon then no man will stay with such a demon for grips sake.

ahnie:

Your utterances are clear pointers Jay.
Honestly e go break my heart hope you know?
Lolxxxxxx I hate that shiit mehn.

MuslimMuslim:
You that is so good, why didn't she marry you?
Both of you are looking for excuse to Bleep

ahnie:

Sweetie,stop stalking me Jay!
Jay!Jay!Jay!! .


Jay are you a redpiller?

Ishilove:

Wos wos wobi, Mrs Ogbeni, shut the fvck up ke koshi danu. I had soundly ignored you previously, but i see you edited your post to add the last line. You think I have the time for useless e-fights? You may have the time but I definitely do not. You say if I should 'come at you with nonsense', you will reply in double measure or whatever rubbish you spewed. It is like you are high on your own potently stinky fart. You wrote nonsense many years ago and till date, even after seeing the light, you have not edited what you wrote. You started out saying marriage is bondage, and yet you still went into the same 'bondage'. Meanwhile, some foolish people will get their misguided inspiration from your original point of view. It reminds me of when Tonto was manless and she was calling herself 'king', but when Kpokpogari came into the picture, she remembered she is a woman and her son needs a father figure.

Wo, all of you should fvck off jare. Don't bother replying because I am going to ignore you so hard, you will doubt your own existence. Shior.

SteveDGreat:
I am emotionally down honestly. If not that I am hearing this from her, I won't believe that a Man could be this cold towards his wife.

This lady is my one and only best friend. As a matter of fact, I was nursing plans to marry her but man never make it. We never had sex.

Well, she got married and our conversation slow down. I deliberately slow it down so as to respect her marriage.

One day I decided to call, the husband picked and warned me never to call her again. Omoh I was shocked.

Days after she called and apologized and explained how the man has completely changed and is maltreating her to the extend of beating her and emotional abuse. We spoke consistently and unfortunately, she left the marriage.

She came to my city was staying with her elder brother. We spoke for some time and I went off cos I didn't want to get too close so as not to attract emotional feelings.

Well, after some months, she blocked me from reaching her. For 9 months we haven't been in touch.

Yesterday she sent me a chat with a strange phone Facebook that I should give her my number. Since Yesterday, she has been pouring her emotional trauma on me.
Her marriage is hell. Emotional abuse, insults, beating.

As I am typing, she is still talking on phone. She is done with the marriage and wants to leave but she is scared of her son that's 1 year and 2 months old.

I really feel bad for her and don't even know how to help her.
It is painful. She is my best friend.