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bukatyne:
@Topic: no

However, you can't stop anyone who wants to leave.

bukatyne:

HowardWolowitz:
Many times crimes are traced to children who want to give all they have to make sure their parents are in good condition, of course, that is good. My point exactly is that children do not owe their parents obligations to repatriate all deeds.

The concept of children's birth comes with the luxury of choice and consent, people get pregnant because they want to get pregnant, either
accidentally or not, even if mistakes occur I THINK abortion before the formative of the child in the first four weeks might be legal, but I am not sure. This all adds up to the fact that most times keeping a child is CHOICE.

At a point when the child gives no consent of their own, you are then principally obligated to care for them, government can act in certain situations where there is foul play in child care and that is the extent of how obligated parents are.

My point:

Since you consent to the childbirth without the child's consent, the child owes you no obligation to do the same, IT SHOULD BE THE CHILD CHOICE TO EITHER PROVIDE OR NOT.


What is your take?

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Lalakas:
Am not happy with my husband's utterances towards me. He unapologetically told me my duties are just 2: to give him se. X and to cook. This guy has really hurt me in this marriage, he seems not to know how to talk.

I work and equally contribute to everything. I dont hide my income and i give him for the building we are both building. I am not useless and i am not a liability to him.

How it all started :
Moimoi or beans is for every other Friday or Saturday ( moimoi could be ones in 6 weeks except my kids specially ask for it) but for a while now whenever I prepare any of the 2 he would complain, regect it. He told me he doesn't like them during the week and I will never prepare them Sunday to Thursday. Friday because he won't be going to work the following day. My kids like eating moimoi very well, infact, it is one their best meals. Atimes, they ask for it. My husband sees moimoi and beans as crap. Guys, he buys it and eat it outside!, my moimoi doesn't purge anyone of us. Even him but he'd keep saying he purges with moimoi, it's just an excuse.

It is difficult to cook 2 foods, i will not stop making moimoi or beans because of him, my kids like the meal so much. For the fact that he buys it out there and this food is what we usually enjoy together before now, i cant stop cooking it.

He has in many ways abused me, he is not someone I should even go the extra mile for, he doesnt sacrifice for me, he doesn't respect me, he doesn't stay close to me except when he wants se. X, always going out. He is very scarce at home. I can't cook 2 foods on days i cook moimoi or beans.

And for telling me my duties are just 2 in his life, I feel abused for allowing him have se. X with me all these while, i feel like a kitchen tool for cooking for him. His intentions and motives about a women are so demeaning.

I am feeling so ashamed of myself. He place no value on me.

Richy4:


Honestly, I won't be surprised if you tell me that you have hired a PA to handle your Nairaland account... Or you've met groups of die.. die.. die by fire by force on your way to Damascus

That statement is like something you can comfortably say without even batting an eyelid those days

UjuJoan2:
So you are not above resorting to manipulation like the rest of us? I thought you were a bigger person? Lol!

Anyway, the only way I see balance being restored is if he has an affair too. When it comes to cheating, two wrongs do make a right. Otherwise it’s just going to keep eating him up. The marriage might as well break up now and they both go their seperate ways.

MadarasBlade:
Just say you don't have big bums.

ahnie:
Crackhauz oya i admit on ishi's hype on you.

ahnie:
Jay's head is *bigging now**
Lolz.

Ngbotor de lor di?

Richy4:

Anyone who have married for more than 5 years... Who tells you on this forum that they have never had an argument where bad or hurting words were exchanged is most likely lying to you... What he said was bad...really really bad...( That statement reminds me of a friend here.. crackhaus of the old.. not this new and refined one that I'm seeing now )

Ilekokonit:
The grip effect though good, does wear out after max 2 kids unless kids were born by cesarean. In any case even if the grip lasts forever and the woman is a demon then no man will stay with such a demon for grips sake.

ahnie:
Your utterances are clear pointers Jay.
Honestly e go break my heart hope you know?
Lolxxxxxx I hate that shiit mehn.

MuslimMuslim:
You that is so good, why didn't she marry you?
Both of you are looking for excuse to Bleep

ahnie:
Sweetie,stop stalking me Jay!
Jay!Jay!Jay!! .


Jay are you a redpiller?

Ishilove:
Wos wos wobi, Mrs Ogbeni, shut the fvck up ke koshi danu. I had soundly ignored you previously, but i see you edited your post to add the last line. You think I have the time for useless e-fights? You may have the time but I definitely do not. You say if I should 'come at you with nonsense', you will reply in double measure or whatever rubbish you spewed. It is like you are high on your own potently stinky fart. You wrote nonsense many years ago and till date, even after seeing the light, you have not edited what you wrote. You started out saying marriage is bondage, and yet you still went into the same 'bondage'. Meanwhile, some foolish people will get their misguided inspiration from your original point of view. It reminds me of when Tonto was manless and she was calling herself 'king', but when Kpokpogari came into the picture, she remembered she is a woman and her son needs a father figure.

Wo, all of you should fvck off jare. Don't bother replying because I am going to ignore you so hard, you will doubt your own existence. Shior.

SteveDGreat:
I am emotionally down honestly. If not that I am hearing this from her, I won't believe that a Man could be this cold towards his wife.

This lady is my one and only best friend. As a matter of fact, I was nursing plans to marry her but man never make it. We never had sex.

Well, she got married and our conversation slow down. I deliberately slow it down so as to respect her marriage.

One day I decided to call, the husband picked and warned me never to call her again. Omoh I was shocked.

Days after she called and apologized and explained how the man has completely changed and is maltreating her to the extend of beating her and emotional abuse. We spoke consistently and unfortunately, she left the marriage.

She came to my city was staying with her elder brother. We spoke for some time and I went off cos I didn't want to get too close so as not to attract emotional feelings.

Well, after some months, she blocked me from reaching her. For 9 months we haven't been in touch.

Yesterday she sent me a chat with a strange phone Facebook that I should give her my number. Since Yesterday, she has been pouring her emotional trauma on me.
Her marriage is hell. Emotional abuse, insults, beating.

As I am typing, she is still talking on phone. She is done with the marriage and wants to leave but she is scared of her son that's 1 year and 2 months old.

I really feel bad for her and don't even know how to help her.
It is painful. She is my best friend.

InfinityFabric:
Girls made SIMP her friend, and actually puts him friend-zone.
Simp actually thought girl would marry her.
Girl used SIMP as emotional tampon every time there's heartbreak.
Girl got knocked up by the Tyrone.
Girl has a kid for the Chad.
Girl got battered by Tyrone.
Now girl remembers the Simp she left.
SIMP gonna become a cuck and step-daddy .

Don't be Mr SIMP.

ahnie:
Lies...instead he helped her,may I remind you that,that woman is damaged emotionally?
She needs a very strong support system now.

MrBrownJay1:
sadly, you have to be honest with this woman....SHE chose that man, SHE married that man, SHE had a baby by that man, SHE decided to stay with that abusive man ....so whatever she is telling you now, is irrelevant to the wrong choices SHE made. dont be drawn into her drama as if you were responsible for it.

now suddenly she is all over you , as if you were "captain save an abused wife".... pls do remember that all her yeye drama will come to your life, if/when you start messing with her.

Greatdand007:
Wow you really nailed it this reason I don’t date big butt ladies tho I like them

UyaiIncomparabl:
Marriage has changed you for the better. Who would have thought you could be this calm? Former Redpill ambassador.

I like this version of you.

ShaqFu:
What about Nigeria? Evil seem to be best friends with many here.

DukeNija:
They both owe it to him. His friend has no right to send money to his wife without his consent. There’re boundaries you don’t cross especially with marriage, otherwise complete transparency should suffice.

Ishilove:
Mr Oga, op dey talk one thing you dey talk another. Is that the issue on ground?

To wipe you fake Oraimo USB cord for neck just dey hungry me

Vevejoy:
Yes I paid 100% for my vacation.
I'm highly considering your last paragraph (advice). Seperate until he's ready to change and if not, move on. Can't live like this.

Thank u