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JayDaily2:
I came across a tread the other day here about women's attraction to dark tall men.

Men rarely get mad at the fact women prefer taller men.

Why do women get mad at the fact men prefer younger women?

After all, every woman experiences being young but most men never experience being tall.

Why?

Lol... Good one!

1Sharon:
Black women aren't the problem. Black men just have a high lust for all types of women.

If that was the case, the relationships between black men and other races of women will last longer. They don't.

Black men are crossing over to other communities and making them single mothers just as they do to black women. If they were so better, why are they being treated the same?

Marriages between black men and white women last the least. And marriages between white men and black women last the longest for some reason.

Any black woman that is very slim gets propositioned by ALL races of men. Non-black men have higher standards than black men.

An unfortunate minority.

PrimadonnaO:
When you desire to be married, there's a right way to wait:


1. The first step is to not be desperate. Understand that there's nothing wrong with being single. Nothing at all. Own it and be comfortable in this status.

✅

2. Understand that as much as you desire being married today, once you finally achieve it, the novelty wears off. It's like every other thing in life. Today, you might be praying to God and desperate for a job. You finally get the job, and you realize that earning a living is hard work. You also begin to desire better jobs and aspire for bigger opportunities. But marriage is different from a job because you can't just wake up and call it quits. A marriage becomes your life.

Is this an immutable fact?

3. Define your values clearly. Write them out and know what your non-negotiables are. Decide these things when your head is clear. It may take days or weeks, and you might make a few changes over time. But by all means, write out what you desire in a partner. This will guide your choice. When propositions come, before you get deceived by fickle feelings and blinded by activities, you'd have already decided if such a person is a yes or no. Be realistic about the kind of people you can attract, and be willing to work on yourself to be a great partner to the person you desire.

And what if the person/people coming around don't tick all your desires, do you keep waiting for someone who ticks all of it?

4. The most important step is to bring God in. Trust Him and have sincere conversations with Him every day about the kind of partner you want. Ask Him to be your guide so you'll make no mistakes because He knows the end of a matter from the beginning. Put your trust in Him who is All-knowing, all-powerful, and beyond loving.

That's if the person believes in God. Unbelievers also have successful marriages.

5. Decide and decide that you won't settle. You deserve the best there is for you.

Most people settle, and that's not a bad thing either.

As long as the person you chose did not tick 10/10 of your desires, you've settled.

And realistically, how many people tick 10/10 of their partner's desires?
Not forgetting that even if you did find someone who ticked 10/10 of yours, have you ticked 10/10 of theirs?

Na two-way thing na...

6.Keep living your best life every day. Stop holding out on things you need to do for yourself because you're factoring in marriage.

✅

7. Be decent and holy. Stop engaging in immoral behaviors. God can't direct you when you're living sinfully. Cultivate responsible habits.

Like #4 above.
Only if the person believes in God.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Honestly.💔😂

Make e come be one of these dusty boys as we have on Nairaland, omo, I don switch off. After sex, everything don disappear especially if it was lust from the beginning. He would then need to show he's worth more and bring extra to the table to show he's worth keeping, else, he will be thrown off to the streets.

You're missing one step.

If he's the one who first lost interest after sex, what on earth should make him want to prove/show anything to you?

Gerrard59:
Does that apply to poor men as well?

Cc: aisha1314

angelfallz:
Aren't dating and courting the same thing?

Not for RCCG, MFM, or Deeper Life members.

Cc: Bukatyne

https://www.nairaland.com/6869432/husbands-nephew-update

Last year, it was your husband's nephew you were here to complain and rant about. Now it's your husband's brother.

Be like say you nor dey let your husband people drink water drop cup for that una house abi.

Tuehh...

SeaTrade:
Hi guys,
So I'm an igbo guy looking forward to settle down,however it seems like the women down south that I keep meeting either doesn't appeal to me or are too damaged for my liking.
I don't know what's happening!Maybe it's the ones I keep meeting or a general problem.Don't know and I really don't care.
The manageable ones are all old(35+) and I see no incentive to marry like that cos I like youth.
So the next option is going the Muslim route since the girls there are bounded by culture so much so that it appeals to my wants in a woman.
I'm not bounded by religion or petty tribal differences cos I'm a very Liberal man.
I just want a woman with very little history ,pretty and homely.
I'm a quality man,rich ,young,tall ,dark, handsome,educated and well travelled.

How do I penetrate the Muslim community to marry one of them please?

Conversion bro... Are you ready for that?
I had a Somali chic who was quite into me enough to want to consider marriage, but she was suggesting that I PLEASE convert to Islam. Eishhh

Once you become a Muslim though, marriage into the community won't be much of a hassle. Hardly will a Muslim girl marry outside her religion regardless.
Na "Christian" girls dey like to marry anywhere their belle face – atheist oo, ritualist, yahoo boy, cultist, anyone, as long as they see money.

However, if it's just fun you seek to have with a Muslim girl and nothing serious, you will see who will play with you.
Just don't think about marriage with them if you ain't ready to SAW and PBUH and insha'Allah...

Helpout12345:
I am sorry to say this.

Only a decent man deserves a decent woman to marry.

If you lead a wayward life as a man, you deserve to marry a wayward woman because I don't know who you think should marry those you helped to damage.

Only a rich woman deserves a rich man to marry.

OhBritannia:
Brother it's too late.
Popular websites have uploaded the episode 10 already.
So before Sunday, more than 50% of people following the show would have watched it already.
Check all the websites, they have uploaded it already and tomorrow, the series will be everywhere.
.I will suggest you download and watch this night because tomorrow spoilers will be everywhere including this thread.

And something tells me HBO releases the leaks on purpose.

I believe so too...

Jman06:
Evening newspapers are always envious of matured men dating younger girls.
Like this girl's mother is likely a single mother who is no longer getting hit on by men in the dating market, so attacking the man is her way of showing her frustrations at men who would rather choose her daughter over her old self.

It happens a lot even here on nairaland


They set the standards for the kind of men they want but men are not allowed to have their own standards.

This

machote:
Stop spewing trash tonnyray. I thought we were way past this.

Let me share something interesting:
I do attend a Sunday meeting every now and then were we youths gather. After some weeks of attending this meeting, I remember leaving the meeting when a fair woman walked up to me and asked me what was my name. I told her. For some reason, she was just interested in me and we started talking, before I knew it, one thing led to another and we started holding hands, not a big deal I know but this is where things actually gets interesting.

Her close friend literally came right to us and separated us from holding hands.....TWICE lol).
WTF. Maybe her friend wasn't comfortable with us holding hands in a church setting or something. I didn't care and I didn't give a fvck.

But guess what, this particular woman persisted when we got downstairs and found my hands once again. How about that for a greenlight?

Now this is what solidified things for me:

While coming back from a similar meeting this Monday, She ambushed me in front of the church gate and asked for my name again and I told her. I gave her my phone number and asked her what does she want to save it as, She inputed my name and asked me if I should put "boyfriend" or "husband" right next to it.....WTF. I said boyfriend was ok lol. She then told me that she had her birthday coming up and that we should still speak later. I told her whatever.

We met later and spoke a bit then I called her yesterday to specifically ask if she had plans with her friends to celebrate and she told me not really, but that she really wants to spend it with me and spend more time with me too for some reason. I told her I will think about it and get back to her.

Why am I saying all this?, I did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO GET THIS GIRL'S ATTENTION. Contrary to what you proposed tonnyray,I
didn't cold approach, I didn't appear bold, spontaneous or even carry any confident air or whatever.. She just liked me. Please Guys, not matter how tempted you are to go for a woman you want, just wait for a woman that wants you, it makes things a million times easy.

Remember to stay chosen.

WTF is this?

hunterezi:
We were dating. We had sex. She got pregnant. Gave birth., we agree on getting married now she's gone. You get now?

If that's the case, then she is cheating on you.

Let her go please, and let her stay gone.

The last thing you want to do is beg a cheating woman to come back to you, even worse when it's a cheating woman who shares a child with you.

I'm just laughing...

A girl that will leave this guy's sorry arsé soon.

mariahAngel:
As much as it takes bravery to decide to donate part of one's organ to another person, it also takes courage to accept such a sacrifice, which must definitely come at a price.

Could one live, knowing they owe their life to another person?

What if the recipient survives and the donor doesn't, could the recipient live with that on their conscience?

Isn't that too much of a sacrifice to ask/receive of/from a human?

You dey remind me of one of my ex laikdat, very bend bend person.

Simple question, can you donate or not?
You have turned it into a thesis.

So your partner should be the one feeling guilty for accepting your organ donation?

As a close friend to him, it is your duty to inform him about her and urge him to not make himself a rehabilitation centre.

That said, I truly don't have anything against prostitutes. I find them to be a positive contribution to society and as a modern man, I can't be judgemental of any woman's right to choose a lifestyle as long as she's not hurting anyone.

angelfallz:
I just checked it out, you are right. However, I still would not want to watch a live-action remake of the animation, when I could just watch the animation itself.

She looks white to you?

Baddestguyp:
Another Cashgrab/Cow to be milked

Another non-white actor to be cast in Caucasian role...

The force is strong


Meanwhile:

I'm quite confused.

Is she just your baby mum, or is she your girlfriend?

cayorday89:
Beautiful and well written... Someone up there even said the OP was asking for too much, despite his effort and not minding the toll it is having on him regarding his output and efficiency at work. The only part I will not support the OP is asking for daily sex.

Him thinking he can/should have sex everyday is probably because he has been starved of it so much. The hunger is making him overreach.

Realistically, I don't know that he will still have the desire to have it every single day once he starts getting it more often (even if his wife were willing to indulge).

truthsayer009:
They already did, the lady i argued with Hactor was asking me if I was the one backing babies or breastfeeding them, therefore i had no input. Like cleaning & doing all sorts daily doesn't count for anything.

Be like say I juss know sef...

This must be a response to that other topic on FP.

Naturally, I would expect that any woman who prefers to date a man who won't ask her for sex MUST also not expect him to pay her bills or offer financial assistance to her.

But don't lose your breath Solofresh2... you see these Eve children dem? They want it all o.

truthsayer009:
No, I had to help my married Sis growing up with her. She didn't have a lot of financial resources to hire extra hands back then & hubby wasn't always around. That's why I laugh when I see all the takes from women regarding this issue.

Okay.

Watch how someone is still going to try discounting your experience.

truthsayer009:
I was wondering too, because this isn't the first time I am hearing that in this Forum & all over in other places. As someone who grew up in a home where I had to act like an housewife, bathe kids, cook for kids, change diapers & clean the house daily for years. I still had time to watch Episodes of GOT & Merlin daily after the kids have gone to school.

I will now compare it to the rigorous run around that i did in Lagos where I came home almost dejected after daily traffic. Honestly enough of the lies abeg.

Are you the oldest of your siblings?

Many firstborns have this experience...

Ulunne777:
That was how she was raised.go to their house and you won't be surprised .It stems from laziness and disorganized lifestyle,leave this mental health talk.

My mom raised us with cooking dinner early,its a life I'm used to and also adopted.If i eat later than this time food becomes a baggage to me and do you know it even helps to curb bedwetting in chikdren.my kids eat by 6:30pm and I'm a working mom.On the days I may come home late,I precook so that once I'm home,food will be ready in less than 30mins and by 8:30 tops the kids are asleep.

Ppl should stop enabling bad behavior,every time mental health mental health until this young man dies off early as a result of inadequate rest and bad eating habits .I'm even sure he will be served Eba and soup by 10pm like my neighbor does.

Ahh, finally...

All hope is not lost.

truthsayer009:
I'm not even going to focus on the OP & his problems because Its not my business.

But you know women are pushing this narrative about house wife being super hard than working a 9-5, I was arguing with a lady on this forum years ago & she wanted to die on that hill.

I can tell you for sure that these types of statements are from either women who are lying or who don't have any tangible jobs that they do, there are a lot of redundant jobs like working as an "Admin" where employees just sit down, get bored, scroll on Instagram and chat all along till 5PM, then earn peanuts at the end of the month. That's what a lot of women call jobs.

If you actually work in a Nigerian 9-5, doing something meaningful. Let's say you work in a bank, Customer Service department, you are attending to Customers from 9AM till 5PM, then come back home by 9PM looking tired & dejected, after 3 hours in Lagos traffic. I don't see any house wife job that is harder than this.

Working in a Nigerian 9-5 is super rigorous, anybody that says being a house wife is harder than this should just quit with the lies.

Bro, na baby girl lifestyle dem just wan live as you dey see some of these women. Very entitled, lazy set of snowflakes.

What they want is to be petted constantly, put on a pedestal, and to live their entire lives on nothing else but cruise and insha'Allah.

Imagine someone saying that being a housewife is harder than working a 9–5? Is that not madness?

Karleb:
Do you know the meaning of depression?

You people are claiming house wife work is harder than 9 - 5?

Omo!

The things I read on NL ehn...

Rozross:
Ashawo still dy your eyes even after marriage �‍♀️

Iffa wozz you...

Draw a tattoo over it if it bothers you that much.

SeaTrade:
lol why you dey laugh sinister laugh?

Not sinister at all... Na genuine laughter due to how funny and accurate the statement was.

ShaqFu:
forget all that nonsense wey madam blessed dey Yan. I tell you say I believe say her man dey speak in tongue just to rub her ego. Na Wetin dey make dem feel special De dat.

See correct study about how women feel about guys wey big Gbola.

https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/nation/big-dick-problems-women-confess-the-truth-about-big-joysticks

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201411/how-women-really-feel-about-penis-size

https://www.indy100.com/viral/woman-husband-penis-sex-life

So Bros after you read. Make you sef ask yourself if women dey shout when baby dey comot from their kpekus, considering how big a baby's head is (it happens only once for a short period of time). How do you feel they will scream when a 9 inch Gbola in length and 3 inches in breath is ramming in and out of them.

We never talk Weda the guy man wey get dat Gbola don drink baby okwu, Jekomo Drogba or Opa eyin oh. Bros you sef come imagine if pesin with such weapon after him don drunk all this concoction come dey ram inside pesin daughter for close to 30 or more minutes.

I juss dey look for her trouble...