I've worked with a man (married) who was fond of doing this same thing. It has little to do with gender or marital status.

Some people naturally have a sour personality, and yes it could usually be due to certain life experiences.

If the owner of the business had any sense of his own (I figure he must be a man), he should not be entertaining such.

ShaqFu:
You don't say. I'm sure you're professor X and you have mental powers for you so posit that nonsense above and still feel good about it.

Oh you make such hasty generalization. I'm sure the black men you've come across are the ones who feel comfortable in wearing G-string and extremely tight Jeans showing their nipples in other to attract their spineless kind.

I'm also sure your idea of a black man rest solely on the mental, damaged and abysmal image of people like Denrele. When next you visit Nigeria, you should visit Africa Shrine and have a little chit chat with Femi Kati, let him tell you one or two things you obviously don't want to know about who and what a man is, that is, an African man.

I don't want you to know, for you to know, not all Africans are born with black skin and not all Africans are ashamed of their skin colour.

The way you generalize calls for concern, it's as if education cringed when it was told it's going to reside in that Woke brain of yours. You and your ilk should be termed the female generals of generalization.

Since you don't know what you're talking about but you like to talk anyway, you should be silent before you make a complete and utter fool of yourself... on second thought, you already did.

Pinned...

Gosh234:
Thanks so much , trying to forgive myself, actually hurt her so much, was just like proving to her that I love her and proud of her, people will still know, just wanna let her know I love and accept her

Honestly, this is why I feel you did nothing wrong.

Whether you tell people her age now or they found out later, one or the other her age was not going to remain a secret forever.

She has her own issues and she needs to sort that out.

truthsayer009:

I feel love & respect are 2 different things sha, I may be wrong. Being with someone older will definitely cause some issues during temporary conflicts, she will refer to it from time to time.

There...

GhostWisperer:
it is not self hate that makes black men prefer light skinned or white women.

Check the stats, you're probably trying to be a white woman with your fake hair extensions, bleaching cream and all....plus you spend 6-8 hours every month fixing that same hair and you still can't take it to the pool for a swim.

You still wear hairnet like a surgical patient.

And your parasitic nature doesn't make you a good bed companion either.

Who goes for the copy when the original is within grasp?

Most African girls are just a copy of what they see in the West on TV.

You get time trying to melt rock by pouring water on it.

Bringing up an argument like that above is usually what happens when a person is grasping for a lifeline just to avoid drowning — a case of apples and oranges.

It must also be self-hate if a short woman has a preference for dating/getting married to a tall man.

baby124:

Gender is the most rigid. It is biological and determined by your genes. It is not about behavior or pretense. This is the nonsense you people are preaching that is causing confusion. You are born with a particular gender, Male or Female! There are some, very small population of people born inter sex with their genitals and even those, the body has a preference for a particular gender. Race is a social construct and hence much more a flexible definition than gender. Gender is a no go area and no matter how you pretend, you can never change the gender you were born with as you can’t change your genes. All attempts are just cosmetic surgery.

If I attach horns and a torch to my mouth, plus wings sef, I will never ever be a dragon. These delusional lies which we let the very mentally Ill get away with are very dangerous!

Hilarious replies

One said, "God stopped creating new humans in 2000..."

truthsayer009:

I could somewhat agree with this statement, but I have a question. Isn't this going to be a recurring issue that keeps coming up?.

I tried to date someone older than me with a year, I can genuinely say she loved me because of the evidences I saw but omo the disrespect no be here oh. It was clear cut that she couldn't bring herself to respect someone younger.

I have asked women this questions offline too and the answer I get is that they cannot see themselves respecting a younger man.

Don't you think that these acts of love and disrespect in one person are contradictory?
I for one can not imagine that a woman who loves me enough will disrespect me, or find it hard to respect me.

Hence I noted that the issue is not the absence of love per se. It's usually there, but it is simply not enough and that's okay.

Yes it will be a recurring issue, so the solution then is to either not date older women, or date/marry the one you can be 101% certain loves you enough to not allow it affect her posturing especially during conflict.

Goodluck with the latter sha...

SeaTrade:
I think say na only me see am
That guy na pro!
Funny enough I bursted out laughing when I got to the point in her write up that you highlighted.
E no pursue am, e just set template for her to waka on her own.

After sampling the goodies...

cayorday89:

Me analyzing this your advice, and he jamming another packaged lady who is also looking for the easy way out, only for them not to open up thinking they have met the savior they so much sought after, what will now be the fate of the two of them especially the child(ren) that will come out of this deceitful relationship.

It won't get to that stage before one of them finds the other out.

But even it does, their combined fortunes ought to have improved before then. Afterall, he who finds a wife has found a good thing and will obtain favour from the Lord...

emmaodet:

crackhaus crackhaus crackhaus

My chair...

UyaiIncomparabl:

Instead of this epistle you typed here, why not advise him to get a job? Doesn't that sound more noble?

You can do that love.

truthsayer009:

Ofcourse na, usually I see people campaigning for this trans thing on NL for years, and I also others asking them if they are trans or if they will allow their kids to be trans. Then they keep ignoring the question like they don't see it. Some people have sworn to always be on the woke side of life. Anything woke, they are ready to support it. Whether it make sense or not.

I ordinarily would have had a more elaborate response to this, but as the atmosphere has become heated as a result of these comments, make I downshift.

I will however still say this though;

Trying to remain on the "woke" side of life regardless of sensibilities, is most usually a consequence of some deep-seated inferiority complex — that pervasive idea that being an African who embodies African ideals is archaic, and as such any/every ideology being espoused & promoted by the west must be better.

CHoccolaTE:

Lmao, god abeg oo, so because somebody didn't accept you for who you are, and kept demanding more from you now means you should go overboard and start deceiving yourself that you and biological women are the same?

This your post only goes further to prove how unhinged trans people are.

It is not going overboard, it's just about me having a choice which ought to be respected.

Besides, if I was previously of the opinion that women are below men but I have now come to understand that a man can become a woman because we are the same, doesn't that mean I have moved up in the world?

I can only seek to be like that which I admire and love greatly oo.
Think on these things.

WhisperedNoise:
Interesting arguments.
Call me transphobic but I think it's a mental challenge for someone to identify as another gender.

And for anyone who supports that idea.

I said what I said, but I move with love...

ahnie:

You don tire abii J?
Abeg leave me joor.

sisisioge:

We met when we were both getting inducted into a professional body like that. At that stage, age brackage was mostly plus or minus two....it was safe to match cos we finished school same year and had a lot in common. He is all taller and more advance too . Besides, when the age discussion came up, I told him mine and guy conveniently agreed its same birth year. I wasnt really into him then but we were always in and out of each other's lives. All the while, I had been vocal about not liking that kind of relationships whenever discussed it....funny, he was always asking me . Then when we got really seriously, he woke me in the middle of the night to confess. It was a big deal for me.

A true legend indeed.

ahnie:
Lolz
The gladators are here
The free advise above really cracked me up.

So you won't greet me

angelfallz:
Lol, at least virgins are scarce not that there are no more virgins. I would be among those that would marry one of the scarce virgins.

Godspeed my brother...

CHoccolaTE:

Yes, its me indeed ooo

I might be feminist but trans ideology is something I will never support.

When I was a man, you wanted me to support you, to love you, to respect your choices, to extol everything you stand for as woman.
Anything less and I was labelled unprintable names.

Then I became a woman – I finally accepted that being a woman is priceless, it's amazing, it's beautiful, and all I asked was for you to accept me, to support me, to love me, to respect my choices in the same way you wanted from me when I was yet a man... And you have turned your back on me, you have refused to afford me that same courtesy.

Is this thing good? E good for your eye?

The problem be say virgins dey scarce, so las las everyone go marry who another man don do naughty things with before... Including you.

Gosh234:


While discussing with my woman last night , I was assuring her how much I love her irrespective of anything then I pointed out the two above incidence
To my greatest surprise she became angry eith me
In her words
a) She detest dating underage, how she found herself in this mess she can't tell

b) I should go ahead and tell my mum and elder brother (they just talk via phone) and even all my friends

c) I make her look desperate, that she is loosing interest already

d) I insulted her and she can't trust me again

NOTE
a) I promised her that no one will know of the age difference even if they know she is older

b) I never mentioned her age to these people or the age gap

My crime is that I admitted that she is older and I am proud and love her wholeheartedly

I don't see this working out again
I feel so belittled
Gosh

She doesn't love you enough.

Please NOTE, it's not that she doesn't love you. It's that she simply doesn't love you enough.
Some women have this issue, nothing new.

Just start moving on and have it at the back of your mind that henceforth, you will be dating yourself even if she claims she has forgiven you and wants to be with you.

sisisioge:

You guys will not kill me. It is a sensitive matter for her....bad enough that she got into it without knowing, worse that you're discussing it with your friends. I remember mistakenly dating a guy who is 2yrs younger. We are in the same professional space and he is way better than me. We had been at this date me I no date you I date you briefly for about 8yrs before he came clean with the age difference thing to me. It was mad o....I just dont like the idea of being older than him even though it didnt seem so and I never suspected for 8years! The moment he told me, I just wasnt really interested anymore. Yes it is silly but it is what it is.

Biko stop discussing the matter with people...she sef should stop dating children . Sorry, had to throw that punch in so you could see how it feels

I'm more intrigued that you didn't know for 8years.

Isn't that guy a legend like this?

Whilst we all announce our displeasure against these abnormalities, we mustn't at all forget that all of this began with Feminism, that modern snowflakey kind.

I move with love...

Em222:
 I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891

Wrong country bro.

Not with my Naija sisters and their "man will save me" mentality, and you're now the one coming to them with "I'm in need of saving"... **Insert Mandarin-infused laughter**

They will sooo flee in the opposite direction a thousand different ways like the biblical enemy we all pray against.


Let me give you a piece of advise FREE:
Instead of this pitiful plea my brother, package yourself well – try dey dress fine, try dey smell nice, look like you have something going for you and go outside. They will be deceived and I tell you sir, deceive them.

Let them enter first before they know that you're the one in need of a saviour. Nor pity dem oo, because as you dey like this nau, none of dem dey pity you at all.

T for Tenks.

bukatyne:

My dear Choco Choco, is this you?

Fantastic submission especially the last paragraph.

Feminists who don't support trans-women? E funny abi...

You should try searching videos of them on YouTube, na their own vexation dey crack me up pass inside the whole matter.

truthsayer009:

The funniest part of this whole discourse are Nigerians who move abroad for a 2 year postgraduate and start forming support for all this groups. In my head, I am like ahn ahn, Amaka you that just travelled 2 months ago, you have started adding rainbow flags to your BIO and preaching support for trans. They want to feel among & quickly throw their culture away to the dirt just to feel westernised.

A big reason why I can never bring up my kids in the US, their legs are never going close to that country. Europeans are a little conservative in those areas.

That just about explains it.

With such people, once you converse with them and break them down thoroughly, they usually come up hollow because they had no real passion behind their "supposed" support for such things.

bukatyne:


Happy new year.

Where have you been?

Out & about, but never too far from here...

Happy new year to you too Buka.

Karleb:


Normal definition:

Someone born naturally with the female genitals, boobs and virgina. Someone with the XX chromosome.

Trans Definition.

Someone who identifies as a woman. What does she identifies as? A woman. What is that?

Then they go into a endless loop of circular definition.


To the trans if you believe in your mind that you are a woman, then you are a woman irrespective of your natural gender. You just happen to be in the wrong body.

So silly...

Ben Shapiro usually has their medicine.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkONHNXGfaM

Ishilove:

If I believe I'm a zebra, that means I'm a zebra.

Got it.

It's funny...

LOL