Sixfeetbelle:


Order a device of the world into my home? That's like giving the devil open door to my marriage.

Thanks but no thanks

Sixfeetbelle:


No, but if I buy it, the shop people will gossip and tell my husband and I'll be mocked and ridiculed. Me, a pastor's wife buying something of the world? No way.

It's like you're a person of the world and all these your advice is not made for people like me. I want to enjoy sex with my husband but it's like I have to continue enduring it. Sha, thank you for helping me.

Sixfeetbelle:


Na you know ooh

Jokes asides, if a woman came here with an issue like this, na so una advise go be?

Sixfeetbelle:

Do you know how the society will look at me? Do you know my position in the society? Tufiakwa! I can't be associated with a device of the world.

Sixfeetbelle:


You've not met my husband that's why you're saying these things. He always shuts down my ideas in the bedroom and does it his own way. He always cums all the time but I don't cum.

Sixfeetbelle:


My hubby doesn't like that. He says it's disgusting and dirty. We are purified and do not engage in dirty things. It's against our belief. Give me advice on how to enjoy sex with my husband the good way i.e. the missionary way

Sixfeetbelle:


Your response is for people of the world and does not apply to me

Sixfeetbelle:


That's the point nah. We no get strength to dey ride anyone. First, we're too fat to be on top anyone unless you want 'accidental falling' to kill somebody's son. Secondly, our belief only encourages missionary position cause the rest are of the world. . Furthermore, hubby would be tired/asleep by the time we begin the ride cause he did thrusting first that satisfied only him and we must cum too.

What would you suggest for someone like me with all these problems?

sassysure:



I have not read any of her novels
Wouldn't have known about her if not for nairaland.
Got curious and searched her out on youtube.
She is cool.

Represents Nigeria to the max. Never changed her accent, Africa way of dressing and promotion of black culture.
What's there not to like about her?
I would have read her novels if they were hot sizzling and intense romantic novels.
That lady behave like an average igbo lady from my side. Why will you hate her? Repent o

In fact, u need to marry one of our babes to pour water in this your overheated head

Kingarthur21:

Whenever a law favors them they will never call it matriarchy they will say "it is still part of patriarchy" or "are men not the ones setting the rules that are oppressing men"


I have followed feminist pages for years to know how they think and reason. Don't be deceived from their subtle appeal to the world to support feminism as what will benefit both men and women.
Its a lie!
It is strictly pro woman and not pro equality.
They don't care about your problems as a man. The focus is strictly themselves...whenever someone tried to create a balance view they will block the person from the page.
A male feminist on the page once said "also tell women to stop making fun of men penis sizes,it is a two way thing" when the Op created a thread admonishing men to stop judging ladies with wide vaginas. The male feminist was blocked!

Emer O'Toole,a feminist writer said that if you are a feminist and you talk of men issues then you are not a feminist(a feminist should not be concerned of men issues).
Our dear buda .atum,the mangina of this forum said that it is absurd when feminist talk of men issues.

Gloria Steinem the mother of American Feminism stopped receiving Farren Williams (the founder of men rights movement) calls when he wrote a book about men suffering. Farren Williams was a feminist who fought for women rights,he and Gloria were great friends and worked together
After his book on the problem men faces,she cut off from him


Pan.sophist ,mar.tinez39s,O.mar09,crackhhaus,crackland

sassysure:

Leave chmamanda alone.
She is my sister o.
And she is very beautiful

funmisticqueen2:
I don't cast pearls before swine.

Of course nobody is special. But I am more equal than others and a princess by birthright. So me working to be a queen that i will still become, is pointless really. No man needs to tell me what i already know because he wants access to my vagina and womb. Dead on arrival, if you ask me.

Rogosa:


I called her sister **** and it is sounding awkward to me.

sassysure:
That man is not a gentleman
Or,
He is a gentleman but the lady is a feminist

Orgasmcoach:


you are right and in that case, it is not the man's fault but the woman's. it becomes the man's fault when he has been shown/told yet refuse to explore it

Sixfeetbelle:


There is a catch to this 'woman riding out her orgasm' thing though.

If I hate riding after a trial or two, I won't want to engage in it again, especially if I've discovered another way to achieve it independent of my partner's participation. In other words, if he cums by thrusting and I don't, and with time, have started to hate it, I'd not look forward to sex time with him, thus defeating the aim of sex.

What is sex if it dissolves into individual pleasure attainment?

Orgasmcoach:


continue deceiving them. Either you are ignorant or writing just to sound anti-women

Don't satisfy your wife but don't cry when someone else does or come here with the tale "she denies me sex, she has a timetable for sex".....

Tallesty1:
Because accidents and untimely death are meant for men bah?

Robnectar:

if he chooses to share such feelings with his dad, d man will surely encourage him more

JourneytoEL:
Firstly, many rich women are not vocal because of security issues in the country. Piping low is key to enjoying a long life as a rich woman here. I have interacted with a good number of them and they share feministic views. Also,the major reason most women don't marry down is because most men tend to have esteem issues because their wives are richer. Although i have met two exceptional cases, one the man still rides his cab till date in the morning, goes to his state ministry office, and later in the evening rides his cab, while his wife is a super rich career woman driving a venza, yet they are very happy both in and out. the other, the wife is a successful lawyer, very humble and nice, while the hubby works closely with her,helps in the house with the kids if she has to travel, infact they are so close i initially thought they were both lawyers. Now, the man is been mocked in the street for being a "sissy man". A woman cannot be humble enough for a typical nigerian man with esteem issues. Even if you are lucky enough to get a man with a good esteem, his poor family and friends will keep taunting him for been a "sissy" till he changes. That's why women love to marry their class and above.

Essenza01:
Jobless husband diaries!!

Here are some guidelines for unemployed husbands with working wives., when you read through with an open mind, you would see it's not she looking down on you, it's just you being smart to be able to have your sanity and getting some advantages while praying for a change.. Hang in there guys, you are not alone, tables turn... you would be fine.

1 - Never discuss your predicament beyond the normal and never show weakness in front of your wife.. "she dont want to see hopelessness"..

2 - buy a lot of noodles, you would be needing it a lot, especially during your strong head periods, you dont win most fights, most fights end with "Oya buy it naa" that's usually when you add the convo to your lost battles ..

3 - your meals majorly come in two options if any
Rice or noodles?
Beans or noodles?
Eba or noodles?

Semo or pounds is too stressful, dont opt to make ... stress was only the surface reason given to you..

4 - sex is usually delayed, when ever you see one just accept and be ready for maybe max two position change, some styles may be banned..

5 - dont come home drunk, I repeat.. dont come home drunk..you remember the pictures of samloco playing "jobless old drunk" in movie scenes... you look exactly like them to her..

6 - some eatable and chewy chewy groceries stops being in the fridge because you are home most-times and eats to chase boredom.. there is always a secret stash in her room for groundnuts, sharp biscuits, cashew nuts, sweets, etc.. she knows you know, take reasonably

7 - you are at your lowest, dont bring friends doing well too close home, otherwise you might get depressed from comparison

8 - in your many many ideas, you know broke guys reason business ideas like Warren buffet , always sieve out the good ones, because telling her some kind stupid stupid ideas would make you look jobless and stupid also.

9 - the best way to dodge Bill's is to watch your words, avoid some topics, you need to be one step or two ahead everytime.. e.g TV shows, movies, food, clubs etc...
- TV shows - dstv bill comes up
- Movies - cinema bill comes up
- Food - restaurant and taking out comes up..

10 - Do house chores, pick mopping... it's easier, you only start when she is done sweeping and dusting, she goes to bath, you zig-zag and get back to watching (how do they do it) ... use water, avoid bubbles on tiles.. you would redo that work even if its next week..

11 - dont leave the sink messy, especially on work days when you are home job hunting and she is out hustling, bro it's an important rule from a man to a man..

12 - with your many insecurities and the devil trying to use you to bring out your alpha Male, pick your fights... yes they would come, but there is an extent to which a broke man fights and argues..

13 - you would owe her cash a lot, she knows deep down that money is not coming back, but be ready to be dragged about it to pay for essentials you cant do without.. she would pay eventually when you have curled away asking God why.. allow her have it, it's one of her high moments.

14 - in your midnight cries, yes "midnight cries" is most times once a week or twice sha, depending on the days activities... dont disturb her sleep...

15 - be transparent, remove password from your phone, laptops etc... if she is being faithful, infidelity is not something you want attached to "cheating jobless old man"... you cant be broke and cheating, they dont work together..

16 - read, read, read... you have to pass her in something, current affairs, global happenings, worlds economy etc... it is an edge when you throw small small insults inside conversations "so you dont know kyari is dead" those are one of your few high moments..

17 - early morning gisting with her while she baths and makes up, makes her happy.. you can lend some money during those hours.. those are your bankable hours, if you want some extra cash, offer to drop her at work, that's if it's not your duty already oo..

18 - at all, at all, try to provide for fuel for generator, darkness and a man being in the house dont usually go together.. you might start having complex..

19 - always use your car weekends, thats if you have not sold hers and she is using yours. When you use your car weekends for functions not personal waka, she chips or outrightly buys fuel that you can manage during the week for your job hunting activities..

20 - look good, work out and have your CV handy. you need to look the role she currently tells people you are doing.." Frank is okay, he is inbetween jobs, but trying out some ideas with friends".. if the friends ask for your CV, always have it handy, delay is dangerous...

21 - dont be gluttonous, eat moderately like a normal human being, if you finish your meals for the week by wednesday, be ready to fall back to your noodles (refer to rule 2) and yes you would come up with different flavours of home made seasonings only you can eat..

22 - try to curtail your mood swings, she is the only one entitled to it, you need to be happy with smiles when she is making conversations..

23 - make business calls or pretend to make business call.. it's important, it gives her hope you are connecting.. "my brother me and you know say na 10k you dey shout like that for"

24 - go grocery shopping with her, you get to use the opportunity to throw drinks into the cart and remove face immediately, if your eyes jam.. you would return that drink ooo..

25 - if she sends you a link from work, read, watch or chat her to discuss with her, otherwise "what are you doing, that you didn't reply my message follows" , what you were doing must have financial gains ooo never use "I was sleeping" as excuse... dont even try it..

26 - dont call her family, send text message if you can.. dont let them remember you ooo..

27 - during your few chances of sex, dont shoot in, "I repeat", dont shoot in... you may find yourself outside by 1am looking for postinol 2
. the stress in looking for the drug would surpass whatever you managed to enjoy.

28 - be ready for "mistakes" of giving you cash in front of people , it's not everytime she remembers to call you to the corner or give you her card.. it's one of those moments you want the ground to swallow you up.. but my brother "dem no dey use shame swallow spit".. it wont last forever.

Let's me rest here first and continue later... but in all, I love my wife... she is that woman that has your back 100%..

The table has turned for me and am back to my responsibilities, it was a tough period, I learnt a lot, from Anger management to laws of power, it's not a fun place to reside in for a long time....

Most especially:
Marry your friend,
marry your partner in crime,
Marry your day1 niga,
your Gee... when you do, no matter the circumstance, you have some level of peace, some room to pickup and some encouragement to guide you through.

Monveronique:

Now you're being silly!